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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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mtill17 What Now...?
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This is my first post on beyond blue, or any similar website for that matter.I am currently in grade 11 at school, but I started getting hit by 'depression' back in grade 9. I have always been a high achiever kind of person, Academically speaking, I ... View more

This is my first post on beyond blue, or any similar website for that matter.I am currently in grade 11 at school, but I started getting hit by 'depression' back in grade 9. I have always been a high achiever kind of person, Academically speaking, I would be in the top section of all of my classes and get good grades, student leader etc. I was always pushed by my parents to achieve achieve achieve.. I feel like whilst I was so busy achieving I missed something crucial, I have never felt like I fit into society, there were always people who I would hang around, or be with at break but it always felt like I was tolerated, I never socialized with anybody outside of school. Over the next few years I reached out and attempted to build friendships with various people, in the end I always felt used, or like I was the person who people would only hang around if they needed me or I was the last person available. Other friendships lead into further spouts of depression, each time worse. For some reason people tend to unload on me, or feel as if they can talk to me; this lead to further stressors with me having to deal with other peoples troubles, I was then blamed for one of my "friends" attempts and feelings towards suicide. There have been other issues aswell.Due to these experiences I tend to not trust society, I have no social life, no 'real' friends. I know this is my own fault as I distanced myself because I know they will only let me down...Because I was always a school leader etc I spend ALOT of time volunteering for yearbook, stage productions and other projects around my school, this year I also took up a university course ontop of full subjects at school. I also work part time at mc donalds.Over these years teachers have picked up on me and I have been reported to the school chaplain for counselling. I tried opening up to her but the school called my parents and told them I was going to commitsuicide. This only made matters worse, my parents hassled me about it for a while but soon (and still now) seem to pretend it did not happen... in grade 9 in one of my bad stages I burst out and attacked my bestfriend.. (Super extremely irrational behaviour for me) . My ' depression' seems to come and go in stages mostly affecting me at the same time each year. I have never seen a doctor and and am thus unsure if I truly have depression? Am I dramatising nothing? I struggle to see a point in keeping on living but dont believe I could / would suicide?beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Grimmjow_ New to anxiety, really need help!
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Hi, I'm a 21 year old and I've just been diagnosed with anxiety and health anxiety.The trouble is I can't accept that I have it because I've been getting some very harsh and very REAL physical symptoms.I get pain in the back of my head, I feel dizzy,... View more

Hi, I'm a 21 year old and I've just been diagnosed with anxiety and health anxiety.The trouble is I can't accept that I have it because I've been getting some very harsh and very REAL physical symptoms.I get pain in the back of my head, I feel dizzy, blurred vision, stiff/painful neck, chest pains, heart palpitations and I have unexpected anxiety attacks all the time. They even wake me up in the middle of the night.I've been put on several different medications. But with all of them I had severe vomiting and the doctors concluded I was to sensitive to any type of these medications. I'm currently not on anything.I've had CT scans, blood tests and worn a holter monitor for 24 hours. They have all come back fine.I've convinced myself I'm going to have an aneurysm and this fear is affecting my life in terrible ways.Does anyone have any advice? Are these normal symptoms? This head pressure is too much!

Confused93 Help... clueless
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Hi Everyone, So about 6 months ago my partner and I discussed how I should go seek medical help cause I would have these days were I would feel worthless, completrly sad, unable to have any motivation to do anything. I have been this way for a very l... View more

Hi Everyone, So about 6 months ago my partner and I discussed how I should go seek medical help cause I would have these days were I would feel worthless, completrly sad, unable to have any motivation to do anything. I have been this way for a very long time experiencing random bouts of anger, anxiety etc it has gotten worse over time but I thought it was some to degree normal. My partner admitted to me that when we first started dating 2 yrs ago he could see the tell tail signs of anxiety and depression as he hd experience with it as his mums illness is incredibly severe. I am on medication and only on 20mg. My medication makes me not feel much except sadness or happiness nothing in between, ever since taking it my medication its only made things difficult between my partner and I, I just find that I just get really mad and angry at him and push him away all the time. I have been good for the past 3-4 weeks no fights no problems and have been absolutely normal which I was really enjoying and for some reason the moment my partner compliments me for how well I have been doing I snapped and I dont even know why and we have fought and been distant for the past week. Im soo confused I hate being this way I hate that I push my partner away I hate being different I just want to be normal have a normal relationship and be happy with life instead of being scared of everything and always thinking negatively. Please help, desperate im pushing away those that I love when I dont mean or want to!

M_A_D_ Always feeling like there is no point to life.
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Hi everyone, I'm not really sure how to write exactly how I'm feeling right not, but I'll do my best.I have always been an anxious person, even as a child, and recently I was diagnosed with mixed anxiety and depression by my counselor. I have been se... View more

Hi everyone, I'm not really sure how to write exactly how I'm feeling right not, but I'll do my best.I have always been an anxious person, even as a child, and recently I was diagnosed with mixed anxiety and depression by my counselor. I have been seeing her for a while, and we talk about lots of things, and for a while I feel like I can get better and life can be good. But eventually I end up in the same rut. I feel like I am worthless and that life isn't worth living. I feel like the people in my life would be much better off without me, and I often wish that I could fall asleep and not wake up.I am at university doing a degree that I find very difficult, and it just seems like all of the goals I have set myself never get achieved. I feel like I am just wasting mine and everyone else's time by being at uni and studying to only get mediocre results, despite the amount of effort I put in.My boyfriend of two years also has a chronic illness which impacts on the interactions we have. Although I love him very much, I feel like my anxiety just makes everything worse and when I get upset or offended by something that is essentially harmless, he loses a little love for me. I am scared to lose him, because I think that before either of us 'changed' we were perfect for each other. We understood each other and we were both happy. Now, we are both very unhappy, tired, frustrated and don't do the things we used to. I feel like I am ruining this relationship and that he would just be better off without me. I really don' t know what to do anymore, and feel like I am beyond help.M.A.D.beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Rubbyyc Anxiety?
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Hi, I just found this frantically mid tears trying to find some help so forgive me if it's not 'normal' So I had a really bad day at school today, and it was really just exemplifying how I've felt for the last three years at school, and I want to kno... View more

Hi, I just found this frantically mid tears trying to find some help so forgive me if it's not 'normal' So I had a really bad day at school today, and it was really just exemplifying how I've felt for the last three years at school, and I want to know if there actually is something wrong or if I'm just being a sook or something. Firstly, since year nine I've always felt very alone, all my friends have boyfriends and they all sit in one big group (literally everyone is in relationships bare 3 extra boys) and since year nine I've always tried to tag along and fit in with them. The problem is I never do, I love the girls and feel completely normal and comfortable around them, it's just the boys that I get so scared and nervous about. I'm constantly fretting and sweating and getting all red because i'm worried about what they're thinking of me and if they really hate me and don't want me there at all, so in the end I spend the whole time not speaking and waiting for the bell to go. Anyway so it got to a point this year when I just couldn't go over there anymore, I started studying in the library everyday, before school,during recess and lunch and that's where I still am 4 months on, only it's not just them anymore now it's the entire school I feel sick at the thought of walking into the atrium (cafeteria) and having everyone even look at me for a second. I know you're probably thinking wow what a melodramatic teenager, and yes i'm sorry about that. Today one of my girlfriends from that group sat with me and wants me to come back but the thought of that actually shakes me to tears, I can't even imagine how I would go down and face everyone. Secondly, I've realised over the years that I avoid all public confrontation with anyone , this is as simple as a good morning to teachers or a wave to someone I know in public (I usually hide so they can't see me, or leave wherever I am immediately), I avoid everyone at all costs and don't even get me started on talking to strangers. I also never speak out in classes, and fret about social situations like a party for ageeees leading up to it. So even if this isn't anxiety can anyone help me? I'm starting to become a little desperate and upset I just want to feel as confident as everyone else talking to people but the idea just sends shivers down my spine and makes my palms sweaty. Again sorry for being a sook.

Misslauren93 Alone in a room full of people
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The thing I am finding the hardest to cope with is that when I put on my brave face and go out in public everyone thinks I am magically Better and no longer need help or support They don't see the mess once the doors are closed I am not good at being... View more

The thing I am finding the hardest to cope with is that when I put on my brave face and go out in public everyone thinks I am magically Better and no longer need help or support They don't see the mess once the doors are closed I am not good at being alone and I hate being around people I just want to scream, no I'm not ok! Everyone says they will be there If you ever need but I don't see one person here, just another empty room

Jade12 sad for no reason
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It seems like lately every task, no matter how small has been tiring and impossible. I have been having frequent headaches and panic attacks. These can be triggered off by anything from waiting for a test to period pains. I recently broke up with my ... View more

It seems like lately every task, no matter how small has been tiring and impossible. I have been having frequent headaches and panic attacks. These can be triggered off by anything from waiting for a test to period pains. I recently broke up with my boyfriend I'd had for 1 year. I understand that it was destined to happen, it was not a healthy relationship. The loneliness is becoming overwhelming, I am doing by best to cope with these feelings.

hunt90 Just thoughts and help on my regards to this post thanks (anxiety and Panic)
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hey im brodie im 24 next month im just writing as i had a massive meltdown and was put on medication they took the edge of things and stopped the frequent attacks now being on them for bit over a month now i feel like im starting to get the feelings ... View more

hey im brodie im 24 next month im just writing as i had a massive meltdown and was put on medication they took the edge of things and stopped the frequent attacks now being on them for bit over a month now i feel like im starting to get the feelings again and the random thoughts in my head i saw my gp yesterday he up my dose my wonder is if anyone has experienced this or have any side afects uping the dosei had a severe gambling problem and pretty much drank every night then once this break down occured i havnt gambled or drank since so i feel i have a emptyness there from being so caught up with that for all those years now im seeing things different and guess its just different for me id realy apreciate it if someone on here could get back to me even help with strategies thanks

miss_d struggling
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Today is the worst. I just feel so empty and alone. I feel like my insides are breaking. The one person I thought I could rely on has failed. The anxiety is just killing me. I have hardly eaten anything in the last few days and all I can think about ... View more

Today is the worst. I just feel so empty and alone. I feel like my insides are breaking. The one person I thought I could rely on has failed. The anxiety is just killing me. I have hardly eaten anything in the last few days and all I can think about is how I want to be gone. I just want to feel nothing. I feel like I could have everything in the world and I would still feel sad and alone. Its crap. I have almost forgotten what it feels like to be happy and enjoy something. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Bigc Worrying about something you are 99.9% sure didn't happen??
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I currently have a girlfriend who i love heaps. Even though i thought having a girlfriend and being really happy would solve my anxiety and depression issues it didn't. Currently i am worrying about something which i know is stupid and didn't happen ... View more

I currently have a girlfriend who i love heaps. Even though i thought having a girlfriend and being really happy would solve my anxiety and depression issues it didn't. Currently i am worrying about something which i know is stupid and didn't happen however i let it get to my head, and think that maybe it did happen. I recently had a dream that i was in my girlfriends bed and her sister walked in and we talked about weird stuff and kissed and a little more but not intercourse. As the only time this could have been possible was when i was alone in her bed which is between 7-9.30 when i was alone and she left for work early in the morning. I would never do anything like that and i am so against cheating which is why i think it is getting to me so much. I am so confident it didn't happen that i even told my girlfriend and she just laughed. Has anything similar happened to anyone else and have you got any advice? Thanks