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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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LorenaC Hola everyone
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Hola everyone, I am more that happy to join in this community. I am Lorena, from South America. I have been living in Australia 6 years and I really love this country. I am social communicator but once I moved to this country I had to start from the ... View more

Hola everyone, I am more that happy to join in this community. I am Lorena, from South America. I have been living in Australia 6 years and I really love this country. I am social communicator but once I moved to this country I had to start from the beginner, initially as I could not speak english I was very afraid about everything here, but the life has been showing me how strong we can be and how with perseverance and patience we can adapt to new environments. I love animals, meditation, yoga and dancing. I strong believe is important give us at less 5 minutes everyday to connect with ourselves and also I enjoy having time with friends and family. As a part to find my purpose of life I realised I want to study community services - mental health. Supporting people and listening diferents perspectives is what make me happy life, that is why I am here. Hoping we can have lots conversation around. Chao, Lorena

Kimbo_1 Taking on everyone else's worries
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Howdy, Just feeling like I have fallen into a role at work, where I am the platform for everyone to offload onto. I am manager at work. Dealing with staff, people above me and clients. I am exhausted. I have been avoiding even going to the supermarke... View more

Howdy, Just feeling like I have fallen into a role at work, where I am the platform for everyone to offload onto. I am manager at work. Dealing with staff, people above me and clients. I am exhausted. I have been avoiding even going to the supermarket just in case i become a close contact and have to be tested. I cannot have a day away from work as my responsibility to everyone is far greater than what I need for myself to keep going.

Navel Introduction
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Hi everyone, been diagnosed with anxiety 8 years ago,thought it was about time to stop being quiet about it and speak up and share with like minded people.

Hi everyone, been diagnosed with anxiety 8 years ago,thought it was about time to stop being quiet about it and speak up and share with like minded people.

Rob_1994 Hello
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Hello, I've opened this account a while back but this is my first time interacting here. I'm not very good at explaining what my issues are and unironically that's one of them. What I do know is that I need help with so many things and letting them o... View more

Hello, I've opened this account a while back but this is my first time interacting here. I'm not very good at explaining what my issues are and unironically that's one of them. What I do know is that I need help with so many things and letting them out may take time for me. Though I can say is that I can't find reasons to stay motivated and all of the simplest tasks feel like an effort to me. I'm hoping I can get something out of this, I've been in a pool of despair for as long as I can remember and I need reason to carry on with my life. I look forward to meeting new people here.

TRYIN2 grieving alienated 20/F daughter
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Hi there to anyone,believe it or not this is my first post ever on anything. Im a 46/M.Havent seen or spoken to my daughter since she was 16 and I yelled at her {lost temper} on the phone.approx 5 years ago. I get some info on how she is and what she... View more

Hi there to anyone,believe it or not this is my first post ever on anything. Im a 46/M.Havent seen or spoken to my daughter since she was 16 and I yelled at her {lost temper} on the phone.approx 5 years ago. I get some info on how she is and what shes doing from my mother who talks to her every now and then.This gives me a lot of hope I have tried to contact her a few times .she has blocked me on her phone ,sent back her 18th birthday card and present and mom only said the other day she never asks about you. I thought I had grieved my daughters loss a couple of years ago when I started bursting into tears often while driving,then researched online and realised what was happening,with Fathers day I have been upset a lot again this year and got really anxious and then got angry. I tried to put on a brave face when she told me she I would never see her again but it seems to have caught up with me with time.I have read a lot on the net on alienated children {which im certain has played the most part }and adopted the advice to look after myself,keep busy working so if she did ever want to reconcile I could be there for her in the best capacity.At least ive tried to. I have made a lot of mistakes but to cut off all together doesnt seem fair,I dont think I deserve that,but understand {from what ive read on the subject]I can only "leave the door open"and pray that one day she will want some reconciliation. Im looking for a conversation with some people of similar experiences to help each other out a bit with mutual tips and advice and understanding. When you get a bit older and realise how precious and short life is.Knowing how every day without her is a day lost forever and how it could be ok if we could just talk,I believe that just one step ,one conversation and it would be ok. I my other main issue is Im of the firm belief that I was in a relationship with a narcasist type of person,and that person is in my daughters life now and was in her childhood.im not qualified to tell you what type and level.Definetely a level above the average joe though and that was thirteen years ago.I havent been able to want or have a serious relationship since.Again I have seeked solace and comfort on the internet,knowing youre not robinson cruso and gaining an understanding of the behavours really helped. I was just wondering if the grief ever stops or will it often raise its ugly head? Wow that feels good to write,should have done it a long time ago.

Teddy Bear Feeling Helpless
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Hi there, This is the first time posting on here, but I feel desperate. My husband has depression and anxiety and it has slowly been getting worse in the last 10 years but only really noticing it more in the last 2 years since he retired and Covid ha... View more

Hi there, This is the first time posting on here, but I feel desperate. My husband has depression and anxiety and it has slowly been getting worse in the last 10 years but only really noticing it more in the last 2 years since he retired and Covid hasn't helped either. He has pushed away most of his friends and some family, but the most upsetting thing is communication has broken down between his eldest daughter and himself, whom he has always been very close to while she was growing up, but since she got married things have not been good and he cannot tolerate her husband. He has been to four psychiatrists over the years to try and get help, but it is so hard to find one that he can connect with and feel like they understand him. He also was seeing a counsellor but that hasn't helped either. Now his daughter has had enough and he just feels this barrier between them and he gets anxiety and just wants to melt away when he actually does see her. It is so sad and hard for me to watch him shut down and I try really hard to support him and let him know that I am here for him but he just shuts me out too. I am so worried about him and I want him to try and get help again but he doesn't want to. He stopped eating and drinking this time and I have managed to make him eat a bit and have some fluids, and I thought he was starting to come out of the depression , but today he is shutting down again. I feel like I am walking on eggshells most of the time, I leave him alone because I know he wants to be very quiet, but its so hard, I feel like I have lost my husband and he is just an empty shell. He said he doesn't want to kill himself but he just doesn't want to be here anymore, that's why he stops eating and drinking hoping he will fade away. Usually when he has a downer it lasts 3-4 days but this has been going on for about 8 days now. I just feel helpless and not sure what to do anymore. Just wondering if anyone else is going through the same thing and how they cope.

Positive_vibes89 Name 3 things that you like about yourself
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During this time of uncertainty with covid and all the lockdowns we have been experiencing lets share some positivity and self love. I will start with my 3 things...... 1. I am caring 2. I am smart 3. I am healthy Your turn!

During this time of uncertainty with covid and all the lockdowns we have been experiencing lets share some positivity and self love. I will start with my 3 things...... 1. I am caring 2. I am smart 3. I am healthy Your turn!

DDDD Email counselling
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Hey everyone, this might be an odd request, but does anyone know of any free counselling services done by email? I sometimes find it hard to express myself, so email would be best for me to communicate my issues. Thank you in advance!

Hey everyone, this might be an odd request, but does anyone know of any free counselling services done by email? I sometimes find it hard to express myself, so email would be best for me to communicate my issues. Thank you in advance!

mandajane Out of control
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Hi my first time here and I’m struggling with panic at present. Just wanted to touch base with people that know how it feels. Thank you

Hi my first time here and I’m struggling with panic at present. Just wanted to touch base with people that know how it feels. Thank you

AnotherSoul Dont know who to reach out or how to get help.
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Hello everyone. First time posting here, not really sure were to start it has always been really hard for me to express what is going inside my mind. As background been in Australia for the last 7 years and can call my self an Aussie now. I have alwa... View more

Hello everyone. First time posting here, not really sure were to start it has always been really hard for me to express what is going inside my mind. As background been in Australia for the last 7 years and can call my self an Aussie now. I have always been alone, I mean even when I was in school didnt really had any close friends, didnt really had a tight family and don’t have any close family other than my fiance. I feel that may be I might be having a persistent depression or dont know if I might be like Asperger or something. I don’t remember the last time I feel fully happy. I dont know how or to whom or what help can I get to actually find out what happen with me. Sometimes, I cannot even sleep well because of being anxious thinking about death and that one day wont open my eyes again and then my heart goes racing and try to stay awake. My birthday is coming in this month and for year of course got no one to celebrate it other than my fiancé or my parents. I dont think I am a bad person, nor a bad friend, but feel like a failure not having friends to care about me or just to talk about stuff. so, my question is, how do I know what is happening with me and how can I get help? Thanks if you reading my message and wish you a good day.