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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Chucky94 Financially struggling
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I don't know how to start off this post so I'll try to give context, I used to have two jobs, the first one that still pays me well and have been working with for 12 years now, the other I left due to a manager that didn't treat their employers well ... View more

I don't know how to start off this post so I'll try to give context, I used to have two jobs, the first one that still pays me well and have been working with for 12 years now, the other I left due to a manager that didn't treat their employers well and was passive aggressive so I left not wanting to be treated poorly. It started last year when I was not in a good place and I would rather not go into the details, however things took a dark turn when my previous dog passed away from an aggressive cancer and since that day things have not been the same. Nowadays I still have my first job but can only work for one day a week, I spent a lot of money this year, mainly for my new dog who is great but requires a lot of work including finances, some of the money was spent on collecting figures and lastly some of it was spent investing into a hobby that I hoped would get me back on my feet but so far I still have not received payment for this hobby and I don't know where to go, I'm still living with my parents who do many great things for me and I'll be 30 next year, I wish I could earn more again than spend, I wish I could have my own place to live but I know finding a place to live is extremely difficult due to the cost. I still miss my previous dog and struggle with my new one who I think it better off with my parents since I find socialization draining as an introvert, I feel like when I take one step forward I end up taking three steps back and I feel like a failure. Sometimes I wonder if we are meant to just give up our happiness just to survive rather than live the life we want to. I'm sure I'm not alone on this and there are many people who struggle just as much as I am. I'm scared of talking to my parents since they want to know what I spend my money on and I'm scared they want to control my spending. I'm thinking I should sell my property and put the money in a safe place to save up for eventually living in my own home. I just wanted to vent and look for answers and hopefully start to get better from here on.

Rogger Looking for similar series with similar themes to Neon Genesis Evangelion?
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Hi, recently, I discovered an anime series called Neon Genesis Evangelion through memes. I don't normally watch anime, but the themes regarding mental health in teenagers seemed especially interesting to me. However, the show seems to also have some,... View more

Hi, recently, I discovered an anime series called Neon Genesis Evangelion through memes. I don't normally watch anime, but the themes regarding mental health in teenagers seemed especially interesting to me. However, the show seems to also have some, er, inappropriate content which I'd prefer to avoid. I'm not sure if the show is kinda niche/obscure, but I was hoping if anyone who was aware of the show knew of any other shows which explore similar themes as the anime. Thanks for reading!

calei I feel worthless
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My partner and I are moving. It’s stressful I get that… but he has spoken to me like I’m the issue he is facing instead of just talking to me or trying to communicate and explain what’s going on in his head… I understand it’s difficult for him and I ... View more

My partner and I are moving. It’s stressful I get that… but he has spoken to me like I’m the issue he is facing instead of just talking to me or trying to communicate and explain what’s going on in his head… I understand it’s difficult for him and I am very patient… but, recently. He is making the insults and anger personal… I’ve been at home everyday with our newborn. And cleaning the house and doing the washing and trying to keep us all fed… I barely have time for an actual shower for myself or to even brush my teeth or hair…. So I was really proud with what I had got done in the past 3 days… but he got mad because it was good enough. He told me that what I have done isn’t good enough, that I haven’t done anything and nothing is clean… I tried to talk to him on what’s wrong and he told me to shut up and fuck off…. He is making the attacks personal and it hurts so bad. Because I am trying my best. And I’m trying not to fall into PPD… but it’s becoming extremely hard when he speaks to me like I’m a worthless person just living in the house… I’m trying so hard but I’m obviously not doing enough. I’m not meeting his unrealistic expectations and my best isn’t good enough for him and it makes me feel terrible…. I just… I guess I needed to rant because no one will want to listen to this in our friend group… they are all his anyway….

anonymous_username Where did I go?
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In primary school I was so happy. I read lots of books, i was active, I was ahead of all of my classes and I wasn’t stressed at all.now I’m in high school and I don’t have time to read or be active. My grades are slowly dropping and I’m stressed all ... View more

In primary school I was so happy. I read lots of books, i was active, I was ahead of all of my classes and I wasn’t stressed at all.now I’m in high school and I don’t have time to read or be active. My grades are slowly dropping and I’m stressed all the time. I don’t know exactly why and I feel like i’ll fail and kill my future. I never had any future goals, even in primary school, and I feel like I have nothing to work towards. i just don’t know what I’m doing.

K_A Failing methods and its affecting my other subjects.
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I'm a year 11 student doing Atar right now, I'm averaging B and Cs in my other subjects and doing pretty good compared to my other classmates, however in maths I'm doing horrible. For context last year I was getting high 90s in math and now I'm avera... View more

I'm a year 11 student doing Atar right now, I'm averaging B and Cs in my other subjects and doing pretty good compared to my other classmates, however in maths I'm doing horrible. For context last year I was getting high 90s in math and now I'm averaging 30s. I listen to my teacher, my parents and my sister who all say just practice and it should come you naturally, but no matter how hard I practice or how many practice exams I do, I fail. The breaking point for me was getting the lowest score of the class while others who didn't study somehow got higher than me. The semester 1 exam just got released and I failed with a 34%. I did countless practice exams, watched so many youtube tutorials and the best I could manage was a 34%, I got 9/52 for the non calc. I have to do methods if I want to get into engineering for uni especially if its nuclear engineering. I just don't know what to do, I got a private tutor aswell. And to make it all worse there's this girl in class who is some how the best in every subject we have together. She always acts like shes done so bad and then she reveals she got the best score, saying something along the lines of " of i did so bad, what did you get" and then when i tell her " that's really good" and then she shows off her 97%. when i went to the after school tutoring i got help with only 1 question because whenever the teacher was helping me she interrupted her and asked a different question. Its really demoralising and i just don't know what to do

_Charlotte_09_ Lost motivation, and I feel like giving up...
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Hi there everyone, I'm a 14-year-old high school student, and I am having a very difficult time right now. High school can be very stressful and draining, and I have reached the point where I am feeling drained and need a place to vent (if you don't ... View more

Hi there everyone, I'm a 14-year-old high school student, and I am having a very difficult time right now. High school can be very stressful and draining, and I have reached the point where I am feeling drained and need a place to vent (if you don't mind). Recently I get silent mental breakdowns or anxiety attacks in class, and sometimes at night when my parents aren't with me I would attempt to self-harm. My depression and anxiety caused a significant drop in my grades, and I lost motivation to study. Every night I would cry and miss the old, smart, friendly, and happy me... Second of all is that many friends I know are suffering from depression or at risk of self-harm and I'm feeling very worried about them. I don't like losing friends, especially if it's from suicide. Can someone please give me some useful resources that I could give them? thank you for reading

Chloe_f feel unneeded and unwanted
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I need help. I feel so selfish lately being so upset over everything in my life most people with think I’m being over dramatic but to be honest everything in my life is going down hill right now my depression has gotten worse and since I’m a 14 yr ol... View more

I need help. I feel so selfish lately being so upset over everything in my life most people with think I’m being over dramatic but to be honest everything in my life is going down hill right now my depression has gotten worse and since I’m a 14 yr old at an Australian high school everything to do with mental health is under-looked and teenagers like to shame people for having mental health problems it’s gotten that bad that I’ve been in hospitals for about 2 months from unsuccessful suicide attempts as soon as people at my school realised this they were quick to judge I slowly lost the little amount of friends I had and all of them have turned against me as I am “emo” I felt like the only person I had left was my boyfriend but as he is dealing with much of the same things it was really hard for us to stay together through it all it was such a rough patch so a week ago we decided to call it quits and to be honest it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done to let my best friend and the love of my life go I know I’m only young but we were really good for each other we had so much in common and I felt so safe around him like I’ve never been able to with anyone else I miss what we had and just the idea of him but I know that I have to move on but I just don’t know how. I’m so tired of all the constant petty drama I have to get sucked into because of my mental health I always feel the need to talk and be around people but lately everyone has slowly gotten tired of my constant talking and my energy that I’ve lost touch of it myself I find it really hard to get out of bed in the mornings and sometimes I don’t even make it home from school I leave and try an end my life eventually I get found but I just need help please if anyone has any advice on what to do other then counselling please let me know

a13xx Feeling lonely after school
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Hey, So hence the title, i don’t really have anyone else to talk about this with so…heres my last resort ig.I don’t know how to start this but I’m 17, I left highschool at around october last year. Don’t get me wrong, it was the right thing to do for... View more

Hey, So hence the title, i don’t really have anyone else to talk about this with so…heres my last resort ig.I don’t know how to start this but I’m 17, I left highschool at around october last year. Don’t get me wrong, it was the right thing to do for my mental health etc but i’m struggling to have a life at all 🥲 I work around 40 hours each week and I have work mates but we don’t do much outside of work, I barely get support from my family as i don’t speak to my mums side & I live with my dad but he’s more of a roommate than a dad yk? anyway..I’m struggling to make and keep friends. I’ve always struggled and i thought maybe it’ll get better after highschool but it hasn’t lol. I have 1 friend from highschool that i text but I don’t hang out with anyone or anything…literally all my life is is work & sleep.I feel like a bit of a loser Anyone got any advice lmao

Learn to Fly Finding Unconditional Self-Worth, Self-Esteem
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Hi Everyone, Just thought I might share with you this excellent podcast regarding identifying our self-worth, embracing imperfections, and finding beauty in them, helping us to face and answer questions: "Who am I?" and "What do I want?" Most of us a... View more

Hi Everyone, Just thought I might share with you this excellent podcast regarding identifying our self-worth, embracing imperfections, and finding beauty in them, helping us to face and answer questions: "Who am I?" and "What do I want?" Most of us avoid answering these questions, being scared of finding the answers. Why? Because more and more of us create a definition of ourselves through external factors. This is a straight road to disaster, as all external factors are so unreliable. If we could only turn the tables around and embrace our own, unique, and internal factors, which at the end of the day identify us as a unique and worthy human being, maybe there would be fewer unhappy people around. Happy listening!https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557?i=1000589981969Most imperfect Learn To Fly - work in progress

rvbae my school has really unrealistic expectations that I can't meet and I feel stupid and useless
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I used to love school so much. I enjoyed the challenges I got to work through everyday and have always been naturally smart when it comes to academics and stuff. A year ago I moved to the school I'm currently at now, which functions in a way that pre... View more

I used to love school so much. I enjoyed the challenges I got to work through everyday and have always been naturally smart when it comes to academics and stuff. A year ago I moved to the school I'm currently at now, which functions in a way that prepares people in the year levels 10-12 for university. The learning is all self directed and its not too bad apart from the fact their expectations are incredibly unrealistic and have been causing me a lot of issues in terms of my grades and mental health. In 2021, I was diagnosed with ADHD which severely impacts my focus and ability to organise and manage my time. I have had the diagnosis for 2 years now and have found ways to work with my disorder to benefit myself in terms of school. The school I'm at now overcomplicates all the assignments and then when I don't get a decent grade, they email my mother, and I get punished or yelled at for not doing good enough. I feel really stupid and useless and I wish things were more simple. I wanna go back to a traditional school but my parents are refusing to let me move schools and I don't know what to do. I have spoken to school counsellors and I have a learning plan that gives me extra support on my assignments, but my teachers never acknowledge it or dismiss it whenever I bring it up. My mental health is going downhill quite rapidly and I feel a lot more anxious and depressed now. I only have a year and a half left of school but I don't think I can keep this up for much longer. I haven't felt genuinely happy in a long time and I just wish things were better. I don't know what to do and I am desperate for any sort of positive change in my life regarding school.