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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Liam007 I'm worried that I'm doing the wrong thing entirely
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For the last week I've been having negative emotions and having worries, and in the last week I feel like I've gone overboard in expressing it. So far I have:Used the Beyondblue chat at least four timesCreated 5 threads on the forum, including this o... View more

For the last week I've been having negative emotions and having worries, and in the last week I feel like I've gone overboard in expressing it. So far I have:Used the Beyondblue chat at least four timesCreated 5 threads on the forum, including this oneBooked an appointment to see a youth counselor.Seen my school counselor 3 timesSigned up for a another forum and used the online chat service thereI feel like I'm going overboard in trying to deal with the whole thing. I'm anxious, feeling like I'm handling the whole situation wrong, like I'm doing to much, but I find I do it because I need to keep myself calm and relaxed as I'm on a long waiting list to see a youth counselor. I also think I use this forum a little too much, I check it more than I check my FaceBook now. Am I going overboard with trying to get to the bottom of this? Is there anything I should do to ease up? Is it okay if I use the online chat when I feel more sad, lonely and anxious than usual? Anything I should tell myself to control this? This has been going on for a while I feel slightly nervous even writing this post.I just want to state that I'm NOT consideringself harm or anything like that.Thanks,Liam

Leena Constant feeling that something bad will happen
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I'm 20, lately things have been looking up for me after being not so good for a long time.I feel like, because things are moving along well, something is bound to destroy that.I worry about the possibility of me dying soon - by accident/illness, as w... View more

I'm 20, lately things have been looking up for me after being not so good for a long time.I feel like, because things are moving along well, something is bound to destroy that.I worry about the possibility of me dying soon - by accident/illness, as well as things like losing my partner, being fired, failing my degree, losing my home, anything that means I won't finally get to enjoy my life now that it is almost the way I always wished it to be

hannah_banana I don't know how to make friends, I feel so alone
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I am 22 and I haven't been in a social circle or had friends since I left high school I feel like something clicks off in my brain when I am in a conversation with people I am not close to and I find it hard to get past saying 'hello' and 'how are yo... View more

I am 22 and I haven't been in a social circle or had friends since I left high school I feel like something clicks off in my brain when I am in a conversation with people I am not close to and I find it hard to get past saying 'hello' and 'how are you' I don't know if I will ever make friends again, I am creative and I find it very hard to see past my own visualisations of the world. I am so shy and awkward all of the time. I am terrified of walking on my own, my biggest fear is that I will be abducted and tortured... Does anyone else have this fear? I feel scared as a woman that people just see me as a sex object and I just want to hide away. I am scared of so many things and I feel so insignificant but I don't know what to do that will help, I am too scared to talk to the doctor about my issues and I tried talking to my boyfriend- he says that I don't need help and that I am making it all up. I do not have a support network or anybody I can talk to. I don't have a family. I have one sister that I talk to who laughs at everything I do wrong. I feel so alone.

Liam007 I Blame Myself....for everything
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I have trouble with self acceptance. I find that I constantly blame myself for EVERY mistake that goes wrong. Friend is upset and when I try offer support they only get worse = my fault Friends don't want to talk to me = my fault I try to help someon... View more

I have trouble with self acceptance. I find that I constantly blame myself for EVERY mistake that goes wrong. Friend is upset and when I try offer support they only get worse = my fault Friends don't want to talk to me = my fault I try to help someone but they don't want my help or I feel they are annoyed by me= my fault I embarrass myself when I'm talking to a new person I just met= MY FAULT and so on....I don't feel like I have general shyness I feel like I'm coming across as an idiot whenever I stuttered or stop for a second to think about I want to say next. I feel like a weirdo. I don't know when something is actually my fault or if it was just bad luck or the situation was out of my control or if I made no mistake to begin with. I feel like I'm doing something wrong constantly. Am I worrying too much? Should I give myself more of a chance? Thanks, Liam

Skiitz123 I need help!
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Hey everyone i am 18 years old and currently in the middle of joining the Army.In the army, You are NOT aloud anxiety or depression, So i had to say that i didn't have it.i was in a routine for awhile of waking up early, Training and going to bed at ... View more

Hey everyone i am 18 years old and currently in the middle of joining the Army.In the army, You are NOT aloud anxiety or depression, So i had to say that i didn't have it.i was in a routine for awhile of waking up early, Training and going to bed at a reasonable hour and repeated that for a while and whilst doing thismy Anxiety had disappeared! Iv fallen out of routine and my anxiety has come back and hit harder than ever! For the last week or 2 it's been really bad and nothing seems to be helping, Im trying to get back into routine and see if that helps but no sign of it helping just yet.... But i will keep trying. When i was younger i smoke marijuana for the first time and it was laced with ice but i didnt know and it caused me to hallucinate so when my anxiety kicks in, It feels as if im going hallucinate again! I seek help instantly because im scared i wont join the army and scared that il never be the same or normal again! Iv had suicidal thoughts too thats how bad its hit me..... I havnt left bed all day as im too scared to do anything really........ help me please... What should i do i want it completely gone forvever! beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

cherrycola feeling disconnected
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I just need to write this down somewhere.I feel very disassociated from the world. I feel I have no true purpose. Lately I have been doing a lot of reading and research into consciousness and enlightenment, and while giving me a lot of new insights a... View more

I just need to write this down somewhere.I feel very disassociated from the world. I feel I have no true purpose. Lately I have been doing a lot of reading and research into consciousness and enlightenment, and while giving me a lot of new insights and thoughts, it has made me feel quite apathetic towards the conditioned life I have come to know. I am only 22 years old and I am already sick of getting up every day to go to work, just so I can pay to survive in a world that seems to only be going downhill. I feel I have no deeper purpose and this is really starting to get me down. I love my family and my friends, don't get me wrong. But I hate that I am here on this Earth struggling simply to survive. And I know everyone probably feels like this. But we shouldn't be feeling like this. Life is a miraculous thing. And here we are, stuck working jobs most of us hate, struggling just to survive most of the time. Andnothing seems to be getting better. And to be honest, I think the only reason I'm still in this world is the fear that if I was to end my life, I would just come back and have to do the same damn thing. I don't know how to get out of this mindset. I know the world doesn't owe me a favour, and that everyone struggles at times, but I just feel like that isn't how we are supposed to be doing this life thing. I feel like this message doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of my thoughts on this topic. I don't really know how to best articulate the things I am thinking right now. All I know is that I'm tired of feeling this way. And I'm not sure what to do. beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

guest147 Unemployment
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I have no idea what to do. I have no idea what is wrong with me and why I'm not being hired. I have tried my hardest for a year now and still have nothing. There must be something wrong with me. I just feel hopeless and as if I am never going to get ... View more

I have no idea what to do. I have no idea what is wrong with me and why I'm not being hired. I have tried my hardest for a year now and still have nothing. There must be something wrong with me. I just feel hopeless and as if I am never going to get anywhere and as though I will never, ever amount to anything. I've been having suicidal thoughts. I don't know how much longer I can do this for...beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Riot I'm sick of feeling this way
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I'm feeling super depressed at the moment. I am really trying to get better but I don't know if I'll be able to any longer. I want to reach two weeks of being clean but at the rate I'm going I don't think it's going to happen. I'm just sick if feelin... View more

I'm feeling super depressed at the moment. I am really trying to get better but I don't know if I'll be able to any longer. I want to reach two weeks of being clean but at the rate I'm going I don't think it's going to happen. I'm just sick if feelings this way.I have been battling depression as self harm for around two years now and I sometimes get better for a month or two but it gets bad again. I just need someone to talk to..beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Ocean_Eyes Do you ever feel like you are the only one ?
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Hello,This is my first time to a forum and really my first time on a site to help with depression. I have been struggling with depression for 10, almost 11 years now, I wasn't "medically diagnosed" until I was 18 (5 almost 6 years ago). And you know ... View more

Hello,This is my first time to a forum and really my first time on a site to help with depression. I have been struggling with depression for 10, almost 11 years now, I wasn't "medically diagnosed" until I was 18 (5 almost 6 years ago). And you know it's really funny and sad that no one offered to help me until I tried to kill myself and ended up in hospital. I feel though that doctors just throw medication at me to make me "feel better" I don't actually feel like they try to understand or even want to help. I have such a long story, but I don't want to waste any ones time. I just want to know if anyone else feels like I do.I recently stopped taking my medication (without medical advice) I've been on daily medication for the past 5 years on and off. But I don't want to take it any more, when I do I can't feel anything. When I don't I become completely unstable. I just want someone to talk to who has or is experiencing the same feelings I am.I don't want advice or opinions. I just want someone to understand. I don't want to talk to my family or my friends, I don't want them to worry or feel sympathetic. It makes me feel pathetic. I feel like a lousy mum. Are there any other mums like this ? Why can't I be normal ?beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

m3ly91 How can I make my life better and others as well?
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If there was an app you could use to better your life, what elements would it need to have? I want to better my life and am trying to find ways to do this, apps seem to be every day things now so I am trying to also see what i could create to make my... View more

If there was an app you could use to better your life, what elements would it need to have? I want to better my life and am trying to find ways to do this, apps seem to be every day things now so I am trying to also see what i could create to make my life more happy and others as well. I want to be happier, more positive and achieve more but am always being brought down. What could exist for you to push you through hard times that doesn't exist now?