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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Dark_skies Can't get over anything
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Hi guys, I'm new to this so forgive me for any mistakes. so, I have depression and I have major issues at school, home and with other people. My mums an alcoholic and says really horrible stuff to me when she's drunk, my dad constantly says horrible ... View more

Hi guys, I'm new to this so forgive me for any mistakes. so, I have depression and I have major issues at school, home and with other people. My mums an alcoholic and says really horrible stuff to me when she's drunk, my dad constantly says horrible stuff to me and thinks my depression is just some common cold type of a disease and that I will get over it. Schools getting to become really stressful for me as the work just likes up and my anxiety goes through the roof, I just broke up with my boyfriend and I feel like everything's caving in. I see a psychologist and take medication for my depression but I've been on it for 7 weeks and it doesn't help. I feel terrible constantly and I never get sleep. I feel as if there is no escape for me, and to be honest I'm done with everything. This is the last resort. Please help

xDariix Help Me.
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I'm 21 years old and for as long as I can remember, I've had problems with socializing with people, organizing my life and motivation. I'm extremely self-conscious and I always have trouble speaking my mind. I've recently started seeing a psychologis... View more

I'm 21 years old and for as long as I can remember, I've had problems with socializing with people, organizing my life and motivation. I'm extremely self-conscious and I always have trouble speaking my mind. I've recently started seeing a psychologist thinking that I might have had ADHD. But she believes that I probably have Depression and Anxiety. I've taken a lot of online tests and a majority of those symptoms are positive. Okay, I understand that and I accept it. What I need help with is...what am I supposed to do? If I am diagnosed with Depression or something, what do I do then? All I know is failure, how to be good at letting others and myself down. I know I don't do it on purpose, but I feel like I'm doing it just to hurt myself. And I want to stop but I don't know how. I feel like I'm in a hole and I just can't pull myself out of it. I'm never satisfied with myself and everything I do is wrong in everyone's eyes, including myself. People say that motivation is enough. But when I get motivated to do something, when I start, it's gone, because it's just not right. Nothing is right and I just want it all to end because I hate living like this. I've never thought of suicide, but I've imagined how much better off the world would be without me. Sometimes, I want to grab a couple of my belongings and just leave, because I tend to feel better when I'm alone. But I don't want to be alone. I want to have people to turn to and I want there to be nothing wrong with me, but I've felt like this for so long and I've only recently started to acknowledge how horrible I feel on a day to day basis and that there is probably something wrong with me and can it just stop? I feel like there's more to life than this. I want to be something better and be proud of myself and I want to stop feeling sorry for myself. Please help.

Luxie Hopeless
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Hi,I don't really know where to start as this has been going on for so long now. I guess I'm here because I've been suffering from depression in the last 4 years. I'm 21 now and I feel like my depression is the worst its ever been. I have lost intere... View more

Hi,I don't really know where to start as this has been going on for so long now. I guess I'm here because I've been suffering from depression in the last 4 years. I'm 21 now and I feel like my depression is the worst its ever been. I have lost interest in almost everything. I can't even remember the last time I was happy. Lately I've been feeling more depressed than ever. The smallest things set me off and cause me to break down. Whenever this happens I lose all hope and think of ways to end my life. I was hospitalized over the weekend for getting drunk and attempting suicide. I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm barely holding on... Beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

yoltwag Scared doctor will tell me Im a drama queen.
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Im 15, and feel as though I may be suffering from depression. To go to the doctors would be a big thing for me, andIm terrified that he'll say its just teenage hormones. I appear to suffer from most symptoms, and it's been a good two years since I wa... View more

Im 15, and feel as though I may be suffering from depression. To go to the doctors would be a big thing for me, andIm terrified that he'll say its just teenage hormones. I appear to suffer from most symptoms, and it's been a good two years since I was happy. I can still have a laugh at school now and then. I also have extremely low self esteem and cant stand to look at myself or see anyone I know in public areas etc I used to be very up and down. I'd be ok sometimes, but when I had my downs it was awful. I wanted to die but I didnt want to put myself through the pain. If I could of killed myself painlessly I would. I would cry and hyperventilate etc and feel way too overwhelmed to survive. This was only ever when I was alone, I NEVER show this infront of anyone else. I don't want to come across as an attention seeker. I got the opportunity to cut myself off from some of my problems. I moved out from my parents place, and gave up the one thing I held onto, my horse. The crazy downs stopped, but know I feel worse. Ive cant remember what its like to be happy. I cant cry. I feel awful all the time. It's like im numb to anything but negative emotions. All I want to do is breakdown and let it out but it just isnt happening for me. I also have major sleeping and concentration issues. Have also gained a very large amount of weight. The only two symptoms that I'm not sure about is 'hopelessness for the future' and 'loss of interest in hobbies etc'. If I look five years ahead, I fell hopeless. But Im dreaming about the day I finally escape, and I do think in ten years time when I leave this all behind me that I will have a future. So I dont really know if that counts. I can't really say if I have lost interest in hobbies. My only true hobby was horse riding. When I moved from my parents I had no choice but to give it up. I still enjoy it but I can't stand being around horses too much as I break down thinking about the past and what it could of been like. But I do feel aLOT less MOTIVATED when it comes to exercise etc.In fact I have no motivation at all.Basically, Im so scared to talk to the doctor. IM AWFUL at talking to people. Ill brush it off and talk how I feel down, as I feel I shouldnt have depression because nothing horrific has happened to me. Ill be lost for words and not know what to say. But Im also scared of not having it because a life like this is just not worth it if nothing is wrong. Sorry for the length, thanks in advance for any replies. Beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

emiveritas I'm a borderline misanthrope?
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I just think that with people it's all take and no give, you know?I was once involved with this community of young people, and I was liked and popular. Long story short, I met a girl I loved and everything that happened lead to an emotional and menta... View more

I just think that with people it's all take and no give, you know?I was once involved with this community of young people, and I was liked and popular. Long story short, I met a girl I loved and everything that happened lead to an emotional and mental breakdown. She used to barely speak to me, and she almost never saw me unless there was sex involved. It really, deeply shook me, because she was such a nice girl to everyone else, but to her I was an annoying burden. It really upset me. So I fell into depression, and had a breakdown because I was so tired of everything. A few people helped me and talked to me, but most people said I was seeking attention and left. It was my fault because I was posting things on Facebook, but I wanted to know if people were still there, if people still cared. I got sick of the tension so I left, now I'm hearing that people are talking behind my back. After all I have that community, after all I helped them, and they do that to me?! I have a feeling I was not respected there ... I was on a forum where I said hello to everyone, interacted with everyone, made them feel welcome .... Everyone else got custom user titles, I got nada. Everyone else got recognized for their contributions, I got nada. It really hurt. To add insult to injury, the girl I loved was my best friend. She then goes and gets a NEW best friend, even after everything I did for her - all the parties I threw inmy name, all the money I have her, all the times I sat talking to her about her problems, and she just ditches me. It wasn't fair ... Ever since I was five I wanted a best friend. What, was I not good enough?! And now I'm close to giving up on people. Their lies, their deceit, their manipulation. After all I do to help and I get no credit. Well stuff them. Stuff everyone. I guess I wasn't meant to have a decent life with decent friends, but it's not asking for much!

paisleydoll Introducing Myself
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Hi, everyone. I guess I'm here because I hit a dark point again tonight. Contacted LifeLine for the first time because I realised how serious I was getting about making it all end. After being sexually abused by my high school drama teacher, being ph... View more

Hi, everyone. I guess I'm here because I hit a dark point again tonight. Contacted LifeLine for the first time because I realised how serious I was getting about making it all end. After being sexually abused by my high school drama teacher, being physically and mentally abused by my Mother's ex for over a decade, and constant bullying throughout school, I used to think that I could at least find a way to be "okay" by my early twenties. However, after being cheated on last year by the person I believed I would marry, before which was a string of numerous liars, things started going downhill again. My work life and university life have suffered immensely, as has my health. I have family members who are very unwell, and have just recently found out that my two closest friends are moving away, one internationally and one interstate. Ive had friends turning their back on me time and time again, and now I feel I'm stuck in another toxic romantic situation. I wake up every morning panicking, spend my day running on nervous energy, then cry myself to sleep and repeat the whole process. I'm 22, isn't this when things were meant to get better?

Isabella1803 Travelling and struggling
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Hello, this is my first post in beyond blue. I am 22 years old and I left Australia last week to come overseas for 5 months, this is my first big trip overseas and definitely the biggest thing I have done in regards to leaving my comfort zone, which ... View more

Hello, this is my first post in beyond blue. I am 22 years old and I left Australia last week to come overseas for 5 months, this is my first big trip overseas and definitely the biggest thing I have done in regards to leaving my comfort zone, which is a big thing for me. I have only been over here for one week and I am finding it so hard. I am travelling with two guys I am not all that comfortable with and we are just staying in hostels, there are plenty of nice people that I have met but I feel so far out of my comfort zone and so uncomfortable, I am just finding it so hard to even have a normal conversation with someone, I cant even manage that. I am so angry with myself that I am over here and all I want to do is go home to where I am most comfortable, the guys I am travelling with are not missing home at all and are just able to have fun and enjoy their time but I cant do that. I came over here with the hope that forcing myself out of my comfort zone would help me move forward and become more confident but its just not happening for me, I feel like I am going backwards and it's making me more and more depressed. I dont want to get up and do things during the day, I am most happy here when I am in bed and alone. I dont know how to break through this and start enjoying myself and at least be able to have conversations with people, I feel like I have bitten off way more than I can chew and now I really regret it.

Sambo Not feeling supported
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So just had a talk with my girlfriend who is very angry at my parents who havent really contacted me in the last three weeks. Yes its a bit hard me living in england and them in aus. But as i tried to commit suicide four days before i left for englan... View more

So just had a talk with my girlfriend who is very angry at my parents who havent really contacted me in the last three weeks. Yes its a bit hard me living in england and them in aus. But as i tried to commit suicide four days before i left for england, my girlfriend thinks that its a bit bad of them, i didnt really think about that much. My mum has emailed me but only 3 times and one saying sorry that she hadnt replied sooner as she was busy painting and also reminding me of my dads birthday coming up. After our talk i did start to think that it was a bit bad but i dont really know what to thnk. Even my brothers girlfriend has asked how ive been dong more than my mum. I just need some more support but i dont know what or how to ask. Sorry for the rant but just clearing my head!!

JackD 21 y/o Chronic Pain, Anxiety & Panic attacks
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My Name is Jack. I am 21 and I have suffered from Anxiety on and off for 3 years. My anxiety has been born out of having chronic back pain for 5 and a half years. I suffer from a herniated disc in my L4/L5 lower spine which I developed when I was 16.... View more

My Name is Jack. I am 21 and I have suffered from Anxiety on and off for 3 years. My anxiety has been born out of having chronic back pain for 5 and a half years. I suffer from a herniated disc in my L4/L5 lower spine which I developed when I was 16. This condition prevents me standing for long periods, bending without pain, sleeping, sitting for long periods. I can't work and have had to drop out of university because my anxiety has become so severe. I am due to have surgery for the second time to fix my problem in a couple of months.An initial panic attack while I was driving left me shaking, scared, confused and unable to drive before my mother had to come and get me. Since then, the fear of having another panic attack has left me battling against severe anxiety. While it comes and goes, I have been able to continue living quite well. In the last couple of years I have moved about 7 times which always makes my anxiety worse but eventually comes good. Recently, after moving, my anxiety became quite severe and I went to see my GP for some advice. Instead of referring me to a psychologist, he prescribed an SNRI for me to take daily and told me there was no risks taking it. While it did curb my anxiety temporarily, I cannot stress how unsettling the withdrawal symptoms were coming off this drug. These include chronic brain zaps (which occurred every time I turned my head) and anxiety.. thats right.. the withdrawal symptom of a drug that is meant to help anxiety causes anxiety.. I was only on this medication for only four months and it was a nightmare trying to come off it. I changed GP and he referred me to a psychologist while helped me to get to the core of my anxiety. This experience has helped me to learn about finding the right GP to talk to because not all of them are right and you need to do your own research about any medication they prescribe. I would advise anyone to see a psychologist before resorting to any sort of prescribed medication. While it is expensive, I was lucky enough to be given a Mental Health Plan which allows me 10 free psychologist visits through medicare. As someone who have no income, this was so helpful.I experience panic attacks, the feeling of electric shocks in my head, clouded thoughts, intense tightness around my ribs, tights muscles, shakiness, tiredness, increased heart rate, sweaty palms. My anxiety is a daily struggle but I am lucky enough to have a great support group including my GP, my friends and especially my family who have gone above and beyond to accommodate for my conditions.Here are some things that have helped me cope with anxiety: Finding a support group: Friends, Family, GP, counsellor or psychologist. Be social however you can, however brief, it helps you get out of your own head. Exercising and health: Walking 20-30 a day with music/podcast/audiobook, stretching, not drinking alcohol, avoiding too much sugar/caffeine. Learning: reading up on the symptoms of anxiety so you dont freak out when you experience it. Breathing: Slowing your breathing when you feel anxious, too much oxygen will lead to a panic attack. Being in touch with your body helps you understand what you need and when you need it. Distractions: when I find myself becoming more anxious, instead of feeding the fear I find something to distract myself, usually something physical like housework or something where I'm using my hands. Currently, I have had to drop out of university as my anxiety and pain have become more severe. Being inactive has not helped my anxiety so I'd advise to remain as active as possible when coping with anxiety.After my surgery, my hope is to return to a normal life where I am studying, being social and active, returning to surfing and appreciating what I have been through to become a better person and helping others.Also, for anyone suffering from chronic pain, there are copious support groups out there for people suffering from chronic pain. Managing chronic pain is a lot like managing anxiety. Accept that you have it and don't beat yourself up for having anxiety, its a serious, legitimate condition and should be treated as such. Thank you for reading my story.Jack.

wonderland_j74 no where to live at the moment.
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So things got slightly worse since my last post. I got into a violent fight with a family member and now I have a police order on me, ive been staying at my boyfriends and his family don't want me here. I am estranged from my mother, and the fight wa... View more

So things got slightly worse since my last post. I got into a violent fight with a family member and now I have a police order on me, ive been staying at my boyfriends and his family don't want me here. I am estranged from my mother, and the fight was with my grandmother, who would of made it her mission to tell the family. So it's been a few days and it's pretty clear my mother want to get involved,conveniently. I don't want to tell my dad because he hasn't been apart of my life for very long and I don't want to really get anyone involved. I just literally have no one older then me to help me or give me any support.