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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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life is so icky right now

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Hi, um idk how to start this. Life just sucks, like it really sucks. I have been struggling with my mental health for like 6 years, and im at a point where it's just rock bottom again. I've tried literally everything to cope and I get therapy but none of it helps me, the only things that i've found to help me are really bad, I've been self harming on and off for a while, and it's been the only thing that when i'm in a state like this helps, and whenever i tell people i get the "ohhh but it's bad!!! You need to stop omg ur hurting urself noo!!" and the thing is I KNOW that it's bad, im fully fricken aware that all the things I've done and do are bad. But im at a point where i will do anything(within my limits lol) if it helps me feel better. A couple weeks ago I found an outlet for my feels (omg yay) and it wasnt hurting me, so that's a plus, the downside was it was me just getting groomed by a 28yr old on twitter, and I was aware that it was grooming but this dude wasn't asking me for pictures or anything (and I wasn't gonna send him any if he asked either cos yuck) but like my parents found out so that got taken away and it's probably for the best cos y'know we can't be out here getting groomed. Oh I forgot to mention I'm a 15yr old girl aswell. Umm yeah i dunno anymore, I don't want to get better either, I mean I do want to get better but also i want to get worse? Does anyone else get this or is it just me? Um yeah I think that's all im gonna say. If anyone has wise words of advice or relates let me know ૮ ․ ․ ྀིა

im at a loss

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i dont know how to cope with my emotions on any scale, its been what snaps me into reality and makes me feel betterI've gotten therapy and it didn't really help, my friend is looking out for me but theyve been vaguely expressing irritation at my self harm habits (i dont tell them but they are aware how much i do it that kind of thing) and something they said made everything feel so much worsei know its bad, makes others feel worse, and i gneueinyl am trying to stop but due to my mental state its an extremely hard habit and addiction to stopthey talked about wanting people to change for others, whci was renferencing me . its not like im not trying, i am trying for my mom, my family and friends, and myself so hearing that hurt - i just get into this meltdown headspace where i cant think of the consequences of my actions and just want to feel better and then said "if they keep going with what theyre doing - i cannot respect and love them like i used to with the overwhelming knowledge that they are willingly destroying themself for the sake of their ego"it hurt a lot, i know they meant well and just are worried but they vaguely talk about it a lot in this manner and it hurts, it hurt s so mcuh because im trying and nobody believes me when i say that, im just weak against myself, it makes me feel miserable , like im a waste of everyone's energyever since heraing this i force myself to be more cheerful and pretend that i am well and that nothings wrong, but its the worst, its the worst, i wish i was a fish or something

need advice with mental health

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i stopped taking medication recently as all it did was numb my emotions (ie, i still felt suicidal but not much else) and because of it i am back to being irritable all the time. Personally i dont mind, but every time i try to reach out to someone for help, they get mad and tell me its my fault for choosing to stop the meds (in order to try something new btw). i feel like i have no one irl, they either think im making all this up for attention, ignore me completely, or start arguing. my mother cancelled my psychology session this week so i can’t talk to her either. i want to die every single day, but i can never be bothered to go through with it so it seems silly to contact a crisis hotline- there are people who need it more than me. i have exams this week and i genuinely could not care less about them, but everyone around me is pressuring me to study and care, i just can’t find myself caring about something so trivial, especially since no matter how hard i try i can’t see myself making it past 20. ive had to quit 2 jobs now because of mental health, and im honestly sick of everything. people only care about me when it suits them, and i dunno i just dont have anyone left to contact aside from this. i’ve felt suicidal for 6 years straight now, and i’m frankly sick of it. no one takes me seriously because if i dont mask they all complain about how miserable i am. i just dont know what to do, im really out of options i have no idea if this is even what the forums are for i just genuinely dont know what else to do sorry for the bother

A bunch of stuff

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It’s been like this for a while now but a lot more recently I’ve been feeling super down and had some intrusive thoughts and stuff, plus more frequent auditory and visual hallucinations too ‍ I don’t really know what’s wrong with me, but I feel like I can’t focus on my studies, nor work or anything else. It feels like I can’t do anything anymore, like I’m at some sort of dead end here haha

feeling really bad about myself

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hey all! i hope ur all doing welli'm just feeling really low today, have had my mum say i should talk to my therapist about my 'unhealthy relationship with any movement at all' i think she thinks i'm obese or something and i know i'm kind of overweight but i do my best. having some bad relapse thoughts from when i used to $h last year, but i don't want to do it again but feel like i have to hurt myself somehow because i'm so worthless. idk, just feeling horrible tbh, any advice on how to get past the urges and feel better would be appreciated whoevers reading this go get a drink of water and stretch - take care of yourself!!-

Gassed.

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I’m at the point where my limits have been reached and about to be breached. I wake up every day wishing that I hadn’t. My past seems pointless and I have no interest in making effort towards the future. I don’t know what made things change or what I... View more

Bad Feelings Haven't Gone Away

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Hi there,Sorry to be posting again. Sort of just a follow on from the last time I posted a few months ago (October I think)? Same scenario, not much has changed other than I am feeling more and more stuck every day. I genuinely don't see things getting better. I feel so isolated from my friends now, I have no energy to be the person constantly initiating anymore so now I barely talk with them because they never reach out to me first. I'm always the one who has to start, so if I don't, no one says anything. I feel so detached from the person I was closest with for all of 2025. In the span of a year we went from best friends, to partners, then broke up and said we'd remain friends, but now a few months later I feel nothing but guilty and hurt by it all. I feel whenever we talk now he is just chastising me, telling me off for little things or teasing me or ignoring my messages. I know I likely need more time to adjust from how close we are to going back to friends, but it feels like he no longer cares about me at all, but will still talk and hangs out with our other friends as usual. We were so close and now he seems to want nothing to do with me anymore. Any time I try to talk with people about how I'm feeling I break down in tears and can't articulate myself and then they don't want to talk to me about it and change the topic or don't engage with me for days afterwards so I end up feeling worse than if I'd just said nothing. All the things I used to love don't bring me any sort of joy now and I can't think of a single thing I like that doesn't bring me considerable amounts of stress. My friends make me feel isolated. Food makes me worry about my weight. My pet dog is sick and animals in general (which I normally love) just now make me depressed because of my veterinary degree and all the stress that's giving me. I really don't want to be here anymore and can't think of many good reasons for staying honestly.

Sick of being sick

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I’ve had severe Long Covid for over a year and I am primarily bedbound/housebound. The first few months were ok, I was thinking positively about recovery and was still able to do some part time hours with my work. In January, I made the decision to resign as I could no longer continue working due to worsening symptoms. Since resigning, my mental health has continued to decline as any hope of recovery seems like a fantasy and positive thinking is no longer working. I’ve had three attempts since February and I have tried to get help. The couple of times I’ve been to the hospital, I’ve been monitored for a few hours in ED and then sent home with no follow up help in place. I see a private psychologist, but I can only see her once a month due to her workload and it’s not enough. To say I’m at my wits end is an understatement. I do try and distract myself. I write songs about living with Long Covid and watch TV when I’m up to it. I’m not sure what else I can do. Over the last few weeks, the thoughts have become a lot worse and I’m struggling to figure out where to turn or how to get myself out of this spiral. I’m terrified I’m not going to make it and I don’t want that, hence I’m reaching out here. I refuse to go back to the hospital just to be dismissed again.

its getting worse

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i dont even know what to writemy chest hurts and aches and theres this horrible gnawing feeling deep inside me that eats away at everything good in my life. i hate it here i dont know what to do with myself i feel like a walking corpse nothing can save me (lie)lie(lie ) therapy coild save me btu im too scared to evenspeak out or go anywhere i have nothing ihavenothing to turn to i have nothing at all imso scared im so disggusting and i cant i cant i cant i dacnnirothnkjlj fskdjls

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Hi,I've never been able to actually connect with a lifeline,beyond blue or another service before I've attempted suicide.Does anyone have any good resources for programs that can help?

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feeling really bad about myself replies: 2

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