I need to find a way to tell my parents how I'm feeling.

PidgeIsAmazing · ‎20-03-2017

Hi, people reading

So I been finding that I've just been tired all the time and I'm struggling to fall asleep. My parents just put it down to not doing enough activities during the day. I've also been feeling empty, yet heavy aIl the time, my parents put it down to not doing schoolwork.

Every time I try to tell my parents what happening with me, I get either tongue tied or they don't care. I just feel like they won't understand and I'll be stuck feeling like this forever.

I don't know if this has anything to do with it, but I was diagnosed with high functioning ASD when I was 12.

MsPurple · ‎20-03-2017

Hi PidgelsAmazing

It can be hard to explain to your parents how you are feeling. I found it very difficult myself. I suggest you go to youth beyond blue page. It gives you some advice on how to talk about your feelings. Another thing I can suggest is going on YouTube and looking up a video called 'the black dog' by world health organisation. I suggest getting your parents to watch it. It helps explain how you are feeling. Maybe see your GP with your parents and they maybe able to help you through this time. They may also be able to explain it to your parents as well.

SubduedBlues · ‎20-03-2017

PidgeIsAmazing

Welcome to BB. There is some good advice there by MsPurple, well worth looking in to.

Tourette Syndrome (TS) and other tic disorders have been found in comorbidity with HF/ASD. A Swedish study showed that 20% of all school-age children with HF/ASD meet the full criteria for TS. (note ref below). Personally I have TS, and it is not uncommon for the tics to keep me awake to all hours of the night ... irrespective if I am already exhausted or not. GAD and OCD are other comorbidities that may accompany AS/HFA.

When I was a teen, I had a hard time with talking to my parents. So I found it easier to write down my concerns, along with justifications for my thoughts, and then give my dad the envelop as he left for work in the morning. At some point in the day, he'd read it and then have the rest of the day to 1) calm down, 2) consider what I wrote, and 3) decide how he would communicate his opinion on the matter. This took the emotion out of the equation (the part I always lost by) and we got down to the real issues at hand.

Maybe this can help you?

SB

Ref: Ehlers S, Gillberg C. The epidemiology of Asperger syndrome: a total population study. J Child Psychol Psychiatry. 1993.