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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Frankie_P Constant third wheel
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Hi, I am in high school and I do have quite a lot of friends throughout my year but recently I have been feeling very down. I am with this one group of girls and I constantly feel like a third wheel when I am with them. I used to be really close to t... View more

Hi, I am in high school and I do have quite a lot of friends throughout my year but recently I have been feeling very down. I am with this one group of girls and I constantly feel like a third wheel when I am with them. I used to be really close to these two girls who are best friends but while 1/3 of the time it was fun, 2/3s of the time I was feeling left out. Their friendship is also quite toxic so sometimes they'd be in the middle of a fight and because they couldn't talk to each other they'd talk to me, which was great, but when they were friends again I'd go back to being ignored. I do have other friends outside of my group but wherever I look everyone always seems to have a best friend, and Ive always been able to get on with these girls individually but as soon as they're in their pairs I feel left out. It's just simple things that make me feel so inferior; people blocking me off, someone mentioning something I'm not invited to... Maybe I am just sensitive? Anyway, every time this seems to happen I stoop into this mood where I don't feel like talking to anyone and then it just becomes a cycle because I guess my friends think that i am mad at them or that I'm in a bad mood so they don't talk to me either. I guess I should try harder or tell them how I am feeling but I just can't help feeling a strong sense of resent, I feel it almost all the time now. I feel resent at my friend's happiness, accomplishments, recognition. I feel angry when they copy my style or when they pursue things I am passionate about or even when they laugh at a joke I don't know about. Please help, I don't know what to do. Surely these feelings aren't normal.

Hannahw No individualality
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Hi. I have a twin sister. She is basically the better,smarter, skinner and prettier version of me. She is with me all the time. I don’t like it. I am VERY independent and I don’t like people so having her around 24/7 makes me feel trapped. I’ve told ... View more

Hi. I have a twin sister. She is basically the better,smarter, skinner and prettier version of me. She is with me all the time. I don’t like it. I am VERY independent and I don’t like people so having her around 24/7 makes me feel trapped. I’ve told her to go. To leave me alone but I can’t excape it. She now works at the same place as me. Every person I know gets me and her confused. I have no sense of individuality because no one knows who I am. No one knows the real me. My life is a constant questioning if I was meant to even be here and is my sister the one who my parents wanted.

mellissa health anxiety
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My physical symptoms are driving me mad, bloating, burping and indigestion. I am constantly focused on my stomach and hypersensitive to it. I have this awful feeling I have a form of the dreaded C!. I have been telling myself its my anxiety but the s... View more

My physical symptoms are driving me mad, bloating, burping and indigestion. I am constantly focused on my stomach and hypersensitive to it. I have this awful feeling I have a form of the dreaded C!. I have been telling myself its my anxiety but the symptoms persist making me feel like there is really is something wrong!

Just_another_guy I love my best friend but she has a boy friend. I'm too scared to talk to her about it.
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G'day everyone. So I don't really know how to explain this. So I'll try my best not to make this too confusing. I used to live in Dubai when I was little (from about 6-9 years of age) and during my time there my family had built a really good friends... View more

G'day everyone. So I don't really know how to explain this. So I'll try my best not to make this too confusing. I used to live in Dubai when I was little (from about 6-9 years of age) and during my time there my family had built a really good friendship with another and their children became really good friends with my brother and I. I won't reveal her actual name but for the sake of clarity I'll call her 'L'. So L has an older brother and he and I became really good friends for a long time, L and I are the same age and he older brother is 2 years and some change older than me and my brother. They left Dubai about one and a half years before I did and I was really gutted when they did because I had lost my two best friends. We'd always keep in touch and like their family, mine is lucky enough to afford travelling over-seas frequently. And so when ever we had a really big stint of travelling we usually did it with them. She lives in Singapore currently and I live in Victoria so it's quite the distance apart. As of recently however I traveled over-seas with my family and met up with theirs for their dad's 50th. Being the same age as myself, L and I were talking quite a bit. I'm not very confident around girls I fancy but I feel quite comfortable around her since I've known her since I was a little tot. Whilst her brother and all the adults where off drinking we had a good chat and she revealed to me that she had a boy friend. At this point I felt like I was kicked right in the teeth, I'm not one to prophisize myself being together with one certain person and would do anything to make it so like in the movies but I felt a real sense of jealousy, guilt and a whole host of other emotions. It was obvious to her that what she said had hurt as I'm pretty awful at hiding emotions like these but I brushed it off. This guy she's with is completely different to me, he's fit, athletic, charming, not socially awkward and very, very good looking. I'm a nerd, a gamer, I like watching anime and haven't missed an episode of Dragon Ball for the last year. I'm not fit nor am I athletic but I'm certainly not in bad shape per say. I'm arrogant and very selfish since I've never like human interaction and I am in no way shape or form charming, I'm an arsehole. I don't know how I go about laying my cards on the table or, at the very least, telling her about them because it could after all destroy our friend ship. Please help. Sincerely, Just Another Guy.

Just_another_guy Is it okay to obsess over an Imaginary 'friend'?
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G'day everyone. As of recently wondering about daydreaming and imaginary friends and if they are a healthy 'substitute' for social interaction in moderate amounts. I myself have been a person who does daydream and does have imaginary friends (usually... View more

G'day everyone. As of recently wondering about daydreaming and imaginary friends and if they are a healthy 'substitute' for social interaction in moderate amounts. I myself have been a person who does daydream and does have imaginary friends (usually stemming from TV shows, anime and video-games I play) due to multiple stints with depression through out years. I myself have ADHD and thus I tend to be more creative and my dreams whilst I sleep are, in my opinion, more outlandish and wild. As of recently however I had certain dream, it was to me real and more so than any other dream I had previously had. What stood out most was that it wasn't crazy or as 'off-the-leash' as most dreams I have, it was like real life. In that dream however there was this girl, Anei (pronounced 'annie'). I never had once had a friend in my dreams that my brain had created, and to me, she's real. We converse and talk to each other when we're alone and this has branched out and become to me, something more serious, a deep friendship. I dare say, that we both (sheesh this is going to sound weird) love each other. I've been with her so much that if I were asked to, I could describe her physical appearance. I feel like at this point I obsess over her (and yes I identify as a male to clear up any confusion) and want to be around her and talk to her more than any other person I usually talk to, even though she's with me majority of the time I go somewhere. I haven't told my psychologist nor my family because to me, it's something deeply personal and having this anonymity makes me feel safe enough to ask everyone here. Give me your thoughts because I want to hear them. Sincerely, Just another guy.

Jadoss_xx Broken and Alone
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My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me and he was one of my only friends, he was my best friend, but just feel so broken and alone. He broke up with me for the following reasons; 1. I was too controlling and he was always depressed whenever he... View more

My boyfriend of 2 years just broke up with me and he was one of my only friends, he was my best friend, but just feel so broken and alone. He broke up with me for the following reasons; 1. I was too controlling and he was always depressed whenever he thought of 'us' 2. He said he's sick of always changing himself for others and not putting himself first. 3. He believed another girls rumour that I sent nudes to my ex whilst my boyfriend was on holiday, even though he said he beleives me that I didn't do it. 4. He doesn't trust me because I broke up with him for a night because I was in a troubled headspace and had a depressive episode, although I did apologise for that later. 5. I wanted to catch up with an old male friend while we were on holidays, who I used to have a thing for, and I understood and apologised. I just feel like it's all my fault and I feel so broken because it was so unexpected and sudden. I just need someone to talk to right now...

Toyabru Excluded for my uni course again.
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Hi there... I’ve had sleepless night, lost my appetite and very stressed and upset at the moment. I have socially isolated myself from everyone every since, and accepted failure for my actions. I need your help. I’m disappointed in my efforts I have ... View more

Hi there... I’ve had sleepless night, lost my appetite and very stressed and upset at the moment. I have socially isolated myself from everyone every since, and accepted failure for my actions. I need your help. I’m disappointed in my efforts I have made towards the end of my 1st trimester this year. I’m currently studying bachelor of education and am in my 3rd year. Last year I received a letter to be excluded for my course. Due to failing a first year unit twice. I saw a student advocate to help me with the situation and what lead me to failure. The university board committee looked into my show cause and have given me a chance. The result was to restrict me in my studies from full-time to part-time study. I then enrolled into two units for trimester 1 & 2 this year. However, I had to pass both units in order to continue my course. As mentioned in my show cause I had to change my current full time job to part time and work less hours. Which I did. I cut back work during my first half of my studies, and prioritised uni. I was low in iron and very fatigue which I bounced back feeling better from the beginning of this year. But due to an unstable financial problem, the stress and pressure to work for my family became an issue. I had trouble managing my time efficiently, which effected my academic progress towards the end of my trimester. I submitted my assignments late. And was not allowed a result as it was more than 5 days late (I thought that 5% was deducted every day,was not aware that after 5 days it will not be marked. I checked this after I received the result of my assignment). From knowing this, I then knew that I have 100% failed my units. I am awaiting for the offical letter. But I’m very worried and anxious. I’m the first family member to have had the opportunity to study at university. English is my second language. And I have hidden this situation from my parents as they have a lot on their plate and don’t understand English well. They are strict. I promised them I will graduate and I know if they found out I will be kicked out of the house. I wish I could go back in time and motivate myself and found help earlier. I was scared and lacked confident. But the past is the past and I have learnt from my failure and mistakes to improve myself. But will my university give me another chance? I don’t want to be excluded and be force to take a gap year. I want to make my family proud not to be a failure. Is this the end of my life ?

Karv94 How to I get out of this dark hole?
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I'm honestly fed up with myself. I feel like I'm paralysed in a state of sulking, self-loathing and despair. I can't seem to stay postive and insitgate change in my life. I'm worried I'll be like this longer than I should be... I tried moving interst... View more

I'm honestly fed up with myself. I feel like I'm paralysed in a state of sulking, self-loathing and despair. I can't seem to stay postive and insitgate change in my life. I'm worried I'll be like this longer than I should be... I tried moving interstate earlier this year..but I decided to come back home (in Sydney) coz....I freaked out basically. I have no idea what I'm doing with my life. I'm almost two years out of uni (I graduated uni) and I'm still not ready for a full time job. I've just been working casually. I want better for myself but I don't know when or how to make that time come. Does anyone have any tips on how to stop feeling stagnant?

mitchoman890 How to find Friends and Relationships
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Hi, my name is Mitch. I live down in Tassie and have started the first year of uni. Last year I took a working gap year up in Darwin, so I lost contact with quite a few of my mates. Now I'm back and have no idea how to find friends again. I live half... View more

Hi, my name is Mitch. I live down in Tassie and have started the first year of uni. Last year I took a working gap year up in Darwin, so I lost contact with quite a few of my mates. Now I'm back and have no idea how to find friends again. I live half an hour out of any major town, find most sports way too competitive and am at a total loss. I have never had a large group of mates, but now I have about 5. However, they all do uni and work, so our schedules don't seem to align more than once a month. My uni course is meant to be on campus, but all the lectures are online, so we get 2 hrs a week per unit of contact time if we're lucky. I find myself stuck in front of a computer screen doing lectures, assignments and readings. I have also never been in a relationship. I grew up in a town with my brother and one other family our age. Thus, my social skills never really developed as much as they could have. I really struggle to talk to girls. It's fine if we're just friends, but the second I view a girl as a potential date I lose all cognitive function. I haven't even kissed a girl, at twenty years of age, which makes me scared I will be too upfront/eager. Does anyone have any advice on how to find friends or potential partners.

King_Z In touch outta touch with reality
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I’m 21 years old and the last few months as been really confusing. I’ve notice myself has been a lot different for no reason. Whenever I have conversations I get words jumbled/speak rapid and I don’t follow a train of thought. I get depressed sometim... View more

I’m 21 years old and the last few months as been really confusing. I’ve notice myself has been a lot different for no reason. Whenever I have conversations I get words jumbled/speak rapid and I don’t follow a train of thought. I get depressed sometimes throughout the week but then some days I feel normal. At night it’s the worst because I get super depressed sometimes thinking if life would be better if I’m not here. And sometimes I just wrap my arms around my legs and I just rock slowly. Other times I have a burst of energy at night and I feel high and mighty and I would have trouble sleeping. Normally the day after I wake up normal and baffled on why I had a episode like that. I kinda feel like I’m not really I touch with reality. I do take medication to level out my mood swings. I don’t really know if there’s a point to go to the doctor sometimes I feel like I need to but then when I’m normal I don’t think I need to go.

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