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BeyondBlue Hey there - read this to see what this section is all about
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Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a ... View more

Hello and welcome This is the Relationships and Family section where members can talk about what is happening in their lives and the people they live with. We know that who we live with can make a big impact on our wellbeing, both in a good way or a negative way. As always, we want to hear your story and how it impacts you and encourage everyone to support each other with kindness. There are a few things to consider when posting in this section so we can all get the most out of it: Everyone’s situation is unique. We all do our best to share what is important in our story but we can never share it all. Let’s be mindful we can’t know all of everyone’s story. Anonymous but public. These posts are available to everyone and while the moderation team keeps the Forums anonymous, posts are still online for everyone to read. Have a think about what you want to share to get the best support for you. Please stay safe. This space is an amazing way to seek support from others who might understand what you are going through. We want to hear how you are going and what is happening for you. Please also consider 1800RESPECT if you don’t feel safe or 000 if you are in danger right now. You deserve to be safe. Thank you again for joining this conversation, your contributions are worthy and important to us here. Beyond Blue

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S__ He has gone to jail
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Hi after a very long 15 months he has gone to jail. It's been 2 weeks and I have good and bad days. When I was feeling good and thought I could do this the bank has said they are closing our account. Is this because he is in jail?

Hi after a very long 15 months he has gone to jail. It's been 2 weeks and I have good and bad days. When I was feeling good and thought I could do this the bank has said they are closing our account. Is this because he is in jail?

AndyL Starting Over…
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So my mental health journey has hit a massive roadblock in the past 6 months, in short; my mother is now in an aged care dementia ward and will never get well, I lost my job and my wife of 23 years has split with me (although we are sharing the house... View more

So my mental health journey has hit a massive roadblock in the past 6 months, in short; my mother is now in an aged care dementia ward and will never get well, I lost my job and my wife of 23 years has split with me (although we are sharing the house with our kids amicably for now), and I recently had a breakdown where I checked myself into a private hospital for fear of suicidal tendencies.I am at a loss with what to do. I struggling to find work that will be both enjoyable, financially supportive and allow me to continue to be the best dad I can be. I am scared that I will fall into darkness again very soon.

Gj1 Ex Jehovah’s Witness ?
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Hey guys my first post here To start off with I want to say that I was born and raised as a Jehovah’s Witness and left the faith when I was able to move and support myself. Leaving and coming out to normal society has been pretty tough tho. I just fe... View more

Hey guys my first post here To start off with I want to say that I was born and raised as a Jehovah’s Witness and left the faith when I was able to move and support myself. Leaving and coming out to normal society has been pretty tough tho. I just feel like there’s a really distinctive loneliness of being an ex Witness that a lot of people won’t ever understand. I’m wondering if there are any ex Jehovah’s Witnesses on these forums that have been able to sort of overcome those feelings and find happiness outside the organization. Could really use some good stories that it does get better because at the moment it feels like I’m seeing the world from behind glass

bkgs1202 Boyfriend with OCD pushing me away
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I’m so lost I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now, in the most beautiful, healthy, loving, supportive relationship. He suffers from OCD and about 2 months ago he stopped taking his meds and wasn’t seeing his... View more

I’m so lost I don’t know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now, in the most beautiful, healthy, loving, supportive relationship. He suffers from OCD and about 2 months ago he stopped taking his meds and wasn’t seeing his therapist. He was pushing me away, saying we weren’t together anymore, but still messaging me and calling and wanting to be around me all the time and be intimate. When he was pushing me away, everything he was saying was textbook relationship OCD and harm OCD, scared of hurting me, how does he know I’m the one, etc. We spent 3 days no contact and he broke it to tell me what a huge mistake he had made and how much he loves me and sees our future together and wants to be with me. Then a few days later he said we were moving too fast again and he didn’t want to lose me but didn’t want to be in a committed relationship. That night he spiralled again and was quite manic and had some extremely dark thoughts. I didn’t know what to do so i called his parents and had to leave him as I felt me being there was making the situation worse and he kept saying he loves me and want to be with me but needs a 2 week break (common theme he had continued to bring up throughout). We didn’t speak for two weeks until he called and had seen his therapist. I thought it was all okay between us and we would just need time to take it slow to get back to where we were but now he’s saying he thought i broke up with him when i left two weeks ago, he’s been telling people we aren’t together anymore, and he needs to be alone to work on his mental health and he can’t be dating right now to work on himself. He started taking his meds again and now it’s been 6 weeks, but he was only just able to have an appointment with his therapist due to availability. I don’t know what to do. I want to be with him more than anything, and i would do anything to make it work. The same night he’s telling me he needs to be alone, he’s also acting somewhat normal with me, being romantic and talking about the future using “we” and “us” terms, but saying he can’t give me certainty that he’ll ever be able to be together but if he could click his fingers and flick a switch to be then he would. What do i do? I’m feeling so lost and confused and just heartbroken and awful.

JayCee28 Sons invasion of privacy by his father
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Hi all, Long story but I’ll try get it relevant to date Ex H alcoholic and abusive to me. coercive/ emotional abuse to son Currently no access to teen child ( his father) aside from supervised visits in contact centre, no visits to date. son does not... View more

Hi all, Long story but I’ll try get it relevant to date Ex H alcoholic and abusive to me. coercive/ emotional abuse to son Currently no access to teen child ( his father) aside from supervised visits in contact centre, no visits to date. son does not want to see his father at all. Son is slowly expressing things he didn’t like while being “taken care of” by his father while I worked late shifts. child is saying he gets predatory feelings from his dad. This has all come about this morning I really am beginning to worry child’s father has been more than inappropriate with son while I wasn’t at home. Child has expressed he is uncomfortable telling the contact centre why he doesn’t want to see his dad. I have offered child that we can write down his feelings tonight and he can hand it to the support person at the contact centre and maybe they can discuss it and child’s feelings. My gut says there’s more to the child/ father relationship that was has come out, but I don’t want to push child for answers. I guess I’m after advice Thankyou

Scorp_77 Marraige Breakdown after 30 years together
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Hi,I recently separated from my husband, 30 years together, 2 children, high school sweet hearts, I am heart broken.I do not even know where to start my healing process, I am sad, I am lonely.

Hi,I recently separated from my husband, 30 years together, 2 children, high school sweet hearts, I am heart broken.I do not even know where to start my healing process, I am sad, I am lonely.

CB23 Getting it out
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The overwhelming sadness......We're done and my head know it's for the better but my heart hurts so bad. I randomly find myself crying my face off and the good lord knows I can't sleep much at this point. 13 years is gone so fast and my kids man they... View more

The overwhelming sadness......We're done and my head know it's for the better but my heart hurts so bad. I randomly find myself crying my face off and the good lord knows I can't sleep much at this point. 13 years is gone so fast and my kids man they're sad too. How do you deal with their sadness and your sadness and this overwhelming feeling? How long does that last? I've decided to try to focus on my mental heath and push myself forward but does this go away. He really was the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I was so sure.....

Guest_16794091 Covert Narcissistic Disorder Help!
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Hello xxI'm constantly getting triggered by things my partner says and does. Constantly thinking he's up to something behind my back when he's the most truest person. We've broken up many times due to my insecurities from not wanting him to have fema... View more

Hello xxI'm constantly getting triggered by things my partner says and does. Constantly thinking he's up to something behind my back when he's the most truest person. We've broken up many times due to my insecurities from not wanting him to have female friends, getting jealous even when he speaks to a female client on the phone!My triggers turn into panic out of the blue & it's so hard to stop my head from thinking the worst. I can go days thinking of the same thing no matter how much reassurance I get. How do you cope with this? It's such an intrusive condition 🥴

sunflower2337 Relationship Troubles
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Hello, I feel like I’m at my all time lowest when I come on here and I just don’t know what to do. Me and my partner resolved our problems but the last month has been a lot. He has always been making it about himself and when ever I do something so m... View more

Hello, I feel like I’m at my all time lowest when I come on here and I just don’t know what to do. Me and my partner resolved our problems but the last month has been a lot. He has always been making it about himself and when ever I do something so minor he blows up. I forget what I said and I try to repeat it or I don’t repeat it word.for. Word I am now a liar and a manipulator. I stutter when I’m talking I have to apologise profusely because god forbid someone stuttering and I’m at my breaking point. We had a huge fight the other night and stayed apart for the night. During the day the following day he was mentioning he was feeling unwell so I try to do something nice and get him some things I know will help him feel better. I also pick up his favourite food on the way home for him to then get into an argument because I accidentally talked over him even though I quickly apologised but it wasn’t good enough. I went to do my sets of apologies he always demand because that’s the only way to resolve things is in a set and I stuttered so I cleared my throat he got even angrier and threw his drink I bought him all over the floor up the walls up the dresser everywhere. I tried to talk to him calmly and address the situation before I stormed out. We both care about each other so much and I can not picture my life without him. I’m just stuck on what to do and where to go. I feel like there isn’t a future but he is literally my best friend. We have everything planned out together and are almost celebrating our 3 year anniversary and even went and looked at engagement rings. We are so close but these hiccups sometimes blow up huge and I just don’t know what to do. Couples counseling isn’t an option. He won’t talk he just likes to ignore and I feel like I have no one to reach out too. I’ve talked to his sister about parts of it but I just don’t want to bother her or drag her into the issues.

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