Hi everyone, I'm back.

[Guest_4643]

Hi everyone, mb20lover here. I wasn't sure where to post this.

It's been a while since I was on the forums, so I just wanted to make a post saying that I'm back. However, I'll try my best to limit my time, comments, etc on here.

I won't bother tagging anyone, and I'll try to keep this as my only open thread that I have created.

I've missed everyone I've spoken to on here, and I hope to talk to some new people. I have been using my offline supports - my Psychiatrist, GP, Parent support of course, and a Social Worker. I'm in the process of finding a Psychologist but I'm having no luck.

Anyway, I just wanted to pop in and say hello, and also I hope I haven't upset anyone on the forums or anything like that because nothing was intentional, so I deeply apologise.

An update on me, I recently turned 21, can't do much with COVID though, it's a hard year for everyone unfortunately.

I also have a milestone, an achievement, I've been seeing my Psychiatrist for a year which is the longest I've stayed with a therapist. And I also finally have a GP I feel comfortable with. I'm on different meds that seem to be working a little but I still of course have my moments, but these meds I've been on the longest for out of any of the ones I've tried.

Other than that, please don't feel pressured to comment anyone, although it would be nice to connect with some people, old or new, but like I said that's okay. I just wanted to check in.

If you've read this and made it this far, thank you. Stay safe and take care everyone, as much as possible with the unfortunate COVID circumstances.

Thinking of all the Beyond Blue Mods & Users. I've missed everyone.

- mb20lover.

[Jstar49]

Hi Tayla, sleepy and all,

I just want to say that I'm loving the honesty here. Tayla, I hope you stick with it, and work thru your hurt feelings with your friends here. I think it could be really helpful.

I'd also like to mention the fact that no-one can make anyone feel anything.

You didn't make Sleepy feel the way she felt. She was feeling that way, perhaps in part becos of your comments, perhaps in part becos it touched on her own sore spots, as she has acknowledged.

There's lots of good self help books, podcasts and google info available about this sort of thing. It has helped me with being more self responsible, and to quit blaming others for how I'm feeling.

Tayla, if you're not here anymore then it doesn't matter what I have to say, but if you're here, then.......it's ok to be feeling hurt and confused. Stick with it, get some help, talk about it with ppl you trust, and maybe try and find a way forward. No-one's attacking you, we're just being gently honest with you.

I hope you can see that.

All the best,

J*

PS I absolutely don't take it personally if you don't respond to my comments. However, as I've said, friendships develop when friends listen and respond to each other. One easy way to do this is to ask your friend or family member "How was your day?" and then listen and ask questions to understand your friend better. That would help them to feel noticed and important.

We cannot change others, only ourselves.

J*

[Guest_1643]

Hi all, it was really confusing for me, to read requests for comments and responses, but then if I replied or didn't reply, either way I was somehow bullying.

I'm vulnerable myself, been hospitalised ma no times, and try to help only if I feel it's beneficial. If other people's threads were getting replies I don't think it's a popularity thing, but there may be an urgency or good discussion happening there. From my perspective this thread was usually busy with many users, if not I do t think that's discrimation.

Sitting in that feeling, of feeling avoided, could help as its just a feeling, and many can relate.

But then writing here and on other forums that you are being attacked and ullied, hurt me so much. It is a huge thing to read about oneself.

[Jstar49]

Hey Sleepy,

please don’t take any of this on yourself.
you just look after you, ok?

I know you’ve been really supportive of Tayla, and it’s been difficult, so just hang in there, and trust your intuition. You are a very caring person . And it’s not your fault.
Hugs.

J*