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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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candy_21 Feeling upset about results post hsc
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I’ve been crying nearly everyday about my atar since I got it. It’s not a bad atar and I got into the course I wanted but i still feel incomplete and so angry that it wasn’t what I wanted. I feel upset cause I knew I deserved it and at the same time ... View more

I’ve been crying nearly everyday about my atar since I got it. It’s not a bad atar and I got into the course I wanted but i still feel incomplete and so angry that it wasn’t what I wanted. I feel upset cause I knew I deserved it and at the same time I feel angry at myself for not studying enough. But the truth is I did study, I studied a lot I just lost a lot of my motivation and found it rlly hard to focus and was just so tired all of the time. And since I fell back in maths I couldn’t cope with the new topics that would build on the old ones. I would zone out in tutoring and class and would feel really stressed in tutoring because I thought I couldn’t understand. Recently I’ve been feeling really upset about this number. It wasn’t an atar above 90 but it was rlly close. And that’s what bloody stings. I’m trying to stay positive saying I’ll do better in uni but I’m finding it rlly hard too. If I do well in uni will it really matter that much? Everyone makes such a big deal about atar and everyone respects u if u get a good atar . But when u go to uni if u do well no one rlly cares apart from your employers. No one asks. So is it worth it?

liv_a lonely, sad and paranoid
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Sometimes I just feel so alone.It’s just my mum, dad and I. Although on my dads side there’s my grandma, but I don’t see her much anymore, we used to be reasonably close but now she lives in a dementia care home and she doesn’t remember much nor do h... View more

Sometimes I just feel so alone.It’s just my mum, dad and I. Although on my dads side there’s my grandma, but I don’t see her much anymore, we used to be reasonably close but now she lives in a dementia care home and she doesn’t remember much nor do her conversation make sense anymore. I don’t know my grandpa because he died before I was born.On my mum’s said there are my other grandparents who died when I was in the early years of primary school. They lived in America and so did my aunty and uncle so I never really saw them though. My family is quite small and sometimes I wish that i had a sibling or someone else. I wouldn’t exactly say I’m friends with my parents but I mean they’re my parents. I’m always getting into arguments with them and I always feel very defensive because if I do something wrong then most times they both scold me and I have no one to at least talk to. I find it’s hard and if I had a better relationship with my parents maybe it would be easier. I know it could be a whole lot worse. But so many times feel so alone. I can be triggered or get upset reasonably quickly and now days my parents may try once or twice to try and understand what’s going on but I always push them away. Deep down all I want is a hug and someone to talk to but when upset I always resort do sending them away and they don’t come back. I keep telling myself to stop but every time it’s the same: I push them away. They don’t come back. I cry until my eyes are dry or I dwell in my sorrows. And then, by then I have given up hope that they would come back to comfort me and I pick myself up and try to get on with my day. I know I not a perfect child and Im always upset with my parents but I still love them and I know it’s just my paranoia but I always have the same thought looming over my head and it’s that what if one day I get into a fight and then that is the last words I say to them. My parents had me at quite an old age. I’m 14 and they are in there late 50’s nearly going into their 60’s. I am constantly sacred that something will happen to them and that they won’t be there to see my life unfold, and that I need to do everything as soon as possible when I become an adult, like:get married, have kids so they can see it all happen. I’m scared that’s I’ll lose them. AndAnd everyday the weight crushes me more and more. I don’t know what to do.

itskate I hate living with my in-laws
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Hi all, I’m stuck in a depressing situation and I can’t get out. I got married 5 yrs ago when I was 20 yrs old with my husband who was 24. I was expected to move in with my in-laws after marriage. I couldn’t wait to leave my parents house (their hous... View more

Hi all, I’m stuck in a depressing situation and I can’t get out. I got married 5 yrs ago when I was 20 yrs old with my husband who was 24. I was expected to move in with my in-laws after marriage. I couldn’t wait to leave my parents house (their house is very extremely dirty and gross) they even had a pest control guy come in and say it’s the filthiest house he’s ever seen. There’s cockroach everywhere. Once I moved in with my in-laws they were okay but my brother in law was really annoying and pervy and he would start arguments with my husband and even bashed him once over a car tyre because he wanted it back after I paid him to buy it off him. Mind you we gave him the tyre next day and didn’t ask for the money. mind you my brother inlaw was around 40 yrs when my husband and I first got married. my husband and I moved out from my in laws last year and unfortunately due to the rise in cost of living we couldn’t afford to stay out. My BIL recently had gotten married and he had moved out. Then my MIL and FIL a asked us to move back in which we did. Once we moved in, my BIL and his wife told my MIL and FIL they were going to move in too! My BIL and his wife are horrible to live with. They curse us everyday (I hear him mumble that he hopes we lose our jobs and bust). Now the house is in chaos and my in laws and everyone is always arguing. I try to stay out of it but it really affects me mentally and emotionally. My BILs wife tries to compete with me all the time. either my BIL or FIL is always complaining about silly things like why my car is in the garage (when it’s parked outside on another street) or why the cutlery/ crockery is so bad (I bought most of the stuff they’re using). My FIL complains about why I cook inside and makes me cook outside which I follow his instructions. He makes it difficult for me to cook and when I buy take away he says it’s not good. My BIL and his wife try to suck up to my in laws and intervene within every conversation. I don’t want to live here anymore but we both work full time and still can’t afford to move out. I don’t know if I should just move in back with my parents and just deal with the cockroach problem.

Elise_85 I’m failing uni and I don’t know what to do
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Hi everyon! This is my first post here and i’m kinda nervous but I’m also extremely stressed. For years I thought I wanted to get into childcare, and this year I started my university course for it. I have always loved children and I’m always more th... View more

Hi everyon! This is my first post here and i’m kinda nervous but I’m also extremely stressed. For years I thought I wanted to get into childcare, and this year I started my university course for it. I have always loved children and I’m always more than happy to help out with them. At first I was really enjoying the university course, however later in the year things got quite difficult. My boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer which was a huge shock and completely crushed me. My mother had a surgery with 6-12 week recovery time, which meant I really had to step up and help my dad and brother around the house. Caring for my boyfriend, helping my mum and trying to stay on top of the piles of uni work really got to me. I ended up going back into anti-anxiety meds and although both my boyfriend and mother are doing better now, I’m so far behind with uni. Technically I only have 3 days left to submit all my work, some which i haven’t started and I honestly don’t think I can do it. I’m starting to think childcare might not be my passion anymore, but I don’t know if that’s just because I feel so overwhelmed with everything. I don’t want to disappoint my parents or myself but I have never felt this unsure and overwhelmed before. any advice would be very appreciated thank you!

ocean-man freaking out right now
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I'm writing here because I need to get stuff out there and don't know who to call and one way or another I'd slip up and just make everything so much worse for me. I'm going through a massive freakout and I don't know how I should even refer to it (m... View more

I'm writing here because I need to get stuff out there and don't know who to call and one way or another I'd slip up and just make everything so much worse for me. I'm going through a massive freakout and I don't know how I should even refer to it (mental breakdown? panic attack? anxiety attack?). I've been hit by this massive wave of negative thoughts and it's gotten so bad that I've been physically shaking and twitching (never experienced this before) and have been unable to go to sleep. All of them detailing my shortcomings as a friend, a worker, a creator, a person in general. My poor social skills, poor temper, thoughtlessness, carelessness, laziness, this, that, everything in between. All of my incompetencies, mistakes and examples of poor performance wrapped up into one meat, nauseating package. Even just writing this out I feel like garbage because I feel like whatever it is I'm going through or experiencing right now is just karma for all the things I've unwittingly done to people as a result of my idiocy. Furthermore I know there's people out there so much worse off than me and I feel as if I'm not doing anything that warrants sympathy in regards to that. I'm struggling to even articulate my thoughts at the moment because my brain is going 8000 miles an hour and it wants to slip something new into this post every half a second or so. Leaving it here. I just hope this is clear enough. I don't really know what I want to get out of this. I think I just need a little void to scream into right now

TBear5879 giving up
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Hi, I'm just here to vent. I have autism and ADHD and would like to be tested for depression so yeah, not a great start to life for me. As well as the fact that I don't really want a life anymore. I don't necessarily want to die I just want the pain ... View more

Hi, I'm just here to vent. I have autism and ADHD and would like to be tested for depression so yeah, not a great start to life for me. As well as the fact that I don't really want a life anymore. I don't necessarily want to die I just want the pain to go away. I feel like during the day I can be so happy and everyone says I'm doing great and that I'm always so happy but I know it's a fake smile even though I really wish it wasn't. Then at night I just get hit with a wave of sadness but sometimes it's not even sadness it's just numb I feel so emotionless in the worst way possible. my whole life I've been taught to understand and know my emotions but this, this is just a lost, sad, angry... Numbness. I don't know what to do anymore I want to be happy, I really do but I can't. I tell all my friends and family that I'm happy. That I'm okay, but I just feel like I'm dying inside. Everything is just so hard. My whole body aches. Every mucel in my brain is telling to give up, begging me to give up. My mouth is screaming at me to stop smiling. The ocean of tears is threatening to pore out from behind my eyes. I just want to give up. Make the pain go away. I don't know... At this point I just don't know, I don't know what to do. I don't know who I am, I don't know how to be happy. I just don't know. Please if anyone feels like this please tell me I want to know I'm not alone. If you feel like this know that I will listen to you and not just listen I will actually hear you. I'm here for you. You're amazing! You've got this!

Guest_1663 Is it possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and working two days a week?
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Hello Idk where else to ask this but I am wondering if it’s possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and whilst also working two days a week?

Hello Idk where else to ask this but I am wondering if it’s possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and whilst also working two days a week?

a13xx Is this normal?
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Hi, I’m 17 and currently working full time at a restaurant..i dropped out of school and all i really do is sleep all day. Any free time I get I just sleep through it..I hate living like this but im constantly tired and I can’t help it. It doesn’t mat... View more

Hi, I’m 17 and currently working full time at a restaurant..i dropped out of school and all i really do is sleep all day. Any free time I get I just sleep through it..I hate living like this but im constantly tired and I can’t help it. It doesn’t matter how much sleep I get, im always tired.I have hobbies and things I could do like art, read or practice bass but I’m too tired for that too. I want to get up and do things, my dad thinks it’s just cause im a teenager but idk i wanna have more energy

CHCH02 Struggling with parents understanding
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Hi, I've recently been having some struggles with my parents, as a full time uni student I can find it difficult to get them to understand that a semester can be overwhelming and exhausting. My parents however want me to get another job but I find it... View more

Hi, I've recently been having some struggles with my parents, as a full time uni student I can find it difficult to get them to understand that a semester can be overwhelming and exhausting. My parents however want me to get another job but I find it difficult because the current job I have has flexible working hours and have a great relationship with my manager that allows me to make adjustment to my roster when uni is on. They just seem to think that I'm not getting enough hours but when I'm not at work I am doing uni work or trying to look after myself do things that fill my cup, it feels like my happiness or contentment is never enough but having to work full time, or in the industry I am studying will make me enough. It gives me a lot of stress and feels like anything I do is hopeless. When we get into arguments about it they don't understand the difficulty I face and how hard it is to find a job in the industry without any academic qualifications or they are casual work without any guarantee hours. Even when I say I'll try and I'll look they say that's not good enough which confuses me. This isn't the first time they do this and they go in cycles for when it seems okay to when its not, so I am constantly on edge and hoping they don't bring it up. I don't know how to make them understand why I won't get a new job, why volunteering is good option and why I need to do things that fill my cup.

Guest_9340 Given up
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I have given up on life . Nothing matters anymore . 

I have given up on life . Nothing matters anymore .