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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Mousey22 I hate my family, can't afford to leave
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There is a lot in this story that I will have to omit to save time and characters. Basically, I have never got along with my father and I feel like he has always been a thorn in my side. Whenever I wanted to do anything in my life, whether it was dat... View more

There is a lot in this story that I will have to omit to save time and characters. Basically, I have never got along with my father and I feel like he has always been a thorn in my side. Whenever I wanted to do anything in my life, whether it was dating a particular person, play an instrument, be friends with someone or travel, he has always yelled at me and treated me like crap and tried to convince me that I was in the wrong and he took it as a sleight against him. My fathers idea of parenting was to buy me a gaming console and just leave me alone, he never bothered to teach me anything growing up. Every time I questioned him he always told me to ''shh'' and acted like whenever I asked him something I was bothering him. When I wanted to travel, he tried to convince me that someone would plant drugs in my bag and that the plane would crash, which I believe was to deter me from travelling because he hates flying and has never been out of the country. Also, I wanted to play music in school and his immediate response was ''you won't learn to play''. I ended up being very good at guitar, played in many music shows and met some good people through music, he always believed it was a waste of time and I was just making noise to annoy him. As we lived out of town growing up, he would take my brother and sister in his car and when I asked to go, I remember one day that he yelled at me ''you're not coming'' and he left me home. I had to pay forty dollars (I made thirty dollars a week at KFC), to take a taxi into town and back just to see my friends to play a card game at a local game store. Fast forward to now (I'm in my twenties), and I am an absolute loser. I was never taught the value of education and I have only worked minimum wage jobs to get by. I was saving for a house and nearly got a good deposit from my last job of two years (factory worker), but I was bullied out of my job by two managers who were good friends with a lady and her husband who work at the factory. This lady in question got me that job as a favor to my father who was friends with her and her husband. But my father had a falling out with their friend and when it was clear that he had enough of that person, the couple turned on me and so did my managers. One of the managers got me on my own one day and said to me ''if you stay here you will be the most hated person here''. She forged my signature on legal documents, tried to frame me for mistakes, and I never did a thing to her. TBC

Forrest_123 I’m terrified of going on school camp
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Even though my school camp is months away I am so worried about it and keep bursting into tears and not being able to breath properly however it is compulsory and 10 days long in tents. I think I am scared mostly because people always vomit on camp a... View more

Even though my school camp is months away I am so worried about it and keep bursting into tears and not being able to breath properly however it is compulsory and 10 days long in tents. I think I am scared mostly because people always vomit on camp and I HATE vomit. (Last camp someone vomited and I was up until 2am crying in the nurses room and then I said I felt sick even though I didn’t end up being sick) I am also scared of being away from my family and not being able to get out of it if something bad happens and keep having dreams of me running away into the Forrest to escape. On camp I am scared of getting food poising so I generally don’t eat much at meal times and stick with the packaged things at recess and afternoon tea. I don’t know what to do to feel better when I go on camp and not get so worried. I think I might have a phobia of vomit but I really don’t want to go see anyone about it or talk to anyone in person. Someone please tell me what I can do, should I talk to my year coordinator about my fear of going on camp or do you think I do need to see a phycoligist or is there another way around it note: (we aren’t allowed phones or food on camp)

Mouri Worried
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Hi I am a mother I have a two year old daughter . I am mentally so broke because of my husbands weird behaviour. He abused me several times . I just think about my child how she will grow. This is why I need to get out of this marriage . But I just d... View more

Hi I am a mother I have a two year old daughter . I am mentally so broke because of my husbands weird behaviour. He abused me several times . I just think about my child how she will grow. This is why I need to get out of this marriage . But I just don’t have any mental strength . I am so lost don’t even know what to do.

Khan_sarah123 Exclusion
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Hello, I was studying bachelor of education and in my second year I got excluded from university due to poor academic performance. I have been trying since to re enrol but have been unsuccessful. They asked for a statement about why I think I am fit ... View more

Hello, I was studying bachelor of education and in my second year I got excluded from university due to poor academic performance. I have been trying since to re enrol but have been unsuccessful. They asked for a statement about why I think I am fit for studies which I provided. Despite providing all that I still couldn’t re enrol. I am really stuck and don’t know what to do I really want to continue studying again, I just need a chance. My family doesn’t know and I don’t want them to know as they are already going through a lot and them finding out about this could negatively affect them. I don’t what to do how to enr again. Please can anyone help me in this case.

NESSLEE BaHa- does this stop tinnitus?
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Has anyone had a BaHa fitted and has this stopped your tinnitus? 

Has anyone had a BaHa fitted and has this stopped your tinnitus? 

EGB Recurring lying, about to break my marriage.
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Hello,I have searched high and low for a “lying support group” in Australia and this is the best thing I can find so I hope it helps me the way I want it to.I have a problem with lying to my husband. I have looked into ways to stop and the first thin... View more

Hello,I have searched high and low for a “lying support group” in Australia and this is the best thing I can find so I hope it helps me the way I want it to.I have a problem with lying to my husband. I have looked into ways to stop and the first thing they all say is you need to find your ”trigger”I have done this and know that my trigger is money. My husband is great with money, I am not. I have a tendency to rack up big things on the “buy now pay later” platforms and in the past have taken money from him or used the family card for unnecessary things without asking (this isn’t a regular thing but has happened more then once) I am a stay at home mum and because of how hard my husband works our yearly family income is high enough that we don’t qualify for Centrelink and all our family income comes from him working long hours 6 days a week.I have been seeing a therapist for a few months now and she is querying me for possible ADHD however I don’t want to use that as an excuse, I just want to find a way to stop lying and be a better person and the wife my husband deserves. This is not how I want to be. He is such a selfless, soft, caring and trusting person and my lies are slowly breaking him down and making him question everything. It is hurting me so much to see and knowing that he is feeling that way because of my actions.We have 3 children and have been together for almost 16 years, since I was 15 years old. I’m so scared I’m not going to be able to stop and I will lose my family. I want my husband to be happy and deserves so much better but I’m not ready to give up on my family.

Anum Relationship advice
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I have some trust issues with the partner. How to communicate in a good manner? He always confess me to not think negative. But there are some things going on that bothers me a lot. Mobile issues etc.

I have some trust issues with the partner. How to communicate in a good manner? He always confess me to not think negative. But there are some things going on that bothers me a lot. Mobile issues etc.

lemonadetears am I the only one who fears my dad will die after I yell at him?
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when I was 7 my father who works nightshift got into a rather serious car accident. after all, I was just 7, and didn't really understand the brutal nature of what happened. when I was 8 I randomly got reminded of the fact that my father almost died ... View more

when I was 7 my father who works nightshift got into a rather serious car accident. after all, I was just 7, and didn't really understand the brutal nature of what happened. when I was 8 I randomly got reminded of the fact that my father almost died and I became extremely paranoid and pedantic about making sure he knew I loved him i.e. always saying 'good night, love you' before he would leave for work. there's been many times throughout those years since then that I would bawl my eyes out if I didnt get to say goodbye and be drowned in crippling anxiety and overthinking about if he was going to die and then it'd be my fault and that I was a terrible child. im now in my late teens and am currently bawling my eyes out because I had yelled at him and then he left for work without telling me and I didnt get to say my usual farewell message. im so worried he's just going to... die... and he wouldn't know that I loved him. I kind of recognise that my feelings are a bit irrational but I also fear this so so so strongly and genuinely feel like it's all my fault as an inadequate child. is this just me? I feel broken and entirely worthless and useless and again, like an inadequate terrible child. been sobbing for ages now and my mother has been yelling at me to shut up and stop being stupid but I still feel so terrible and it's honestly only made me cry further. I really hope it isn't just me whose thoughts go wild like this. It's kinda like the case of trauma that I never confronted because I wasn't emotionally able to at the time continuously manifesting in my life, usually quite minor but at times able to entirely take me over. I feel so alone.

Baileyjoyce Feeling uneasy and uncomfortable
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I dont know how to start this other than describing whats happening and how i feel. So im 17 and in my group of friends there are a few people who i feel are toxic and destructive, like theyre participating in under age drinking with high % alcohol, ... View more

I dont know how to start this other than describing whats happening and how i feel. So im 17 and in my group of friends there are a few people who i feel are toxic and destructive, like theyre participating in under age drinking with high % alcohol, saying racial slurs and other activities that make me feel uncomfortable and uneasy, with also the feeling of being unmotivated due to most of the people in the group not studying and not providing much support at all (in yr 12). i guess its accidently rubbing off onto others if you will. these activities are causing me to feel uneasy and uncomfortable, for not only there activities, but seeing innocent people interact with people that they KNOW are toxic makes me feel like i should do something to help. What should i do?I can give more context if needed

LemonJnr Depression and racial discrimination
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I believe Racial discrimination is a big issue in Australia. It really takes a stab at someone, for being what they cannot control or do not get a choice in from the start of their life. In fact, the idea that someone can be treated differently becau... View more

I believe Racial discrimination is a big issue in Australia. It really takes a stab at someone, for being what they cannot control or do not get a choice in from the start of their life. In fact, the idea that someone can be treated differently because of their race, colour, descent, nationality or ethnic origin is so wrong that I feel I may have mental health issues. It's just unbelievable. I feel that these attitudes are inherent through people who feel threatened in some way and attempt to marginalize these 'different' people from functioning as human beings in society. I feel like I cannot do anything about it because it is a fact that racism does exist, anywhere really. The act can be so subtle that I do not think many who have experienced it have hope of combating such extreme attitudes. I just felt like I needed to share my thoughts because I believe that if I feel that I've experienced it, then there will probably be others out there too who wish to be heard.