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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Scooter321 First post
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Hi. First time posting here. Have been struggling for a few months now, but has become really obvious last few weeks to family. Thought was going ok but have fallen down the rabbit hole a long way. Not ready to discuss all issues here just yet. The m... View more

Hi. First time posting here. Have been struggling for a few months now, but has become really obvious last few weeks to family. Thought was going ok but have fallen down the rabbit hole a long way. Not ready to discuss all issues here just yet. The more I think things through, the more issues I am finding.

Sheree333 My Bipolar Partner cheated
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Hi everyone, I'm new here and have joined because I found out yesterday that my partner cheated on me. Im unsure of where to post this. Do i put it under bipolar? Relationships? Caring for a loved one? Infidelity? Lgbtiq? I feel like every different ... View more

Hi everyone, I'm new here and have joined because I found out yesterday that my partner cheated on me. Im unsure of where to post this. Do i put it under bipolar? Relationships? Caring for a loved one? Infidelity? Lgbtiq? I feel like every different community will have a different response to this topic. I guess Im just feeling lost and confused. We have been together 2 years and are very responsible our separate mental health conditions. We take our meds regularly and see our respective psychologists. My partners bipolar 2 is well managed, even though she is high energy and struggles to sleep sometimes, that is just her normal. Her medication seems to keep any massive highs or lows at bay. But then covid happened and she lost her job. And then lockdown happened. And she was stuck at home alone for almost 2 months alone, with only her thoughts for about 2 months while I went to work every day. This is the first time I have seen her have a depressive episode. I tried to be extra attentive and I knew she wasnt well. I tasked other people to check in on her while I was at work and even suggested she go to the dr and get her meds checked. Once she started getting work again she picked back up again and seems to be out of the funk now. Then last night she told me that she had cheated on me during that time period. I have no idea what to do now.

Snowy78 First timer
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Hi, sorry if this is the wrong place to post but I’ve never posted on a forum I’m just scared and can’t chat online at this hour. I’ve recently had a medication change and the nightmares I’ve had tonight are so bad that I’m petrified to go to sleep. ... View more

Hi, sorry if this is the wrong place to post but I’ve never posted on a forum I’m just scared and can’t chat online at this hour. I’ve recently had a medication change and the nightmares I’ve had tonight are so bad that I’m petrified to go to sleep. I just kept having the same dream over and over I could hear my baby crying but couldn’t wake myself up to go to him and then I didn’t know what my house looked like to find him and then when I got there he was just a doll this whole time. When I finally woke properly voices were asking me what earth I’m going to do I could tell them what level of meds I’d need. I’ve never been more scared in my life than I am right now. ive been sitting here with the lights on to scared to go back to sleep just crying and shaking. What’s happening to me?

aydee what's wrong with me?
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can someone tell me why i'm like this? so for the past year iv'e been having massive outbursts of anger, it happens every three weeks or so, but it isn't normal anger.. I blow up over little things, but when it happens it feels like someone is contro... View more

can someone tell me why i'm like this? so for the past year iv'e been having massive outbursts of anger, it happens every three weeks or so, but it isn't normal anger.. I blow up over little things, but when it happens it feels like someone is controlling me, when the argument dies down I feel this need where I have to keep going, I can't help it, I can't stop myself. I go ballistic, screaming, crying ect. I scare my family and I scare myself. i'm so impulsive ill do anything when im angry I don't think or care about consequences, iv'e gotten in trouble by the police because of it. its an uncontrollable rage I can't seem how to properly describe it. I don't want to be like this anymore, its tearing my relationships in half but I can't seem to help it.

MCR_FOB_333 Uhh, Hi :)
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Hello :). I am new to this. I'm Hurley, I use he/they pronouns and I like MCR and Fall Out Boy (hence the username). I have a social anxiety disorder, and yeah. I don't really know what this is, but I guess I just wanted to say hey. I don't even know... View more

Hello :). I am new to this. I'm Hurley, I use he/they pronouns and I like MCR and Fall Out Boy (hence the username). I have a social anxiety disorder, and yeah. I don't really know what this is, but I guess I just wanted to say hey. I don't even know if I'm meant to do this, so please don't judge me if I'm not.

Worrywarts Suffering from high anxiety and many worries
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Hi all, I'm suffering terribly as I am going to lose everything and cannot seem to stop worrying to the extent that I cannot sleep, stay still I just keep pacing the floor. My husband is divorcing me and we are going to lose our houses. I'm worried a... View more

Hi all, I'm suffering terribly as I am going to lose everything and cannot seem to stop worrying to the extent that I cannot sleep, stay still I just keep pacing the floor. My husband is divorcing me and we are going to lose our houses. I'm worried as we have an 18 and 21 year old both not working. I don't believe I can work now as I have MS and a mental illness and both are at an all time high. Loss of use of left hand and cognitive reduction also I have lost all my confidence and have very low self-esteem. I would be open to any advice and support if you can help me please? Thank you

sunshine333 OCD help
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This is my first time on here so bare with me ...I'm pretty sure i've had OCD for a while as i find myself having to make sure the taps are turned off even though i know they are and to continuously check that i have turned something off or locked my... View more

This is my first time on here so bare with me ...I'm pretty sure i've had OCD for a while as i find myself having to make sure the taps are turned off even though i know they are and to continuously check that i have turned something off or locked my gate when i've already checked it like 5 times. However during the past 4 days i've been having intrusive thoughts about hurting myself and others close to me which i know i would NEVER do , it started happening after recently i had a fall out with my friends and that has been giving me alot of anxiety . I notice the thoughts tend to happen more when i'm alone or when i'm left to think about things and mainly happen when i'm at home. I was diagnosed with panic disorder a few years ago as well by my doctor and i was on medication for that for a couple years until i started to get memory loss so i went off the meds (gradually) as it was making my mind foggy . Last year was the first year i've been off them and i haven't really had any panic attacks like i use to but due to these thoughts now i keep getting anxious that they'll never go away and scared that i could even think about something like that when it's not something i'd ever want to EVER think about . I've been reading forums and it's made me feel a little better as i have felt so alone these past few days but i was wondering how to overcome this . i have tried to see counsellors in the past for anxiety but i could never get through it as i hate talking about my feelings and every time i see a counsellor i just break down and cry and they always ask me why and i never know .

Roguee Where to start
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I am almost 50 a nurse has moved around more times than i can count. Since Covid has started ive been out of work (weird as im a nurse) town i live in there are no cases and havent been (touch wood) my children are all grown still living at home but ... View more

I am almost 50 a nurse has moved around more times than i can count. Since Covid has started ive been out of work (weird as im a nurse) town i live in there are no cases and havent been (touch wood) my children are all grown still living at home but never home. My husband works away and this time he will be gone for 8 months. Life is really lonely so food has become my friend, I have no friends here as we have not been long in this town, my family are 15 hours away. I woke up this morning thinking i might go to the dr and get some antidepressants as the minute you say you are sad they are so happy to oblige with pills. Then im lucky enough to find a job this week and dont want to start as my confidence is ZERO, ive gained weight like 20 plus kilos and i am hideous. I guess i dont know what im doing

isfp Selective mutism? (work-related)
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Hi everyone, first time posting but I have been visiting the forums for many years now. I've been struggling with something that only arises in work situations, specifically during team meetings. I find that I am unable to speak, not for fear of bein... View more

Hi everyone, first time posting but I have been visiting the forums for many years now. I've been struggling with something that only arises in work situations, specifically during team meetings. I find that I am unable to speak, not for fear of being 'exposed' or ridiculed, but because my brain seems to process things incredibly slowly. I feel that I only partially understand what's being discussed, and that I struggle to grasp the various 'big picture' issues raised by my colleagues. This is a problem I've had at every workplace, and it feels like it's getting worse. For context, I have been working in my current field for 5-6 years. Owing to the volatility of my sector, I have had about 12 jobs over this time. As such, I am a perpetual newbie. I also tend to be quite concrete and detail-oriented in how I process information, which I'm beginning to think is not useful in many of these workplaces. This inability to keep up with my colleagues and contribute to discussions is incredibly frustrating, and I sometimes find myself in tears after group meetings. I have been encouraged time and again to speak my mind, but the truth is that my brain empties as soon as the meeting begins and it's very hard for me to retrieve anything beyond a 'yes' or 'no'. What's more, if I do get an idea I can never string it together in a coherent sentence. Has anybody else experienced this problem? If so, do you have any recommendations on how to manage it? I realise that external factors aren't causing me to react like this, but I am also considering whether I'd be better suited to a different line of work entirely. Thanks for your time