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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Grifta I need advice
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Hey , so my girlfriend got upset with me because she feels I was criticising her , she has alot of family over at the moment and I felt a bit neglected when I went to bed at 3:am and no idea what time she came to bed , I had foolishly assumed that be... View more

Hey , so my girlfriend got upset with me because she feels I was criticising her , she has alot of family over at the moment and I felt a bit neglected when I went to bed at 3:am and no idea what time she came to bed , I had foolishly assumed that because she wanted me to stay that night we would spend the following day together which wasn't the case , I told her how I felt and now she is upset with me and told me she needs a few days of space . I love her so much and she says she is inlove with me but I don't see how someone inlove could so this to their significant other . I can't help but feel hopeless and I'm full of anxiety , I know I'm have control issues but right now I'm scared of losing the woman I love because I used the wrong words . Please help? I feel like the walls are closing in and pushing up on my chest .

Christina2 my husband has had major depression for 14 months and I am struggling
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Hi. I am married to a beautiful man who is struggling with depression, now for 14 months. He is 57 and this has come out of nowhere. He has tried three different combinations of medication and nothing is working. His psychiatrist is starting to talk ... View more

Hi. I am married to a beautiful man who is struggling with depression, now for 14 months. He is 57 and this has come out of nowhere. He has tried three different combinations of medication and nothing is working. His psychiatrist is starting to talk about ECT. I feel very alone in my role as his carer because he doesn't want me to talk about his depression to anyone. Mostly I keep myself busy but I am finding that my emotions are getting more intense and I occasionally say things that I regret. I know he is doing everything he can- wondering if our life will ever return to the way it was.

Kelltb1 Hi
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Hi all my name is kelly, I am here for a lot of issues, and I don’t know where to start treatment of healing

Hi all my name is kelly, I am here for a lot of issues, and I don’t know where to start treatment of healing

fangface new here :')
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not 100% sure how to use these forums yet so bear with me, but i thought i'd introduce myself. i turned 18 recently and have been living with mental illness for as long as i can remember. i have mdd, bpd and adhd, and am trying to cope with chronic i... View more

not 100% sure how to use these forums yet so bear with me, but i thought i'd introduce myself. i turned 18 recently and have been living with mental illness for as long as i can remember. i have mdd, bpd and adhd, and am trying to cope with chronic ideation and harm. asking for help and reaching out have never been easy for me so i try to support others using my lived experience almost as an alternative. living has been very difficult lately but i'm trying to hold on. i hope anyone who reads this is having a good day.

Sqeak Anxiety and Feeling Lost
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Maybe a little history to explain where I am coming from, there's been grief in my life, a failed marriage, the death of my eldest son, mental health issues, and an alcohol problem. I learnt over time to stop feeling guilty about my marriage break do... View more

Maybe a little history to explain where I am coming from, there's been grief in my life, a failed marriage, the death of my eldest son, mental health issues, and an alcohol problem. I learnt over time to stop feeling guilty about my marriage break down, I learnt to live with the death of my son, I learnt to deal with where my brain goes sometimes, and I had Rehab to help me with the alcohol problem. In February this year something happened with my youngest daughter that triggered my mental stability and has me getting uncontrollable shakes now when my daughter rings me, to the point where I can't answer the phone. The last time we spoke Tuesday this week I tried to explain that I wasn't well but she cut me of with what her needs are. I've been off work for medical reasons and am looking to get back into the workforce. My daughter and granddaughter moved and now live an hour and a half away, but she doesn't want to be by herself, I've gone down to help her as much as I can. My daughter has a friend with two girls who lives at home with her parents and her parents are looking after the two girls while her friend does what she wants to do, that's what my daughter expects of me and has brought it up every time I go to see her. I love my daughter and grand daughter dearly. Im at a loss at the moment to know how to handle this situation because I getting shut down each time we speak because Im not doing what my daughter want me to.. this is where my anxiety is coming from its like im being backed into a corner and i dont like the feeling of being trap, my daughter has starting to use my grand daughter to have me feel bad. I dont kknow how to handle this situation,??????

ToKiri Hi everyone,
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It is the first time that I have posted in any forum. I am a refugee, and English is not my first language. I want to vent as I have been feeling sad lately. I have self-doubts. I think I am a shadow of my previous self. I do not have friends, and I ... View more

It is the first time that I have posted in any forum. I am a refugee, and English is not my first language. I want to vent as I have been feeling sad lately. I have self-doubts. I think I am a shadow of my previous self. I do not have friends, and I am always exhausted. I am old, and I think a group of young fellow students is bullying me. I feel so stupid even to write it down. I hope tomorrow I feel better, and I hope whoever reads this has a nice night.

vanillabare out of the blue
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i find my self to burst into tears for no reason. has anyone ever felt like this and how did you deal with the crying. then the next day i can have a good day.

i find my self to burst into tears for no reason. has anyone ever felt like this and how did you deal with the crying. then the next day i can have a good day.

Colette S M-L Hello and thank you for the link to MindSpot through Beyond Blue Organisation.
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Hello, Just recently at ten days ago now, I had a silent but personally noticeable myocardial infarction. I wanted to die if that be the parting cause from this world at the age of nearly 46 years and due to the HotDoc app showing no availability at ... View more

Hello, Just recently at ten days ago now, I had a silent but personally noticeable myocardial infarction. I wanted to die if that be the parting cause from this world at the age of nearly 46 years and due to the HotDoc app showing no availability at my doctors that I go to for six weeks, I took this option to explore Beyond Blue's available help. Hopefully, with the overwhelming complexity of my legitimate complaint and claims, I can see beyond blue to a love and zest for living life again.

Mobi_2020 Newbie
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Hi, I am new here and still trying to learn my way around the site. A little about me. I have suffered with depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I have tried different medications over the years. I have had a lot of trauma in my life... View more

Hi, I am new here and still trying to learn my way around the site. A little about me. I have suffered with depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I have tried different medications over the years. I have had a lot of trauma in my life. This all became to much for me recently and i made an attempt just over 3 weeks ago. I am currently finding things very difficult. I am not very good at reaching out for help....obviously. I know everyone says call anytime day or night but for me it is not that easy. I know i have many who love me but sometimes it just feels so lonely and everyone is so busy with their own lives in these crazy times. I am hoping to be able to maybe chat or read others stories of how they have coped & been able to progress & move forward. What I have recently been through has been very confronting in some ways & I am also feeling a lot of guilt. I don't currently know how to talk about it or who to talk to. I have just started with a new psychologist so I am hoping that it a start.

GTL Introducing myself: GTL
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Hi all. Just reaching out to share my story and chat as much as I can. I believe in truth telling and honesty and have come a long way because of my depression. My long-time psychologist has helped me to accept my depression and understand that is ha... View more

Hi all. Just reaching out to share my story and chat as much as I can. I believe in truth telling and honesty and have come a long way because of my depression. My long-time psychologist has helped me to accept my depression and understand that is has had some positive impacts upon who I am and what I've done. I've a long history of battling depression including a lot of success with exercise as therapy (cycling) as well as meditation and mindfulness to an extent, when I'm feeling strong, and medication most of the time because I'm only human. I have been treated for depression only in the last 10 years, but I've always had it and it's been triggered a great deal in the last decade and quite recently through COVID and associate family tension. I'm also a teacher, and have had quite a lot of success with photography (amateur) and writing two novels (yet to be published) while working full-time. I love to write and I plan to read as much as I can and interact with those with shared interests. I hope to meet a few people and share stories - I don't have an outlet for this at home and I'm excited by the prospect of meeting fellow humane humans :-)Thanks for reading!