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BeyondBlue Hello! Read this if you're not sure how to get started
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Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for ... View more

Welcome This section of the Beyond Blue Forums is for talking about our experiences with depression. There are lots of chats about how it makes us feel, what it’s like to live with depression and what has worked to help in these times. Thank you for coming this far, we know it can be really hard to take these steps if depression is in your life - we see you and think this is a great step. To get the most out of this space we have a few tips: Get involved. The Forums work best for you when you get active and post where you can. Now, we know that can be really hard, especially when you are experiencing depression. So, if you can post something supportive to someone else here, that would be an incredible start. Speak from the heart. This community wants to know how YOU feel and what has worked for YOU. We trust that you have something unique to say and we can’t wait to hear it. Check in. Lots of the discussions in this section of the Forums have been going for years and they are some of the richest conversations we have. Keep checking in to get new ideas and offer your support. We know it can be tough to start, but when you are ready we want to hear your thoughts. If you need some time to get to know the community, that's okay! Have a look around and see where you want to get involved. Thank you for being here! Beyond Blue

Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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Triceratops I feel like I'm losing myself
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I moved at the start of the year after being homeless for a little bit. I had no other choice but to move into the place where I am now. It was all good for the first couple of weeks but then it turned. I have depression and anxiety, I had been doing... View more

I moved at the start of the year after being homeless for a little bit. I had no other choice but to move into the place where I am now. It was all good for the first couple of weeks but then it turned. I have depression and anxiety, I had been doing well until it became clear that I'm stuck in a toxic environment. My housemate is an alcoholic and has a few other issues which she puts on me, she also can't take medication as it has the same effect as alcohol. There's now been numerous times where shes been intoxicated and yelled at me accusing me of things that aren't true. When I try to defend myself I get told to shut up over and over again. I can feel myself slowly disappearing, it's like I'm sinking into a hole and I can't get out. I am losing myself, I feel like I'm drowning. I'm trying to find work so I can leave but I'm not having any luck and I honestly don't know how much longer I can last here. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm losing.

jd493 I'm so Lonely.
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I have BPD and have been diagnosed with it for a number of years. Every time I find a stable friendship group I somehow ruin it with my actions as a result of BPD. Also relationships. I want to find love but don't want to continue getting hurt and hu... View more

I have BPD and have been diagnosed with it for a number of years. Every time I find a stable friendship group I somehow ruin it with my actions as a result of BPD. Also relationships. I want to find love but don't want to continue getting hurt and hurting others. I am so depressed and lonely and angry with myself.

Dabrown92 General Help Needed
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Hi there, I’m not quite sure where and how to start here. I’m a typical male who never ever thought mental health would ever effect me. But the last two or so weeks my mind seems to have other plans. I’m a 26 year old English bloke who moved here abo... View more

Hi there, I’m not quite sure where and how to start here. I’m a typical male who never ever thought mental health would ever effect me. But the last two or so weeks my mind seems to have other plans. I’m a 26 year old English bloke who moved here about 18 months ago. I always thought “what do I ever need to be depressed about?” I have a loving girlfriend, strong family and friend group, home etc. But I’ve been feeling rather worthless here recently and I can’t quite pinpoint how or why. Maybe I’m feeling lonely, homesick, I can’t figure it out. I’m usually a fit bloke who enjoys going to the gym 4/5 times a week as well as playing football once a week but in the last few weeks I’ve found myself getting home from work being totally deflated from what little and unproductive work I’ve done for the day. I’ve found my appetite suddenly plummet to where I often won’t eat an evening meal as I’m simply not hungry. And I simply don’t have the energy that I used to. My head is telling me “just get up out of bed, go on a drive, get back to the gym, go explore Australia” but I simply don’t have that “get up and go” mentality which brought me to Australia 18 months ago. As a job, and no disrespect to anyone out there who may also do the same job, I’m a general labourer on various construction sites. It’s pretty skull numbing (in my opinion). This was always a short term job for me as visa restrictions have made it pretty hard for me to nail down any solid work. I do have a goal in my life to better my career options. And I’m working towards them within the next 6 or so months. But my mind can’t seem to see any further than the next few days. I sometimes feel anxious when thinking about my future goals as they could be a risk which won’t pay off for me. I had a semi breakdown for maybe 45 mins before writing this. And I find it very hard to tell my loved ones how I’m feeling. I’m aware that there are people in far worse positions than I am right now. But I feel like this was the only way I have to get things off my chest. If anyone at all has been through something similar I’d greatly appreciate some advice and hopefully I’ll be back to being the old me in no time. Thanks in advance

MeganMe Really bad spiral
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Am so emotionally drained I can't even type out the whole story, so here's the short version. Sister called me (yelling) the most selfish person on the planet because my current bout of depression, combined with worst anxiety ever and chronic pain, h... View more

Am so emotionally drained I can't even type out the whole story, so here's the short version. Sister called me (yelling) the most selfish person on the planet because my current bout of depression, combined with worst anxiety ever and chronic pain, have me somewhat (a lot) financially reliant on our mother. Yes, I'm nearly 50, single mother of 3, but after battling depression and anxiety for 20 years and chronic pain for the better part of 6 years, I'm not doing so well. I know I've screwed up, I know I'm not paying my way. I have helped my mum as much as I can in non financial ways - she's over 80 now, and pretty healthy, but I'm here for her when she's not - shopping for her, cooking for her, doing anything I can. Sister just doesn't get the mental health thing - it's all laziness and selfishness in her eyes. The screaming row happened a few nights ago on one of her rare trips to our part of the world. I'm beyond hurt. I'm nearly utterly broken. I sent her some articles to read about depression and how it feels, I don't think she even read them. My mother is devastated that we've had such a falling out. I'm honestly not sure how to get past this. I can't get what she said out of my mind. I've replayed it over and over and over and freaking over in my head. She was SO cruel in her words. I don't know what to do. I want to make it right, especially for my mum, but I can't forgive her words.

44Max44 Depressed
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So I've been depressed for the better part of 5 years now, but never as depressed as I've been feeling the past couple of weeks. A couple of weeks ago, I had my first run-in with health anxiety, I convinced myself that I had cancer and pretty much cr... View more

So I've been depressed for the better part of 5 years now, but never as depressed as I've been feeling the past couple of weeks. A couple of weeks ago, I had my first run-in with health anxiety, I convinced myself that I had cancer and pretty much cried myself to sleep that night because I was fully convinced that I was going to die. Long story short, after getting tests done, I found out I didn't have it, but the trauma from that incident has stuck with me ever since. I haven't been the same since that incident. I haven't been able to enjoy myself doing anything pretty much. Things I enjoyed doing not even the day before this incident I just totally lost interest in. For the past couple of weeks, all I've done every day is watch Netflix, movies, YouTube, or anything else just to keep my mind off of things. I've also hardly been eating, and have lost 2 and a half kgs in 2 weeks because of this. I'm not taking care of myself whatsoever, just doing anything possible to numb the things I'm feeling. The main thing that is getting me down is that I've convinced myself that at some point in my life, it might not be for another 50 years or it could be tomorrow, that I'm going to get some disease and die. Just thinking about my future and the hard things I'll have to go through gets me super depressed. Death is the main issue I'm struggling to come to terms with, I have the mindset of "if we're all going to die, why even bother doing anything?" and I just lay in bed all day watching stuff. I find that even the mention of death or some health issue triggers my negative thoughts and it gets me so sad. I've been sleeping 12 hours a day, and being awake 12 hours a day. It's like a 50-50 ration of sleep to being awake. I know this is super unhealthy both physically and mentally, but no matter what I do I can't seem to get myself out of bed in the morning when my alarm goes off, I just hit snooze and go back to sleep, and before I know it it's 3pm and most of the day has already gone by, making me even more depressed. Some days I feel like I'm feeling okay just to get hit with a wall of depression and I go back into the dark place I was in the day before. It feels like a never-ending cycle of ups and downs, but I'm only really focusing on the downs and ignoring the ups. I want to see a psychiatrist more than anything, but it would take somewhere around 2 months just to get my first appointment. At this point, I'm just hoping for a miracle.

Kaelyn_____ Why am I like this
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Hey yall, I try to keep this short and simple without any grammar mistakes. I recently met new friends who are really cool and nice, I like them but I wish they stop changing I dont know why I am like this, I am not at all rude to them in anyway or t... View more

Hey yall, I try to keep this short and simple without any grammar mistakes. I recently met new friends who are really cool and nice, I like them but I wish they stop changing I dont know why I am like this, I am not at all rude to them in anyway or try to sabootage, I feel depress talking about these topics like getting a job or studying or about the future, I much rather live in the present then have to worry about stuff like that I am only 17 is there any strategies to over come this as I am proud for their achievements,

Tepm Feeling useless
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So i dont really know what else to say. I am so sick of hating myself that much that i get no enjoyment or excitment to do anything. I have tried so hard since having kids to be good at somethinf to have a hobby for both myself and to i dont know i g... View more

So i dont really know what else to say. I am so sick of hating myself that much that i get no enjoyment or excitment to do anything. I have tried so hard since having kids to be good at somethinf to have a hobby for both myself and to i dont know i guess make me more mum material but theres nothing. I know it sounds dramatic but i dont have any fine motor skills. I cant baje or cake decorate although ive done classes i dont paint or draw i cant sing or anything i jist feel like i have nothing and its really wearing me down. I need an outlet a boost of confidence and all i get is attempts and fails and friends and family cant even tell me positive about myself. Im juat useless and feel so shit atm. I have alot going on but the fact i cant zone out to a hobby is making it hard to deal with life. I cant even read a book cause my mind is so scattered i cognitively cant keep up

G484 Hiccups.
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Gday gday Im a second year at uni and been flipping in and out of depression and anxiety for a few years, and not sure why but suddenly I’m plagued with the feeling of not understanding what’s wrong with me, this incessant need to feel deflated and u... View more

Gday gday Im a second year at uni and been flipping in and out of depression and anxiety for a few years, and not sure why but suddenly I’m plagued with the feeling of not understanding what’s wrong with me, this incessant need to feel deflated and useless- what’s the point. On above avg dose of AD but I’m not sure if they’re not working, or I’m just that sad. I feel like I do nothing but despise my soggy minds obsession of asking me why and if I’m still depressed. This unrelenting sinking feeling of uselessness and not caring about anything is so so damn draining. For me, anxiety is like having the hiccups, violent and fills the capacity of my mind, but then it stops and I’m constantly on the cusp of waiting for the next one- that throat choking can’t breathe need to swallow type thing.

Vivianbear Introducing my (drum roll please) multiple problems and all consuming depression. Yay!
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So...to start with lets look at my childhood or lack there of. I grew up in what would seem to be a pretty happy home, two parents and 3 other siblings. My father however was an asshole to put it bluntly! After the age of 8 he basically hated me or j... View more

So...to start with lets look at my childhood or lack there of. I grew up in what would seem to be a pretty happy home, two parents and 3 other siblings. My father however was an asshole to put it bluntly! After the age of 8 he basically hated me or just straight up didn't care. I was a victim of family violence between the ages of 8 and 12. After that it all became verbal, emotional, and mental. Since last year my parents have been seperated and after an episode during visitation with my dad I no longer see him. I am still a victim of family violence though but now it's from my brother. Now on to the depression. I have been depressed side around the age of 12. It flares every now and then. Today it was pretty bad cause I just randomly started crying and talking to myself like I used to. I am 16 and a girl.

perrytheplatypus High school & moving
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I used to love school. I had amazing teachers and friends and I got good grades. Then I moved across the world and everything changed. My class is small and most of the people in my class are kind of rude. And everyday when I go to school I feel so u... View more

I used to love school. I had amazing teachers and friends and I got good grades. Then I moved across the world and everything changed. My class is small and most of the people in my class are kind of rude. And everyday when I go to school I feel so upset and the teachers there are awful and clearly do not know how to teach and I think I’ll have them as my teachers for one and half more years. I can’t do this anymore. My grades got worse and my few friends I have aren’t always supportive and I can’t transfer schools because the other schools near me are awful too. So I have no clue as to what to do. I’m so stressed and I get panic attacks a lot in school. I want things to go back to the way they used to be. I’m so stressed and confused and I have a test coming up too and we have so much to study for and it’s awful. I don’t know what to do

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