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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Username_Blank I feel like i have become one of the many that have been corrupted
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Firstly i was unsure where this topic belonged so mods if this is in the wrong place can you move it to a more appropriate place please and thank you. So I'm 23 now, with me and my bro living together(i was living alone a month ago) and I realise AND... View more

Firstly i was unsure where this topic belonged so mods if this is in the wrong place can you move it to a more appropriate place please and thank you. So I'm 23 now, with me and my bro living together(i was living alone a month ago) and I realise AND feel like i have een corrupted, allow me to explain. Money and material things have caused greed to form and taken a very strong position, on top of that my priorities have changed from needs over wants to wants over needs, i do have a reason for that funnily enough, so i will provide my reasoning, "The reason why i put my wants over my needs is because i want to get all my wants while i am alive, if i put my needs first, by the time i have evrything i need i wont have time to get all the things i want, i will(satistics accurate)die long before i get everything, PLUS if i die before getting everything i want i will feel like i failed to complete a life goal, and i don't want to let that occur, so i focus on my wants so i can get them out of the way, out of sight, out of mind" the reason why both material items and money have both corrupted me is because everything i want costs money(money imo is a unneeded item, i prefer barter, that at least never caused corruption) I also feel like the way things are developing in our world is causing my mind to sort of conform to the changes, an example, a girl gets a bf, the couple has fights, kiss, make up fight more, blah blah blah, so in my mind i feel like eventually ill be in that mindset where im metaphoricly constantly at a girls neck(i wont touch too much on the whole relationship thing) And admittedly this has corrupted me socially, but technology has corruped my mind, i don't go out and visit freinds, i use social media, voice chat programs, etc like I WOULD LIKE to prefer no technology, however I CANNOT LIVE without technology, in a way i feel a little too dependant on technology, i also feel like technology has blinded my eyes, preventing me from seeing what really matters. I guess more or less i'm just ranting, but to be honest with the way things are going i feel a really strong need to voice my opinion on the matters, i only wish i had the power to actually change the world for the better, and in all honesty if i DID have the power to change the world i would prouldly do exactly that. Sorry if this is alot to read and digest

Username_Blank I have tried so hard to keep positive
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So i walked into 2017 with an "I will not let my problems plague me anymore" attitude, but it seems like my problems just refuse to leave, i have quite litterally researched, and tried to better myself and i have failed miserably, Honestly i dunno wh... View more

So i walked into 2017 with an "I will not let my problems plague me anymore" attitude, but it seems like my problems just refuse to leave, i have quite litterally researched, and tried to better myself and i have failed miserably, Honestly i dunno what to do anymore, i feel out of options, and for those wondering i cannot afford therapy so that option is not possible. I won't say that i don't belong in this world because i wouldnt have existed without A purpose, sadly i have neither found my purpose and to be honest i think i missed my opportunity to give my life purpose, i honestly dont know anything atm

Daisy08 Excluded from uni course, please help
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Hi, After my second year of Uni, I was excluded from my course for failing too many subjects. I was initially on academic probation. I have found the counsellors at uni unhelpful, and it's unclear if I can re enrol into my course. Some say it require... View more

Hi, After my second year of Uni, I was excluded from my course for failing too many subjects. I was initially on academic probation. I have found the counsellors at uni unhelpful, and it's unclear if I can re enrol into my course. Some say it requires study at another institution, which I haven't don't, and wouldn't even know where to start. i was really successful in school and know I am more than capable to study. I am depressed and lazy and really lack motivation, making Uni hard where self-motivation is essential. I'm also a shy and very socially anxious person, and find university life very daunting. I would often not go just because I was scared of the other students, even though I know it's silly. the worst part is i have kept it all a secret from my parents, who are very pushy and would be furious with me. I'm so tired of lying to them. has anyone been in this situation? Or know how to get the best outcome out of this? I really want to go back to uni to study, especially and I've nearly finished the course, and the career I dream of needs a university degree.

Maui757 Struggling to Keep Up
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Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while, but I'm feeling weighed down and need some support. I'm an engineering student coming into my last year of study in a couple of weeks. I worked extra hard last year to pick up my grades, and got myself a full tim... View more

Hi guys, I haven't posted in a while, but I'm feeling weighed down and need some support. I'm an engineering student coming into my last year of study in a couple of weeks. I worked extra hard last year to pick up my grades, and got myself a full time job in an engineering placement at a mine 3 hours from my home, boyfriend and friends. Luckily it was near my parents' place (I've lived out of home for 6 years while at uni) so it wasn't the worst, but I find change hard to cope with and I didn't cope well for the first month of living back with my parents. I also didn't get a break. I went straight from full time uni and a part time job to my first ever full time job in an engineering placement, and I will be going straight from that into full time uni again in 2 weeks, where I will have to do my thesis and last year of uni, which is going to be super stressful. I'm struggling to cope. I'm lapsing back into my depression, my anxiety is getting worse, I can't think straight, and I don't have time for a break, though I know I desperately need one. I don't even have time to go and see my psych until I get to Perth, I see my boyfriend once a fortnight if I'm lucky, and my friends even less. I'm also a perfectionist, so I work 50 hours a week at my current job to impress my supervisor in the hopes of getting offered a graduate position (dream goal right there). I'm burning myself out before uni even starts, and uni is a huge trigger for my depression and anxiety on a GOOD day!! So what can I do to get through all this!? It's eating away at me slowly but surely. I can feel old habits sliding back into place, and I don't have the energy to stop the negative thoughts from taking over. I'm desperately trying to hold myself together for my last 2 weeks of work before I go back to uni, in the hopes that I will be able to magically pick myself up once I'm at uni. Work has all my attention at the moment, and I'm out of ideas on how I can keep it together for the rest of the year... Any advice will be appreciated. I'm sorry for the confusing post, I tried to keep it short but it's hard because there are so many factors!!! I'm just feeling pretty low and defeated, and I know I've got to keep putting one foot in front of the other, but the more I do it, the weaker I get. My reserves are getting low, and I really can't afford to have a mental snap anytime soon!!!

joyfuljess express and destress
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Hi? Is that how you start one of these of do you just delve right into it? So there is no one topic for typing this down, it's more of an outlet to get rid of all these thoughts and feelings inside my head. I've always been anxious for more than half... View more

Hi? Is that how you start one of these of do you just delve right into it? So there is no one topic for typing this down, it's more of an outlet to get rid of all these thoughts and feelings inside my head. I've always been anxious for more than half my life, whether it was dealing with social situations or simply just everyday activities. I am no stranger to anxiety/panic attacks, since coming more aware of my anxiety and triggers I don't have them as much but this morning I could feel myself on the verge of having one and found myself crying asking my mum to stay home from work. I'm currently looking for work and will be starting a course in April, so for the time being iv been an active job seeker and working with an employment provider who yesterday told me they had a "possible" job interview for me to attend tomorrow. So naturally that played on my mind all night which rolled over to this morning and I don't know why i was so anxious and stressed, maybe it was the fact that I didn't know where the area of the job was located or that I was just scared and nervous of being faced with a possible new opportunity but it really struck a chord with me. Even now as i type this down, i am dreading the sound of phone ringing and them confirming the interview, my phone made a noise from a message and that made my heart skip a little. I don't know if i am being dramatic, everyone i know does say i'm a hypochondriac so who knows but i just feel overwhelmed and i needed to vent.

Yazz MANAGING ANXIETY WHILST OUT OF THE HOUSE!
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Hello! So i'm a newbie here and I'm looking for any tips or tricks that anyone can give me in regards to managing my anxiety whilst being away from my home (my safe zone). The anxiety started up at the end of 2015 (lost my job and long time friendshi... View more

Hello! So i'm a newbie here and I'm looking for any tips or tricks that anyone can give me in regards to managing my anxiety whilst being away from my home (my safe zone). The anxiety started up at the end of 2015 (lost my job and long time friendship) and it has only gotten worse since. Last year was a massive challenge for me, my anxiety started to spike up and ever since ive moved back home, its just gotten even more horrible! I experienced my first panic attack while i went out walking one night. Experienced another attack at the beginning of this year but in my own home!! Now that was terrifying... my home has become my safe zone and just the thought of having an attack in my safe zone scared the hell outta me! It felt like i was going to die...and the only thing i could of thought that would have brought it on was the Coles man delivery my grocery's.... it's gotten to a point where i havent left the house in over a year and the thought of leaving my house scares me... i even now have anxiety when ever someone shows up to the house! Ive been getting help from Headspace but haven't booked any appointments for this year as just the thought of leaving my house give me anxiety! Any advice would be appreciated thank you! I'm a 19 year old girl by the way

zodiacgirl Tips for getting along with life
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Hello, I posted something here earlier last year about a sexual relationship that went quite sour for me. Even though i'm still slowly dealing with this everyday, i'm really feeling better. I've even found someone who really loves me and it's really ... View more

Hello, I posted something here earlier last year about a sexual relationship that went quite sour for me. Even though i'm still slowly dealing with this everyday, i'm really feeling better. I've even found someone who really loves me and it's really the best thing ever. However, I still feel very upset, guilty, embarrassed about this sexual relationship -break-up that occurred last year. There are some days where all of a sudden it really gets to me and i can't do anything. I don't like talking about it with my bf or any other my friends, but it really does still affect me deep down. I feel that the guy i was seeing never really cared about me at all and didn't even want to know me as a person, and that kind of thought really breaks me even though it is all over and i'm doing okay. Sometimes i don't know why it hurts me so much but it does. Any tips for feeling better in these times? Thanks

Dannaz94 Getting myself into trouble
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Hi i have recently been thinking that i was becoming depressed. i have been reading checklists online and i usually come back with a result i dont like. i recently had my girlfriend cheat on me with my brother. and now i feel like my life is falling ... View more

Hi i have recently been thinking that i was becoming depressed. i have been reading checklists online and i usually come back with a result i dont like. i recently had my girlfriend cheat on me with my brother. and now i feel like my life is falling apart. i cant sleep. i cant think about anything other than that. im never happy. i feel hopeless. i dont even get joy out of activities that i always have loved. i still love my brother. i still love my girlfriend. i genuinely believe that there was nothing to it and that it was a drunken mistake. but still it bothers me and i still think about it. to escape all of this ive given in to alcohol. not every day. probably only once a week. but unfortunately it always becomes a binge. where i drink so much that i probably couldnt tell you my name if you asked me. stupid me has kept all this bottled up and now ive done something that might land me in serious trouble. ive ended up drinking myself silly and am now being charged with break and enter of someone's house. which is makingme really upset. i have no prior record. i've never done anything like this before and i cant explain why i did it. i feel even worse for the owner of the house and really need some help. please.

tennisgirl16 Coming to terms with my sexuality
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Hi all. I'm posting because I'd like some advice and support, but mostly I just want to share my story and where I'm at at the moment. I'm a 22 year old girl and I've known I was attracted to women since I was a child. Probably 10 or so, or at whatev... View more

Hi all. I'm posting because I'd like some advice and support, but mostly I just want to share my story and where I'm at at the moment. I'm a 22 year old girl and I've known I was attracted to women since I was a child. Probably 10 or so, or at whatever stage I started to think about that stuff. I have tried everything I know to change it (noone wants to stay in pain for such a long time) and I have successfully lived in denial for all this time. However upon falling in love with a girl, making some bad decisions and having this snowball and ruin my life, my family found out about it and I began seeing therapists and taking medication (which I still do). I have never been able to talk about the fact that I'm attracted to women until probably now, and even then it's with trusted friends (not family) and my therapist. I think the trouble I've had is with my upbringing and my family. I have grown up in the church all my life, subscribed to that lifestyle and belief system, still do actually, and entered leadership in my church which I love and will never leave. However since a couple years ago I've stepped down from leadership and I've been forced to deal with my personal life a lot more closely, because I've learnt you can't escape a broken life; I need to fix my inner life up. I've lived with such shame and guilt and fear for several years about this because I don't know how to tell my family about my sexual identity, I don't know how to reconcile my faith and church attendance with my hidden attractions and if I ever have a partner some day, and I'm just scared about how to approach coming to some sort of decision. My church is very open about the fact that I'm welcome, but I'm not able to be in leadership if I act on my feelings or am with someone. I am good with that now, because my mental health is worth more to me than leadership, although it wasn't for a while. I guess I'm just trying to learn how to reconcile who I am with my family's extremely anti-LGBT Christian attitudes, and my church's position on it, and I guess my fear of what people will think. If you have read this far, thank you for reading! I am still not through this journey, but thankfully I keep taking my next step.

Mr__kipper Everything off my chest
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Umm hi? yep it's me again. I'm trying to get to sleep but my pillow is to wet so I have decided to blurt out everything I have been thinking to the entirety of the internet. well... i think my "friends" secretly hate me, my parents yell at me all the... View more

Umm hi? yep it's me again. I'm trying to get to sleep but my pillow is to wet so I have decided to blurt out everything I have been thinking to the entirety of the internet. well... i think my "friends" secretly hate me, my parents yell at me all the time, I always say really bad stuff without thinking about what I'm saying, I hate my persistent shyness, I am addicted to sugar, I'm ugly, I feel everything is just fake, I spend to much time on the internet, i am a hypocrite, I don't focus on my school work, turning into a teenager and being ungrateful. there is more but you probably don't want to here it XP I know you can't solve this I just wanted to get it off my chest. XD Mr kip