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BeyondBlue Hey there - read this to see what this section is all about
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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team will keep it anonymous, its still up for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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Lyndsay101 Trying to find a way
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I am feeling so alone in this world. My relationship has foundered and I have lost a feeling of family, love and security. I am living on my own and due to a chronic illness I cannot work. I have two beautiful dogs and without them I would surely cru... View more

I am feeling so alone in this world. My relationship has foundered and I have lost a feeling of family, love and security. I am living on my own and due to a chronic illness I cannot work. I have two beautiful dogs and without them I would surely crumble. I am thinking of volunteering for the aged in my area but don't seem to have the confidence in doing that either. I don't have many friends and the ones I do are all busy with their own lives and families and I don't want to burden them with my feelings of rejection, failure and loneliness. I wanted to get on this site to listen to others in my situation and to learn from them how to cope and ultimately be able to help others with this issue. I have clinical depression for which I am on medication for but feel that it is not helping on some days when it really is bad. Just to have a connection to others is something I need to help me through these days. I would welcome any and all replies and helpful suggestions for my situation.

Trust_and_Care The Love of my Life
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One month ago the love of my life left me. I was going to ask her to marry me. Only a month earlier we missed out on a house that we wanted to buy. I'm lost, I love her and her children dearly. They completed my family, as I have three children of my... View more

One month ago the love of my life left me. I was going to ask her to marry me. Only a month earlier we missed out on a house that we wanted to buy. I'm lost, I love her and her children dearly. They completed my family, as I have three children of my own. We were making plans for our future and our children. We both work in high stressful professions.

Humbled Humbled beyond my strength
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Hello to everyone on this forum Sadly I find myself needing to share my pain as it has become too much to bear, over the past year I have been suffering from injury that has left me with constant pain up until recently two weeks ago that is, I had be... View more

Hello to everyone on this forum Sadly I find myself needing to share my pain as it has become too much to bear, over the past year I have been suffering from injury that has left me with constant pain up until recently two weeks ago that is, I had been told that it might be a lifelong thing, it has complicated my life with the need to start all over again from scratch and find a new profession at the age of 47 with no recognizable qualifications.I have a beautiful wife who supported me mentally and financially through this period and it was a dark period for me, I look and feel life very deeply and feel the injustices and lack of compassion coupled with greed are destroying not just the planet but society as a whole and truly believe we are at a crux point as the world is so far out of balance something must give.So many more of us so much technology so many ways of communicating yet we are so disconnected from each other. My partner of 23 years is a beautiful lady but she does not have the strength to listen to me dwell on the darkness in this life which is what I did over the past year as the pain weakened me physically and mentally on a daily basis, during this time one of her sisters has been battling cancer and it is not looking so good for her add onto that my wife was made redundant from a long time job with many friends and thrown on a daily basis to sharing every moment with me, it has been too much for her, menopause also complicates her emotions at this time to.My world came crashing down about two weeks ago just as I was starting to emerge through the pain my wife has told me that she has come to believe she no longer loves me and doubts that we have a future together, I have always thought myself to have a strength of will that would allow me to conquer most things in life yet I am truly humbled by how much I love my wife and failed to recognize this and show her how much I need her, she is a strength to me that I find I cannot come to terms with the loss of that love and all the uncertainty and pain it will bring if we part ways, I still feel that she has love for me but with so much pressure in her own life taking on board my pain has made her feel that life could be better without me.To say that this has humbled me is beyond an understatement I have been driven in the last few days to a depth of despair that has left me doubting that I can cope without her, it has taken me to a place where I contemplate the worth of life without her.

Maca74 WHEN THE PERSON CLOSEST TO YOU LEAVES YOU BECAUSE YOUR DEPRESSED
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Hello everyone out there. I posted a few days ago and thank you for your comments and encouragement. Well it finally happened my wife gave up on me. I have been suffering from Depression and Anxiety for over a year. You can read my story from a coupl... View more

Hello everyone out there. I posted a few days ago and thank you for your comments and encouragement. Well it finally happened my wife gave up on me. I have been suffering from Depression and Anxiety for over a year. You can read my story from a couple of days ago. I would consider myself at the remission of depression if there is such a thing. I just got a new job which I love. I finally got my head in a good place. Then WHAM!! I have had enough ! I don't love you any more ! You are selfish ! I want to have fun! Etc etc So for all the people on this site in a similar situation or think you are heading that way. Here are my words of wisdom. Remember I am not a Doctor I am mearly stating what I know. The best thing you can do for the person you love is to educate them. As I found out sometimes they won't do it them selves and end up just being angry and confused. Tell the person in your life that it is not personal. It certainly wasn't with me. My issues had to do with a custody battle and work, but impacted the rest of my life. Communicate with your wife/ husband or friends and let them help. If they truly care as most of them do they can help you get through your bad days. Seek medical advice from your GP. Be open and honest about how you are feeling and don't be embarrassed it happens to more people than you realise. The biggest mistake I have made in the past 12 months is to educate myself and not others. Kept my important emotions to myself or only shared with my psychologist . I now have a wife who is angry at me and at the world. I feel responsible. I am sure this could have been prevented. Any one out there feeling the same. Please share as I would love to hear your thoughts.

will_never_love_again nassasistic break up i need help
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Hello, This is my first time. it's late, as usual cannot sleep. too much heartache, hurt, confusion and worthlessness to get to sleep. I have so much to say, but the thought of starting from the start overwhelms me... in short... (can fill in blanks ... View more

Hello, This is my first time. it's late, as usual cannot sleep. too much heartache, hurt, confusion and worthlessness to get to sleep. I have so much to say, but the thought of starting from the start overwhelms me... in short... (can fill in blanks after you have an idea) after an earlier relationship break up following my 2 fantastic children (now 8 and 10) I met *andrew* after 5 years of being a single mum we took it slowly but fell in love some time after. things were great we were happy, he had a lot of time for my kids, we did things together, he was full of praise he was mature, had a job etc. after a year, we started talking about the next stage. prior to this relationship i didnt want any more children in fear of breaking up again. but he didn't have children we talked about it for some time. but eventually I loved him so much that I loved the idea I talked to my kids subtly about it and they have the idea they would love a brother or sister after trying/planning... i fell pregnant in march/April 2013 everything was fine. however after 12 weeks, and announcing it he started to act a little distant, he seemed frustrated a lot. we'd argue more out of no where, he was picking fights. deliberately booking things on days he knew I couldn't go then getting angry bc I couldn't. but making out it was my fault we dont do anything because I would be limited (I still liked to spend weekends with my children) then another 2 months later (in short) i found out he was going on a holiday overseas he told me only 6 days before leaving i was devestated he hid it he told me it was all for work etc. once I tried to get over that he then said we decided we would have 3 days relaxing too so now we going to Thailand as well and leaving earlier. I was devestated i couldnt understand why he hid this and made me out to look crazy for being upset. I was very suspicious. he left.. i tried to be supportive and hope to deal with it. he called when he arrived. but after that only time I'd hear from him is hours after I'd message. if that. then one morning I called to suprise him and say I loved him he was angry that I "woke him up" and that I still got upset. he hung up eventually I was a mess i felt as though he was up to no good. thinking it was pregnancy hormones i spent the next week emotionally ruined.

Linda1818 How to forgive myelf for being a terrible gf when my bf has left me ... deeply sad and broken hearted, not knowing how to move on
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Being plagued by guilt and deep pain in the heart.. not able to cope with life.. don't know how to move on, my family is in Germany and here I am on my own, psychologist doesn't really help.. any people I can talk to?

Being plagued by guilt and deep pain in the heart.. not able to cope with life.. don't know how to move on, my family is in Germany and here I am on my own, psychologist doesn't really help.. any people I can talk to?

lucy2 Estranged from my daughter.
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Hello everyone, I am new to the forum. I thought writing on this forum to strangers might help me. I feel I have been coping fairly well with life....until now. I have had a lot happen to me (as have others). But I guess living without seeing my 4 ye... View more

Hello everyone, I am new to the forum. I thought writing on this forum to strangers might help me. I feel I have been coping fairly well with life....until now. I have had a lot happen to me (as have others). But I guess living without seeing my 4 year old grandson for nearly a year now, has finally broken me. I am on antedepressants but am now silently breaking up inside. Not a day goes by without me thinking about my daughter and grandson. My husband can't cope with me now as I told him where to go at my son's house for dinner and daughter-in-law their to. I don't even know what I said ?????. In the last few weeks I texted my daughter and phoned her but no reply. Apparently my daughter-in-law has tried but daughter says she doesn't want anything to do with me. Daughter has alienated my husband, my brother and my mother (who is 92 yo). My daughter has her reasons for her behaviour, as she is 32 this year and has been with her husband says age 14. Her father died 4 years ago two days after her son was born (he was a very sick man). My daughter-in-law told me at dinner that her sister-in-law did not talk for a year due to standing up to daughter-in-laws husband. My husband and myself were never invited to her wedding. The only people attending the wedding was his parents and his brother and wife. I have never forgivin her for that, as she had the wedding in another state which meant her own father couldn't afford to get there and was too unwell. Things had been ok with me and her but I always never trusted. My husband and I have helped countless times with babysitting duties at a drop of a hat and having my daughter phone me so many times being so unhappy with her husband. One day he accused her of being with some-one else and I just couldn't take it any more I let him have it. Off course now I am the wrong one, she is still with him, and is pregnant with another child. My son finds her hard to deal with and so does the daughter-in-law. I know I can't do anymore, but I need to stop eating so much and stop thinking about my little grandson. My neighbour visited with his 5 year old grandson the other day and I decided to leave and go shopping???? Even out shopping I think of all the times I had him and loved him and now there is nothing. There is lots more I could write but what for, I guess, I know its hopeless. My trust has gone and forever will but how do you get on with your life.

Linda1818 Numbness in my heart...
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My bf of 9 left me for my distrust and jealousy and blocked me everywhere he could. I treated him terribly with distrust and now he is haunting me everywhere. I feel deeply sad and lost and have less hope ever to forget him. Is there any group I can ... View more

My bf of 9 left me for my distrust and jealousy and blocked me everywhere he could. I treated him terribly with distrust and now he is haunting me everywhere. I feel deeply sad and lost and have less hope ever to forget him. Is there any group I can join to talk to people with similar issues? please HELP

LoveLost Break up with boyfriend of 8years
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Hi all, I guess by posting here I'm looking for some sort of comfort or support.. or advice as I am in a pretty bad way at the moment. 2 weeks ago my partner of 8 years and I broke up. We had broken up 2-3 times in the past and those times were terri... View more

Hi all, I guess by posting here I'm looking for some sort of comfort or support.. or advice as I am in a pretty bad way at the moment. 2 weeks ago my partner of 8 years and I broke up. We had broken up 2-3 times in the past and those times were terrible, and for some reason I felt like this final time would be easier, I was so wrong. It is so much worse as we have already tried so hard to make it work, broke up, had a final try and failed. So the point is that it was our 'last try'. We had many differences and problems but the main fact that we kept coming back together is that we really had grown a deep love for eachother and wanted to be around eachother, but unfortunately we just weren't a good match and just couldn't make it work. My problem here is that we were so in love, and I don't know about him, but I still love him and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. It feels like life has been completely unfair in putting us together, we built such a bond and deep love but then we apparently are just not meant to be together. I dread the thought of being alone, I can't sleep, I wake up in tears after dreaming about him sleeping with other people (this scenario is SOO horrible)... And one thing i have never experienced before is these weird flashbacks I am having to things we have done together, places we've been, music we've liked, and it is traumatizing me. It happens in the middle of doing completely unrelated things. Even if I wanted to move on I couldn't and honestly, this is pretty much as dim as it has been for me in a long time. I just don't know what to do and so desperately want to go back to him, I miss him so much. The last times we came back together is because I thought "surely we can change things", and even now I am still thinking that way. I literally do not know what to do, and it hurts so intensely.

Salsa Marraige problems -Please help!
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I have been with my husband for 14 years, we have a young daughter and I am currently pregnant with our second. After a very stressful 1.5 years of living with my parents and renovating our home my husband has gone into a major depression which has b... View more

I have been with my husband for 14 years, we have a young daughter and I am currently pregnant with our second. After a very stressful 1.5 years of living with my parents and renovating our home my husband has gone into a major depression which has brought out many of his childhood issues, worsened his anxiety and caused him to no longer want to work. It has also caused him to question our marraige, love and the person he is married too. He feels I let our marraige slide whilst all the craziness of the living with my parents and the renovation took place and on reflection he is right I did get caught up in moment and I unintentionally caused him hurt and resentment through my inaction. I have expressed my deep regret and apologised profusely but it does not seem to help.... he has shut me out almost completely, has said he no longer loves me the way he did, he needs space and he is not sure if we will be married after this baby is born. In fact he said he is waiting till the baby is born as he is hoping the baby will change his feelings about us.. he refuses to try and work on things now and is refusing to see a Marraige Counsellor. He has had one session with a psychologist which helped with his diagnosis but again he blames me as nothing in his life thus far has resulted in him needing to see someone. I'm so confused, last week he told me we will get through this and we were somewhat affectionate with one another and this week he is discussing divorce and what the arrangements will be in relation to the assets and our children and he has shown nil affection whatsoever. I am at a absolute loss as to what to do, I love my husband deeply and I don't want lose him! Please help!