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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Gaz29 Need a friend
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I'm Gary & I suffer from depression. I have joined beyond blue online forum today & hope to get to know people. I'm very easy going,understanding & sincere & need in my life now interaction & communication with people no matter who they are or where ... View more

I'm Gary & I suffer from depression. I have joined beyond blue online forum today & hope to get to know people. I'm very easy going,understanding & sincere & need in my life now interaction & communication with people no matter who they are or where they are from. thank you

Kat-ie Unsure
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Hey, I may be new to BeyondBlue, but definitely not new to anxiety/depression. I’m currently 25 years old and first experienced depression in grade 9 due to negative thoughts and minor bullying. At the moment I am in my 2nd year of nursing, working a... View more

Hey, I may be new to BeyondBlue, but definitely not new to anxiety/depression. I’m currently 25 years old and first experienced depression in grade 9 due to negative thoughts and minor bullying. At the moment I am in my 2nd year of nursing, working a permanent part time position at a hospital, studying full time and on top of that, having to step up and be a step mum every two weeks for the whole week to my partners son. I have been calling in sick quite a bit lately due to constantly getting whatever is going around the town, and work isn’t happy about it at the moment. I always feel horrible calling in sick, but the few times I went to work sick, I just felt more drained afterwards. Last night I woke up early in the morning having a mini anxiety attack and couldn’t go back to sleep. I’m not enjoying nursing anymore, I’m struggling to keep up with my uni work, doing odd hours at work and looking after a child. I am starting to feel like a failure and it just makes the anxiety attacks worse. I look at my siblings and they seem to be on top with their careers, married, travelling, so forth, and I’m scared to pull out of nursing to try something else, as this would be another change down the line of careers or study I’ve tried over the years. I don’t want to be the girl who “just keeps changing jobs”. But I’m so tired of being mentally and physically ill all the time. I use to be active and exercising 5-6 days a week and eating well, where now I maybe exercise twice a week and either don’t eat or just eat non stop. I’m also scared to talk to my partner about it as he would say he’s always stressed and doesn’t like his job either but still manages to go. We bought a house not long ago, and I just don’t want to add to his stress if I’m not contributing my share in the payments or bills. I feel to ashamed to seek professional help as I feel like my problems are just silly. But I’m at the stage where I just want to give up.

Rainbowpolly All new to me just saying hi 👋
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Hi This is just a bit of an introduction of who I am and a bit about me. I am having alot of anxiety and panic attacks lately and wanted to connect with people who will understand me. The last 4 weeks has been exceptionally hard...I don't know how mu... View more

Hi This is just a bit of an introduction of who I am and a bit about me. I am having alot of anxiety and panic attacks lately and wanted to connect with people who will understand me. The last 4 weeks has been exceptionally hard...I don't know how much detail to go into on a welcome thread but I thank anyone for taking the time reading and I wish you all a good day.

TravelBug2021 New to Beyond Blue
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Hello, New to these forums. Only jointed today, 26th September. I've tried googling online therapy sessions, however, not quite sure if they are same or scams. I've heard of Beyond Blue which is Australian Anyway, what brings me here is that I'm hopi... View more

Hello, New to these forums. Only jointed today, 26th September. I've tried googling online therapy sessions, however, not quite sure if they are same or scams. I've heard of Beyond Blue which is Australian Anyway, what brings me here is that I'm hoping to get some friendly advice/help as I'm feeling quite depressed at present. I was in a 4year relationship with a man who was a narcissist. After 4 years, his packed up and left and I am struggling to cope and trying to be strong and not contact him. I've watched so many youtube video's on what not to do when a relationship with a narcissist ends, however, hard carry out the advice that is recommended. I was wondering if there is anyone out there who has had any experience with a narcissist person in their lives? Alicia

Millie_Tiger First timer with multiple diagnoses
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Hello friends, I’m feeling quite alone. I don’t know where to begin. I’ve suffered a major depressive disorder since I was a teen. Tried different medications over the years. Some worked better than others. Anxiety was there in the background through... View more

Hello friends, I’m feeling quite alone. I don’t know where to begin. I’ve suffered a major depressive disorder since I was a teen. Tried different medications over the years. Some worked better than others. Anxiety was there in the background through my childhood, teens, early adulthood. But it has spiked in the last 5 or so years. I’m now 43. I’m finding it harder to believe things will get any better at this stage. I’ve also had many physical health issues which flared up like never before after I had my second child 10 years ago. Some symptoms have improved, but the majority are getting worse. I was diagnosed with POTS a few years ago but I’ve always had this feeling there’s something else going on. But maybe all my symptoms can be attributed to that diagnosis, and there just isn’t enough clear information out there to confirm or deny this. I cannot keep living in this nightmare. Thanks for taking the time to read this. I’m struggling today and so I’m not even sure if I’m getting my msg across coherently.

Little_Miss_P New to group
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Hi. Im Carolyn and new to this group. I’m feeling very isolated and my partner is cruel to me and my dogs and is a compulsive lier. He keeps bending conversations to make himself look good. He leans over me and out speaks me. I’ve learnt not to say m... View more

Hi. Im Carolyn and new to this group. I’m feeling very isolated and my partner is cruel to me and my dogs and is a compulsive lier. He keeps bending conversations to make himself look good. He leans over me and out speaks me. I’ve learnt not to say much as he as every excuse in the world to blame things on me. I don’t know where to go to help our relationship.

And_She_Grew Firstly to Acknowledge…
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Hey there, Stumbled across these forums and thought perhaps I needed to connect with people who may understand how I’m feeling. I find it incredibly hard to convey that to people because I don’t want to seem like a pre-Madonna; but I’m struggling!! I... View more

Hey there, Stumbled across these forums and thought perhaps I needed to connect with people who may understand how I’m feeling. I find it incredibly hard to convey that to people because I don’t want to seem like a pre-Madonna; but I’m struggling!! I thought that perhaps if I just admit that to someone it would help start the recovery process again. So thanks for listening, I really appreciate it

dwalk introducing myself and my journey
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Hi to all not sure where to start really. Ihave suffered chronic pain for along time now and back in November I was told that a surgery could really help my issues. This so called specialist did 2 surgeries on my spine and in doing so toremy labral l... View more

Hi to all not sure where to start really. Ihave suffered chronic pain for along time now and back in November I was told that a surgery could really help my issues. This so called specialist did 2 surgeries on my spine and in doing so toremy labral layer in my hip by over extended the leg to gain access. This same doctor fobbed me off after 3 months of complaining about hip and I got it fixed by another surgeon. Now it is 10 months since my surgeries and I in more pain than ever and only to be told that the treatment I require to fix what the surgeon has caused I can't afford. Im just putting this out there to anyone that is thinking of spinal surgery make triple sure you know exactly what can go wrong before you have anyone operate and get at lkeast a 2nd opinion. My life is now finished I have nothing to live for and I'm not going to just sit around in pain all day. So please check and check again before you let anyone touch your spine

MagdalenaMEM Responding to triggers
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Hi everyone, I’m new to the Beyond Blue forums and have been really touched to witness the warmth, empathy and acceptance that is being modelled so richly here. As I read through the forums, I find myself really wanting to help and support people thr... View more

Hi everyone, I’m new to the Beyond Blue forums and have been really touched to witness the warmth, empathy and acceptance that is being modelled so richly here. As I read through the forums, I find myself really wanting to help and support people through their struggles. But then, I find myself being triggered much of the time too! So I’d love to find out: how do you respond to triggers? Mags