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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Liam007 Will lose all my friends
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Since about July last year, I've had this circle of friends who I've been seeing and spending time with. No longer am I high school student, nope full on out there in the adult world. I feel like a burden on my friends as they see me suffer from anxi... View more

Since about July last year, I've had this circle of friends who I've been seeing and spending time with. No longer am I high school student, nope full on out there in the adult world. I feel like a burden on my friends as they see me suffer from anxiety attacks a lot. Like they will say something and I'll freak out thinking they want me to cut me off from their social circles. One of them had a boyfriend and I was seeing her a lot so I wrote to her explaining that I respected her relationship and I wouldn't try to change it. I just wanted to be her friend and if it seemed I wanted to pursue that path with her it was purely unintentional. Mostly due to a horrible experience I had in high school where a guy got extremely mad that I was talking to his girlfriend during lunch break. He screamed at her and then threatened me later. She separated from him because of how she spoke to me, so I blamed myself for that incident. Me and this high school friend are still friends to this very day also I've just been getting worse and worse, panic attacks all the time. Sometimes they get frustrated, over times they lightly laugh about how much I tend to be Mr.Worry from the Mr.Men books. I write to them very frequently, worrying that if I don't I will be forgotten and will slip from their minds. ​I feel like I'm not what they want or need. I feel like I'm going to get abandoned almost everyday.

laa Extreme Anxiety & Moderate Depression (University Student)
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I will try and keep this as short as possible - but I do have a lot on my mind. So, I am a 20 year old University student who should be in her 4th year of university. In reality I have only finished 1 year! The reason being that people and conversati... View more

I will try and keep this as short as possible - but I do have a lot on my mind. So, I am a 20 year old University student who should be in her 4th year of university. In reality I have only finished 1 year! The reason being that people and conversation scare me so much that I do not attend any of my classes; not even lectures. I live with my parents who think that I will be completing University at the end of next year, but this it not true. I still only attend uni out of routine so that my parents think that I am attending classes. I feel my anxiety started around in 2011 (I was in grade 10), but I used to give it the name of 'shyness'. Slowly that changed when I started uni & realised that something is not right. I have had a rough childhood, but I will not go into the details of that. My teachers in school always knew something was wrong, and have always tried to help me out. I was really violent in school (since primary school), however, I was always a teachers pet. They definitely knew something was wrong when I started bullying this girl at school (and got suspended). Despite having their help readily available to me, I was too scared to talk to them about what was happening behind the scenes - I really regret not getting their help now. Now my anxiety is at the point where even walking/sitting in public scares me. Eating in public scares me, so I go into the fitting rooms in shops and eat in there. I totally avoid any conversation. I totally avoid visitors when they come over to my house. At uni, I sit in the library in the most empty corner on the level with the least people. I have stopped going out (except for going to uni), and I don't have any friends. Physically, I think anxiety is taking over where my chest starts hurting & I feeling dizzy. I get dry mouth and sweat like crazy! Headaches are also prominent and I get dreams where I feel like I cannot move or breath (they are scary because it actually feels like it is happening). I think I will stop here, but I have missed a lot of details. Basically I do not know what to do next, I know I need to do something because this is just getting worse and worse, but I am too scared to talk to anyone. I have thought about seeing the counselor at uni, but off course, just the thought of going to their office is putting me off. Thank you taking your time out to read this.

LaylaBear15 I really hate everyone in my family
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My family just put me down and purposely, put me down and I tell them how I feel and they pretend to listen but honestly, they couldn't care less Someone talk with me -Layla

My family just put me down and purposely, put me down and I tell them how I feel and they pretend to listen but honestly, they couldn't care less Someone talk with me -Layla

Ironbark 21/F - I've hit the wall.
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Hi all, I've signed up here after endlessly googling and trying to understand the dense fog thats surrounded my brain for 10 years. My life is a picture of wasted potential. I barely function, I get upset and angry whenever I'm questioned, my head co... View more

Hi all, I've signed up here after endlessly googling and trying to understand the dense fog thats surrounded my brain for 10 years. My life is a picture of wasted potential. I barely function, I get upset and angry whenever I'm questioned, my head constantly feels like it's going to explode. I used to enjoy art and music, but now they just seem like distant pleasantries that someone else with my face used to enjoy. When I flip through my old sketchbooks I feel like I'm holding someone else's property, someone else's dreams and desires, someone that used to soar through the clouds while I'm here with my feet stuck in tar. I fantasise about terminal illness and death, as I feel that would easier explain my complete lack of life to friends and family. Depression ate my personality and I don't know how to redevelop it. I'm not sure what I expect posting here, maybe someone else feels the same way. Any advice would be welcomed, as I feel like theres no escaping the hole.

Lonegirl Overwhelming anger
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Hey, I am a 14 year old girl. I used to be level headed and in control but now i can't. I will get angry over little things and not talk to someone for hours at a time. Or i would get really upset and burst out crying and screaming at everyone. Every... View more

Hey, I am a 14 year old girl. I used to be level headed and in control but now i can't. I will get angry over little things and not talk to someone for hours at a time. Or i would get really upset and burst out crying and screaming at everyone. Everyone says that i overeat too much and they find it very annoying. My mum told me that she has noticed this behavior going on for a few months now. While writing this i am very mad at my mum. My cousin has been doing drugs for a few years now and recently my mum has taken him as if he was her own. She is forgetting about me and forgetting i have feelings too, i just want to be loved by her. Today she gave him our couches (that i have had since i was a baby) without me even knowing because my parents said i could use them for an outside area and then they also brought a new couch that i hate more than anything without me even knowing either and a stereo i used on a daily basis. She also have him a phone, the xbox, money and many other things. She says that she wants the best for him and he needs to start learning how to work his money but why does she keep giving him stuff, my stuff, stuff i grew up with and that i am apart of without my consent nor approval. Once he left i broke into a huge rage and am now completely ignoring my mum for the last 3 hours. I was so angry that i took out a ruler and stabbed a pen into it multiple times and broke into tears, after that i spent an hour writing a persuasive essay about how mad i was at her and him. She keeps pretending she is the victim saying "when will you stop being angry" but that makes it so much worst. I do not share my feelings and never talk about them to people i know, so i never tell my parents or my friends anything.

cjxx I'm overwhelmed
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Everything is overwhelming me and I don't know how to handle it. ​ I feel overwhelmed in so many ways - I feel like I'm always engulfed by stress lately and it's so so frustrating. Im completing year 12 but I don't think this is the source of my stre... View more

Everything is overwhelming me and I don't know how to handle it. ​ I feel overwhelmed in so many ways - I feel like I'm always engulfed by stress lately and it's so so frustrating. Im completing year 12 but I don't think this is the source of my stress - it's just a factor that adds to it all. When I feel overwhelmed I disconnect myself from my friends and I get insanely angry at my family and I hate it. The worst part is that when I feel this way - I do absolutely nothing. I procrastinate and I yell and I cry and it makes the stress build up. I never feel great lately, because I know there's always something in the back of my mind that is causing me stress. so much study and homework is building up, my friendships are breaking down and I'm causing my family distress too. I feel terrible - I don't know how to over come it. I try coping methods such as running, journal writing and listening to music but they're just used to preoccupy me. I've lost so much motivation - I'm scared of how stressful the rest of this year will be and if I can cope at all...

LaylaBear15 Feeling alone
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I feel like I am so isolated but not by just me and my messed up mind but by everyone else around me. I feel as though, I need to make friends and stop mentally stopping myself because im scared but I cant. Mentally, I can now but my parents dont thi... View more

I feel like I am so isolated but not by just me and my messed up mind but by everyone else around me. I feel as though, I need to make friends and stop mentally stopping myself because im scared but I cant. Mentally, I can now but my parents dont think im up for the ''challenge''. I just dont know what to do except just crawl up in my ball and again, isolate myself. My dad is always complaining about how me and my little sister (who is one year younger then me, im 14) are massive problems and then my mum says ''Dont drag her sister into this'' It just puts me down and I honestly dont know what to do anymore. My parents get angry at me if Im on websites like these, looking for help and they get even more mad when the police turn up at my house. When my mum was taking me up to the mental hospital, she just sat in the car and was so so so so angry at me and wouldnt speak to me. Everytime I have a breakdown and need to go to hospital, I feel so embarrassed and scared that everyone will have a go at me. I really need some advice

Maui757 The stress is killing me
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Hi Guys, I've posted a few times on here. Recently I've come into my final year of study at university. It's a 4 year course, but it's taken me 6 years to get here. And I'm out of fuel. There's been some added pressures this year, which I expected, a... View more

Hi Guys, I've posted a few times on here. Recently I've come into my final year of study at university. It's a 4 year course, but it's taken me 6 years to get here. And I'm out of fuel. There's been some added pressures this year, which I expected, and I didn't get a break all summer due to full time work that was in my engineering field (it's a requirement for my course to complete 12 weeks of full time work in an engineering workplace to be able to graduate). So I went straight from uni to work and now back to uni again. I knew it would be hard on my mentality but I thought I'd be able to deal with it. Apparently I didn't leave enough energy for everything else in life and I was wrong. I've had a major source of income cut (Centrelink) because of the work I did over the 12 weeks. Yeah I managed to save some money over the summer, but only enough to last me about 4 weeks of unemployment and 0 Centrelink payments. 2 of those weeks have already gone, and I've so far only gotten one job and they're only giving me 5-10hrs per week!!! I have 20 contact hours at uni, not including the time between classes when I can't go home (1-3hr gaps), and obviously have my thesis to complete as well. So I need to get another job. I guess I'm spent. I'm out of energy, I don't want to fight for what I'm doing anymore, and I wish I could quit. I know why I feel like this, but I can't change it. I'm skipping classes, falling way behind in my units and on my thesis. I'm watching more and more work pile up in front of me, and it's making me run further and further away from it all. I'm ready to drop to the ground and scream. I desperately want someone to come and save me from my own mess, but I know that's not how the world works. I'm sick of people saying "I believe you can do it", "You'll be ok", "It's your last year!". I don't WANT to do it. Any of it. And I don't know what to do or how to stop the very quick downward spiral that's happening right now. I know it's wrong but I've suffered my depression and anxiety long enough to know myself - If I quit or defer, that's classified as a failure. And I can't deal with that either - That would push me too far. I have so many people who believe in me, except me. I see a psych but can't get in to see them anytime soon. There's reasoning to this but I'm out of characters for this thread, so I guess I'm just looking for some help! In a very low place and getting lower

Joeldahero feeling lost at 20 (young, yet too old)
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Hello everyone, so... where to start? im 20, and i have no friends, never had a girlfriend, and no job, i feel lost, inexperienced, and undoubtedly depressed. my lifes been lonely and messy since i dropped out of highschool from bullying and general ... View more

Hello everyone, so... where to start? im 20, and i have no friends, never had a girlfriend, and no job, i feel lost, inexperienced, and undoubtedly depressed. my lifes been lonely and messy since i dropped out of highschool from bullying and general depression/anxiety about 6 years ago, that when my isolation pretty much began, and iv not been able to open up to the world since. Iv had on and off friends here an there, but no one iv been particularly close with, nor persistent up till i moved out of my parents, becoming great friends with my housemates and friends of theirs; but the stresses of living in the city without a job, license, and being away from the family and town i grew up in became too much, so i moved back with my family in the country 4 months after leaving them... i feel just as lost, even resentful that i didnt try holding out in the city to try and find that 'life', doesnt help im not on the best terms with my friends there anymore either as for jobs; iv had one for about 2 years, a supermarket Deli job... it was alright besides that i couldnt get along with my bosses nor co-workers, and with the people i DID get along with, they usually left because they hated the place (like me), i was also kinda shit at my job, but i had nothing else to go to... but after having a major breakdown one day, and having one of my bosses completely humiliate me (unknowingly) i couldnt go back... and didnt... and so after 10 months of unemployment and ofc having no friends, i went on a wim and moved in with a mate in the city, which as previously stated only had medium success (i learnt about the part of life i was missing out on; having friends, living alone, ect.) iv since been looking for work in this crap town i grew up in, but no ones hiring considering the town is literally shrinking. so to put it short: im 20, and feel like there are so many things in my life that i dont have together; no friends, no job, no girlfriend... it just seems like everyone has everything in their life sorted and they arent even 18 yet. im young, yet too old to not have anything everyone else already has.

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