Hi IceymOOn. You have quite a mixed bag there with hubby joining sex sites 2 months after marriage. Why did he want to do that? I also wonder why he married if he wants to play up? It sounds like he married under false pretences, which brings me back to my original question, why get married? Had you known him long before you married? Sorry to say this, but you're better off leaving him to his games. All he's done is lie, cheat and hurt you. I know you don't really want to hear that and I wish I didn't have to think it, much less put it into words, but his attitude to marriage doesn't make for a happy union. He's lying to you and everyone else he meets about his life. I understand your initial gut feeling is to beat him senseless and throttle the other woman. You say she knows about you, but what does she know? Does she know he's married and still with you, or did he tell her you're apart? If he told her you're separated, you can't really blame her for believing that. He sounds like a pretty smooth talker and not trustworthy for anyone. It also sounds as though he told her you were apart, which in essence is the truth. I feel your best course of action is to accept he is the way he is, and rebuild your life without him. No matter who he gets involved with, he isn't going to change. Unfortunately, your marriage doesn't really exist, except on paper. I'm so sorry you've been so hurt and lied to. How long have you been married?
Try not to let his actions affect the way you feel about marriage. There are some great guys out there. You deserve so much better.
Lynda.
