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Break ups and emotions

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Hi, I'm new to this but I'll try to be as honest as i can and hope for the best. This is the first time I've reached out for help. I haven't been to a counsellor of my own accord before and cant seem to find the courage to talk to my doctor about it.... View more

Hi, I'm new to this but I'll try to be as honest as i can and hope for the best. This is the first time I've reached out for help. I haven't been to a counsellor of my own accord before and cant seem to find the courage to talk to my doctor about it. I have been feeling depressed and miserable for a long time. Maybe since my father died of cancer 3 years ago. Maybe since I broke up with my last girlfriend. Who treated me exceptionally poorly. She slept with my friends and strangers. She manipulated and used me. And it took me so long to realise that this wasn't love. I was stupid to stay with her through the cheating and lies. I suddenly realised that she changed everything i loved about myself. I hated myself. But somehow I found the courage to break up with her. It was a really confronting time for me. Trying to find my self again. 6 months after leaving her i found the love of my life. We have in the last year moved in together and built a busy but beautiful life together. Sometimes I just find it hard to muster up a smile and enjoy the fact that I'm alive. Recently I had a break down in front of my girlfriend, I told her she was the only thing that made me happy in my life. It scared the shit out of her and made her think of herself and whether she's truly happy. I love her more than anything in the world and even though I struggled to keep up with her lifestyle I put all my energy into being the best Girlfriend i could be for her. She's the most self-less person I've ever met. Dedicates her time to helping everyone around her and never has time for herself. She lost herself too. We broke up last week. So I guess I'm just trying to find a reason to get out of this rut and make a better life for myself. I am having a good day today. I had a bad day yesterday and had to leave work because I had an anxiety attack. I don't know what will happen tomorrow. I just want to know how to heal. How to have a healthy relationship without loosing myself. How do I cope?

Uni Anxiety

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I am currently studying clinical sciences majoring in Psychology when I have just found out that the major of Psychology has been revoked leaving me high and dry and needing to change majors and even maybe courses I am having the usual panic, heart p... View more

I am currently studying clinical sciences majoring in Psychology when I have just found out that the major of Psychology has been revoked leaving me high and dry and needing to change majors and even maybe courses I am having the usual panic, heart palpitations, lack of sleep and just worry. So I am just attempting to make a clear pathway on what to do, Just have no idea where to start. Suggestions would be appreciated

I have lost 5 Job and my anxiety is coming back.

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Nobody seems to want to employ me for more than a week. I finally got a diploma in music so I could move away from hospitality. Music is my passion and my family were so proud of me when I was offered a job as a piano teacher. I lasted for a month, u... View more

Nobody seems to want to employ me for more than a week. I finally got a diploma in music so I could move away from hospitality. Music is my passion and my family were so proud of me when I was offered a job as a piano teacher. I lasted for a month, until one of the parents complained to my boss that I was a terrible teacher and her kids weren't learning. Her kids told me they never practise. I go out of my way to print out notes and prepare them for each lesson. I had so much confidence until my boss fired me from this mother's complaint. He said i'm a good teacher but he has to appeal to the parents. I got another job at another school shortly after, and the same parent had come in and told the boss there. Since then, I have not received a phone call to come into work.I am so afraid of my future.i am now 21 and have never lasted in a job long enough to earn a living. I may not be the most bubbly outgoing person, look like a neive young girl, but I am a good worker and smarter than I look. People do not seem to like me. I was bullied by co workers and the manager there laughed at me, on purposly gave me shifts when I went on a holiday and never gave me any when I was free. She fired me. I have suffered from bullying and discrimination throughout school, I didn't have any real friends. The only thing good that's happened since is that I joined my first rock band, made a few real friends and lots of guys think i'm hot. My friends are mainly 30-40 year old musicians. I never had much in common with people in my age group, in fact if I'm in a situation where i have to talk to another girl my age I get really anxious and afraid of being judged.I want to try study for my bachelor's degree in music next year, but I fear that I still won't get a job because people just don't want to hire a shy person. Sometimes when I'm around people I feel like running away and crying. Mostly when I'm with my friends I'm drinking and smoking. Somehow when I do this I feel more talkative and confident around people. Some days when I choose not to drink, people accuse me of being too quiet.Sorry if all my sentences are in a muddle. I should be greatful for the other things I've achieved, but I am very nervous about my future and feel even more inconfident that I am not independent. Centrelink won't give me money until I'm 22, but I don't want to be on the dole I want to make my own money. I'd appreciate some advice. Thanks for reading this.

Terrified of Travelling

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So I've never been overseas before but have really really wanted to. At my uni there was an info session last week about a volunteer program for going overseas for two weeks during the summer (in December), you volunteer for one week, going adventuri... View more

So I've never been overseas before but have really really wanted to. At my uni there was an info session last week about a volunteer program for going overseas for two weeks during the summer (in December), you volunteer for one week, going adventuring for the second, I knew I wanted to do this so I signed up. For the first few days afterwards I was so incredibly excited, but now I'm absolutely freaking out. I'm annoyed at myself that I made the decision to go so fast, and I'm wondering if I did actually make the right one. I'm so scared and freaked out inside. Last night I felt like throwing up, my legs felt weak and I was hyperventilating, my mind was racing and my heart was pounding so fast. I'm having trouble concentrating on my uni work and can't think clearly. I'm only 19 and last night I had to go sit next to my mum while she was watching some TV to try to feel better. I'm so scared and part of me just wants to cancel it all and forget about it. But I do want to go and don't want to chicken out. While I was excited I told a number of people too and I don't want to chicken out. But I'm so scared. Even when I'm relatively calm I just have this deep ache in my chest. I want to do this but now all of a sudden I just want to forget all about it. I'm wondering if I should see a doctor. But it's still 9 months away so I don't know why I'm freaking out. Help me please!

Feeling alone and can't stop comparing myself to others.

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Hi everyone, I'm going to warn you this might be long but I'll try to make it as short as possible. So six years ago my mum was diagnosed with a muscular disorder and unfortunately due to a prior wrong diagnosis had to have her leg amputated. A short... View more

Hi everyone, I'm going to warn you this might be long but I'll try to make it as short as possible. So six years ago my mum was diagnosed with a muscular disorder and unfortunately due to a prior wrong diagnosis had to have her leg amputated. A short while after, my grandmother who was her carer died of cancer. I then became her primary carer at 18. It was really isolating and every day seemed harsh and strenuous. During this time I met a guy, he liked me and I liked him...but he didn't realise and met someone else. I was pretty devastated and didn't really have anyone to talk to about it. I met my ex eight months later, for a while I was happy...until his high school sweet heart came back from France. They've been together ever since. I recently heard the first guy, who I will call Anthony, broke up with his girlfriend. Yes...I did have that small sliver of hope, he did like met at one time and said if he had have known before he would have picked me. But I heard he might fancy someone else only five months later. In 2013 a 'friend' who I had confided in about my situation had told our community about it. I was excluded, laughed at, stared at like an exotic animal. Before this happened she would always belittle me. Anthony is now friends with her and she now has a boyfriend. I just feel like their lives are all so much better, and yet they've been nasty to me. I've now been single for three years, Anthony breaks up with his ex and he meets someone five months later.... I've struggled with my mother, I've done part time work when I can and volunteer work to keep my skills up to date. I've went back and done my year 12, went to art school for one year and am now studying teaching. Yet...I still feel sad and some days I'll just burst into tears. I have one close friend, I went to church and made acquaintances. I see them once a week, so it's just a routine of study and mum, then in the holidays, work. I have this fear I won't ever meet anyone and have started to be really panicky when I'm on my own, which is often. It feels so draining. Also I don't understand how they could treat me so poorly, and walk away happy. I used to believe in karma, now I'm not so sure. If I repeated anything or made and mistakes. I apologise but I'm feeling really emotional right now and it's late. Thank you if you managed to read all this.

I think I'm depressed

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I've just started uni and I'm finding it hard to make friends. Mum has gone to England for a year and I miss her, her partner and my younger half siblings so much. My other half sister won't see my dad, and he's got depression, it's like he's a diffe... View more

I've just started uni and I'm finding it hard to make friends. Mum has gone to England for a year and I miss her, her partner and my younger half siblings so much. My other half sister won't see my dad, and he's got depression, it's like he's a different person. I find myself not going out, and my self esteem is pretty low at the moment.

I just need someone to ask hows it going.

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Pretty much I just need someone to come say "Hey man, hows it going" or tell me they are my friend. I already know that they are but it's good to hear it from them. I don't care if I don't know you i'd be nice hearing it from time to time View more

Pretty much I just need someone to come say "Hey man, hows it going" or tell me they are my friend. I already know that they are but it's good to hear it from them. I don't care if I don't know you i'd be nice hearing it from time to time

I'm being ignored because of my depression?

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I'm in year 12 at school and my teachers are trying to make it an easy year for me because I'm struggling. Two of my friends have been outrightly ignoring me in English and Religion because I have been getting 'special privileges'. They suggest I dro... View more

I'm in year 12 at school and my teachers are trying to make it an easy year for me because I'm struggling. Two of my friends have been outrightly ignoring me in English and Religion because I have been getting 'special privileges'. They suggest I drop out of school and go to TAFE instead, but I want to finish year 12 before I try TAFE. Being ignored by them is only worsening my depression, but I don't want to tell them that because they'll only say that I'm saying it to make them feel bad or because I'm too soft or something like that. I've been friends with them for years, I don't know why they're treating me like this now. I want to keep up our friendship, but in English and Religion at school they've been horrible to me. What do I do? They're making me want to skip English and Religion.

Catharsis

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Hi I guess I'll get straight to it. I'm a 20 y/o male and I think I could do with some help. When I was younger I lived with my mother and my two sisters. My mother has a lot of issues in her past that still plague her to this day. She never really h... View more

Hi I guess I'll get straight to it. I'm a 20 y/o male and I think I could do with some help. When I was younger I lived with my mother and my two sisters. My mother has a lot of issues in her past that still plague her to this day. She never really had a good relationship with her family as far as I can tell and decided to move us across the country and change our family name so that we could not be found. We moved around a lot; always a new school, a new house. When I was 8 we moved states again. When I fourteen I started to feel very rotten. I started staying home some days and not handing in work at school. My sisters and I would ask my mum questions about our fathers and our family and it would always end up messy. When I was 15 I left home to live with my sister oldest sister who had left home the year earlier at 18. She had finished year 12 and started working and I was still in high school. Each month that went by this rotten feeling intensified and each month I found myself attending school less and less and submitting work less and less. High school had finished and I had just scraped by. When I was in college this pattern repeated itself, gradually intensifying. I would only attend two or three, sometimes one day a week. The days I didn't go I would sleep until 5:pm and stay up until 5:am. Then I would only attend music class. Obviously this lead to failing college. After college I moved in with a friend who went to university and I started a TAFE course so that I could get a better job. Self destructive pattern: rinse and repeat. When I was 18 I found out my father had passed. I felt rotten to the core. My girlfriend left me and I stopped talking to most of my friends, the ones that I did talk to I was convinced that they thought I was a joke. I formed a drug dependency and went to the doctor looking for help. I was going to see the head headshrinker but I didn't have the money and so I left with the GP telling me I looked like a healthy young man (even though I told him about the drugs) and a prescription for some mild anti-depressants. I took them for a couple of months but didn't feel any better for it and didn't feel any worse for it when I stopped. A couple of months later I moved states again with a mate and started studying. I study online and am inside most of the day but recently I have started falling back into old habits. Sorry for the essay, just thought context might be handy. I would just like to feel better. Thanks

Am I just being dramatic?

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I don't know how to clearly write this, in fact it took a while to work up the courage to even make an account. I guess I just want to finally know whether I do have social anxiety, or am I just blowing things out of proportion and should just shut u... View more

I don't know how to clearly write this, in fact it took a while to work up the courage to even make an account. I guess I just want to finally know whether I do have social anxiety, or am I just blowing things out of proportion and should just shut up and get over it? I dread phone calls, especially customer service. I will sit there thinking about what I'm going to say for the longest time before working up the courage to make the call. Sometimes I'll write down what I want to say. During said phone call I'll be sweating, heart thumping loudly, and my voice gets all strange and croaky. Whenever I'm alone and out in public I think everybody is looking at me. If a stranger on the street speaks to me I'll sometimes freeze up or stutter and start sweating. Then after they leave I'll start rewinding the encounter and wondering if I said or did anything stupid like god, they think I'm a weirdo. It could just be a "Hello, nice weather today!" and I'd still stress over it. Negative social experiences and rejection have made things a lot worse these past few years. The only two times I managed to land a job interview I was rejected, and one of the jobs I really badly wanted. Since then I have never tried to apply for part-time work because I just don't want to experience that feeling of rejection ever again. Socialising is basically me thinking I've said something stupid every second line. Then walking away believing they don't like me. Eye contact is hard for me but I try my best because I know it's rude and distant not to, but I find that when I'm with a friend and talking to someone new, the said person always gives eye contact to my friend and never to me. So then I start feeling inferior and stop talking, then I go home and feeling like I'm boring and unwanted. This has happened so many times I've simply stopped trying to make new friends already. It gets tiring. I can't talk to authority without making a fool out of myself. I constantly think they're judging me for being an idiot, especially teachers. These past few years in university I have felt the worst. I can't find the courage to seek counseling or talk to a GP or anything, just this forum. And there's no way I'm telling my family or friends. I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm sorry for letting out all my thoughts. My case is obviously nowhere near as serious as the ones in this forum, I don't get panic attacks or vomit or anything. I probably don't even have an anxiety problem sorry.

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Break ups and emotions

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Uni Anxiety

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I have lost 5 Job and my anxiety is coming back.

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Terrified of Travelling

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Feeling alone and can't stop comparing myself to others.

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I think I'm depressed

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I just need someone to ask hows it going.

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I'm being ignored because of my depression?

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Catharsis

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Am I just being dramatic?

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Break ups and emotions

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Uni Anxiety

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I have lost 5 Job and my anxiety is coming back.

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Terrified of Travelling

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Feeling alone and can't stop comparing myself to others.

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I think I'm depressed

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I just need someone to ask hows it going.

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I'm being ignored because of my depression?

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Catharsis

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Am I just being dramatic?

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