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Jeriava How do I talk to my doctor?
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I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really ... View more

I’ve been struggling with my life for the past 7-8 years but I finally made an appointment with a doctor. I feel really scared though because I don’t ever go to the doctor for anything, and I havent seen this doctor for so many years that I’m really scared that they’ll judge me or won’t believe anything I say. I’m really anti social so I feel like I won’t be able to say what I wanna say or I’ll say the wrong thing causing them to just dismiss me and move me along without helping. I’m just tired of feeling alone, depressed and just worthless but I’m really scared to talk to them.

Chris_B Are you looking to support someone else with depression? PLEASE READ before posting
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This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and f... View more

This forum is for people seeking support for their own mental health issues. If you're posting on behalf of someone else with a mental health issue that you're concerned about, please have a look at this section of our forums: Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition It's full of threads from people who have family members and friends going through anxiety, depression or other related conditions. Have a read through the threads there, and feel free to take part in the discussions. Below are also some helpful beyondblue resources you might want to look through first as well: Supporting someone Have the conversation

AGrace SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING DEPRESSION
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Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the ... View more

Hi Everyone, Here are some ideas you might like to try for managing symptoms of depression. Of course everyone's different, so let us know what works for you, and please feel free to add to the list... Mindfulness – through breathing or engaging the 5 senses Distress Tolerance – Accepting Emotions and Self Soothing Distraction – Put the thoughts/feelings aside and come back to them when you are ready to deal with them Positive Affirmations – Have some affirmations written down repeat them to yourself daily Sleep/Exercise/Diet – All 3 aspects of our lifestyle can impact the way we think/feel Increasing Pleasurable Activities – Engage in at least one pleasurable activity per day

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awarriorsheart Depression stress on Relationships
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Hi there, I have just started here as I have been reading forums for about a week now. I am very lost at present and very stressed having been helping my (now ex) partner with severe depression/anxiety whilst recovering from PTSD. They have reached a... View more

Hi there, I have just started here as I have been reading forums for about a week now. I am very lost at present and very stressed having been helping my (now ex) partner with severe depression/anxiety whilst recovering from PTSD. They have reached a crisis point in their own depression that successfully had them push myself and my child away due to them no longer feeling anything at all. After so many years of support and hope that they would be getting better with the help of medication as well as a person that has indeed got the understanding and compassion of knowledge of what they are going through as well as with four years of them going to a psychologist I am at a complete shock loss from the cold-hearted nature of this. It was like viewing a death and the grief is also incredibly similar. I feel as if I have failed this person miserably just as much as they have failed myself and my child from the fact they were so cut-throat on their discard and pushing away so would really like some guidance of whether this is normal behaviour in relationships or whether it has been a point that this person indeed can no longer feel a thing. My child is suffering dramatically from this as they do not understand why a person no longer wants to see them, be around them and was scared that they were not going to answer phonecalls or messages when they wanted to reach out to them to tell them that friends support each other. It's a long hard story to unpack and in truth I have no idea what I am trying to ask about. Validation is my guess, of the fact that I truly could not reach this person no matter how much love and support I gave them and it got to a stage that they gave up on themselves and me. The why is really making it hard for me to get to as I have never ever done anything to hurt another, especially a young person so am finding it very difficult to see how they felt in a logical/illogical mess that is depression and anxiety. Should I still try to help this person or just walk away so that I can heal myself and my child as the pressure of this is all too much now. Thankyou if you can give perspective that I am not alone in this. A Warriors Heart will always fight and never give up.

Braxiatel81 Everything rolled into one: bi-polar, depression and anxiety
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I've had all this going on for years, trying to find medication and dosage and i am over it. My partner has been incredibly supportive but i am starting to think she is at her wits ends. I am tired of putting on a happy face for work ....it is so har... View more

I've had all this going on for years, trying to find medication and dosage and i am over it. My partner has been incredibly supportive but i am starting to think she is at her wits ends. I am tired of putting on a happy face for work ....it is so hard. I cant sleep without pills at the moment as i am having issues of itchiness all over my body stopping me from settling. At work i am just hiding away in a storeroom and randomly crying. Worst thing is, i have always been joker, the one always laughing and joking. Keep up this facade is hard. I am a school teacher and even had to leave my classroom this week for a cry. My anxiety revolves around my wife and her not being here and i have a complete breakdown if anything affects the routine or if i am out of contact for extend times...that impacts her as well. I am at my wits end and dont know where to go anymore.

JJ1981 Sad truth: Not everyone with depression like me is going to be your friend...
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Hi guys I got back onto this forum after a long absence- partly because of abuse that I received during some of my last threads. My background with depression (or rather anxiety/depression) stemmed from a nearly unrivalled series of setbacks througho... View more

Hi guys I got back onto this forum after a long absence- partly because of abuse that I received during some of my last threads. My background with depression (or rather anxiety/depression) stemmed from a nearly unrivalled series of setbacks throughout my entire life of 38 years across two Australian states and involving both the Italian community of Australia (like my father) and the Angloceltic Australians (like my mother). To put it very mildly, I can say that despite enormous contributions made by the Italians in Australia and the increased acceptance and respect of both parties towards each other, there have been (more than) enough people from both sides who made my mixed blood look like a hideous mutative disease! Just ask the oldest fashioned Italians and all the followers of, say, Pauline Hanson! Because of that, I was lonely, isolated, confused and felt scrambled every day on how to rise above all of the beliefs made against me. This lack of genuine respect from both sides may have been one of the biggest factors in me being prevented from becoming a "millionaire dad" by age 38. At my age, I am earning less money than high school dropouts in mines (despite having three uni degrees). I was likely nutritionally deficient as a child because my Australian mother could not understand how to properly cook Italian food (we had to shut up and accept it because "she's your mother") and it made me hate eating vegetables to this very day with brutal passion, despite their healthiness. I was seen as the only single guy in traditional Italian weddings at age 25 or so, when the eldest single girl was just 14! I was overlooked when trying to get into medical school over EIGHT YEARS just because I was seen by medical elitists as a "lower class wog". Even my maternal grandmother and uncle dislike my father and try to use him up for financial gain and to stay on my mother's "good side". And, it gets better, have you seen all the videos of Italian stereotypes made by SuperWog and Sushi Mango? I have not really seen any stereotypes against British/Irish Aussies or Aboriginals by them, have I? I can go on and on, but I have 2500 characters to type. I can say that depression now stays with me like a cancer partly because not every depressed person is a friend!

combine1959 Really struggling with life and self worth
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Hi All Im 26 years old and have been suffering from depression for quite some time now. I have trouble forming relationships both friend and romantic because of my depression. Im depressed and mainly lonely as although being 26 have never had a long ... View more

Hi All Im 26 years old and have been suffering from depression for quite some time now. I have trouble forming relationships both friend and romantic because of my depression. Im depressed and mainly lonely as although being 26 have never had a long term relationship actually the longest and only relationship ive ever had has only been one month which makes me think there is something wrong with me. when i was younger i could make friends easily but have always struggled with romantic relationships. I dont go out that often anymore as i dont enjoy myself when im out. Basically have a massive feeling of feeling useless, the lack of companionship and loneliness in my life has made me feel and believe that i am unlovable and will always be , struggling to find the positives to keep going as now and for a while the negatives have definitely outweighed the positives.

Jwidz Bipolar depression and really struggling.
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Hi, Ive been struggling with Depression since May this year. My family tries to understand but my father keeps being too tough. just writing this thread is a massive effort. Ive been hospitalised twice already this year. my confidence is shattered, i... View more

Hi, Ive been struggling with Depression since May this year. My family tries to understand but my father keeps being too tough. just writing this thread is a massive effort. Ive been hospitalised twice already this year. my confidence is shattered, id love to free myself of depression for good i just need some help getting through it all. Im struggling to concentrate on reading and id love to one day get back to work. my memory has mostly faded and im really really struggling.

coolkid20203 hi
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hi im new i dont know what im doing or what to do

hi im new i dont know what im doing or what to do

Banksia17 Bipolar - struggles with changing meds and being able to work
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Hi, this is my first post. I'm feeling terribly lonely about my condition. I have a supportive partner and family who always try their best, but it's so relentless struggling with bipolar symptoms and treatment. My current problem is how to be 'norma... View more

Hi, this is my first post. I'm feeling terribly lonely about my condition. I have a supportive partner and family who always try their best, but it's so relentless struggling with bipolar symptoms and treatment. My current problem is how to be 'normal' while going through major drug changes. I am so tired I can't get out of bed in the morning. I've got shakes, zaps and tearfulness. It's so hard to go to work. I have just lied and said i have had gastro for two weeks! That makes me ashamed. Does anyone have tips on how to better manage drug changes? Thank you for any help you can give. Xx

Lost not found I don’t know what to do
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So I’m kind of new to this but I’ll try my best. for the past 2 years I’ve been feeling really depressed, obviously not all the time but more than I would like aha. Last year I was in a really bad place to where I needed counselling, but I didn’t rea... View more

So I’m kind of new to this but I’ll try my best. for the past 2 years I’ve been feeling really depressed, obviously not all the time but more than I would like aha. Last year I was in a really bad place to where I needed counselling, but I didn’t really like being there so I just acted fine and I was fine, for a few months until I started feeling depressed again and I’ve felt this way ever since. I don’t want to feel like this, it ruins my days and I just feel tired all the time. I think I should see someone to try and get medication but whenever I try and go see someone I get really anxiety and I can’t go into the hospital, it’s almost like a panic attack. I also don’t want to tell me parents that I’m back in that state because they were so hurt last year, I don’t want to put them through anything like that again, so I’m trying to do it by myself. My friends don’t know about it, but I’m thinking about telling them instead of my parents. Since I’m 18 it should be fine to get the medication by myself right? anyway I’m just kinda asking what I should do, kinda lost at the moment and I’m looking for help

Djordat Have lost hope, life is wasted on me, do not try, anymore. Only darkness and fear.
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Have been lost for so long it is now a comfort to stay here. Do not want my life, and am of no use. I tried so hard. And now I am done with it. Have spoken to no one since last here. So, one last try. Djordat.

Have been lost for so long it is now a comfort to stay here. Do not want my life, and am of no use. I tried so hard. And now I am done with it. Have spoken to no one since last here. So, one last try. Djordat.

white knight Depression- how to survive it
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Survival, what an ultimatum of a word. But in my 63 years I have survived and gone further, how to remain strong and healthy while enduring depression. Treatment. Yes, you might be doing the best you can- consider returning to your GP to tweek those ... View more

Survival, what an ultimatum of a word. But in my 63 years I have survived and gone further, how to remain strong and healthy while enduring depression. Treatment. Yes, you might be doing the best you can- consider returning to your GP to tweek those meds, a care plan to talk things over with a professional and so on. Stability. IMO the most delicate area of maintaining stability is other people be it there negative influence or our own problems like intolerance or intrusive thoughts that we tend to end up paranoid about. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/fortress-of-survival Environment. Uprooting your family to move to a strange place isnt good for stability but if done wisely that improves your standard of living, it can be life changing that could minimalise moods and depressive episodes. Hobbies and sports. A passion has to come from within, no one can advise you which passion to choose, but if you were to find one then this is a major distraction to your illness. Talking endlessly about our illness often leads to counter productivity. Distraction and keeping busy is good keeping your mind occupied. Conflict resolution. We tend to argue more than others as we are not well. Find strategies that work for both of you to resolve. Consult relationship counseling. Here is one idea- https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/relationship-and-family-issues/relationship-strife-the-peace-pipe#qmy1OnHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A Acceptance. Easy to say. We are who we are. Our depression is as part of us as our limbs. It is unlikely to go on a planned holiday. Better to accept it with its ups and downs and be more at peace. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/accepting-yourself-the-frog-and-the-scorpion#qi1Wu3HzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A Relaxation. Includes holidays, even one night away with a campfire looking at stars can rejuvenate you and kids love it. Consider a camping unit like a camper trailer or start with a tent Expectations. Please dont expect others to understand your illness. That's what this forum is for, to share your problems. Care for your carer Inner peace. By far in the last 30 years my development personally has been invaluable in the form of spirituality (non religion). To appreciate what I have not what I dont. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/meditation---words-of-wisdom---it-helped-me-for-25-years#qe4ivHHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A TonyWK