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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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musiclover7 Uphill Battle
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Hi everyone, I have just joined BB and would really like some support and companionship. Since I was about 12, I've had many bouts of depression over my lifetime. In my early twenties I started to get anxiety attacks, mainly social and performance re... View more

Hi everyone, I have just joined BB and would really like some support and companionship. Since I was about 12, I've had many bouts of depression over my lifetime. In my early twenties I started to get anxiety attacks, mainly social and performance related. I've managed to get the depression under wraps most of the time with the help of anti-depressant medication, but the anxiety is an on-going handicap. It doesnt happen as frequently, but it still rears its ugly head regularly. I'm looking forward to getting to know people here.

Aquamonkey Newcomer intro
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Hi, I’ve joined here to find people I can relate to, that I hopefully find a way out of the mess I’m in mentally. I’m depressed, have been for years. Going through a bit of a bad patch at the moment. I feel dead inside. Have zero motivation. Hate lea... View more

Hi, I’ve joined here to find people I can relate to, that I hopefully find a way out of the mess I’m in mentally. I’m depressed, have been for years. Going through a bit of a bad patch at the moment. I feel dead inside. Have zero motivation. Hate leaving my house, and am full of anxiety. Lastly, because of all this, I’m feeling like not living anymore. Haven’t got any ‘plans’ to end it just so you all know. I just want to find me again. I want to live again. Thanks for reading.

Jiero I don't know how I'm feeling.
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Hello, my name is Jiero and currently I haven't been able to do anything. I'm usually a happy and goofy person, but lately a lurking feeling has been surrounding me. I don't think I'm sad, nor depressed. But I can't seem to enjoy anything anymore, an... View more

Hello, my name is Jiero and currently I haven't been able to do anything. I'm usually a happy and goofy person, but lately a lurking feeling has been surrounding me. I don't think I'm sad, nor depressed. But I can't seem to enjoy anything anymore, and as a result I end up sitting by myself in a quiet place doing nothing. It doesn't matter where, as long as I'm alone. Outside, in my room, in the living room, in the toilet. My dream of becoming a pro artist has also been losing it's fire ever since I've been feeling this. I believe that it's burnout, but on another level where instead of not being able to draw, it's: I can't do anything. Not to mention, I have two people who I thought were my friends, but are constantly mocking me, telling me that I will forever be alone, a loser, a virgin yada yada yada other insults. Most of the time I don't let that stuff get to me but it's recently made me contemplate about what I have done in the past to let them call me those things so easily. Was it because I can never achieve anything in life? Maybe. I'm not sure anymore. Anyway. If I were to pinpoint where I need help with: How do begin to enjoy my life again? I've tried a lot of new things, but I never get any pleasure from them. I want to draw as well, but I'm constantly haunted by the huge expectations on my back.

Party_of_one Newbie intro
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Hi all, So I've never reached out before so this is my first time joining a forum. It's wierdly making me anxious introducing myself but I am so grateful for the chance to connect. I'm in my mid 30s, a mum, a health care worker and generally quite ou... View more

Hi all, So I've never reached out before so this is my first time joining a forum. It's wierdly making me anxious introducing myself but I am so grateful for the chance to connect. I'm in my mid 30s, a mum, a health care worker and generally quite outgoing. In the last 5 years, life's changed and at times I feel like I'm burning on the inside. I don't really have any close friends anymore and my relationship with my family has changed massively. As far a work goes, my colleagues have their own cliques but from a professional perspective, they're a good team. I'm still very fortunate to have people in my life who love me. Sometimes I don't want to talk about how I feel because I don't want to be like a burden. It's ridiculous how hypocritical I sound because Im really passionate about supporting anyone who needs it. Its just hard to admit that sometimes I need it. I actually like my own company in general but this lockdown has isolated everyone and I feel it's getting to be a bit much. I've lost my enthusiasm for the things I love so part of my being here is self-awareness and an attempt at being proactive in the preservation of my mental health. I guess I made the right move joining because I already feel better. I look forward to future discussions and guys, it's really amazing to see people supporting each other. Thanks again for listening. A.C - Party of one

Murd Heya it's murd
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Hello I am really really new here and honestly wanting to help others in the same situations as me or different ones, I'm usually a friendly guy that will understand what you are saying and I try to make everyone happy

Hello I am really really new here and honestly wanting to help others in the same situations as me or different ones, I'm usually a friendly guy that will understand what you are saying and I try to make everyone happy

Nicole77 New member and nurse struggling
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Hi all I’m a nurse in regional Victoria and really struggling with work at the moment we don’t have any COVID positive cases in our hospital it the way our nursing has changed so much it’s really hard to deal with I didn’t go to work today as I could... View more

Hi all I’m a nurse in regional Victoria and really struggling with work at the moment we don’t have any COVID positive cases in our hospital it the way our nursing has changed so much it’s really hard to deal with I didn’t go to work today as I couldn’t cope with people I’m finding because of lockdown that when I have a few days off as I’m on my own at home I don’t want to go back to work and deal with all the rules and what we can and cannot do I know everyone is struggling but feel like I’m letting the team down as some nurses are doing doubles and extra shifts and I can barely manage my seven shifts a fortnight just need to chat thanks for reading this

Mbnbkk_jmnmnm_impuju_um_m Self loathing and self doubt
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Hello, how normal is it to often have self doubt and strange feeling of self loathing.? Do other people have this or is it just me? My siblings are all confident and probably quite arrogant and I seemed to have missed out on that gene. I am humble to... View more

Hello, how normal is it to often have self doubt and strange feeling of self loathing.? Do other people have this or is it just me? My siblings are all confident and probably quite arrogant and I seemed to have missed out on that gene. I am humble to the point of having no pride. I wish I knew what pride felt like. I feel like an alien and an imposter. I am very lonely and although people are friendly to me in the small town I have moved to - people have very established friendship groups. And people don’t think to include me because everyone assumes that everyone has friends. I am always welcoming to new comers and I have noticed that not many people are. People are always having get together s end socialising- but but me. I have solid friendships with people who tony live here- but I have only managed to make aquaintences. . I live on my own with my child age ten. I do not have a job at the moment but not from lack of trying either. I am u der enormous stress with my ex. But I realise others go through this too. I ended up in a dv relationship because of my low self esteem .

Todda Thoughts racing, my own harshest critic
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Hi there. Just found out I originally joined in 2018. My mind is on repeat of my last week with highlights of a stuff up with work colleague who has already forgiven me. She said to move on and I am trying but the isolation of our world is making it ... View more

Hi there. Just found out I originally joined in 2018. My mind is on repeat of my last week with highlights of a stuff up with work colleague who has already forgiven me. She said to move on and I am trying but the isolation of our world is making it harder. Forgive myself, what a foreign concept I have worked on for 30+ years and still can't do.My down moments are increasing. My partner has become even more of a hermit resulting in my days either at home or work. Home used to be my happy place, even in the rentals I have lived in for the last 15 years. I could always make homey, welcoming and safe. Now it is just a house. I know I need to return to counselling and be more active. The joys of living with chronic depression .... fall in a black hole, knowing physically actions needed to get out, no motivation to do said actions, wearing a mask of happiness to the world.

Rod_04 Am I signed in? My Alcohol/drug support worker recomennded I try beondblue as I'm on my way to a lengthy jail sentence
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I have no idea if if spent the last hour cursing at this phone or the site. I'm finding it difficult to um..navigate. I need help, I was ready to check out now im feeling worse. Why do they make it so difficult to ask for help? I'm one of luck ones t... View more

I have no idea if if spent the last hour cursing at this phone or the site. I'm finding it difficult to um..navigate. I need help, I was ready to check out now im feeling worse. Why do they make it so difficult to ask for help? I'm one of luck ones that learnt to type. Most blokes my age refuse to learn so ,where would they go. I'm at a loss why people hold beondblue so high when an year 10 educated man finds a big pot of nothing just like rest of gov run bandaids.

LorenaC Hola everyone
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Hola everyone, I am more that happy to join in this community. I am Lorena, from South America. I have been living in Australia 6 years and I really love this country. I am social communicator but once I moved to this country I had to start from the ... View more

Hola everyone, I am more that happy to join in this community. I am Lorena, from South America. I have been living in Australia 6 years and I really love this country. I am social communicator but once I moved to this country I had to start from the beginner, initially as I could not speak english I was very afraid about everything here, but the life has been showing me how strong we can be and how with perseverance and patience we can adapt to new environments. I love animals, meditation, yoga and dancing. I strong believe is important give us at less 5 minutes everyday to connect with ourselves and also I enjoy having time with friends and family. As a part to find my purpose of life I realised I want to study community services - mental health. Supporting people and listening diferents perspectives is what make me happy life, that is why I am here. Hoping we can have lots conversation around. Chao, Lorena