Young people

Depressed or just being dramatic??

replies: 3

Hi, I'm 16 for about the past 18 months i have been really down, and I think it is getting worse. You see, I am always comparing my self to my older sister who is really academic and hard working and always has a one up on me. I just feel like I am n... View more

Hi, I'm 16 for about the past 18 months i have been really down, and I think it is getting worse. You see, I am always comparing my self to my older sister who is really academic and hard working and always has a one up on me. I just feel like I am never going to be good enough, especially because she had this teacher last year who loved her, and she got a super good study score and now I have that same teacher for the same subject this year. I hate going to work because my sister works there and she is a great worker and I feel that there is an expectation that I have to be the same, and then we get comments on how cute and how similar we are and I just hate it. Lately I have been feeling distant from my friends, particularly because two of them (they ones whom I hang out with the most) have boyfriends and I don't... Which I don't care about, but I am always the odd one. My other friend, who I have been friends with since kinder sort of ditched me last year for this other girl, who turned out to be a b**ch, so then she came back to me and we sort of rekindled the relationship. Then, again this year she has just left me all together and hangs out with different people and the worst part is her mum and my mum are best friends and I feel like her mum is some how still trying to force us to be friends. I also play basketball and I am really bad but our team isn't really competitive, but I always get the sympathy vote and it makes me feel worthless, like I am a child. I have had quite bad acne and mum took me too the doctors last year because I was a bit self-conscious and I got some medication to clear my skin up, I am off it now but my skin has flared up again, mum wants to take me back to the doctors but I just don't care anymore. I have been feeling really hopeless, sad, frustrated and stressed (especially about school and after school) lately. Some days are good and I am happy for a bit, and then someone will say something or do something and it will put me into a 'bad' mood. Im too scared to tell anyone how I am feeling because I don't want to tell mum and dad because I don't want to disappoint them and I feel like my problems are pointless and irrelevant, especially because there are other people that have much bigger problems than mine and I don't want it to look attention seeking. am I depressed or just being dramatic? Sorry for lots of writing

Can't afford to lose more family members

replies: 1

Right now, it has been over a year since this tragic event has happened. For two/three years, my Nana was diagnose with cancer. Early March in 2014, she lost her battle and passed away. She was the closest grandmother I had. The one who cared for me,... View more

Right now, it has been over a year since this tragic event has happened. For two/three years, my Nana was diagnose with cancer. Early March in 2014, she lost her battle and passed away. She was the closest grandmother I had. The one who cared for me, who loved me, who was always there when things got tough. So hard to lose her. A few months later, my mum's uncle passed away from a heart attack. The weight of struggle have added more to my shoulders. I was becoming more stressed. A while later, my idol and favourite actor, Robin Williams committed suicide which took me off guard. I was not expecting this to happened. He was the reason why I wanted to become an actor. And now, I don't know why... The weights was again added. And before Christmas, one of my aunt passed away from liver failure. More weight was added. It proves that 2014 was not my best year for me. I thought 2015 would be a year ignore the pain and more on. I was wrong. As the year was coming to an end, my mum's cousin (the son of my mum's late uncle) passed away from heart problems. Right now, after what has happened to my family, I was worried of who going to be next. Will it be my dad? My mum? My siblings? My cousins? Aunts? Uncles? Anyone I know? I'm bottling all this anxiety inside of me and I haven't been myself lately - even though I have always put on a brave face for most of the time. I could really use a talk... anything to get this off my mind...

It's debilitating

replies: 5

I have had depression and anxiety for the past 4 or so years, and have been treating it for the past 2 and a half years. Long story short, I've tried most the options out there, and they generally work. But I've found that no matter how much help you... View more

I have had depression and anxiety for the past 4 or so years, and have been treating it for the past 2 and a half years. Long story short, I've tried most the options out there, and they generally work. But I've found that no matter how much help you have, no matter how much effort and work you put in to getting better, no matter how many fail safes you have in place, I always end up at some point or another being super down, and not having anything or anyone to help. I see a psych, i try to exercise as much as I can, I try to eat often and healthy, I try to get out and enjoy life, I try to keep my stress as low as possible, i TRY to be better but it just gets the better of me in the end. I have a super caring family and a super caring boyfriend and super caring friends, but I feel like I can't talk to them anymore. I've been through the worst part of depression, the suicidal stuff, the self harm stuff, and now they all think I'm getting better. I mean, even I thought I was getting better. I AM better, way better than I was a year ago. But lately it's been coming back, hard and fast, just like it used to. I don't really understand, I know I'm stressed about uni and work and money like always, I've taken out most the things that used to trigger me in my life. But I'm starting to get those irrational thoughts and feelings again, and I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it. They all think I'm getting better, and I feel so ashamed to let on that I'm getting worse again. I'm a perfectionist so me going backwards is not easy to deal with on its own, but seeing the hurt I'm starting to cause my boyfriend again because I can't cope with simple day to day stuff that has to be done.. My friends and family are busy and I don't want to interrupt their day complaining about how sad I am. They've all been there and done that, I feel like I can't go there again otherwise it's just like I'm trying to get attention, which I guess I kind of am. My boyfriend has his own stuff to do and can't drop everything every time I feel like this because I feel like this a lot. I thought I was getting better but now it seems I'm going back to where I started, and I can't cope with that

Feeling alone

replies: 1

Hey, I've suffered with anxiety for about 5 years and suffering with depression for the same amount of time i feel unwanted and alone at school. i don't really know what to do. It hurts a lot to feel like this because I'm the one that has to call the... View more

Hey, I've suffered with anxiety for about 5 years and suffering with depression for the same amount of time i feel unwanted and alone at school. i don't really know what to do. It hurts a lot to feel like this because I'm the one that has to call them to hang out and so on. i don't know what to do please help me.

i have a boyfriend but i also like another guy

replies: 2

Hey, I’m 17 years old and I am a girl. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. I really love him and see us going in for the long run. However a few weeks ago I was at a party were I met a guy the same age. We really got along and we good chemist... View more

Hey, I’m 17 years old and I am a girl. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. I really love him and see us going in for the long run. However a few weeks ago I was at a party were I met a guy the same age. We really got along and we good chemistry. I’ve started to developed a crush on the guy that I met at the party, Ive been thinking about him a lot and I really want to kiss him. I think he might like me back but i'm not sure. I don't know what to do because I like both of them. Can You help?

Mum and Dad don't understand sometimes.

replies: 2

Hey guys, So, I just started my HSC year, time flies hey. Anyway, I'v been affected by a number of stress, anxiety and depression related instances for probably the better part of two years now, but have only really started to surface in the current ... View more

Hey guys, So, I just started my HSC year, time flies hey. Anyway, I'v been affected by a number of stress, anxiety and depression related instances for probably the better part of two years now, but have only really started to surface in the current year due to the rigor of these last few years of my schooling. The pieces of the puzzle are starting to come together gradually, as I see a psychologist as well am on medication for my depression related feelings (I like to call them 'motivation issues', I hate the word 'depression'). And while that's all fine and dandy and certain aspects of my life seem a bit brighter, the major hurdle is getting mum and dad to fully grasp how I feel. They are both really understanding most of the time and I really appreciate the effort they put into doing their best for me and listening too me, but sometimes it is incredibly frustrating. My feelings generally lie in the region of that I have little to nothing to look forward too a majority of the time. I get little pleasure in lots of the things I used to enjoy and life as I see it, it just a constant grinding machine that doesn't stop. I hate the fact that I have to act joyful and happy around everyone, when in reality, I'm not. Perhaps its the way I describe it that doesn't help mum and dad understand. Most of the time I get comments like 'everyone has those days' etc. I occasionally have days of school when I'm just not feeling up to anything, today for example, but I hate taking them because sometimes I either loose the privilege of going to a party or an outing, or something else that is not in the weekly timetable, is used as leverage against me. "If I cant handle one day of school, then you won't be able to handle a party". I understand their frustration, but these few outings are my only glimmers of hope and enjoyment in what is often just a dull and repetitive life for me. The only people that really understand how I feel, are medical professionals and friends who have gone through the same things as myself. The more I talk to my parents about it all, the less I want to do it in the future, as while it is ok to talk, just every few weeks I get that blasting on how "life isnt fair" and "just have to put up with it". I truly love my parents and appreciate everything they have ever done for me, thinking about them is the only thing that stops me from doing something drastic to put my mind off this hell for just a little bit. Any advice would be fantastic.

I'm lost and I don't know what to do

replies: 3

First of all I am not diagnosed with depression or anxiety but I fear I am heading in that direction. My family life is falling to pieces and I feel as if I no longer belong in my friend group. First of all my parents are not happily married. I'm not... View more

First of all I am not diagnosed with depression or anxiety but I fear I am heading in that direction. My family life is falling to pieces and I feel as if I no longer belong in my friend group. First of all my parents are not happily married. I'm not sure if they were ever in love. I've heard them argue and shout, constantly undermining each others actions. I know this isn't just them hitting a rough patch as my mother has told me about their issues over the last 10 years. They went to couple therapy for a few months about five years ago and kept it a secret, surely that means something. I have heard them argue about the most horrid things while I was in the other room. I walk out crying and hide in my cupboard. I am child number three of four. We have quite a large family and I think that is all that has kept my parents together over the last decade. Both my sisters have been to see the school councillor about anxiety and that is one of the main reasons I don't want to speak to the councillor because then they will think my family is broken. Which it is. Today my mother looked at her wedding photos which are hung up above the television and said "I need to take those down, they are really annoying". Your wedding day should not be a day you want to forget! I fear that after my sisters and I leave home my parents will either split up and be forever lonely or simply bicker every waking minute. They don't even sleep in the same room for heavens sake! Now I can't explain all this to one of my friends simply because I feel as if I don't have any. My 'true' friends have moved schools so my friendship group no longer feels right. It feels as if I don't belong there anymore. I've tried to branch out to other friendship groups but wherever I go I feel as if I don't fit in. The one time I did try to talk to a 'friend' about my family issues they avoided me for weeks and I'm pretty sure they still think I'm crazy.I no longer know what to do. Sometimes I find my self going for a walk and simply bursting out into tears because it all gets too much. I want to call someone or talk to someone about it but I'm worried I'll push away another friend. And friends are kind of a rare thing in my life at the moment. Does anyone have any advice? I feel lost, all I want to be is happy.

Anxiety making me very emotional & insecure

replies: 2

As a 17 year old, I have had symptoms of anxiety since my pre-teens, but was only diagnosed by a psychologist at 15 after months of anxiety ending with my first panic attack. For the past two years, I have come to terms with what are "everyday" emoti... View more

As a 17 year old, I have had symptoms of anxiety since my pre-teens, but was only diagnosed by a psychologist at 15 after months of anxiety ending with my first panic attack. For the past two years, I have come to terms with what are "everyday" emotional/physical ups and downs and what are anxious symptoms, with panic attacks happening once every couple months. In the past 6 months, however, I have recognized that my anxiety is worsening both in frequency and intensity. Firstly, my panic attacks began to occur more often what with the demand of school and and unstable relationship with my mother. I now have a panic attack every 1-2 weeks, ranging from a crescendo of sickness and/or hyperventilation, to uncontrollable emotions and shakiness/inability to sit still. In the past month, I have also recognized my emotional state becoming almost unbearable. I am constantly clingy to my boyfriend and have the inability to be alone - one night alone often results in the constant need to cry, the fear of being left out and ultimately ending in a fair few tears shed. My need to cry and the resulting exhaustion from focusing on not crying goes hand in hand with feeling sick and the fear that I am simply being annoying. I have such a strong negative response whenever my boyfriend does things without me - I try my very best not to let him know, however I get angry, irritable and very, very sad due to the fear of missing out. I recently went to a music festival where I had volunteering shifts each day. My friends (and boyfriend) had paid for their tickets, which meant I had unbearable feelings of being left out, to the point where I had a panic attack after being released for the day from my volunteering shift. It's been a couple of days since this festival, and yet my feelings still have not gone - I shouldn't be stirring over such negative emotion and yet I find myself thinking that there was no point in being there; no reason as to why anyone would want me there. I was just looking for ways to lift such negative responses to being alone, or having friends/partner doing things without me. An insight into why I may be feeling such things would also be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

does anxiety need to be rationalised?

replies: 1

Hi there, my feelings of anxiety are becoming more visible to me. there are circumstances where i feel anxious for no reason at all (or maybe i haven't delved into enough). eg before i go to the bathroom i have to cautiously listen up against my door... View more

Hi there, my feelings of anxiety are becoming more visible to me. there are circumstances where i feel anxious for no reason at all (or maybe i haven't delved into enough). eg before i go to the bathroom i have to cautiously listen up against my door for a few minutes to know if anyone is outside in the corridor, if someone is out there i hold it even if I'm busting, until i hear complete silence and feel confident enough to go. eg I sometimes skip meals because (i cant cook) Im too afraid i might be intercepted on the way by people at my university (i live on campus). i don't know how to control my anxiety and don't know why I'm feeling this way. so i wonder, does there need to be an external (social, environmental, family, peers, work life) reason for someone to have anxiety or can it be something else? thank you

I don't really know what to do....

replies: 2

Hi I've really only felt down and sad and I don't really know for about 3 months. I just sit in my room at night and balls my eyes out.... I almost finished my I.T degree but i don't even know if I'm even doing the right thing. My girlfriend has been... View more

Hi I've really only felt down and sad and I don't really know for about 3 months. I just sit in my room at night and balls my eyes out.... I almost finished my I.T degree but i don't even know if I'm even doing the right thing. My girlfriend has been away for 8 months doing exchange so that hasn't really help. She comes back next week though. I feel like my life is a complete waste... Like i failed everything i've done up to this point... I'm 23 male living at home but i haven't told my parents about my feels.. I don't want anyone to know, but i want my parents to know i just can't bring myself to telling them... I don't want to disappoint them. I don't want to talk to a doctor either... I just don't know what to do? I'm sorry if this doesn't make sense, I'm currently balling my eyes out...

Pinned discussions

New to this Forum? Please read this first!

replies: 0

All discussions

Depressed or just being dramatic??

replies: 3

Can't afford to lose more family members

replies: 1

It's debilitating

replies: 5

Feeling alone

replies: 1

i have a boyfriend but i also like another guy

replies: 2

Mum and Dad don't understand sometimes.

replies: 2

I'm lost and I don't know what to do

replies: 3

Anxiety making me very emotional & insecure

replies: 2

does anxiety need to be rationalised?

replies: 1

I don't really know what to do....

replies: 2

Young people

New to this Forum? Please read this first! replies: 0

Depressed or just being dramatic?? replies: 3

Can't afford to lose more family members replies: 1

It's debilitating replies: 5

Feeling alone replies: 1

i have a boyfriend but i also like another guy replies: 2

Mum and Dad don't understand sometimes. replies: 2

I'm lost and I don't know what to do replies: 3

Anxiety making me very emotional & insecure replies: 2

does anxiety need to be rationalised? replies: 1

I don't really know what to do.... replies: 2

New to this Forum? Please read this first!

replies: 0

Depressed or just being dramatic??

replies: 3

Can't afford to lose more family members

replies: 1

It's debilitating

replies: 5

Feeling alone

replies: 1

i have a boyfriend but i also like another guy

replies: 2

Mum and Dad don't understand sometimes.

replies: 2

I'm lost and I don't know what to do

replies: 3

Anxiety making me very emotional & insecure

replies: 2

does anxiety need to be rationalised?

replies: 1

I don't really know what to do....

replies: 2