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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Suzbj I will NOT give into this Depression!!
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It's swarming around me and pulling me down, yet again. But I WILL NOT give in to it. All is well in my world. The past does not equal my future. The power of NOW! Grattitude... I'm NOT going to give in to this horrible feeling of pain!! I WON"T!! View more

It's swarming around me and pulling me down, yet again. But I WILL NOT give in to it. All is well in my world. The past does not equal my future. The power of NOW! Grattitude... I'm NOT going to give in to this horrible feeling of pain!! I WON"T!!

ian6880 S.A.N.E. something for us all to consider
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Hi all, I hope this helps anyone or for that matter everyone, we all have to have each other’s back we are isolating ourselves too much and paying the price for it. Someone, Anyone, No-one, Everyone We start out our life as someone, a beautiful baby ... View more

Hi all, I hope this helps anyone or for that matter everyone, we all have to have each other’s back we are isolating ourselves too much and paying the price for it. Someone, Anyone, No-one, Everyone We start out our life as someone, a beautiful baby that is loved and adored by all saturated with love and attention, you feel safe because you are SOMEONE As you grow the focus on you appears to become less, is this true where did everyone go, you have so many questions, so many feelings about life and this world, but who to talk to and trust, to feel safe with. At this point you would be happy to be ANYONE As you transition from your teens to adulthood you’re on the edge fighting, struggling, searching to be someone or anyone but all you feel is this deep ominous feeling that no matter what, in ‘this’ world you are NO-ONE. As you grow and become more aware of the world around you, the world continues to get bigger and therefore you feel you are getting smaller more insignificant. When you look at a beach and you see the beautiful white sand, how wonderful, it is something to behold, but when you look closer it is made up of all those individual grains of sand that when looked at individually they appear to be nothing special. But each grain is absolutely necessary to create a beautiful thing and vision that brings so much enjoyment and pleasure to EVERYONE. You are the grain of sand and you play an important role in creating the beauty of your beach, which is the world as are other people, society, friends, family, future friends and family. You may not see or realise your importance until you learn to step back and see the bigger picture, see the beach. It’s funny how people react when someone is born or when someone dies they all smother you with attention for a while and then get back to their own lives wouldn’t balance be nice. It is up to everyone to take time to include someone or anyone and ensure no-one is left alone, at least until they realise how important that individual grain of sand is “IT IS UP TO EVERYONE” Take care everyone Ian

rabbits If you are having a bad day you must read this. Seriously does stuff like this happen to anyone else????
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Bad things always seem to happen to me. Not even the usual bad things. Bad things happen to me that would NEVER happen to anyone else. I got thinking tonight about all the bad things that have happened over the last few years and I thought I would sh... View more

Bad things always seem to happen to me. Not even the usual bad things. Bad things happen to me that would NEVER happen to anyone else. I got thinking tonight about all the bad things that have happened over the last few years and I thought I would share a few of them here. During a party at an indoor kids playground a gecko fell from a 3 story high roof beam and landed splat on my arm. I rescued a stunned bird from the side of the road, put it in a canvas shopping bag to drive it to the vet. Halfway there the bird woke up and exploded from the bag while I was driving on a 3 lane road. It flew around the inside of the car flapping feathers all over the place before settling down under the accelerator pedal. I had to coast along getting slower and slower until I could move across the lanes to pull over and let it out. I was lying in bed scrolling through my phone when two legs stepped over my eyeball followed by the body of a very large daddy-long-legs spider. There was a weird looking half dead plant in a rusty metal pot in my yard that I decided to get rid of. Without really looking at it I grabbed it with both hands and yanked. Turns out it was a cactus covered in thin almost clear spines. I go running inside yelling for my daughter to get the tweezers because both my hands are full of needles, then spend half an hour sitting there while she tries to find and remove all the spines from my hands. The next day I have the thought that if I didn't know it was a cactus then the kids won't realise either so I can't leave it in the yard. I decide I will just throw the whole thing out, rusty pot and all. So I pick the cactus up by the pot and start carrying it slowly towards the open bin. I get a little way before the rusty bottom of the pot starts to give way, so I start to walk a bit faster, then the sides of the pot start to disintegrate and I end up legging it fast as I can to the bin while carrying this large falling apart pot and giant cactus. I make it just in time and launch the cactus (pot and all) into the bin. At this point the cactus hits the bottom of the bin, snaps in half and rebounds out of the bin slapping me across the face with a great deal of force. For the second time in 2 days I go running into the house screaming for tweezers. Is anyone else's life like this?????

keithc no more psychologist
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I've cancelled my therapist. I can talk to them until I'm blue in the face but I've realised any difference that is going to be made has to be up to me. I know what to do, I have my tools, I have this website. I just have to apply myself and put it i... View more

I've cancelled my therapist. I can talk to them until I'm blue in the face but I've realised any difference that is going to be made has to be up to me. I know what to do, I have my tools, I have this website. I just have to apply myself and put it into practice. I'm glad i went. I really I am. But I've gone through the entire process before and there are no magic solutions in doing this again. That's just the tough, nasty reality of depression and anxiety and the negativity that comes with it in my case. I know the root causes. It's up to me to overcome them.

binjyb A new story, new face , new experience ..
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This is my first post . I have read some of your stories , and will send a cyber hug to you all. (((hug))). The place we are in is a very confusing and debilitating one - one which has taken a lot of us by surprise, and one which we are trying to lea... View more

This is my first post . I have read some of your stories , and will send a cyber hug to you all. (((hug))). The place we are in is a very confusing and debilitating one - one which has taken a lot of us by surprise, and one which we are trying to leave. A couple of weeks ago - I was approached by a local ABC OPEN producer and asked if I would do an interview for a project on isolation & depression.For some reason unknown to me ,I agreed!Normally I am not one to speak publicly, or be captured on a camera ... no way, Hose!However ...this happened .... https://open.abc.net.au/posts/belinda-s-story-06ot3nmSo - This is me -

KaraArtist Something that gets me through the tough times
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I found this website: http://www.excelatlife.com/apps.htm there is lots of helpful articles and applications here. These are my favourite two applications, they have really turned my life around. Depression CBT Self-Help Guide & Stop Panic and Anxiet... View more

I found this website: http://www.excelatlife.com/apps.htm there is lots of helpful articles and applications here. These are my favourite two applications, they have really turned my life around. Depression CBT Self-Help Guide & Stop Panic and Anxiety Self-Help have a look, and hopefully they will help you too.

Suzbj I am astounded with how much my life has changed!! It has to be a Miracle!! So never doubt 'miracles' can happen for you too!
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Writing a response to a message took me back to a hell I never thought I could possibly get out of. I was lost and finished. There was no hope and no way out. I was done and dusted and death had to be better than this except I had a teenage child so ... View more

Writing a response to a message took me back to a hell I never thought I could possibly get out of. I was lost and finished. There was no hope and no way out. I was done and dusted and death had to be better than this except I had a teenage child so I had to keep fighting. Then, when she was 20yo we lost our relationship completely due to her partner and in-laws. I spent every single day of five or so years waking up every morning and dreaming of suicide and my last thought each night. But I had had to live with my mother's suicide, so I didn't want to hurt my daughter in that way. I felt so angry towards my daughter who no longer seemed to care that I didn't even have the right to End IT!!! That I had to consider my daughter and grandson!! Yes, that might sound selfish and was in the severe emotional pain I was feeling. There is a lot more I could ad to this but won't because it hurts too much. Bottom line, I am still here and I thank God, thank my daughter, thank my grandson, thank anyone and everyone, thank the doctors in intensive care, the paramedics and everyone involved that I thought let me down at the time. I thank God and our medical professionals I am still here. Nothing has changed re my daughter. I still have no contact with her or my grandson. But I thank God, The Higher Power, The Universe, every day for being alive and the gift of life. I now live for me!

Suzbj How dark times can be yet they are not real and make you miss out on the magic of life - my story
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All people from all demographics are living their own personal journeys. People with depression are living their personal journeys. And yes, it does allow us all to understand and give compassion, honesty, integrity and sensitivity. We are strong! Wh... View more

All people from all demographics are living their own personal journeys. People with depression are living their personal journeys. And yes, it does allow us all to understand and give compassion, honesty, integrity and sensitivity. We are strong! Whether we know it or not... we are! We have so much to give. That needs to begin with giving that kindness, compassion, honesty, integrity and sensitivity to ourselves first and foremost. Than we can truly move mountains! :) I wished to die the day my mother committed suicide when I was five years old. To me, and based on what my father said, she did not want me. Otherwise she would have taken me with her, right?? So I had to live. From the age of five years old I tried to find a way to end things. I tried to commit suicide a few times. Then five years ago it was for real. I still don’t understand biologically how I am still alive. I was in intensive care on a million machines for a few days and was shocked to wake up. I was disappointed that the hospital didn’t let me die. There was nothing to live for. What was wrong with them to keep me alive and waste resources on me?? Then I went out with a mental health worker who was awesome. He let me get my head together and was just there while I had a ***. Then an epiphany happened that has never left me. “I am here alive because I am supposed to be. It is not my right to say when this life is to end. I am supposed to be here right here and right now.” As sad and difficult as some times have been and as easy for me it would be to end things, I can’t ever go there again. Not to say it is easy but I now know and respect that I need to let my life pan out and I am so very grateful to still be alive. And I now know there is a reason for me to be here even if I don’t understand what that is. I could never have imagined that life could get so good. I am still unemployed, there is still a lot I am working to but I wake up each day now with an immense gratitude for being alive. That, in itself, is a miracle to me. Love you all Suz xx

Suzbj To Everyone Who Has Depression and/or Anxiety
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To everyone who has depression, there is a strength in you all that some of you may not recognise yet. I have recently discovered that strength in myself which was a personal epiphany. Me saying it won't make it happen in a meaningful way to you. It ... View more

To everyone who has depression, there is a strength in you all that some of you may not recognise yet. I have recently discovered that strength in myself which was a personal epiphany. Me saying it won't make it happen in a meaningful way to you. It has to come to you on a personal level and it will if you just hang in there. I just want to encourage you to hang in there. Just keep fighting and stay proud of who you are because who you are so valuable and worthy. Or you wouldn't have been born and be on this planet. Today I got an email from someone that explained why my daughter wants nothing to do with me and won't allow contact wth my grandson who I love dearly as I love my daughter dearly. It is because I have depression. One month ago I probably would have lost the plot completely if not worse. Today, it was - well, that is her loss. And unfortunately my grandsons loss. I have Clinical Depression. That is my life. I am doing the best I can. I am not unkind, hurtful or out to do wrong to anyone. It is my daughter's loss and unfortunately my grandson's who has no say. But I am okay. And still strong. LIfe is what it is. And the most important thing that anyone can do is learn to love themselves. It is internal that matters most and has the power to destroy or raise up. Others, even those we love, can only destroy us if we let them. By loving ourselves we are better equipped to not only be kind to ourselves, but kind and forgiving to others. I love my daughter and it is her right to feel and react as she has. She is on her life's journey as I am on my mine. All is well with the world and I will never stop loving her. Take care Suz

BOUNCINGBACKCHIP hard to talk but worthy of opening up and asking for help
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Hi all, I am just another of many trying to stay afloat in the ocean of depression , I just want to share that since i joined beyondblue recently,that i have found in the understanding and sharing of personal thoughts and feelings from others in the ... View more

Hi all, I am just another of many trying to stay afloat in the ocean of depression , I just want to share that since i joined beyondblue recently,that i have found in the understanding and sharing of personal thoughts and feelings from others in the same or similar circumstances to my self has been both enlightening (i am not alone) and very beneficial to my own well being . I have just spoken on the phone to a Councillor of beyondblue for the first time and this was very helpful in getting me moving towards recovery of a deep depression. Just want to say ... be brave , swallow the pride and open up ... You''ll never know what is around the proverbial "Blind Corner "... unless we stick our necks out have the guts and have a look whats there. Thank you beyondblue! for providing a positive safe and helpful environment that all at some time need Cheers all and safe travels Greg (chip)