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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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i thought it would be better

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I always thought if I got through highschool things would get better, but I feel worse than ever before. I'm so tired all the time. I'm trying so hard to stay positive for everyone else. Does it ever get better?

Hello !

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hey there! I am a young person who has always only had myself to rely on. I have always dealt with issues on my own and I have recently, in the past year wanted to reach out to someone, I just never knew where to start. Most recently though, I have realised that I don't want to continue feeling like this forever. For a long while now, I have felt very detached from reality and I started researching and found a lot on depersonalisation and derealisation disorders. What I experience may not be exactly that, but something along those lines. It can make me incredibly upset to feel this way constantly and it always feels like I'm dreaming and I'm never in reality. It affects my memory and concentration too since I always feel zoned out. I would love to make good memories and truly live in the beautiful moments in my life. I have done quite a bit of research on psychologists and psychiatrists in my city. I just don't really know where to start or who to see first.I am happy with my family, but I am still scared to bring up the idea of me wanting to see someone. I feel awkward talking about it, that's all. It's hard for me to open up and I don't really want to talk about it with my parents. I'm quite certain they would come up with a solution, but I cant help feeling incredibly awkward. All I want to do is talk to someone who would understand more about my problem and I would love to get help. I am always in a constant state of detachment from reality where my life doesn't feel like my own, nothing feels real, I can't remember a lot of things and I have a strong feeling of un-familiarity with everything including people.Anyway, I hope to get back on track and will be able to talk to someone and get help in the new year! I hope everyone here had a happy Christmas and I wish you all the best for the new year!

Ghosting all of my friends... help?

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Hey everyone, hope someone can give me an outside perspective to what is pretty much the root of my anxiety at the moment. I have a horrible habit of not staying in contact with people. In real life (and with family) I'm fine, but online it's become a huge issue. I just finished year 12 and obviously I should want to keep in contact with my friends, however I haven't even tried talking to any of them online since November. I haven't been able to snap out of this feeling of anxiety, bite the bullet, and send them a message. I avoid social media, my phone has been dead for 2 months now, and I've pretty much gone off the radar where neither one of us can reach the other. Even recently a close online friend messaged me on a certain website, but I freaked out and have avoided going on that website for almost 2 weeks now. In the past I have just ignored phones ringing or deleted apps because I just couldn't bear talking to anyone. I could message my friends on a whim, but the thing is after they reply back, there is no guarantee I wouldn't avoid them afterwards. It just ends up being this big cycle where I avoid people for months then be in contact for about a week or so. I have very big feelings of guilt from doing this, since I know most people aren't cool with not being in contact with someone for months unlike me. My relationships have certainly suffered and my reputation has taken a hit as well. Any advice to stop ghosting people?

No job, no money and soon nowhere to live

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A couple of months ago I was told I was no longer needed at my job, I am 25 and rent a house. I only moved out of my parents because they didn't have the room for me ( 3 other kids and only a 2 bedroom house ). I don't have much family around and the ones I do have don't have enough money for themselves. I am a month behind on rent, I have no food left in the house, no petrol for my car (so getting to interviews or jobs is suddenly a lot harder), my phone will get cut off soon so I won't be able to apply for jobs (or even come back on here) and I have a dog who is the only thing that has kept me going this year ( it has been a tough year, already been homeless once) but I will have to give her up because I can't feed her. I have been to so many interviews and applied for government assistance, but keep getting rejected. Not sure what I am meant to do, my family has done all they can and I don't have a lot of friends (I seriously have 2, one still lives with his mum and works 10 hours a week and the other also lives with her mum but suffers from multiple disabilities and can barely afford to keep herself alive), so I really not sure what I am meant to do other then let everything fall apart around me and go back to living in my car on the side of the road. Usually I am able to keep pretty positive, but it's just been so hard this year and especially the last few months I just don't have it in me anymore. I'm not sure what I expect from coming on here and complaining, but I have tried everything I can think of and just need some advice.

How to get a PSD?

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Hello! I’m Odie, and i’m a 14, nearly 15, year old who struggles with a variety of mental health conditions, such as autism, ADHD, tic disorder, dissociation disorder, OCD, eating disorders, and chronic anxiety and depression (quite an impressive list unfortunately.)Recently i’ve been looking into getting a service animal for my psychiatric conditions, but i’m not sure how to go about this as i am so young. i have a psychologist who i see every 2 week—to-couple of days depending on my mental state and take 2 types of medication regularly (one for ADHD and the other for anxiety), but i feel a service animal would benefit me a lot, specifically regarding my dissociation issues, OCD and depression.I think one of the main reasons i’m scared of talking to people about this is because i’m afraid of other peoples opinions and people seeing me as lesser than them or ‘dumb’ because my ideas are either not well thought out or i don’t present and portray them well, thus making it hard to even bring this up with people in the first place.i love my mum, but i don’t think with her would be a good place to start in this, as she’s not well educated and i’m afraid she’ll think i just want it for the attention or because i think it’s ‘cool’ to have a service animal (which is absolutely not the case.)i already have a dog and a cat, but my dog is 12 going on 13 and is nowhere near fit for the job. i do have NDIS funding for myself however so from what i know that could possibly help with funding?if anyone has any information or tips on this subject anything would be useful at the moment.

need... something?

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i recently found out my father has been underpaying child support by about 100-200 dollars (AUS) i do not know how to feel about this fact, and with my father not being around/being a douchebag and that he told me he sent that money "because he felt like it" and that "if i ever do blah blah blah again he would stop sending my mum money and we would be in shambles" then my mum (bless her soul) explained in a more enlightening way by explain that he HAD to send it and that he is underpaying. she told me not to worry but (spoilers) IM WORRIED. idk if i should convince my mum to go to small claims but she says that my dad is a slippery lil bugger and will find a way to avoid the case. just want some help signing off, SilverSaysGoodBye

I am worried about the future and I don't know what to do

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Hi everyoneI am writing this because I really really don’t know who to talk to or what to do. And I am sorry, as well, if some of what I write doesn’t make much sense or is ordered weirdly.I don’t know how to say this. Since I was young, I’ve had problems with shyness and social anxiety. I could hardly talk to people.I have just one friend (who lives on the other side of the world) and my sister says I’m “very socially isolated” (which makes me feel bad though this isn’t her intention).I'm 20 (finishing my second year of university). I got help for my anxiety when I was 17 and it did make a difference. I believe things would be a lot worse now if I hadn’t.But this year I barely speak to anyone. In the beginning, I felt so anxious, the way I was when I was much younger. Sometimes I would struggle just to say my name. Later, I felt less anxious, but I often feel indescribably sad, the worst I have felt in my life. I just feel crushed. I don’t know how to write this. Often I feel this deep emptiness or pain in my chest.I am so worried about the future. I’m studying engineering of all things. The study is difficult, but I feel like I can manage, and I actually love the things we learn. (There are not many other girls in my classes which makes things more difficult though.)Mainly I’m worried because in order to finish my degree I have to do things like volunteer, do internships/vacation work, join relevant clubs, things like that.I have been avoiding these things for a while because I was scared, but it’s come to a point where I can’t anymore. I am so scared and worried about how I will be able to do them. I even think these things could be fun, but I find it so difficult to talk to people or be confident. I just feel useless. I'm worried I will never reach my dreams.I can’t bring myself to talk to anyone besides my mum about this. I’m worried it all just sounds like a big excuse and I should be able to handle it on my own.Anyway, thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to read this. I'm sorry this is so long and I have left out things. Thank you again.

Exhaustion is exhausting

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I have tried so hard, I have spent every second moment thinking about chores and school. it just doesn't stop it won't end I'm so tired all the time and every one wants me to improve all of the time I am never enough for anyone, I can't have more effective sleep medication because of my other meds, why does it seem like my life just keeps getting worse? All my friends have energy some of the time it's not fair I'm sick of being different I can't even find common place with my other ND friends none of them have both autism and adhd anyways. I don't understand how some people can be happy it no longer makes sense everytime I leave the house it's like living isn't worth it no one really needs me anyways I've seen it, I am so pathetic I'm stubborn and spoilt I am like a leech I force everyone to care about me or pretend to. I am a burden my sibling shouldn't have to deal with me, my favourite person finished school not long ago I constantly miss them I can't get help because all the ways avalible are burdensome to others, I am overreacting I always am my attempts will always fail as I'm too cowardly to die and I can't my sibling wouldn't be safe if I died I'm trying but nothing seems to work the years just keep going.

Thoughts

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I've been feeling lost I think lately. I'm a mum and a wife but I feel like that's everything I am and never anything else. I'm tired all the time but I feel like I don't do enough to be like that. I look at my siblings and they all have jobs and even starting to travel I'm just wondering what my life would have been like if I didn't have kids. Maybe I would be travelling to Italy with my sister maybe I would be in better shape, prettier even.. this is it for me. I'm the eldest of four in my family and I've grown up taking care of everyone else but I know I need to take care of me but who am I if I'm not taking care of someone else's hurt? This is what I've been thinking lately I feel like I'm in a fog of all these kinds of thoughts.

Final Exams :c

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As I previously talked about my HSC anxiety, I've come to the realisation that I'm not okay with exams. No matter how much I try, I quite legitimately cannot prepare successfully for them. I guess the entire point of an exam is to test your knowledge but whenever I partake in the exam, I lose everything I've learnt in the past year or so. Especially maths. My final math HSC is tomorrow and my anxiety is skyrocketing through the roof and is absolutely destroying my mental. My other final exam is the day after tomorrow and I'm honestly struggling with everything + including time management. I know worrying isn't going to help me but I don't think that last-minute studying is either; I'm not comfortable with some of the topics and if I'm being honest, I might screw up my final which is worth 50% of my atar. I've secured two spots in two different universities already, however, my dream uni doesn't really offer early entry so I have to wait until I get my atar results, to come to a conclusion about which one I want to attend. Anyways, my dream uni and course have a minimum atar of like 70.45, which is something I can get (hopefully lol), but personally, I wanted an atar of like high 80's/low 90's because I was content with that, but with how I'm performing in the HSC exams, I'm not sure if that possible. Anyways, moving on, I don't know why I'm so burnt out, like I just sleep my days away because I'm afraid of the stuff I won't be able to accomplish and even though I have things planned out for the day, I end up procrastinating and wasting hours and hours away just doing useless things. This all comes back to bite me in the bum and to be honest, it's not a good long-term habit, procrastination that is. I just want HS to end already, I want to build my own routine and I want to accomplish things that are things other than exams. I just want this to pass by already.

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i thought it would be better replies: 5

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Ghosting all of my friends... help? replies: 16

No job, no money and soon nowhere to live replies: 15

How to get a PSD? replies: 1

need... something? replies: 2

I am worried about the future and I don't know what to do replies: 5

Exhaustion is exhausting replies: 2

Thoughts replies: 1

Final Exams :c replies: 2