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My whole family hates me...

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Just like the title says, my family hates me, and I have no idea why. I'm 12 and I'm in year 7. For as long as I can remember, my mum has hated me. My sister is super smart and she skipped grade 1 and got heaps of scholarships and everything. I'm con... View more

Just like the title says, my family hates me, and I have no idea why. I'm 12 and I'm in year 7. For as long as I can remember, my mum has hated me. My sister is super smart and she skipped grade 1 and got heaps of scholarships and everything. I'm constantly in my sister's shadow and she is constantly reminding me of this. Whenever people come over, all they can talk about is how great my sister is, and it's like I don't even exist! I get good grades as well, but I know that my sister will always be better. I know this, but my mum thinks that every kid is supposed to get straight A's. She thinks that I'm really dumb! My younger brother is in grade 1 and he's getting average grades, but my mum doesn't care. I don't get it! What am I doing wrong. My mum is always yelling for every single little thing, and she thinks that I'm the one causing it! She constantly tells my brother that I'm a horrible sister. The only times I've ever really felt good with my family around was when we go to Brisbane(I live in Melbourne btw) to visit my mum's family. My grandparents and cousins live there and it's super fun since I rarely ever see my mum when we're there. But most times it's only for one week during the school holidays. I've lived in 4 different houses in my lifetime and have been to 6 different schools. I moved to Brisbane for two years and it was probably the best 2 years of my life. My mum has always pushed me to get good grades and when I do get good grades she just tells me to try harder. Like I'm not already trying my hardest! I hate it living with my family and I plan on moving to America and changing my name to cut all ties with my family when I'm older. But that's ages away and it's so hard everyday living with my family. I have this idea to move to Brisbane to stay with my grandparents, who actually love me, and leave my family behind at the end of the year, but my mum probably won't even let me. I have heaps of friends who live there, but I've lost contact with them and none of my school friends have even been to my house because of my mum. I'm just a normal girl with friends, but my family hates me! I don't know if I should ask to move to Brisbane or just wait till I can move out. Please help me!

Is it even possible to get a job with anxiety.

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I'm 17 and I live with severe anxiety disorder. And I had never had a job and I don't think I'm capable to get myself a job because I feel like I don't function like a normal human being but just someone that is always nervous all the time. I can nev... View more

I'm 17 and I live with severe anxiety disorder. And I had never had a job and I don't think I'm capable to get myself a job because I feel like I don't function like a normal human being but just someone that is always nervous all the time. I can never make eye contact with people, my hands get shaky when I try to do a physical task, I sweat easily from tasks that I should have no problem with. And personally, the biggest problem for me is my memory. I used to be someone would be the best at memorizing things. Now..it's just humiliating to talk about it. Can't spell basic words, can't remember simple tasks to do or what someone had said to me, I have trouble trying to say a sentence and stutter alot. One of my family members tried to take me on as an apprentice for their business and they were quick to give me up after I kept making so many mistakes. I just don't see how anyone would hire someone like me and honestly I wouldn't either if I was someone else.

Anxiety and nausea

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Hey it’s my first time posting on something like this - I’m 19 and have been struggling with increasingly severe anxiety and depression since I was about 11 or 12. My anxiety manifests itself mostly in the form of extreme nausea - I can’t even count ... View more

Hey it’s my first time posting on something like this - I’m 19 and have been struggling with increasingly severe anxiety and depression since I was about 11 or 12. My anxiety manifests itself mostly in the form of extreme nausea - I can’t even count the amount of times I’ve vomited because of my anxiety. It’s quite rare that I experience the typical symptoms of anxiety and panic without the nausea, but when I do, I’m pretty good at getting myself through it okay, but the nausea just makes it so incredibly hard to fight through and to not focus on my unhealthy thoughts. As I’ve grown older, it seems that there are more and more things which make me anxious, and it’s becoming more and more necessary for me to do things like get a job and use public transport - two things which are currently nearly impossible for me. Highschool was horrible and involved me leaving the classroom to go vomit in the toilet at least every day, and I barely made it through year 12 exams. Now I’m in uni, and I’ve moved out of home, but I don’t even go into uni most of the time because I’m terrified of public transport due to the amount of times I’ve vomited on buses or trains. I want to get my licence so bad but I’m way too worried about my nausea distracting me during my test or making me vomit. I need a job desperately - I’m relying on Centrelink’s youth allowance right now and I’ve tried applying for countless jobs. The few who called me back were either too far to walk, meaning I’d have to take public transport, which scared me away from the job, or they basically said I needed a licence and car to be hired. I’ve done so much research on anxiety and coping mechanisms - I’m a psych student myself, but I’ve never found anything that specifically addresses or helps with severe nausea like I have. I’ve tried antidepressants with no results, and it’s getting to the point where I can’t even go to a counselling because I have no way to get there or be calm in an anxiety/nausea inducing scenario. I’m so exhausted and I’m really just wondering whether there is anyone who has a similar experience, and if they’ve found some way of managing the nausea? I’m willing to try any medication or therapy or anything at this point - I’m so sick of vomiting all the time thanks in advance, Jake

What help would you want?

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Hi everyone, I'll try and keep this as short and sweet as possible. My boyfriend (BF) lives on campus at uni and I stay with him about 2-4 nights a week. One of his main reasons for moving on campus was to make friends. We both originally shared a fr... View more

Hi everyone, I'll try and keep this as short and sweet as possible. My boyfriend (BF) lives on campus at uni and I stay with him about 2-4 nights a week. One of his main reasons for moving on campus was to make friends. We both originally shared a friend group, but had a falling out which means it very rare that we hang out with people outside of us two. While I am totally ok with this and have very little desire to make new friends, BF is the opposite. He misses having a more friends and has always liked the idea of having lots of friends. So because of this, living on campus seemed like a really good fit for him as there are always heaps of uni events and "hall activities" going on. At the start of his first semester there he went to almost all of the orientation events, but being mid year not many people went so he didn't meet anyone there. In the following weeks he also went to a fair few hall activities but after each time he came back disappointed about not hitting it off with anyone. As time went on he also became more and more annoyed with the people at the events and eventually just stopped going to anything non essential. During this time he would get quite depressed about not being able to meet people and would be really harsh on him self. This year starts another semester on campus for him and despite uni not being officially back yet, already he is getting a bit depressed about not going to the hall activities. I think he's gotten to the stage where he's too afraid that he'll fail again. Naturally he isn't a super out going person and as much as I hate to admit, at first glance he can seem a little standoffish despite being an incredibly caring and interesting guy. I would hate for this to be another disappointing year for him so I have come for the advice of all you lovely people as to what you would want me to do if you were in his situation? Any advise would be greatly appreciated!!

I need help

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Things wrong with me: Constantly negative thinking Constantly thinking about the past Constantly comparing myself to others Starting to really hate my appearance in basically every way possible Poor Memory Poor Focus Basically zero gratitude. Extreme... View more

Things wrong with me: Constantly negative thinking Constantly thinking about the past Constantly comparing myself to others Starting to really hate my appearance in basically every way possible Poor Memory Poor Focus Basically zero gratitude. Extremely low confidence "Every one is staring at me" feeling when I'm at the shops If somebody asks me what's the matter and I decide to explain, I start crying to the point I can't explain what's wrong. I always have something to worry about, if I fix one issue and stop worrying about it another issue will pop up and I'm feeling awful about that until I eventually get over it, then the cycle repeats. I never laugh even when I know something is funny. I smile at best I can't have a conversation with someone without focusing properly, making eye contact etc. As much as I want to I can't even watch TV to distract myself, I end up zoning out thinking about the past and future, comparing myself to people on the TV. The list literally goes on. I'm turning 21 in a couple of months, people in my family are all doing great things and here I am. ^^^^^^ If you have any questions or advice, please don't hesitate. I've been trying to improve myself for so long and I'm starting to lose hope. Thank you for reading x When I do find myself in a positive head space I

My girlfriend broke up with me because of her parents.

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Hi Everyone This is my first thread so here goes. I ment the most amazing girl ever and I instantly fell in love with her, and she felt the same but her parents didn't want her to have a boyfriend so we had to keep it a secret. It went well for weeks... View more

Hi Everyone This is my first thread so here goes. I ment the most amazing girl ever and I instantly fell in love with her, and she felt the same but her parents didn't want her to have a boyfriend so we had to keep it a secret. It went well for weeks but somehow her parents found out and she had to break up with me. I feel like she cares way to much about what other people think because she didn't even hesitate to break up. Am I wrong for thinking this? Her sisters and her friends keep hassling me about it. And its getting harder it go to school because I have to see her everyday. Thanks for listening. tdn

Dealing with self hatred

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Hey guys, I just need a bit of support if, that's all good. Recently I've been going through a bit of self hatred, and a couple of days ago, my ex broke things off with me and now I'm stuck in a rut. I hate how I deal with things when I get emotional... View more

Hey guys, I just need a bit of support if, that's all good. Recently I've been going through a bit of self hatred, and a couple of days ago, my ex broke things off with me and now I'm stuck in a rut. I hate how I deal with things when I get emotional or upset, because I manage to take it out on the people I care about. And that's why she broke things off with me. That was the last thing I wanted, I hate what I've done and now it's gone to complete sh*t. I can't fix it, she wants nothing to do with me anymore but I want to keep trying to fix things. I don't know how to cope with this. I hate myself so much right now, I just don't know what to do.

Dude where's my head?

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Hi guys first time using these online forums, so bear with me. ill start off with my background and where my life's at now... about 7 years ago I finally broke, split up with my partner in which I thought was a serious relationship, wasn't enjoying w... View more

Hi guys first time using these online forums, so bear with me. ill start off with my background and where my life's at now... about 7 years ago I finally broke, split up with my partner in which I thought was a serious relationship, wasn't enjoying work, wasn't enjoying where I lived, just wasn't enjoying life as a 23yr old should. I had a load of debt and not much to show for it. I drank, turned to party drugs. I was tired and 'had enough'. every choice I made felt like a downward spiral at incredible pace...i remember breaking down in front of my mum...my poor mother, I felt like I was making her feel guilty for seeing me in my low. It was the best thing that could have happened at that time. Like a weight had lifted and I had someone to help me. i saw a doctor, I can't remember what his diagnosis was because I was so nervous, embarrassed, all the emotions. I got medication for it which I took for a week but made me feel like a zombie.. since then I've felt good. in the last 2 years I've been happily married and moved states to be with my wife's family, were building our first home and expecting our first baby. im unsure if it's stresses of a house and baby at once or if it's my brain. I'm not on a high point or a low point, it's more lacking in excitement or pleasure. Simple things like buying myself a $50 item I talk myself out of as I can't see reward in it and it's feeling like it's most things. I don't really have any male friends in my new town and even my good mates from home seem distant. Sorry if it makes no sense, but thought I'd connect with others so it doesn't build up in my head. Any pointers would be appreciated. Many thanks

Stuck in a deep rut of isolation

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This is my first time ever visiting this website after considering it for a long time. I just felt like I needed to get this off my chest but at the same time don't feel too comfortable bringing it up with my family members. As the title suggests, at... View more

This is my first time ever visiting this website after considering it for a long time. I just felt like I needed to get this off my chest but at the same time don't feel too comfortable bringing it up with my family members. As the title suggests, at the moment I feel as if I am stuck in the social aspect of my life. I'm now going into my second year of university and realised I made no new friends that kept in touch from first year. As of late, I find it more and more difficult to make friends which I feel is related to my history of friendships. Way back in primary school, I had a really tight group of friends (a squad haha) that would always meet up at class and every weekend and holidays. However, going into middle school, a huge amount of new students entered our year, and so our group sort of split up. While everyone seemed to find their own group of friends, I was the only one who was caught in the middle and couldn't quite fit in to a single group. All the way through to Year 11, people told me I seemed so charismatic and confident, but in reality I was crying on the inside. I didn't have a best friend and anyone to confide in. In Year 12, I met someone who was overwhelmingly optimistic. He would always talk to me and skype call me to just talk about life. We had a great time that year, but as the year went by, I found myself replying to his facebook messages later and later. I think I was scared of losing contact with him after highschool. Sure enough, over the Summer holidays, we just lost contact. We got into different universities but I tried messaging him a few times to arrange a meet-up. He'd always reply with things like "Yeah we totally need to catch up!" and sound really excited. But when the meet-up time comes, he says he's busy. I haven't really talked to many people during my time in Uni. I've only really talked to two others who went to the same high school as me. However, even with them, I feel so alone because when we meet up for lunch, they're just chatting with each other while I sit there listening. Also, they tend to arrange meet-ups without me so I feel so excluded and hurt. I just feel like my past friendships and sudden snuffs of friendships have heavily impacted on my ability to make new friends. I just feel so scared that every friend I make in the future will act the same way and just cut off all ties with me. I'm sorry if this seemed really messy, but I would really appreciate any help I can get.

guidance and help guys and girls

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Hi my name is Harry whatever is happening rightnow for my future self my non negotionables are sleep, healthy organic plant based food , and a water filter to remove fluroide from our water, i have absolutley $3 and am a swirling greyish cloudy sun, ... View more

Hi my name is Harry whatever is happening rightnow for my future self my non negotionables are sleep, healthy organic plant based food , and a water filter to remove fluroide from our water, i have absolutley $3 and am a swirling greyish cloudy sun, how Can i get some money to buy organic fruit and vegtable to eat during these times to maintain my health, my parents have money but buy so much silly food instead, how can I earn money to maintain my health, for my future self, I think I can write and articulate my thoughts to a good standard, naturally will happen when alone for this long... anyone know where I can get paid to write about or for someone, hm an biography on someone maybe

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