Hi IceymOOn. You have quite a mixed bag there with hubby joining sex sites 2 months after marriage. Why did he want to do that? I also wonder why he married if he wants to play up? It sounds like he married under false pretences, which brings me back to my original question, why get married? Had you known him long before you married? Sorry to say this, but you're better off leaving him to his games. All he's done is lie, cheat and hurt you. I know you don't really want to hear that and I wish I didn't have to think it, much less put it into words, but his attitude to marriage doesn't make for a happy union. He's lying to you and everyone else he meets about his life. I understand your initial gut feeling is to beat him senseless and throttle the other woman. You say she knows about you, but what does she know? Does she know he's married and still with you, or did he tell her you're apart? If he told her you're separated, you can't really blame her for believing that. He sounds like a pretty smooth talker and not trustworthy for anyone. It also sounds as though he told her you were apart, which in essence is the truth. I feel your best course of action is to accept he is the way he is, and rebuild your life without him. No matter who he gets involved with, he isn't going to change. Unfortunately, your marriage doesn't really exist, except on paper. I'm so sorry you've been so hurt and lied to. How long have you been married?
Try not to let his actions affect the way you feel about marriage. There are some great guys out there. You deserve so much better.
Hi Icey, welcome
Firstly and most importantly I endorse everything Pipsy has told you. So I wont repeat it.
People make mistakes. When you do it proves you are human and not perfect. So please, as soon as possible move on from this guy because it is guaranteed he will always cheat on you. Trust is the number one requirement of a marriage. No trust, no marriage. Now you will hear form time to time people that have accepted their spouse cheating on them and they reunite and all is good. Not likely. Its a smokescreen IMO. They never trust fully.
The sooner you move on emotionally the earlier you will ebgine to date again and enjoy the company yof other men. Then take more time to really get to know them
You can still love him, but you can't trust him in what he says or what he does, and to be searching sex sites after only 2 months of being married and to push you out of the house because you don't show any physical emotion must mean how he feels about being married.
He has shown no desire that he wants to be married and live his life with you, and after this short period should indicate that you have to leave him. Geoff. x
I feel for you I really do. And I know what it's like to want to hold onto something for dear life, even when you know it's no good for you. I would certainly recommend talking to a counsellor or psychologist to support you through a potential separation. It hurts like hell and I totally understand what you'd like to do to the other woman - but it may help just to feel sorry for her, because he'll do the same thing to her and likely the next person. I hope you have some supportive friends who can help you. I'm also trying to get my head around how he managed to kick you out of your house? Do you own it in joint names??