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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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RebeccaL Need some advice, tips, tricks to staying well.
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Ive recently had surgery on my ankle a couple of days ago, and i am now not allowed to walk on it. i am on non-weight bearing instructions from my surgeon. My question is, i suffer from a bit of depression that is usually well maintained by the fact ... View more

Ive recently had surgery on my ankle a couple of days ago, and i am now not allowed to walk on it. i am on non-weight bearing instructions from my surgeon. My question is, i suffer from a bit of depression that is usually well maintained by the fact that i keep my self very busy, but now that i do not have much to do, i am finding myself in my head a lot more. I am feeling very useless and alone. I've never had many friends in the past but it hasnt bothered me up until yesterday when no one messaged to ask how i was doing. I am unable to make meals for myself and my family do not really help unless its just for dinner. I am getting around ok on crutches but need to keep my foot up. Any advice on what to do or how to cope over the next two to three weeks while in bed and unable to do much? I find that i need to keep busy to keep my mind off over thinking. Any advice would be appreciated. Usually i love having time off but feeling like i am a pain in the bum and useless and alone is pretty awful.

We_all_walk_a_Journey Mental Health Poem
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I finished writing this poem with a thumping migraine this morning at 3am. Let me know what you think. Have you ever wondered why, Your family and friends can be shy, When you mention mental health, Instead they want to talk about wealth. You just wa... View more

I finished writing this poem with a thumping migraine this morning at 3am. Let me know what you think. Have you ever wondered why, Your family and friends can be shy, When you mention mental health, Instead they want to talk about wealth. You just want them to show they care, And that you have someone with whom to share, Your story you could tell, And maybe even start to get well. If someone would walk the journey with you, Maybe you wouldn't feel so down and blue. If just one day in your shoes they did walk, And listened to you instead of talk, Maybe they could slightly understand, Your struggles that are at hand, For a story that is shared with one who cares for you, Could really help your heart feel anew. If only I could put my hand up and get help, Instead of like a little puppy when hurting give a yelp, Would it be weak to seek professional care, And would a family member or friend take me there? If only you knew, All that i have been through, then maybe you would understand, That i could really use a hand. Thank you for reading this, Hopefully you won't just dismiss, But hearing my cry, You will now understand why. You may feel all alone, And not want to answer your phone, You may live in fear and shed a tear, but all I want is for you to be here. Can I sleep it all away, Or keep those bad thoughts at bay, Knowing that i have a destiny, Planned out for me. My story to tell, To help others get well, Encouraging others to reach out, To get help and know what living is all about.

Ponder Looking for Positive Stories Regarding Medication
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Our Daughter is staying at our house with her 4 yold autistic son. He is a great kid and has all the support he needs. Unfortunately our daughter has been resistant to receiving support in the past and thus has developed a genitive outlook when it co... View more

Our Daughter is staying at our house with her 4 yold autistic son. He is a great kid and has all the support he needs. Unfortunately our daughter has been resistant to receiving support in the past and thus has developed a genitive outlook when it comes to taking on or making any effort towards recovery. It's a full house here with my other daughter staying here as well. I myself am on a mental health program with supports that come and go regularly to me house. My wife is also on a disability pension for a debilitating condition that gives way to it's own form of depression. These revelations only just scratch the surface to much of an embedded systemic cycle within my family but more over I am tending to reveal just how 'full' our house is at this present time. With this in mind, I totally get my daughters despair and it makes me glad that even despite our presently full house, that she wishes to stay with us in order to avoid the isolation she experiences in her own home. That is a very good acknowledgment on her own part. But here is the thing -it is her wish to google and read up on all the meds she has been prescibed and as a reuslt she is about ready to stop taking them from all the negative stories that abound online. Sid effects, Coming off Meds and associated complications, Obesity, suicidal tendencies and so on. Both my daughter and I are not keen on meds. I myself have my own history, however given the repeated breakdowns and the lack of will to both with alternative lifestyle methods, I with my wife our encouraging our daughter to at least give the meds a try. So it is that I ask: Would someone be kind enough to link as to a couple of positive stories that discuss the benefits of medication when used responsibly in conjunction with positive lifestyle changes. I think most of the negative stories are where people just take the meds and continue to sleep all day and not make any changes. I'm not trying to control my daughter ... I just want to help her ... help herself. I feel there is too much emphasis on self referral these days that leads into too much pressure with complacency leading the way. As parents we have been pushed away by virtually all the services. My daughter my not be asking for help here, but I am and by answering my questions you could well be proving my daughter with helpful assistance. Where are the positive stories an how to make medication work? Cheers & TY

Talon Sick of this merry go round help!!!
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I am 48 years of age (male) and have been on a merry go round of self destructive thinking for as long as long as I can remember. In the vast majority of situations which involve meeting other people, I start thinking that I’m not accepted, saying th... View more

I am 48 years of age (male) and have been on a merry go round of self destructive thinking for as long as long as I can remember. In the vast majority of situations which involve meeting other people, I start thinking that I’m not accepted, saying the right things, saying enough, not saying enough etc etc. I realise that this type of thinking is in my head and generated by self doubt and wanting to be accepted. I don’t think I’m a bad person, far from it. I try and be decent to people and help out wherever I can. I am a people pleaser, probably at the expense of my own advancement and future. I am not afraid of conflict but do let unfavourable interactions affect me more than they should. I am currently working with my 18 year old son, and he just seems to fit in with the other guys we work with, with ease. He is confident in himself and goes with the flow, having fun interactions with them. Me on the other hand, overthinks everything and I’m sure it shows. I shut down and become extremely quiet. I don’t get it. I am the adult, the one that’s been around for much longer than my son, a supposed example to him and my other 3 children. But no, here I am, feeling weak, like I haven’t grown, advanced, lead by example, as a confident, strong role model I see others doing. It’s been an ongoing cycle with me. I just don’t feel like I’ve ‘grown up’? Hard to explain but gut wrenching and depressing to say the least. Totally over it to be honest. Why do I feel so underdone? Like I haven’t grown, always trying to fit in like a teenager, only to overthink how I’ve acted and is that acceptable, normal, age appropriate and conducive to making long, meaningful, happy, healthy relationships? I’m going through my second separation/divorce and am realising more and more that maybe there is something inherently amiss with the way I am? I am never backward in coming forward to admitting my faults and would appreciate any advice in accepting myself whole heartedly with grace and self confidence. I’m 100% sure this negative thinking and subsequent behaviour has lead to the loss of my 28 year career and two divorces. Not to mention the dislodgement of four young lives.

Rosie321 How to best use my partial capacity to work
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Hi All, I have been diagnosed with Psychotic Depression having my first and only psychosis three years ago. After that I went on newstart and was so lucky to be screened as only having a partial capacity to work (15-30 hrs per week) this is supposed ... View more

Hi All, I have been diagnosed with Psychotic Depression having my first and only psychosis three years ago. After that I went on newstart and was so lucky to be screened as only having a partial capacity to work (15-30 hrs per week) this is supposed to get reviewed every two years but I'm yet to be reviewed. Ever since then I've been working 25-35 hours a week and not receiving any centelink benefit but my mental health has taken a down turn and I'm about to reduce my working hours to 15 hours per week. Wondering if anyone else is on partial capacity and/or if you have any tips to best use my time while I'm working less. I'm in the disability sector and will be reduced to 1 15 hour shift per week so will affectly have 6 days off a week to work on my mental health. I'll be living on about $500 a week so will need to start being more frugal about my spending. Thanks all

Doolhof I want to learn from the past and move forward!
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Hi Everyone, We have returned from our holiday. I can sit here and think about the things that did not go so well or I can remember the good and enjoyable parts and expand on them. Now I am home, I have the opportunity to create new situations, exper... View more

Hi Everyone, We have returned from our holiday. I can sit here and think about the things that did not go so well or I can remember the good and enjoyable parts and expand on them. Now I am home, I have the opportunity to create new situations, experiences, circumstances and actions. I don't need to return to the old way of doing life that did not work so well for me all the time. I have an opportunity to create a new and different existence and way of thinking! I need to believe I can do this! I need to also realise life with depression and anxiety is part of my reality, I need to find and put in place actions and behaviours that will help me accept all of my life, the good, the bad and the not so pleasant. Cheers to you all from Dools

white knight Vulnerable? Dwelling? Unprotected?
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Most of us are weakened by our mental illness. We are in the minority, we are not part of the majority and the majority rules. So add to that naivity of mental illness with pseudo medical expertise that results in "just snap out of it" comments we gr... View more

Most of us are weakened by our mental illness. We are in the minority, we are not part of the majority and the majority rules. So add to that naivity of mental illness with pseudo medical expertise that results in "just snap out of it" comments we grow frustrated. Futhermore if we decide not to counter/defend ourselves immediately inappropriate comments are unleashed we suffer the fallout from that in terms of regret, guilt and dwelling. Not to mention anxiety from future comments we plan to make...to counterattack. If you are at home and suffer a violent home invasion would you fight back if you had opportunity? If you were a paraplegic would you react if someone told you to "get up and walk"? Isaac Newton found that an action of force takes an equal reaction. The gravity of a tennis ball in your hand is a downward force. Your hand has an equal forve upwards to hold the ball stationary. So in theory if we apply it to our vulnerable lives, unless we counter other peoples words or actions we are sitting ducks and in a world where the strongest survive we better take action. If you have a reputation of taking abuse, such abuse will multiply The second step after realisation is developing strategies for self protection. A defense is highligjted in (use google) Topic: fortress of survival- beyondblue But we cant put up walls for every situation. We have to have a list of responses to verbally respond to the onslaught of the "crusher", the person that prays on the weak. Be prepared to limit your hurt and defend your sensitive and emotional fragility by countrring with direct phrases. Or you'll be walked all over. All questions answered. Tony WK

white knight Why social media is no good for you
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Facebook has in my case been my biggest Achilles heal in the last 3 years and on line forums before that. My problems with Facebook has, admittedly been my sensitivity, my not realising it is a haven for nastiness and my ignorance to how to use it. M... View more

Facebook has in my case been my biggest Achilles heal in the last 3 years and on line forums before that. My problems with Facebook has, admittedly been my sensitivity, my not realising it is a haven for nastiness and my ignorance to how to use it. More on that later. But my last straw with FB was this morning. Two friends I know personally, husband and wife, have each posted fresh posts about who is their best friend. The woman posted her husband as her best friend. Her husband posted another woman as his best friend. Time to jump ship here!! This is kindagarten stuff that should have been left at the sand pit. These are people over 50yo. Doesnt it all seem a bit..err...childish? I thought I had tried everything to make FB work. I defriended 140 "friends" earlier this year. I've blocked the toxic and the bullies, I've refrained from commenting when it would explode the topic. I've gone to the end of the earth...well it seemed I did. My problem is that I dont want to lose the service. There are long time friends on there that I value, that dont cause me harm and it is my only means to maintain contact with them. So, having said that I realised today that by clicking the "follow" button to make it "unfollow" I can still have contact if I want to but I dont get to be sent their posts, only their occasional comments. I'll give that a try. Pity there wasnt a half day class I could have attended 3 years ago to educate myself on how to use Facebook. It all has resulted in driving me to the garden. No I dont have FB on my mobile phone- I refuse to. I've also come to the conclusion Fb is not productive to my life enough to warrant it. In fact if I take an overview of the concept, it has harmed me in more ways than any other over the years, caused confusion and I would have been better off without it- period. I have a dear friend that works in therapy and I've consulted her on many occasions to see her view on FB comments made so she can steer me away from my over reactions. So I'm off to the garden, might cook some mini muffins, might play with my Fox terrier. And if I can try hard, I might just log onto Facebook only to see if there are any messages. Then log out. The Facebook game's final siren is near. Some of us have enough issues in life without so called "friends".

LilacGirl What's the best random act of kindness you've ever received?
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Hey guys, I'm sure there is already a thread for this type of thing so I hope it's okay if I start another one? I was wondering if people could share a random act of kindness they've received that still makes them smile. It could be from a stranger o... View more

Hey guys, I'm sure there is already a thread for this type of thing so I hope it's okay if I start another one? I was wondering if people could share a random act of kindness they've received that still makes them smile. It could be from a stranger or from someone you know. I'll go first and hopefully get the ball rolling: Once I was walking home alone at night and I happened to pass a group of 3 boys who all looked to be about 15/16. A few moments after we'd passed, I started to hear footsteps running behind me. I turned around to see one of the boys running back to me. He then started to ask me whether I wanted him and his friends to walk with me, so that I didn't have to walk alone. Even though we were going in opposite directions. I politely declined, since I don't really have any problem with walking alone. But I found it so nice because he seemed so genuinely concerned. I have so many stories I could have shared but I chose this one because people seem to think that young kids these days are really disrespectful, which really isn't true. Some of them may be. But I find that heaps of kids these days are really well mannered and considerate of others. But then I'm a little biased since I'm still young-ish. Anyways, would love it if people could share some more stories for me to read!

lilly2016 The sound of the rain doesn't last long enough
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I love the smell and sound of the rain as it falls onto the trees outside, it makes me feel protected for a short time. I try and sleep as much as possible so I don't have to think, I dream a lot and sometimes I wish I was stuck in that dream for ete... View more

I love the smell and sound of the rain as it falls onto the trees outside, it makes me feel protected for a short time. I try and sleep as much as possible so I don't have to think, I dream a lot and sometimes I wish I was stuck in that dream for eternity without the harsh reality of waking up and accepting things how they are and facing my worst fears.Tthe rain creates a blanket of security for me as long as I'm inside. When the sun is shining it makes no difference in my world, i wish it did. Having no interest in anything is debilitating you have no real discussions no enthusiasm and you come across incredibly boring, which is in my case.Everyday tasks take an effort and my body is tired as as is my mind. I need more hours in the day so I can dwell on the things that are causing this crippling pain so I can somehow come to a solution.

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