How to keep going

[Over_and_Over]

I’d like to know how to function, how to fill in your days when most of society treat you as worthless and you have no family. Your friends think you should take a tablet, but they don’t get it....problems don’t disappear by swallowing a pill.

Lonliness and feeling worthwhile, I exercise early in the morning when no one can see. My days are long and dark, and what for? Only to do the same thing over and over,

[MsPurple]

HI Over and Over.

I sometimes have days when I feel like the same way you do. I hate feeling that way as well.
I find trying to keep myself busy helps. I try make a plan for my day, especially for my days off work. I try organise my housework, shopping etc. I try space it out so I don't get bored. I also try make sure I have enough food for my work week (sometimes food prep or cook and freeze foods for later) etc. I also make sure I have a good book or documentary. I also find that trying to be social helps. I see friends, family regularly. I also do triathlons and have friends in that comunity

I get a bit frustrated when people just think you need to take a pill to get 'rid' of depression. It is a tool to help deal with it. It isn't a cure. I need to go to therapy regularly and be open with close family about it when I am having a bad day.

Hope some of these tips help. What have you been doing in the mean time?

[geoff]

Hello Over and Over, MsPurple is right, taking a pill isn't going to fix you, there's much more that needs to done and this includes determination and what this means is to have the ability to make your own choice and control your own life.

You need to step outside what you usually do each day because at the moment you seem to be locked in your own routine, so if you have your car licence or even if you don't, how about volunteering at the soup kitchen, the hospitals are always looking for drivers to drive patients to and from appointments.

The Eye Seeing Dogs Vision or adopt a puppie with the Guide Dogs Association are always looking for people to house puppies until they are old enough to be handed back to them.

Having a dog while you have depression is always great company.

Your friends don't understand what you are going through at the moment, that's disappointing because a shoulder to lean is always handy.

Like to know your thoughts.

Geoff.

[Doolhof]

Hi Over and Over,

Welcome to the community here. MsPurple and Geoff have already offered you some suggestions.

Sometimes when motivation is low and determination o do anything seems hard to find, that is when we need to try to encourage and push ourselves a little to do something.

My psychologist tells me that trying to do something is better than not attempting it at all. He says that by doing something, we trick our minds into believing we can do it again and again and attempt different positive things.

Some days I make a list of what I would like to achieve for the day. I tick off what I have done. If I don't manage to do much, that is okay, I already have a list started for the next day!

Ensuring what we want to do is achievable is important. Breaking jobs or ideas and plans down into manageable chunks is important. Success is easier that way!

Some days I think of something different I can do. I might take a different road home so I am not always on the same roads. Go for a walk in a different area.

I sometimes smile at people I pass on the street and say hello. If they smile back it is nice, if they don't that is okay too.

I also go to a coffee shop now, I might take a book to read or read a newspaper. I am with people that way.

Hope you can come up with some ideas and plans for different things you can try.

Cheers from Dools

[Lee lee 73]

Hi over and over,

I hear ya....and it's damn hard.

This is what I do.... identify 1 thing that i have always enjoyed/passionate about but never do/did often..The beach is my happy place, so for me this was my thing. Slowly incorporate it into your routine- do that thing once a week to begin with then increase it. You bring something into your day that hopefully you love doing and it is some respite regardless of if it's for 30 mins or 30hrs.

So sorry you're hurting over and over.

Take good care xx

Lee lee 73