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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Unicorndogge I dont know who i am anymore
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Lately i just feel like i am getting dragged along not doing anything useful. The thing is i am pretty much useless, my anxiety is bad i cant even do what most other people can do my age and now i just have no motivation to learn because i know i wil... View more

Lately i just feel like i am getting dragged along not doing anything useful. The thing is i am pretty much useless, my anxiety is bad i cant even do what most other people can do my age and now i just have no motivation to learn because i know i will stuff it up or not go anywhere with it. I dont have a job, i dont study anymore and now that i am living with my nan its like i feel trapped even though i was in a worse position at home with my dad smoking weed with most of my inheritance money. I don't know what i am good at, liking something is not enough anymore because i know that i will be alone forever.

AngelWhite123 21 years old, never worked, finished highschool, dropped out of online course
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Well I’m pathetic. 21 years old, haven’t done anything since highschool besides get my drivers license. Due to what I could only imagine is trauma from my past as a kid (im trans and was bullied a lot because of it) and a mixture of anxiety and depre... View more

Well I’m pathetic. 21 years old, haven’t done anything since highschool besides get my drivers license. Due to what I could only imagine is trauma from my past as a kid (im trans and was bullied a lot because of it) and a mixture of anxiety and depression (I’ve never been diagnosed) I’ve basically hidden away from the world, both terrified to join it yet desperate to be part of it. I don’t know what I want to do with my life, and sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth it. I think so often about maybe I should just find an easy way out, to take the burden off my parents, to finally do something right. I don’t know what kind of help, but I definitely need it.

mike9 Young person (13 years old) with anger issues
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Hi, does anyone have experience with how to deal with a child (13) that has massive anger issues? Currently on antianxiety medication. Child lashes out at parents (hitting and kicking). If you are in a similar situation, how do you manage it? Extra m... View more

Hi, does anyone have experience with how to deal with a child (13) that has massive anger issues? Currently on antianxiety medication. Child lashes out at parents (hitting and kicking). If you are in a similar situation, how do you manage it? Extra medication to control the anger? Thanks

mongolucious me and school
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since i started highschool ive been struggling, and everytime i try to reach out for help all i get told is that im lazy and to try out meditating, which i wish it were that easy. i failed last year (and thanks to covid i didnt get held back) and ive... View more

since i started highschool ive been struggling, and everytime i try to reach out for help all i get told is that im lazy and to try out meditating, which i wish it were that easy. i failed last year (and thanks to covid i didnt get held back) and ive already failed semester one of this year. its so hard for me to just get started on work, i am currently writing this instead of writing an essay, if i just knew why its so hard for me i would feel so much better. i just want to sleep for a couple months. ive tried seeing my school counselor and the first thing she did was pull up my report and ask me why i failed, then told me to try out having a schedule or to keep a diary, and everytime ive tried and ive put my full effort in it just never works and i end up ignoring it and forgetting about it and if it is laziness how do i make it stop i just want to be better i just want to be able to get things done because sometimes i cant even take care of myself. atm my sleep schedule is garbage, im going to sleep at 4-6am and sleeping through all my online classes i was a top student in primary school, even at the beginning of year 7. i just cant figure out the issue. everyones so disappointed in me no matter how hard i try. im too scared to ask for help everything is so scary

LiamWL98 I’m panicking about weight gain
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I’m 15 turning 16 and I hate my body. I always had larger then normal thighs but recently instead of being fat in the stomach, it’s all gone to my thighs. I realised that after my sisters birthday party where I drank like 7 sodas and after that a sod... View more

I’m 15 turning 16 and I hate my body. I always had larger then normal thighs but recently instead of being fat in the stomach, it’s all gone to my thighs. I realised that after my sisters birthday party where I drank like 7 sodas and after that a soda day for 6 days straight that I wasn’t getting fat in my stomach but my thighs and I had it under control. Until a month to 3 months ago when I realised I had stretch marks on my thighs and I went into panic mode and gained more and more and more. Now I’m trying to fix my mistakes only if I look at my thighs or calves I feel ashamed and have massive feelings of regret. One of those feelings where you want to time travel back and tell yourself to “stop!” Or when I panic I repeat “I don’t want this.” And can’t stop myself for a solid 3 minutes and then I go into a quiet panic where I can’t stop thinking about it. I body shame myself to hating my fat but with other people I generally don’t mind fat or stretch marks. I don’t get a negative responses by people ever but somehow have developed a insecurity about it. I don’t want to go to counselling and talk about it because I would hate for my parents to find out. I don’t care how supportive they could be I don’t want them to know. I’m sorry about this I just need to vent or hear something reassuring.

JacksonOB I can't deal with the stress and pressure from school and assignments.
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I am Jackson, a student in Grade 9 in Brisbane. I have been overwhelmed by assignments, assessments, homework and work in general. I am not the best of students, I am extremely worried and stressed out about my marks with last year my marks dropping ... View more

I am Jackson, a student in Grade 9 in Brisbane. I have been overwhelmed by assignments, assessments, homework and work in general. I am not the best of students, I am extremely worried and stressed out about my marks with last year my marks dropping heavily in Maths, English and almost all of most of the subjects, but mainly Maths. I just can't deal with all the stress and pressure from assignments and I can't focus in class cause my school forces us to wear masks. I just don't know what to do with all of it. Due to all of the things I have mentioned it has begun to take a toll on me personally with me not getting sleep, exercise and my mood is suffering. I have begun to spiral into a pit of sadness and depression and I can't get out of it. I really just need help.

meg_is_sad i'm failing and my life is being ruined
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I'm a Year 12 student right now, and I'd say I'm a pretty good student in most of my subjects. I've always gotten As and Bs. But this year in mathematical methods, I've never been more miserable. I've failed (D and D+) two tests, and I just took anot... View more

I'm a Year 12 student right now, and I'd say I'm a pretty good student in most of my subjects. I've always gotten As and Bs. But this year in mathematical methods, I've never been more miserable. I've failed (D and D+) two tests, and I just took another one yesterday that really broke me. I think I failed it. I cried all day, I understood the work so well but the test was nothing like ANY of the questions we have studied up until now. I feel cheated and stupid and I don't understand why I'm failing when I have never had trouble before. I have also a C and B grade for the other two tests, and all the tests are. worth 10%. I handed in a folio draft worth 20%, and I need an A on it to have any hope of passing. I've tried everything, I've even got a tutor. I don't have any time for myself because I'm always studying now, and I think I understand until I get to. a test and inevitably fail it. I have one test left, and an exam worth 30% that I am POSITIVE i will fail. I'm crushed. all ive ever wanted is to go to university. but i cant unless i pass this year and get my certificate. im trying so hard, harder than anyone else, but im not succeeding. i dont know what to do. ever since yesteray ive felt empty, i feel like i dont deserve to exist. i dont deserve the love my family gives me or the food they make. i dont deserve my friends. if i can't go to unversity, i dont know what ill do with my life. it is worth nothing to me if i cant take it where i want it to go. all i need to do is pass but thats starting to look impossible. i cant feel anything but anxiety and pain. if my life cant be the one i imagined, and the one i know i deserve, i dont want it. i deserve. better than. this. i feel like im being punished for something. please help me, i just want to know what. happiness is again. i have to pass. i refuse to fail, i will hate myself if i do and nobody will love me anymore. because i deserve nothing. i cant even be excited for when the year ends bvecause my future feels fake. i only see the pain i feel now. i can never be a person. i will love if i dont pass.

Cstaaway Psychologist is not helpful?
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Hi, this is my first post so sorry if it seems a bit all over the place. I'm currently in my early 20s and have struggled with my mental health for years and years. Mental illness seems to run in the family (multiple members with schizophrenia and bi... View more

Hi, this is my first post so sorry if it seems a bit all over the place. I'm currently in my early 20s and have struggled with my mental health for years and years. Mental illness seems to run in the family (multiple members with schizophrenia and bipolar). Only recently (past 2 months) did i start seeing a psychologist because it always seemed like too much effort to organise it. I got a mental health care plan from my GP and I didn't get to choose my psychologist. I feel like I go through pretty long periods of time where I either feel nothing or only negative emotions (agitated, anger, hostile). The only thing i tend to care about is doing well at uni. I have always struggled making friends and have had very few close ones. However the ones i do have, i also feel absolutely nothing towards in these periods. I feel as though i could completely cut them out of my life without any second thought. I even feel like I could be fired from my job and not care whatsoever. I haven't found joy in doing almost anything for years and lack any sexual desire. Going out to with friends feels like a chore. I don't even enjoy eating and only do so because there's bad health implications of lack of food and also because i feel physically sick if i don't. For background, i had an emotionally abusive/neglectful up bringing but no longer live with my parents. Other things i experience include finding it extremely hard to sleep and when i do, i can sleep for 12 hours every night and still be exhausted, and some days i find it almost impossible to concentrate. I also get agitated very easily if the area i live in is not kept clean. I'm quite an analytical person so i can understand how I'm feeling without talking to others. To me it sounds like i may have symptoms of depression/anxiety/bipolar. I've voiced everything i feel to my psychologist and I've found him no help and i often leave more agitated then when i came. To me, my symptoms clearly show signs of potential mental illness yet my psychologist has never addressed them and of course i don't want to wrongly self diagnose. He's said i feel the way i do because of how i grew up, which i'm fully aware of and not why i'm going to him. I'm going to him so he can clarify/diagnose in order for me to understand what's going on and to fix it. He doesn't suggest ways to cope with what i feel. I find it quite annoying that after putting off going to see someone for so long that it hasn't helped whatsoever. What do i do?

fleshblur I can't tell if I'm actually trying or putting any effort into making positive changes in my life...
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So, I've been struggling. I keep losing and failing, and I'm tired. But I also want to do better and change. It's hard and I can't tell if I'm actually trying or putting any effort into changing or doing something different because my times where I t... View more

So, I've been struggling. I keep losing and failing, and I'm tired. But I also want to do better and change. It's hard and I can't tell if I'm actually trying or putting any effort into changing or doing something different because my times where I trial something different don't last long. Then looking back into it, I'm not even sure if I tried at all. I just feel so defeated or like I've given up a decent portion of the time, and tired so often.

Izelle I’m falling apart
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I’ve been so stressed and worried lately, i feel like I’m at the bottom of a dark pit all on my own. School work is piling up and I cant find the motivation to do it in any way, my friends are so distant and i can’t escape from the people I said I wo... View more

I’ve been so stressed and worried lately, i feel like I’m at the bottom of a dark pit all on my own. School work is piling up and I cant find the motivation to do it in any way, my friends are so distant and i can’t escape from the people I said I would help. I can’t trust anyone with anything anymore. I don’t know who I am. I look at my name and I feel worse. I don’t want to wake up tomorrow, I’m just dragged along everyday but I don’t want to anymore. I feel like I’m sitting on a tightrope. I’ve talked to people but no one has been able to help. I’m trying one more thing before losing my strength, I have no more energy left to try and be keep going. I just want this to stop.