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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Sophie_M Monthly Forums Update: Reflecting Back on August
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Hi Everyone It’s great to have you a part of the community and we hope you stay connected. For information on a range of topics that support with managing your mental health during the pandemic, check out the Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Serv... View more

Hi Everyone It’s great to have you a part of the community and we hope you stay connected. For information on a range of topics that support with managing your mental health during the pandemic, check out the Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service page, which includes resources on ‘Taking control in uncertain times’, ‘Why staying connected is so important’ and ‘The importance of establishing a routine. If you’re currently experiencing thoughts and feelings that are overwhelming or impacting your daily life, we’d encourage you to speak with a GP or mental health professional. If you’d like some support with finding a suitable health professional in your area, visit the ‘find a professional’ page on our website or check-in with one of the professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service - 1300 22 4636 / https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support for online chat & email (responses within 24 hours). Community Voices: What are people talking about? Struggling with School I'm not sure how to say this, I find it so hard to write what I'm feeling and going through. I'm going to try, this may sound weird but here I go. I have been feeling down again, being stuck in lockdown has made it hard. I have felt a lot of pressure from school and home, people expect so much of me and I feel I don't live up to their expectations. - Someone-who-sleeps (Read more here) For the last few years I've gradually been loosing motivation to any school work, homework and I hardly study for exams. Now that I'm in year 12 and currently sitting trials, I realize how bad it has gotten. I've been expressing to friends and family that I have lost all motivation but it's getting worse and worse and every strategy that I try to cope with this doesn't work. My lack of motivation is so overpowering that I feel like I'm just watching my life go by but I can't do anything. - Abi_555 (Read more here) I'm a 16-year-old male in year 11, and I've been feeling quite depressed recently, or more than usual, which has made it difficult for me to function as well as I should. I've started CBT and taking antidepressants, but I'm worried that if I keep going at this rate, things will only get worse and I'll fall further behind in school and life. I'm at a loss as to what to do. – DetectivePanda (Read more here) Supporting A Loved One’s Mental Wellbeing What is my role now? I've done all the things i can think of. I've gone through the process of researching and organising therapists more times than I can count, but he needs to talk to them to make the appointment, and hasn't. I've invited him out of the house daily, he doesn't want to go. - Violet12 (Read more here) My friend is currently recovering from a catatonic episode that happened sometime last week, and I was wondering if anybody had any advice or experience in helping someone during these situations? This isn't her first episode, but it is the first to happen around other people and everyone was at a loss for what to do. – sinkingships (Read more here) I have spent this morning reading posts and replies and already feel reassured and not alone any more. I have admired the courage and resilience of those that post and the compassion and wisdom of those that reply. What a safe environment has been created here. My first enquiry is about how to support and encourage my 17 year old daughter after her confronting but apparently helpful experience of a 3 week residential in a youth program. – Belaine (Read more here) Staying Well: Coping During the Coronavirus Pandemic During this lockdown has been hard, COVID in general has been hard. Last year I just lost my father near Christmas from cancer in a different country, I was stuck there for 5 months (pretty much isolated) before I could come back to Sydney. When I got back here I had to undergo quarantine for 2 weeks, terrible experience. At least for a 1 I was able to work and go out; but then lockdown occurred and I feel as though there’s no more hope. I lost another special someone in my life due to cancer and this time I couldn’t attend the funeral. – Magicdragon (Read more here) The words we choose are powerful. Instead of using the expression lock down, I think of it as "The current adjustment period". This expresses to me what we are all going through at the moment. Each one of us is adjusting to life as we have never experienced it before. By placing emphasis on the word "current" it allows me to stay in the now mentally. - Resilience21 (Read more here) I was chatting with some friends the other day in a group text and we were talking about funny things we see on our daily lockdown walks.... Then we had a fab idea to do daily scavenger hunts on our walks and share the photos of it. Obviously, we can't share photos on here, but I thought it might be a bit of a different activity for those States in lockdown. - Gabs_ (Read more here) Meet Beyond Blue’s Newest Community Champions Miz HappyHelper88 Positive_vibes89 sbella02 Banksy92 Read more about the Community Champion's team HERE Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributor for the month of August is ‘The Bro’ ! The Bro has been nominated for their efforts in sparking new discussions across the forums while ensuring others feel appreciated and listened to when sharing their own story. Thank you The Bro! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support BB News/Resources Today on World Suicide Prevention Day, we’re sharing the stories of eight people who found a way through. For more information and to watch everyone’s story, click here Check out Coach Craig’s (our resident Mental Health Clinician) most recent conversation about helpful ways to turn emotional struggles into strength. Feel free to join the conversation here Looking after yourself while supporting someone When you’re constantly worried about the mental health of a loved one, it can be easy to forget about your own wellbeing I know I need support, but how do I ask for it? Talking to someone in a safe space can help you figure out what you’re feeling and work through it.

Chipmunk Hello
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Hi all. newbie here. I decided to join because I just simply need help. I’ve never been good at asking for help or admitting when I need it but it’s to the point that I’m now struggling. I have severe anxiety, severe depression, ptsd and post natal d... View more

Hi all. newbie here. I decided to join because I just simply need help. I’ve never been good at asking for help or admitting when I need it but it’s to the point that I’m now struggling. I have severe anxiety, severe depression, ptsd and post natal depression. Lately everything has just creeped up on me and I’m feeling so confused and overwhelmed over it all. Does anyone have any advice to jus start to cope or how to handle all these? I have a daughter and I feel guilty that I have depression like I feel I should be happy all the time. I just need help

Cookie-Monster First Post intro
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Hi there this is my first post, I’m hoping you guys can point me in the right direction for some help please. My 20 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with Quiet BPD, she also has further mental health issues including ADHD. I’d really like so... View more

Hi there this is my first post, I’m hoping you guys can point me in the right direction for some help please. My 20 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with Quiet BPD, she also has further mental health issues including ADHD. I’d really like some help in knowing how best to support her. Thank you

Fairwayx Can't cope gb
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Hi, I'm new here. I have PTSD and severe anxiety and depression and agoraphobia from long time child abuse. This has been an issue on and off over many years. This time the pandemic made it much worse and I feel hopeless. Need people to talk/ connect... View more

Hi, I'm new here. I have PTSD and severe anxiety and depression and agoraphobia from long time child abuse. This has been an issue on and off over many years. This time the pandemic made it much worse and I feel hopeless. Need people to talk/ connect with please.

TruBlue Newbie needing direction.
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Hi, I brand new here and I came hoping to find a safe place to talk. And, because I'm new here, I don't know where in the forum to start. I'd appreciate some direction. I've suffered anxiety and PTSD on and off for a long time, and more recently, dep... View more

Hi, I brand new here and I came hoping to find a safe place to talk. And, because I'm new here, I don't know where in the forum to start. I'd appreciate some direction. I've suffered anxiety and PTSD on and off for a long time, and more recently, depression, which is quite severe at the moment. Which is why I am here. I am really struggling and the covid lockdowns and isolation really don't help. Any advice on where to post and how to get the most from these forums will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

venus- About Me & What I Struggle With
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Hi, I’m Ace and it’s lovely to meet you all. For some background information about myself, I use any pronouns (he/she/they) with no preference. I also like cats, baking and listening to rock music. I have rarely talked about what issues plague me but... View more

Hi, I’m Ace and it’s lovely to meet you all. For some background information about myself, I use any pronouns (he/she/they) with no preference. I also like cats, baking and listening to rock music. I have rarely talked about what issues plague me but I feel like this is the time. For as long as I can remember, I have had nightmares. I have rarely had a good dream in my entire life. Recently (since about a year ago), the nightmares have become even worse. They are more graphic, more terrifying and feel more real. These nightmares I have range from everything from r*pe to violence. Sometimes I am the one committing acts of violence against others but majority of the time I am the victim of this violence. I am making this post now as two nights ago I had the worst nightmare I’ve ever had. I won’t go into detail of what it was about as it is too graphic but simply put it was just more graphic violence. Sometimes when I wake up from these dreams I am too afraid to go back to sleep, but recently I have started becoming afraid of sleeping. Last night I cried thinking about the IDEA of going to sleep because that’s how much these nightmares bother me now. I was so afraid of going to sleep that even though I was incredibly tired, I forced myself to stay awake and pull an all nighter. However, I eventually went to sleep and I didn’t dream. Still, as I am typing this I am dreading the idea of sleeping when it is hours away. I feel like my fear of sleeping is impacting my ability to live my day to day life. I know that these dreams are just it, dreams but when I’m asleep they feel so real that even after I awake, they still haunt me. I would really like to know if anyone else has the problem and how they cope with it. I have additional stress from PTSD which I was diagnosed with last year and exams coming up so I would really like to get 8 hours of sleep a night without dreading it or being haunted by my nightmares. Thank you for reading this lengthy post and I hope you have a wonderful day :).

Priiiysa Stuck with how to start finding help
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Hi This is my first time reaching out. I think I need some help. But every time I think about speaking to my doctor I just can’t do it. I am frequently on the verge of tears and have a feeling of panic. I can’t shake the sense that everything is goin... View more

Hi This is my first time reaching out. I think I need some help. But every time I think about speaking to my doctor I just can’t do it. I am frequently on the verge of tears and have a feeling of panic. I can’t shake the sense that everything is going to go wrong and thinking of all the bad things that could happen. I’m losing my temper more easily and snapping at people at work. I just want to stay in bed under a doona and cry but drag myself to work (essential worker) and run myself into the ground to distract myself. I have a diagnosed autoimmune disease (10years) and cant stop worrying about the future and how my health will decline. I am also frightened of how much it will cost to seek help - I am single, live alone and have no family in this state. Spare money for therapy does not exist. I’m not really sure the point of my post, apart from to start putting in writing how I feel. Some advice on how to be brave enough to find help and how to start the conversation would be appreciated. Thank you

sparehead this sydney lockdown is even getting this introvert down
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Hi Im new here I was actually enjoying the lockdown till a few days ago - but all the neighbours noises are finally getting to me I just need peace and quiet to be happy -the trail bikes the dup dup music invading my solitude - just being stuck here ... View more

Hi Im new here I was actually enjoying the lockdown till a few days ago - but all the neighbours noises are finally getting to me I just need peace and quiet to be happy -the trail bikes the dup dup music invading my solitude - just being stuck here unable to escape it any tips and help gratefully welcomed

Chantal2 Just joined
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I am what people would refer to as a senior. I have always been prone to periods of depression - I am a worrier and one of my parents was a very anxious individual and quite negative about life, the universe and everything. So I think I have inherite... View more

I am what people would refer to as a senior. I have always been prone to periods of depression - I am a worrier and one of my parents was a very anxious individual and quite negative about life, the universe and everything. So I think I have inherited at least a part. I have mostly coped in the past because I was working (now retired), and had a loving partner (now widowed since 2015). I always had plenty to do and a shoulder to cry on. But I doubt if I would have joined this without the pandemic. During 2020 I was finishing writing and publishing a book, which finally happened in March this year. This was so all-consuming of my attention that I coped fairly well, particularly not living in a capital city with its attendant lock-downs. Now the virus has spread to the regions, my only face-to-face contact is when my daughter - an essential worker - drops off her 2 children for home schooling 3 days a week. I love the time I spend with them but when on my own, in spite of having lots to do around the house and yard - like catching up on the housework I didn't do whilst writing a book! - I don't feel motivated to do any of it. I have good friends and rels I can talk to on the phone or email, but it just isn't the same.

DrewsufA Hey
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I just need to know if anyone else can't stop thinking about their parents dying, and death in general. I know I'm supposed to flip death in its head and live, cherish every moment etc. but it just hovers over everything like a black cloud and genera... View more

I just need to know if anyone else can't stop thinking about their parents dying, and death in general. I know I'm supposed to flip death in its head and live, cherish every moment etc. but it just hovers over everything like a black cloud and generally brings me right down every day.