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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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my anxiety ruining my realtionship

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Hi, i will try keep this short. I made the mistake of talking about my relationship problems to my partners cousin, he the read the messages and feels betrayed and lost trust me in. I did this because i am so anxious when not with him and don't deserve a healthy relationship making up problems that don't exist.He says he forgives me but has lost his trust in me as i spoke bad about him behind his back. i can not forgive myself and am falling into a depression over this. any help would be appreciated. i dont know how get out of this state of panic.

What do you do if you don't have family or friends to talk to or help you

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My long term depression and anxiety has got me into the situation that I don't have any friends and no family close enough to help me in any practical way. Any ideas about who can give me support?

Depression and Anxiety and Society

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I went through a hole several years ago, for the most my partner being bagged left me skinny with an eating disorder. While at the time I sought help with the disorder but still had it for sometime I did not with depression. When I picked myself up out of it no one wanted to sit down and talk about it and lots of get losts involved and was largely left to my own resources while in the hole. This was a few years ago and I am better now and learnt it if possible tune out to them if they wont tune into you. I now see a psychiatrist regularly. Wondering if anyone out there has experienced the same

Groundhog Day

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First of all, hello. Second of all, I am going to skip the pleasantries and dive straight into the thick of it. I am 24, lost and feel as if I am Bill Murray in Groundhog Day. Wake up, feed the cat, put my make-up on, wear the suit, work, eat, go home, clean, cook, clean again, sleep and repeat. I don't want to go into it too much, but I have quite a few 'demons' that I battle on a day to day basis, and recently, I am too tired to even fight anymore. Is this really all I am meant to do for the rest of my life? Is this the life everyone keeps saying is great and worthwhile? Because I can't help but wonder that I am not cut out for it anymore. I don't feel joy, I work 6 days a week and am terrified of this being it. Is this it? How can I smile again? Appreciate any and all tips, tricks or even just someone who gets it.

New member

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Hi, new member here little bit about myself - I was diagnosed with anxiety years ago back when I was in primary school, I've had it for as long as I can remember. Its frustrating and mentally exhausting to constantly fight yourself with this mental illness. Some days I don't even know what triggers it to return, I'll just suddenly feel anxious about everything & find it hard to do things. 3 years ago, I was diagnosed with depression after Mum had cancer for 2nd time. I was very stressed (also had work issues going on at previous job), put my younger sisters' needs above my own & started neglecting myself in order to keep the family going. I now don't go out anymore as all the friends I thought I had ditched me when I called for support family stuff is much better now but I still feel anxiety creeping in everyday and I dunno how to deal with it. Please help, any advice would be great

Reaching Out

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I’m not really ok and probably haven’t been for a while now. I’ve probably been masquerading like I’ve got it all in hand for too long. I seem to keep having these feelings of anxiety and just generally feeling quite overwhelmed. This is across work and family. Caring for others going through mental health concerns themselves has been something I needed to do but it seems to have emptied my tank. Similarly with work thinking I can take on and endless amount of projects and not focusing on what’s important to me seems to have emptied my tank. I want to take back some control so this is my attempt (not for the first time) to do this. I know that gravitating more towards the worries in my life and not appreciating the positive especially in the moment is not the best thing for me or for those who I’m supporting.

Love you

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Hey everyone, I stumbled across a beautiful piano instrumental tonight while listening to music. The tempo was so slow and it made me stop to focus on my own thoughts for a moment. The notes were such a perfect combination of peaceful and inspirational as though hope is around. Tears wouldn't stop flowing out of my eyes and I feel so calm for the first time in months.I thought that I'd join this forum today to spread my message to the world that I love all of you and never forget that God wouldn't have created you if you weren't perfect the way you are. Thanks for taking the time to read my message and I wish you the best with your life. Cheers.

Work burnout & anxiety

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Hi all, I’m new here so please bear with me. The situation is that I’ve experienced extended trauma and moral injury at work. It started with a colleague making false allegations and the company being too scared to protect me. I was investigated and cleared through two mechanisms over a nine month period. Unfortunately this happened during COVID and I live alone and have felt isolated and lonely. I also work in a very hard, high pressure environment. On top of this, I had an unfortunate health diagnosis that can luckily now be managed but fell out with a close friend and a few other unfortunate events during the same period. I ended up on SSRIs and have been seeing a counsellor but my mental health plan has expired. I can get this extended but my GP has left and I’m so exhausted and don’t want to retraumatise myself explaining again. I’m off the SSRIs because they made me feel unwell and tired. For a while I was great but my work stress has flared up again. My boss is unsympathetic and previously told me in my PDR that he would like me to work on my resilience. I’m a very resilient person and found this offensive but it confirmed that I have zero support. Recently a colleague passed away suddenly and there are rumours about the cause, another colleague has confided in me that they’re struggling to cope and took some leave. I’m desperately looking for a job but am not having much luck. Unfortunately I’m feeling incredibly burnt out and have short fuse, which isn’t helping me with writing applications and presenting. Tonight I burst into tears after a bad haircut and flew into a rage. I screamed and smashed a hairbrush. This is not my usual behaviour and I feel at my wit’s end. Any suggestions for where to start? I can’t quit my job, but know it’s 99% of the problem. I’ve started feeling hopeless, sad, tired and alone.

is this depression?

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i’m 19, female, and was diagnosed with depression at 14. started antidepressants at 16. but i’ve always felt like there’s something else going on with my brain. i can’t keep a hobby or interest for the life of me and i just feel numb all the time. i have no clue who i am. people tell me i’m a good person and that they love me and all i can think “why? how could anyone possibly like or even love me? how can they not see how horrible i am?”. sometimes i truly believe i have just manipulated everyone into thinking i’m good. i know i’m not a bad person and i treat everyone kindly, but i can never shake that thought. it’s like i just have this hatred for myself. anything that goes wrong in my life, anytime i argue with someone, anytime someone hurts me, i blame myself and punish myself for it. i often harm myself in some way over those type of things. i’ve never had a stable relationship and recently i’ve been in a really toxic relationship. he’s hurt me so many times, yet all the anger i feel ends up directed at myself. he could say something wrong and then i’d find myself not eating for days. i also think that i stayed in that relationship for so long because at least i felt something other than numb, even if it was sadness. and i convinced myself i deserved it. i remember even as a child, around 5, i would punish myself if i felt like i wasn’t good enough that day. i know now that it was just in my head, but that’s not normal right? lately i’ve been working 38 hour weeks, picking up shifts and staying late just so i don’t have to be alone with my thoughts. i’m so deeply exhausted but i’d rather be there than at home. when i am at home, i just feel so uncomfortable in my mind. like i’m irritated with how numb and uninterested i am in everything. sometimes i find myself just staring at my wall for an hour feeling nothing, thinking nothing. i do reckless things, reckless spending, unsafe sex, drinking, hurting myself, ect. i think there is something more wrong with me than the depression, but i don’t know. maybe i’m overthinking.

Introduce myself

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Hi, I am new to these mental health forums. This is my first time my anxiety and depression got the best of me. I currently live in Adelaide. I have no one to talk to about my problem and would really like to have someone to talk to.

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HELP..Am I posting in the right section? replies: 10

my anxiety ruining my realtionship replies: 4

What do you do if you don't have family or friends to talk to or help you replies: 11

Depression and Anxiety and Society replies: 4

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New member replies: 6

Reaching Out replies: 7

Love you replies: 8

Work burnout & anxiety replies: 18

is this depression? replies: 5

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