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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Iloveunicorns28 Work
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I have worked really hard for my job, and I have always enjoyed it up until now. As a requirement of my job, I have had to relocate from the metropolitan area in which I grew up to a small rural town. As a result, I had to leave my position at the ti... View more

I have worked really hard for my job, and I have always enjoyed it up until now. As a requirement of my job, I have had to relocate from the metropolitan area in which I grew up to a small rural town. As a result, I had to leave my position at the time, and move out of my family home for the first time to live by myself. It was incredibly hard establishing myself at my new work place with no support network around me and nobody to debrief to once I got home from work. I felt absolutely miserable. I was crying almost every single day and constantly feeling regret. It got to the point where I took a week off ‘sick’ because I just could not get out of bed. I was diagnosed with severe depression and moderate anxiety and started seeing a psychologist. I told him I wanted to stay in my job because I did not want to feel like a failure and disappoint people. He gave me some strategies to help me cope and they helped me get through the rest of the year. After being back at home with my family for Christmas and New Years, I am beginning to panic about going back to the place that made me so miserable. I just don’t know what to do. Either I keep working and suffering in silence or I quit my job.

JoW72 How to cope with depression and anxiety?
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I was diagnosed with depression about 8 years ago. I'm not on any medication and manage most of the time to keep things in check but then something happens and everything seems against me. I have only 2 people i call friend so loneliness is a massive... View more

I was diagnosed with depression about 8 years ago. I'm not on any medication and manage most of the time to keep things in check but then something happens and everything seems against me. I have only 2 people i call friend so loneliness is a massive problem too. I haven't told either that I have depression and anxiety, who whats a friend with mental health problems?? Im to shy and anxious to head out and meet people which compounds the problem. I use alcohol to "help" which we all know it doesn't but that is a difficult cycle to break as it stops the negative thoughts and kills time. Anyone have any suggestions how to handle the loneliness? any support groups out there for that??

maxandgus99 Need some advice
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Around two and a half years ago I went through a really really rough patch with my mental health. My anxiety was at an all time high and I started to fall into a really bad depression. I ended up discussing this with my parents and ended up seeing a ... View more

Around two and a half years ago I went through a really really rough patch with my mental health. My anxiety was at an all time high and I started to fall into a really bad depression. I ended up discussing this with my parents and ended up seeing a doctor, psychologist and a psychiatrist and went on an antidepressant. Through the medication and the counselling I received, I slowly began to feel better and eventually made it past the dark depressing time, however the anxiety stayed with me as it always has been, ever since I was a kid. I'm now 18 and recently my anxiety has increased again to intense paranoia and stress and I've started to feel more and more down, unmotivated, sad, irritated, aggravated and just downright depressed. Going through this last time was the hardest thing I've ever gone through and I really don't think I can do it again. It took so much out of me and my family as I could tell how much of an impact what I was going through was having them. It's getting so bad that I can't sleep, nothing cheers me up and I can't go 2 hours without crying and I just don't know what to do. I just can't do it all again, and I need some advice on whether I need to just pull myself together and tell my mum it's happening again and take myself to a doctor or something because I seriously need help ans I know I need help, it's just so hard to get up and go get it this time because I just can't see myself going through all this again it just takes everything out of me to even think about the process it was last time and the strength it took

Doghouse Bleak doesnt cut it
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Hi. Newbie here. Diagnosed with depression 3 yrs ago after being laid off work after 25 yrs. Really affecting marriage now. Tonight she told me that i have to sleep in the shed as she needs her space. Says im a bad influence on our 20 and 10 year old... View more

Hi. Newbie here. Diagnosed with depression 3 yrs ago after being laid off work after 25 yrs. Really affecting marriage now. Tonight she told me that i have to sleep in the shed as she needs her space. Says im a bad influence on our 20 and 10 year olds. Am at a crossroads now. I have not drank for over 30 years now but am considering turning to it to dull the torment. Meds do zilch. No one i can talk to without fear of judgement. Worst part is, is that u helped her through her depression through her menopause etc. For me now its either boozing or death.

banana12355 Not sure what to do when I have no motivation?
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Hello. I've been feeling bad for a while now. I can't get myself to do anything, and it feels like I'm just trying to kill time until i can sleep again. While I sleep early, and wake up around 8:30 or 9:30 I cannot find the motivation to get myself o... View more

Hello. I've been feeling bad for a while now. I can't get myself to do anything, and it feels like I'm just trying to kill time until i can sleep again. While I sleep early, and wake up around 8:30 or 9:30 I cannot find the motivation to get myself out of bed until 12 sometimes 1pm. Then I proceed to spend the day lazing around. Nothing is getting done and this is basically how the last two years have gone. Except instead of lazing around I'd take naps. And do no work, and fail subjects. My head constantly feels hazy and I can't seem to concentrate long enough to do anything, let alone form coherent thoughts for essays. I just feel scattered and overwhelmed and I don't know what to do. Although very debilitating, that's not even the most alarming part. I don't feel anything toward anyone, I don't care about anyone but myself. And I'm confused because most of the time it feels like I can't feel a thing, and at others I can't stop crying. I've been trying to fix my erratic sleep patterns, but lack of motivation prevents me getting out of bed even when I'm well rested. Diet isn't that great either as I have no appetite. I exercise everyday.. and I'm not sure whether it's a good thing that I'm withdrawing from friends for a bit because conversations feel meaningless and I don't know what to say at all/it feels fake (social anxiety is also a bit of an issue) or whether I should force myself to get out there more. I'm a very private person, and don't feel close to anyone. I see a psychologist but I'm not sure if it's helping, and I've considered meds but I'm wary of the flat lining effect, especially when I already don't feel much. I have hobbies but I can't muster the motivation to do it or the energy to force myself to. Sorry for the illogical-ness of this all. In all honesty, I'm just very tired.

Yoga_has_changed_my_life Bioplar and Marriage issues
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I was diagnosed with Bipolar last week and have been taking new medication which not deliberately I have been forgetting to take my medication and I feel fine. i have also been having relationship issues with my partner and I think our marriage is fa... View more

I was diagnosed with Bipolar last week and have been taking new medication which not deliberately I have been forgetting to take my medication and I feel fine. i have also been having relationship issues with my partner and I think our marriage is falling apart and I’ve been thinking of leaving. Feeling so lost and feel like I can’t chat to anyone

Anna_Mac Dreading Christmas
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I had a wonderful Christmas day planned with my now ex boyfriend, we had been together for 8 years and he ended the relationship recently because he has depression. As my family live interstate I will probably be spending Christmas alone, any tips on... View more

I had a wonderful Christmas day planned with my now ex boyfriend, we had been together for 8 years and he ended the relationship recently because he has depression. As my family live interstate I will probably be spending Christmas alone, any tips on how to get through the day?

broken___down Broken & no one to turn too.
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I'll start by saying I've been on various medications since '96, seen several psychologists & haven't made much headway in the grand scheme of things. Life's been a battle most of the time, however this is a new low I wouldn't wish on anyone. Two wee... View more

I'll start by saying I've been on various medications since '96, seen several psychologists & haven't made much headway in the grand scheme of things. Life's been a battle most of the time, however this is a new low I wouldn't wish on anyone. Two weeks ago my girlfriend of five years informed me the relationship was over. This came completely out of the blue. Sure, we'd had a bit of a hard time lately, like most couples but I had no idea things were this bad. Personally I think the reason given for ending it is bullshit but there's no point in pushing for a truth, as it won't happen. Not the first long term relationship I've been through, married & divorced twice so I know the drill. Now have to deal with finding a place to live which is always fun. Thing is, I don't have a friend in the world to lean on, never have! Goes back to the way I was raised, the Oldman always said "Trust no one, keep your thoughts & feelings to yourself, they'll only be used against you!" Of course I discovered after his death 25yrs ago he didn't practice what he preached! Yeah, great advice I know now but in my formative years this is what I believed. Mum's still alive but at 85, I don't like bothering her with all this crap. Sure we talk about what's happening but not the details of how it's affecting me really. At the moment I'm feeling so alone & wondering what's next to go belly up! Job loss, won't find a place to live that accepts pets -have three cats- these are the things that have manifested themselves into huge issues. Employed as a casual for ten months on a 38hr week, I feel the hammer is poised above me, about to drop. There's no real reason for this, just how my mind is spinning at present. It's at a point where I'm not sleeping, eating, I'm feeling sick & dry reaching, crying, just a shitful mess & honestly, I hate myself. Not sure what I hope to achieve from posting? Ideas on how to deal with things, sympathetic ear, scorn, I really don't know? I'd head off to another psych but I'm not sure how things are going to pan out financially in a place on my own, so trying to keep a little aside & of the four I've seen previously, only one was of any help I feel. That was twelve years ago & I have no idea if he's still practicing. So, laid bare for all the world to see. To talk about, laugh at, poke fun at, as it's always been.

Serendipity76 Just didn't want to believe it - dealing with diagnosis.
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Hi Everyone, this is my first post here, so please bare with me. About a year ago I presented at the Dr's with a list of symptoms, muscle pain, extreme exhaustion, insomnia, just general feelings of not feeling well. I requested full blood work to be... View more

Hi Everyone, this is my first post here, so please bare with me. About a year ago I presented at the Dr's with a list of symptoms, muscle pain, extreme exhaustion, insomnia, just general feelings of not feeling well. I requested full blood work to be completed, this returned to be low iron but all else looked good. The Dr and I had a long chat and she did approach gently with me the topic of depression and suggested anti depressants. I was well taken aback and slightly offended, thinking, I am sick here, do your job Dr. I left my Dr who is an excellent Dr, just shaking my head in denial. Nearly a year later just prior to Christmas this year I presented at a different surgery with very similar symptoms just slightly worse to be honest. I wake up tired, my whole body feels in pain, I cannot deal physically with the energy my 4 year old daughter gives, I can manage to run the house with my husbands 4 weeks on 4 weeks off FIFO roster. So the different Dr ran a full series of blood work, still low in iron and we too had a discussion. He then also talked about depression with me and wrote me a prescription for antidepressants. This time I have listened. Two different Dr's, two different surgeries, same result. I don't really want to believe it, I don't feel sad, I just don't understand. I want help, I want to feel better, I want my life back. I need to be a better Mum a better wife. Thanks for listening.

TeaPlease Always feeling alone
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Despite knowing the good intentions those around me have, I always feel alone and empty at the end of the day. Sometimes I feel jealous and spiteful of those who are loved and love others. It doesn't feel like I have that ability, that right. People ... View more

Despite knowing the good intentions those around me have, I always feel alone and empty at the end of the day. Sometimes I feel jealous and spiteful of those who are loved and love others. It doesn't feel like I have that ability, that right. People stray away from me all the time, I lose people and I gain them. But I'm never happy with anything I have and I don't know what to do by this point. My sadness goes beyond words and I've felt this way for as long as I can remember. What should I do?