It's so hard to cope

[darkfoxau]

I just feel like going for a long drive and forgetting about work the next day. Just piss off somewhere, lay down somewhere and just relax to forget about all the crap. I hate that it feels like I never have an outlet. I could post my woes on Facebook, but most of the people on my friends list don't care or don't understand. It's hard to try and get my point across to people. I think a lot of people think I'm acting angrily towards them for a personal reason but it really isn't. Just seems like people have just given up on me. Used to be a friendly individual, but things have changed. People are starting to resent me and it feels like I can't do anything to reverse that. Sometimes I try hard to be friendly towards people but it's never taken seriously. It's annoying because I try to so hard to treat other people with the same respect I expect, but barely get it. That's when I get annoyed and just think "Screw everything". I thought I was a relatively likable person, but it seems people are just staying clear of me for whatever reason. The only people that understand me truly are my parents and friends. All these issues are pointed towards work as well. I try so hard to please everybody and I get pissed off if something is hindering my ability to do a good job. Also just feels like no one truly cares about me and any sort of empathy towards me is either half assed or full of crap. People seem to think that I despise them, but it's only because I'm struggling with all these mental gymnastics going on. I hate it how people assume that you can cope with things perfectly without taking in consideration the crap you have to deal with in your head on a daily basis. Sometimes I wish people could read my mind and it would make my life so much easier. But at the same time, why does everyone seems to only care for themselves. Is that the way we are supposed to live? We're all in this together and I thought we all would try to make life a better experience for everybody. Everyone is truly self motivated and that pisses me off. I try my damn hardest to make people understand what I'm feeling but when I do, I get everything half assed with little emotion. Show me some damn respect like I've shown you. It feels like my superiors at work don't give a crap about me, even though I've put in blood, sweat and tears, while other employees get treated like royalty in comparison. I could go on forever, but any reply would be appreciated. Thank you.

[Neil_1]

Hi there Dark Fox,

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you for coming here and providing your post.

And indeed, an in depth one as well, which is very good … it can sometimes be very beneficial, just to the poster, by putting things down, in this case, on computer.

I seem to get the underlying feeling that you’re hoping that people will treat you the way you treat them … and it irks you when this doesn’t happen. All too often, unfortunately, this can be the case … it’s kind a thing where you need to know your audience or situation. You mentioned that the only people who truly understand you are your parents and friends, and this is heaps good. These are the people you need to around at times when you need a support, a shoulder to lean on, or a listening ear. It is very good to read that you’ve got this avenue of support.

With all the others, they be like acquaintances, that are just there, but no one to really call upon to help – and I guess we all have these kinds of people too. I know I’ve got a lot of these kinds of people … I have my network of supports for when I really need.

I’m only relatively new to FB, but it isn’t somewhere I’d go to vent or let go about different issues, as that could lead itself to potential trolls or nasty comments, which are no good for anybody, least ways us, when we’re feeling vulnerable in the first place.

It’s great that you’ve come here and I hope that you’ll get other responses, and I’d love to hear back from you.

Have you also been along to your GP to give them a rundown of how things are for you?

Kind regards

Neil

[Lightfeathers]

Hi Dark Fox

i just want to say that I totally get your post.

i often go out of my way to be nice to people, and be taken for granted.

but I think it's important being nice to someone coz it can change their whole day in a positive way.

and we need more people in the world like that.

yeah people are becoming very self centered but if they don't meet people who aren't they will never kno any better.

you sound like a very strong person, be proud of who you are and what you have achieved

✌🏽

[Sad_Puppy_Dog]

Hi Darkfox,

I too get where you're coming from. I have come to feel quite misunderstood (A new and uncomfortable sensation) and unappreciated. I have suffered this growing list of abandonment, betrayals and messages/emails unresponded to (Professionally and personally) that I have been growing very conscious of, certainly with the end of two romantic relationships over the last year. And then when the common denominator is me, it makes me insecure and worrying more than usual on what people think of me, paranoid and scared. And yet, I have nothing but good intentions. I treat others with respect and kindness. I have a gentle soul. What could possibly repel people from me? I too, feel friendly but wonder is there a point if that is to be thrown back in my face and abused or ignored? Trust issues suck. Overthinking sucks. Sometimes being so emotionally sensitive sucks. I might have some degree of shyness and social awkwardness but that isn't always the case and I AM caring, empathetic and gentle yet you are seeing things as I very much have, that everyone is so self serving. The feelings of others around them are not important. It is worse when those people are the ones you love and care for the most. When what I really want to do is connect with people, help others, build more friendships and have love, I also feel I have to be guarded and retreat into a shell and hoping no one hurts me. It's awful. I can feel your frustration and sadness.