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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Isabella1803 Travelling and struggling
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Hello, this is my first post in beyond blue. I am 22 years old and I left Australia last week to come overseas for 5 months, this is my first big trip overseas and definitely the biggest thing I have done in regards to leaving my comfort zone, which ... View more

Hello, this is my first post in beyond blue. I am 22 years old and I left Australia last week to come overseas for 5 months, this is my first big trip overseas and definitely the biggest thing I have done in regards to leaving my comfort zone, which is a big thing for me. I have only been over here for one week and I am finding it so hard. I am travelling with two guys I am not all that comfortable with and we are just staying in hostels, there are plenty of nice people that I have met but I feel so far out of my comfort zone and so uncomfortable, I am just finding it so hard to even have a normal conversation with someone, I cant even manage that. I am so angry with myself that I am over here and all I want to do is go home to where I am most comfortable, the guys I am travelling with are not missing home at all and are just able to have fun and enjoy their time but I cant do that. I came over here with the hope that forcing myself out of my comfort zone would help me move forward and become more confident but its just not happening for me, I feel like I am going backwards and it's making me more and more depressed. I dont want to get up and do things during the day, I am most happy here when I am in bed and alone. I dont know how to break through this and start enjoying myself and at least be able to have conversations with people, I feel like I have bitten off way more than I can chew and now I really regret it.

Sambo Not feeling supported
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So just had a talk with my girlfriend who is very angry at my parents who havent really contacted me in the last three weeks. Yes its a bit hard me living in england and them in aus. But as i tried to commit suicide four days before i left for englan... View more

So just had a talk with my girlfriend who is very angry at my parents who havent really contacted me in the last three weeks. Yes its a bit hard me living in england and them in aus. But as i tried to commit suicide four days before i left for england, my girlfriend thinks that its a bit bad of them, i didnt really think about that much. My mum has emailed me but only 3 times and one saying sorry that she hadnt replied sooner as she was busy painting and also reminding me of my dads birthday coming up. After our talk i did start to think that it was a bit bad but i dont really know what to thnk. Even my brothers girlfriend has asked how ive been dong more than my mum. I just need some more support but i dont know what or how to ask. Sorry for the rant but just clearing my head!!

JackD 21 y/o Chronic Pain, Anxiety & Panic attacks
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My Name is Jack. I am 21 and I have suffered from Anxiety on and off for 3 years. My anxiety has been born out of having chronic back pain for 5 and a half years. I suffer from a herniated disc in my L4/L5 lower spine which I developed when I was 16.... View more

My Name is Jack. I am 21 and I have suffered from Anxiety on and off for 3 years. My anxiety has been born out of having chronic back pain for 5 and a half years. I suffer from a herniated disc in my L4/L5 lower spine which I developed when I was 16. This condition prevents me standing for long periods, bending without pain, sleeping, sitting for long periods. I can't work and have had to drop out of university because my anxiety has become so severe. I am due to have surgery for the second time to fix my problem in a couple of months.An initial panic attack while I was driving left me shaking, scared, confused and unable to drive before my mother had to come and get me. Since then, the fear of having another panic attack has left me battling against severe anxiety. While it comes and goes, I have been able to continue living quite well. In the last couple of years I have moved about 7 times which always makes my anxiety worse but eventually comes good. Recently, after moving, my anxiety became quite severe and I went to see my GP for some advice. Instead of referring me to a psychologist, he prescribed an SNRI for me to take daily and told me there was no risks taking it. While it did curb my anxiety temporarily, I cannot stress how unsettling the withdrawal symptoms were coming off this drug. These include chronic brain zaps (which occurred every time I turned my head) and anxiety.. thats right.. the withdrawal symptom of a drug that is meant to help anxiety causes anxiety.. I was only on this medication for only four months and it was a nightmare trying to come off it. I changed GP and he referred me to a psychologist while helped me to get to the core of my anxiety. This experience has helped me to learn about finding the right GP to talk to because not all of them are right and you need to do your own research about any medication they prescribe. I would advise anyone to see a psychologist before resorting to any sort of prescribed medication. While it is expensive, I was lucky enough to be given a Mental Health Plan which allows me 10 free psychologist visits through medicare. As someone who have no income, this was so helpful.I experience panic attacks, the feeling of electric shocks in my head, clouded thoughts, intense tightness around my ribs, tights muscles, shakiness, tiredness, increased heart rate, sweaty palms. My anxiety is a daily struggle but I am lucky enough to have a great support group including my GP, my friends and especially my family who have gone above and beyond to accommodate for my conditions.Here are some things that have helped me cope with anxiety: Finding a support group: Friends, Family, GP, counsellor or psychologist. Be social however you can, however brief, it helps you get out of your own head. Exercising and health: Walking 20-30 a day with music/podcast/audiobook, stretching, not drinking alcohol, avoiding too much sugar/caffeine. Learning: reading up on the symptoms of anxiety so you dont freak out when you experience it. Breathing: Slowing your breathing when you feel anxious, too much oxygen will lead to a panic attack. Being in touch with your body helps you understand what you need and when you need it. Distractions: when I find myself becoming more anxious, instead of feeding the fear I find something to distract myself, usually something physical like housework or something where I'm using my hands. Currently, I have had to drop out of university as my anxiety and pain have become more severe. Being inactive has not helped my anxiety so I'd advise to remain as active as possible when coping with anxiety.After my surgery, my hope is to return to a normal life where I am studying, being social and active, returning to surfing and appreciating what I have been through to become a better person and helping others.Also, for anyone suffering from chronic pain, there are copious support groups out there for people suffering from chronic pain. Managing chronic pain is a lot like managing anxiety. Accept that you have it and don't beat yourself up for having anxiety, its a serious, legitimate condition and should be treated as such. Thank you for reading my story.Jack.

wonderland_j74 no where to live at the moment.
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So things got slightly worse since my last post. I got into a violent fight with a family member and now I have a police order on me, ive been staying at my boyfriends and his family don't want me here. I am estranged from my mother, and the fight wa... View more

So things got slightly worse since my last post. I got into a violent fight with a family member and now I have a police order on me, ive been staying at my boyfriends and his family don't want me here. I am estranged from my mother, and the fight was with my grandmother, who would of made it her mission to tell the family. So it's been a few days and it's pretty clear my mother want to get involved,conveniently. I don't want to tell my dad because he hasn't been apart of my life for very long and I don't want to really get anyone involved. I just literally have no one older then me to help me or give me any support.

Chazza92 Alcohol and depression
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I'm 21 and have been drinking on usually a weekly basis since I was 18. I never used to have a problem with going out, I'd have a few drinks dance with my friends come home and wake up the best morning feeling fine. since I got diagnosed with depress... View more

I'm 21 and have been drinking on usually a weekly basis since I was 18. I never used to have a problem with going out, I'd have a few drinks dance with my friends come home and wake up the best morning feeling fine. since I got diagnosed with depression when I moved to university a few years ago and put on medication I feel I can no longer drink responsibly at all. I almost always end up vomiting sometimes for up to two days later. I suffer black outs and sometimes make extremely poor decisions which don't help with my depression at all. its got to the point where I've spent all day in bed today and I think I have to give up alcohol. Even though I only drink once a week now I always drink too much and I hate myself for it afterwards. im wondering if anyone else is or has suffered the same? and any advice in giving up alcohol? At university That's pretty much what everyone does all the time.

shelleyxox8 Please help, I'm 14.
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I have been dealing with extreme anxiety for a really long time now, no other chatlines are open and i just need to talk to someone. This time 5 years ago was the last time I saw my dad. He gave up on me, do you know how it feels for your own dad not... View more

I have been dealing with extreme anxiety for a really long time now, no other chatlines are open and i just need to talk to someone. This time 5 years ago was the last time I saw my dad. He gave up on me, do you know how it feels for your own dad not to love you enough to even give you a phone call. I walk around the shops and see dad's taking their children out for lunch, buying them pointless things, doing whatever makes there child happy.....When i was 11 i made the decision i never wanted to see my dad again (after not seeing him for over 2 years) and i still stick by this decision. It honestly just sucks and i have found for the past week its really getting to me, I'm not sure if its because its around this time 5 years ago i last saw him or because im really starting to understand what all this means... I've always had a bit of trouble making friends, In year 6 i was sent threatening notes and my only 'friends' were my bullies.In year 7 i had no friends and spent every day of lunch in the library. I moved schools at the start of year 8. It was hard to even find people to hang out with because they already have their friendship group...i still feel a bit like this. I have three groups im friends with at school. One is with two other girls (emily jess), they are really close so i often feel left out and they kinda make fun of me for going to church. I will try to organize things with them and they always bail and im always the one to organize things. The other group is with about 5 girls. The main girl Charlee is really weird with me. She will go 3 weeks ignoring me. Making small comments to make me sound stupid. I think she might be jealous coz she thinks that the guy she likes likes me.But then all of a sudden she will treat me like im her best friends and invite me over and everything....another girl HATES ME. like seriously has a problem with me, she would throw a ball at my face in sport, laugh and say she did it on purpose. She says things about me that not true. The last group is my group im closest with, ronan (this is the guy charlee thinks likes me) ben and josh. They are really really nice and i think they consider me good friends of theres too. But they are guys and i know they want their time to be with just guys, so they will all have a movie marathon together or something which is fine....but then emily and jess will be doing something together, charlee and the other girls will be doing something together... its just really hard to feel like no one wants you around...not even your own dad. this has been giving me heaps of anxiety (i use to take tablets but they made me dizzy) and ive been cryin heaps at night time..please help

heyimryan I dont know
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I dont know how to start this, im a 20 year old guy, I have 3 sisters and a mother, my dad was absuive to us as kids and we dont get along but i cant explain how badly i want s father figure, have a history with drugs as the only way I could feel nor... View more

I dont know how to start this, im a 20 year old guy, I have 3 sisters and a mother, my dad was absuive to us as kids and we dont get along but i cant explain how badly i want s father figure, have a history with drugs as the only way I could feel normal was to be as stoned or cooked as the person next to me. I might have anxiety or depression but i'll keep denying it because I dont want it to be true, I cant hold a conversation with anyone but my sisters because I seriously have no idea what to say to people, im always nervous, I might be gay or bi or what ever but I deny that to. I like the idea of this website because its kind of anonymous, I feel like I cant talk to my friends because i dont want them to know what im really like in case they wont like who I 'really' am, constantly paranoid about everything, I want to say I want someone to talk to but it wont go further than 5 texts before I think for an hour about how to reply and just backspace it anyway, writing this feels pointless when there are so many people worse off than me, nothing makes me laugh anymore and I cant remember the last time I really smiled, id go to a therapist but im from a poor family and my job pays me not much because im to scared to say anything about it. I just want someone whos felt like this to tell me that it wont last forever because I cant do this much longer, thanks.

cluelesd is survival possible?
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Is survival possible? I ask myself this over and over again lately. Its weird I never thought this would be me, this person. I had all these ideas as a kid of what I wanted when I was older and how things would go. I was brought up loved, supported, ... View more

Is survival possible? I ask myself this over and over again lately. Its weird I never thought this would be me, this person. I had all these ideas as a kid of what I wanted when I was older and how things would go. I was brought up loved, supported, cared for, I have no right to be unhappy so many people in this world are so much worse off than me. Yet here I am at 24, a world away from the person I wanted to be and the person I feel I should be....24, single, unemployed, lonely, misserable , failing uni student..... 8 years ago I was officially diagnosed with anxiety, lots of drs, lots of medications, lots of side effects, lots of therapists and I was making progress untill I got assualted out of nowhere. A person walked up to me when I was out with a friend, they didnt say a thing, I didnt even see them comming, just grabbed me from behind and beat the hell out of me. Scared me so so much. Every person became a risk & to say it made my anxiety worse is an understatement. A month or so later I got diagnosed with a health condition which caused me to gain alot of weight & caused several other problems, making me hate myself, my body & basicly the universe...somewhere through it all depression landed itself at my door and I found myself absolutely astonished that psycological pain could actually physically make my heart ache.my downward spiral was then added to by my aunty being diagnosed with terminal cancer and finally her passing a few months ago. I miss her every single day and cry myself to sleep often. The only thing I want is to have her back, yet I know I cant....my heart is broken added ontop of a life that was already broken. The pain of such a lose ontop of already having servere depression resulted in me starting to hurt myself (another something I never ever thought would be part of my story).....I have a psychiatrist, I have a psychologist, I take medication for my anxiety, my depression and to help me sleep......I feel so alone though, the pain never ends, it feels unbearable and that scares me because it just hurts so much.... Is survival possible? And if it is how? Because the pain and suffering that comes with depression and loss seem to be a never ending nightmare of my exsistence that I dont know how to get through

Bec_Luke Unable to sleep
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Hi There my fellow friends, I am up posting at 11.40pm as i'm unable to sleep/get to sleep. I feel like i just have so much yet so little going on around and around in my head. I've notice these days my Anxiety is up a little and i'm just feeling uns... View more

Hi There my fellow friends, I am up posting at 11.40pm as i'm unable to sleep/get to sleep. I feel like i just have so much yet so little going on around and around in my head. I've notice these days my Anxiety is up a little and i'm just feeling unsure about how i'm really feeling. I know alot of this that goes on day to day, and well at lest pretty much most of the day, is about my ex and just whats happened in my life in the last six months. I feel like i'm at the stage of trying to forget all that has happened/is happening between us and my feelings, trying to be strong inside and starting to see that his not the other half anymore that i'm not part of knowing what he does or who his talking to and that i'm trying to pick up my pieces and learn how to do things on my own again, and to try and not worry about him so much, why? i have no clue why i do still. it's not that i'm wanting to move on or anything I know it's because i have to. to my ex he think that in the last couple of days that there has been something up with me, like i seem more distant like i'v found someone else, like iv move on. i did say to hi m that I haven't found anybody and moving on like that no i haven't. since he has said and asked all of this, its been playing on my mind as to why he thinks i'm distant i'm understanding what his really saying because well were not together anyway so how more distant can you get?. at times i feel like i could say and ask him the same thing theses days. id be lying if i said that everyday I'm not trying to avoid and think about everything that has happened and everything after the brake up and just having him still in my head. I do get out when i can to do things but it's only for a little while that its all back in my head. I know he doesn't have feelings but I o feel like his not opened with me about how how he really feels. he says its hard on him as well and that i'm not the only person, but...seriously he seems alot more down to earth and better than me. i don't see him going through hurt with all this like me. I know he works alot an catches up with people ad yes all ways on his phone talking to others. Ii my self just don't know how to talk to him or say anything without it becoming a argument or it all gets put on me or him getting angry and verbally abusive or insulating/put downs or walking out, just on what i say about how I feel. I just i'm trying to work out how i'm feeling how i'm ment to be feeling and is it all normal? or am i over thinking too much? do I/ we need to know have a serious talk about whats going on and whats really happening..... I don't know... Thanks heaps for those being super supportive and replying and just being there to talk to. I hope I haven't /didn't bore anyone from this ridiculously huge essay. L.Becx P.s Apologies again for such a Huge Essay...

feelin_low23 Im ashamed of my mental illnesss
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I was officially diagnosed with depression three years ago, but doctors believed i suffered from it from my early teenage years. I was diagnosed with anxiety a few months ago. I have always been really careful with who i tell about my mental illness.... View more

I was officially diagnosed with depression three years ago, but doctors believed i suffered from it from my early teenage years. I was diagnosed with anxiety a few months ago. I have always been really careful with who i tell about my mental illness. So only my family and very close friends know about it. But i have recently started to realise that many of my friends dont know how to handle my illness or act around me and treat me differently and therefore have begun to exile me. I can feel myself shutting down from society. And now becoming ashamed and embarrassed of my mental illness due to the lack of support. Im regretting ever telling anyone at all.