SEPARATION AND NOW SEVERE DEPRESSION

[Bones10]

NEED SUPPORT AFTER SEPARATION, WHICH HAS TURNED INTYO SEVERE DEPRESSION AND VERY DARK THOUGHTS. ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS, I DONT SLEEP MORE THAN 2-3 HOURS A NIGHT, I CANNOT STOP THINKING MY BRAIN IS AT FULL STEAM AHEAD 24/7, I HAVE NO MOTIVATION WHATSOEVER, I DONT SEE MY FAMILY BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO BURDEN THEM WITH MY PROBLEMS. THE ONLY SUPPORT I HAVE HAD IS THE LADY I SEPARATED FROM AND ITS STARTING TO GET HER DOWN AS WELL, I DONT WANT THAT TO HAPPEN. THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME. I HAVE TRIED TO GET MY HEAD AROUND THE WHOLE ISSUE BUT I AM NOT HAVING MUCH LUCK. IM EXHAUSTED AND LOST I SUPPOSE . I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO? IM NOT NORMALLY AN AGGRESSIVE PERSON BUT MY TEMPER HAS ESCALATED AND MY PATIENCE IS VERY SHORT, IT FEELS LIKE ITS NOT EVEN ME ANYMORE! ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED. THANKS GUYS AND GIRLS, Bones10

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Hi there and welcome to the forum.

I'm really sorry that you're going through this. Relationship breakdowns are painful and traumatic. It is a form of loss and with that comes grief and the stages of grief, which can come in any order and last for as long as they last. Both depression and anger are normal expressions of grief.

I've recently gone through a break up and have sought support from my gp. I too experienced (and still am) depression and anger. It is very normal. Just so you know that. My gp said that during this time getting sleep is really important, and she gave me some all natural medications which help, and also advised meditation to help stop the constant thinking. I'm not allowed to give the medication name here, but you could speak to your chemist (as they're available over the counter) or to your gp.

Beyond this, I wonder if you could enlist anyone else to help support you during this time? Sometimes a bit of space from the person you've broken up with can help you to move forward. It's hard and it might not feel great, but putting your time and focus into activities that you normally enjoy, or hanging out with friends, can help you get used to single life.

If you feel unsafe with your thoughts, you should immediately call 000 for assistance. There is also lifeline on 131114 that are available 24/7.

If you want to chat here further, please do. I'm happy to chat with you. Katy

[black_rose]

Hi Bones.

I'm sorry your feeling this way separation is never easy and really tests our limits and who we are.

You're grieving, and the pain we feel at a time like this can be overwhelming, I'd like to encourage you to reach out to your family (assuming you have a good relationship with them here, sorry) it's amazing how family can be there for you when depression hits, you don't become a burden to them at all.

If that's not possible then I'd encourage you to see a counsellor, they can really help the grieving process and help you to see how normal some feeling.

I wish you well