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Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section

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Hi there, Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm section of the Beyond Blue Forums. Life gets pretty hard sometimes, and many people here on the Forums have had times where they have thought about harming themselves or ending their life. This can be a deeply distressing experience, and this section is here to support members who have had these experiences. This section is not a crisis support service. If you are in crisis or need immediate help, assistance is not available via these Forums. Please call: Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467 (24/7) Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24/7) If it is an emergency, contact emergency services on 000. This is a place to share where you are at, seek ideas for support and know that you are not alone. We are here to create a safe environment for everyone. Please do not provide any details about any plans/ideas that you may have had to hurt yourself, and importantly, help us to understand if you are safe by letting us know in the post. For some people this section might be difficult to read – if it is not helping how you feel, then please consider moving to another section. This section, like the rest of the Forums, is closely monitored and all posts are reviewed by moderators before publication. Moderators will also ensure that anyone needing follow up will be provided with information about how to access further support. If after a period of time you no longer wish others to engage in the discussion you have started, please use the 'Report Post' button and request the discussion be locked to prevent any further replies. Thank you for being here, we're glad you're here. Treat yourself gently as you read through this section. Beyond Blue

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Do you have a safety plan?

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Safety planning involves creating a structured plan – ideally with support from your health professional or someone you trust – that you work through when you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts, feelings, distress or crisis. Your safety plan starts with things you can do by yourself, such as thinking about your reasons to live and distracting yourself with enjoyable activities. It then moves on to coping strategies and people you can contact for support – your friends, family and health professionals. The safety planning model was developed in the US by suicide prevention experts Barbara Stanley and Gregory Brown. It has been used extensively by US veterans’ health organisations, hospital emergency departments and high schools, and there is strong evidence that it works. Many health professionals in Australia also use some form of safety planning to support clients experiencing suicidal thoughts or feelings, or after a suicide attempt. beyondblue has an app you can use to create a safety plan, called BeyondNow. The BeyondNow app takes the principles of safety planning and makes it even easier to use – so rather than carrying around a piece of paper, you’ve got it on your phone at all times. It’s free to download from the Apple Store or Google Play. If you don’t have a smartphone or would prefer to use your desktop or laptop, BeyondNow is also available to use on our website. Do you have a safety plan? Do you have questions around how you might create one, or fill out some of the sections? This thread is for discussing ideas around creating a safety plan, and sharing tips about what has been most useful about this process for you. Below are two videos featuring Peter and Nic, who have both used safety plans successfully. Peter Nic

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My story

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I would like to share my story to those who need it. I have anxiety and depression , I have attempted 3 times and used frequently self harm. Im still recovering though I am 4 months clean, I still struggle everyday and would like for everyone to know how important they are. Even though I don't know you and don't know if you need this. You are amazing and you can get through it just keep trying.

I don’t know how to stop

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I’m a 14 year old female and I’ve been struggling with mental health since I was 11. Last year I was severely bullied, I had just started high school and it seemed like I was the perfect target. Months on months of relentless taunting and harsh comments said towards me and one day I just couldn’t take it anymore. I hated feeling like crap all the time, so I started harming myself as a way to cope. At the time, it felt like the only way to distract myself from the pain. I was feeling inside. Now, over a year later and I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle I don't know how to break. I still use this behavior to cope, even though I know it's not helping in the long run. It's become a way to feel something or punish myself for feeling empty or numb. I hate this feeling and I don't know how to stop. The first time I ended up needing medical care because of this, I remember seeing how upset my mum was. I've never forgotten that moment, I have never felt more guilt in my life. I want to change, but it's so hard when these feelings take over Now I feel trapped and desperate. I know it doesn't make sense but I can’t seem to stop. Please someone tell me how I can move forward.

Tired

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I’m so tired of life. The only reason I keep going is I’m all my kids have. Their dad cut them out if his life 3 years ago because they look like me. I’m so exhausted. My youngest has autism, I work fulltime and do work on the side and I’m just so ti... View more

It hurts to much to keep going

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My husband of 20 years told me in Jan 2023 that he wasn’t sure what he wanted anymore. I suffer from extreme GAD with a lot of panic attacks, and have never been fully treated - tbh I’ve only just come to understand how bad it has been and how miserable I made our lives. I alternated between needing to control ever aspect of our lives, to refusing to get out of bed some days.All last year I tried to fix things, but it was too late, I had pushed him so far away that the love had vanished. He was a wonderful husband. Kind, generous, thoughtful and tolerant. But I didn’t appreciate him.He was so unhappy, rundown and overworked for years. He took on all the financial, parenting, home burdens.In January this year, he moved out to work on his own mental health. I tried to balance working on my own, while suddenly becoming a single parent. I was starting to feel much better and learning to cope, and decided to ask if we could gradually try again. Then two weeks ago I was given the bombshell - he has been seeing someone else, since March. Too scared to tell me because he knew how terribly I would react.I don’t want to do this life without him. I am completely destroyed. I still love him with all my heart and soul. I don’t want to hurt my girls and leave them without a mother, but most days I wish I could go to sleep and never wake up. I’m scared to be alone because the thoughts and the grief are overwhelming. He has our youngest today, taken her and the new girlfriend to his family for Christmas. I used to easily sleep 9-10 hours a night. Now I wake at 3am and start crying and wondering if I would be better off gone as the pain is unbearable.

Thinking of ending life

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Hi, I am 37 and a mother of 2 boys. Lately, I have been feeling very low and no self-worth. I have been thinking of ending my life. I don't know how or when but I just want to disappear and not be a burden to people. I find it hard to tell my family about my thoughts because I don't want them to worry about me, especially with Christmas happening. I want to just go somewhere and not take anything with me but I don't know where else to go.

Passive suicidal ideation

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I am 65 and have suffered anxiety and depression for most of my life. I am now struggling with the wish to die but not suicidal. It’s Christmas and I just want it over with. I have lost all ability to enjoy life

I want to do it but there’s to much to leave behind.

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Hi I’m a 13yo with 2 sisters and my mum and dad. I’ve wanted to harm myself on and off for a while but there’s so much left to do. When I look back on life everyone go’s “oh you’ve had such a good life” but when I look back all I see is sadness depression and bullying. I struggle with school, home, friends, family and myself. I HATE myself and I want to kill or harm myself but I know that it won’t fix anything in a good or bad way. I just don’t know what to do.

I wanna die but im so selfish and lowkey scared

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When ur so selfish that u think abt these thoughts and ur self so much but u so selfish bc you want those who don’t want you there to suffer and ur so self obsessed like they would actually care that your gone but you make urself think that bc it mak... View more

Finding things hard

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Hey I have a 7 month old baby. Married for 7 months. My husband is not an emotional person he doesn’t talk much and it’s hard to get any kind of support from him. I’m currently on maternity leave from work using my LSL and annual leave to be at home. I’m going back to work in a month. I’m struggling with self harm when I get overwhelmed. When it happens I don’t feel anything, it doesn’t hurt and I regret it after. Usually I go to the gym to help me deal with stress so I don’t boil over but with my husband being a shift worker and him prioritising his hobbies over mine I don’t get to the gym anywhere near as much as I’d like, also my daughter has been on/off sick for the last month so I can’t take her to the crèche at the gym like I normally do. My husband seems to get annoyed when I’m looking good making comments that why isn’t he loosing weight. I’m exhausted emotionally and physically right now. I’ve just started a new hobby but don’t have the time for it with no one watching our daughter but me. My husband and I don’t have sex and the rare occasion that he “feels like it” is once a month if that. I’m starting to resent him and don’t feel like being around him a lot of the time because I don’t see any perks right now to being with him. I do all the house work, all my maternity leave pay goes towards our house we’re building so I don’t get to go do things like id want too. I feel like I’ve been stripped of every part of me that makes me me. I want to stop harming myself because I’m worried I’ll do permanent damage.

I'm gonna kill myself if things don't get better

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I'm 35 now, and my life has always been pretty mediocre.It doesn't seem to matter how hard I try, something always trips me up, and I end up treading water.This coming year, 2025, I'm going to try my hardest, and if my life is still a piece of shit by 2026 I'm going to kill myself.I know that's shocking to say, maybe it even seems callous. But just try have some empathy. 35 years. For at least 20 of those the only thing that was really keeping me going was dumb optimism. How long do people expect me to hold on to hope when nothing good ever comes?

Welcome to the Suicide and Self-Harm Section replies: 0

Do you have a safety plan? replies: 97

My story replies: 1

I don’t know how to stop replies: 8

Tired replies: 5

It hurts to much to keep going replies: 7

Thinking of ending life replies: 1

Passive suicidal ideation replies: 2

I want to do it but there’s to much to leave behind. replies: 2

I wanna die but im so selfish and lowkey scared replies: 1

Finding things hard replies: 2

I'm gonna kill myself if things don't get better replies: 4