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Just want someone to talk to

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Hi everyone, before I start I am just writing because I want someone to understand/ hear me so it’s okay if people can’t fix much about it. I have issue with my older sister that I don’t know what to do anymore. I am aware that she does have issues d... View more

Hi everyone, before I start I am just writing because I want someone to understand/ hear me so it’s okay if people can’t fix much about it. I have issue with my older sister that I don’t know what to do anymore. I am aware that she does have issues dealing with stress and insecurities, which can explain why she would hit out at people and try and bring them down. The problem is that I feel like I am suffering the consequences of this and can’t get away. Although it may sound dramatic, to be honest I get scared if she may be stressed or angered because I would have to suffer some pretty bad verbal abuse and sometimes it would get physical. It would usually be yelling at me about how I’m stupid and saying I’m useless. This obviously caused some issues with confidence and self-esteem and sometimes still does. The problem is that it would happen in phases, a few days later she would be happy and nice to me again. However, the things she would say and yell at me would stay with me I couldn’t forget. They would cause me to get extremely anxious or feel a bit depressed. My dad really doesn’t care about any of this, but my mum sometimes knows how I feel, But I would always have to “let it go” and forgive her because we are sisters. I would forgive her and be kind to her, but as soon as she would get aggressive and hurt me again it would feel 10X worse because I feel like she just keeps walking all over me and is allowed to do this without any repercussions. I have tried just cutting her off and not engaging with her when she is in a better mood, and then when she would hit out at me again it wouldn’t hurt as much because I was expecting it. The problem is though, that this would be forcing me to be on guard and not be my happy self around my family. We are going away on a holiday soon and I just don’t know what to do. I do love her, and we do have fun when she is not stressed and is in a good mood. However, I worry about being hurt again, and its driving me crazy trying to handle it. Thankyou very much for reading this

First true love, first break up, I feel deranged.

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Hi all, so I'm a guy and I feel like I can't express my feelings or anyone to my mates because they'll think I am weak, I have only spoken about this with one very close friend. So I am resorting to the forums for help. I had my first real relationsh... View more

Hi all, so I'm a guy and I feel like I can't express my feelings or anyone to my mates because they'll think I am weak, I have only spoken about this with one very close friend. So I am resorting to the forums for help. I had my first real relationship with someone, she was from Europe, she is 18 and I am 19, and she was studying at a university for 6 months. I met her on the first day out of sheer luck and wanted to get to know her more because I have always wanted to live in her country (and still do now). Fast forward 6 months, we have been pretty much head over heels for one another, we were each others first everything, being physical, intimacy, sex, love. She really loved me, she told me her parents never showed their love to her much because she was the middle child, but my love for her was gradually making her a better person, as months went on, she would be more expressive towards me. Love hit me like a train, I felt like she was my soulmate, the kind of love that you can feel circulating through your veins every time you were with eachother. We broke up because of distance, we tried to get it work, I flew to Europe 3 months ago, for a month. I can only visit her about 2 or 3 times a year..for a month each. She wanted to break it up because she felt too much pain, it was her choice, but she would like for us to be back together again when I decide to graduate in 3-5 years and move to her country. She wanted us to stay best friends for now, and only time will tell here is where I need help; I loved her so much. Am I crazy to generally feel that even though we haven't been together for even a year, I would do anything for her? That's not expression. Literally. This is not normal, most people..especially guys, don't feel this way. If she had a car accident, or something happened to her and she was mentally disabled, I would still love her so much. Once I got attached that's it, it's either ride or die, If I couldn't see her for a year, I wouldn't care, I would stay loyal. That's how hard I fell I'm just an 18 year old guy, who has been crying constantly for these past few days, I can't control my emotions, I can't go outside or I'll just break. Because I know we have an opportunity left, we broke up not because of hatred but because it isn't our time yet. So I all can think about is what can I do for us to have a better future so I can love her forever. It's not logical to give up on something when there's still so much opportunity left.

Who do you talk to/tell about your mental health issues?

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I'm 18 and have OCD, anxiety and depression. I'm unsure of when and who to share this with however and was wondering what other do? I have my psychiatrist to talk to, my parents know my diagnosis (although I share no details with them) and two of my ... View more

I'm 18 and have OCD, anxiety and depression. I'm unsure of when and who to share this with however and was wondering what other do? I have my psychiatrist to talk to, my parents know my diagnosis (although I share no details with them) and two of my very very closest and most trusted friends know. It would probably be easier day to day for people to understand how and why I act as I do sometimes, if more people were to know, but personally I've always seen mental health conditions as private and not something to tell the world. I fear for being treated differently, judged and being attention seeking. Personally, I can find it rather off-putting when people share their own conditions continuously with everyone. So, what does everyone usually do when it comes to telling others about you condition/s? How, who and when do you tell people?

Confused, Depressed, Lonely, and Empty

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I am 20 and live overseas with my boyfriend, we met back in our hometown and decided to study abroad. My family is perfect, you can say I have a lot of friends and has no problems in my personal life. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost ... View more

I am 20 and live overseas with my boyfriend, we met back in our hometown and decided to study abroad. My family is perfect, you can say I have a lot of friends and has no problems in my personal life. I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years, He is my first boyfriend and I am his first as well. We're always together and every time he leaves, I feel sad. We started dating in 2015, he lives 1 hour away from me and I always want to see him every day, otherwise, I'll feel empty. In 2016, we decided to go study at the same university and I would sleep in his dorm room every day for 1 year. When our industry placement started, we've been living together until now and I am very happy about it. We work in the same workplace but we have different shifts, he would work from the afternoon till midnight and i start early in the morning till afternoon. When i get home, I usually just wait for him at home so we can sleep together, I even always say no to my friends when they ask me to hang out. And sometimes he would sleepover at his mate's house for 1 night and I would cry at night. And now he's gone home to our hometown for only 6 days but I feel VERY lonely, depressed, and feel like I have no life and what keeps me going is that I am going to see him again. I even count the days so it will feel faster... When he's not with me at night, I would take sleeping pills so that I wouldn't cry at night and sleep longer. The first thing I think about in the morning is him and always him throughout the day. When my friends contact me, I wouldn't answer because I would rather sleep and forget the pain. I feel like people will think i'm overreacting, I feel like I am too, but i don't know what to do... Even doing the dishes requires a lot of energy and I just want to lay down in my bed until he comes back. There was this time where he went on a trip with his friends for 4 days, believe it or not, I didnt go out of my room AT ALL. My mom would bring me food and I didn't even take a shower even though there is a bathroom inside my room. I didn't have any life at all... I talked to my boyfriend about this and he feels sad, he doesn't wanna leave me at all. He always says we'll get through this, just think about when you're gonna see me again. I do know that this is very unhealthy for myself, yet I don't know what I should do...

Feeling lost

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Hello Everyone Im wondering if anyone has any tips on what to do when you feel lost? Ifeel im forever going in circles and my attempts to break that cycle always seem to backfire or i loose interest quickly ( trying new arts, rekindling old interests... View more

Hello Everyone Im wondering if anyone has any tips on what to do when you feel lost? Ifeel im forever going in circles and my attempts to break that cycle always seem to backfire or i loose interest quickly ( trying new arts, rekindling old interests or a new hobby) Perhaps its the metal health stuff talking but i feel very lost in the world. For those who dont already know me im 21 and have been told it can be normal for this age. Any tips would be appreciated please.

Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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I had an awful time at school, I always struggled with friendships due to social anxiety and I was severely bullied from grade 3 through to year 11, when I couldn’t take it anymore. I think it was at its worst in year 7. So, In year 7 my teachers wou... View more

I had an awful time at school, I always struggled with friendships due to social anxiety and I was severely bullied from grade 3 through to year 11, when I couldn’t take it anymore. I think it was at its worst in year 7. So, In year 7 my teachers would humiliate me in front of the whole class for doing trivial things wrong. I was bullied by a group of girls who decided they didn’t like me without ever getting to know me. They would laugh at me, call me their dog. They spread rumours and wrote horrible things on facebook about me. And when I just couldn’t hold it together anymore they laughed while I cried. I would sit at a table with the other kids and they would all get up and move away and I’d have the whole 8 seat table to myself. It was like I had the plague. I felt like I had the plague. And I felt like there was something really wrong with me. That I was worth so much less than everyone else. I guess I’d always felt like that, but this made me feel even more so. I sat by myself at lunch. No one stood up for me. I always stood up for myself. Which is why they kept going. They wanted my reaction. When I went to the school about it and told them what was going on it was ‘my fault’ and ‘there was nothing they could do’. Then my mum would force me to go to school every day whether I liked it or not. I would cry and scream most mornings before I left but that was just more proof that I was out of control and the problem. And then there was my dad who, when he had to take me to school, would hit and punch me in the car while we were on our way. Called me every curse word under the sun and told me not to bother coming home that night. He took me to school most days too. I was a mess. I would stare at the wall/ground all day every day. I went through all of this alone, and I’ve never told anyone and it still haunts me today

Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Recently i've noticed a difficult to explain feeling. I usually get this while walking and occasionally while sitting, it literally feels as if i'm dropping into the ground! It's quite scary and makes me worry it won't go away, ??is this just stress ... View more

Recently i've noticed a difficult to explain feeling. I usually get this while walking and occasionally while sitting, it literally feels as if i'm dropping into the ground! It's quite scary and makes me worry it won't go away, ??is this just stress or is it more.

Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Ok so this is my very first post and I just wanted to vent. I’m in Year 9 at school at the moment and recently have been thinking about relationships and my sexuality as I’m getting older and more people are becoming appealing. But the thing is I’m b... View more

Ok so this is my very first post and I just wanted to vent. I’m in Year 9 at school at the moment and recently have been thinking about relationships and my sexuality as I’m getting older and more people are becoming appealing. But the thing is I’m bisexual and have known I have been since I was 11. No one knows this and I’m thinking about coming out but I’m scared to because although my school has a LGBTQ club lots of people make mean jokes about being gay etc. Most kids just don’t understand. And then there’s actual dating. I want to date girls and boys but I’m scared I have liked a few people, that have also liked me, but put up a wall. Also I have had people tell me that people that label themselves as bisexual or whatever at my age are just confused. I just don’t really know what to do. I’m not sure if I will be accepted by my family and friends. Feel free to share your opinion on this, anything helps.

Am I weird?

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Hello, currently my legal name is “G”, but I go by Sierra. I’ve had many problems in the past because I have been uncomfortable with my legal name. I’ve been picked on a bit in the past, and I’ve had many people tell me it’s not okay to go by a new n... View more

Hello, currently my legal name is “G”, but I go by Sierra. I’ve had many problems in the past because I have been uncomfortable with my legal name. I’ve been picked on a bit in the past, and I’ve had many people tell me it’s not okay to go by a new name. My school (Middle/High) told me it was also unacceptable, and the school has no way of changing it. I’ve been experiencing depression, and my anxiety and anger has gotten worse over it. If you’re wondering as well, I do have people to talk to, like a school counselor, and my best friend. But sometimes it’s hard because I have a pretty unique problem, and I have searched forum after forum, and the closest I get is “How to respect a transgender person’s new pronouns”. I’m not transgender, and I’m not choosing a different gender, so I’m at a bit of a loss. I’ve also been told I may have been experiencing childhood emotional neglect as well, although I’m not entirely sure that’s the case, as I don’t have low self-esteem and I don’t blame myself for their behavior, although they were never really there for me growing up, and I have also had depressive episodes about that. I’m willing to go into more depth into that if you want. Back to my legal name issues. I have broken down at school many times, and I’m starting to not be able to cry anymore. The last time I smiled was Sunday night, with my best friend while watching my favorite movie. I’ve been angrier, and my friends have told me I’m starting to look hollow and empty. It’s starting to affect my general life, and I have no idea what to do (Minor here) because my parents told me it’s stupid, I’ll grow out of it and no one will ever accept it (My small group of friends do). So… yeah. That’s my situation. Sierra.

So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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Q: Are you happy? A: No Q: Why are you not happy? A: Because I hate myself Q: Why do you hate yourself? A: Because in my 25 years of being alive most of it has been me making bad decisions which I regret making and I hate myself because I barely made... View more

Q: Are you happy? A: No Q: Why are you not happy? A: Because I hate myself Q: Why do you hate yourself? A: Because in my 25 years of being alive most of it has been me making bad decisions which I regret making and I hate myself because I barely made the good decisions. Q: Name one of these bad decisions. A: Not thinking twice before diving into my relationships. Q: And why do you consider that a bad decision? A: Because I learned a painful lesson, Girls are trouble, always have been, always will be, I should have known better than to be so naive and think that all relationships were perfect. Q: And had you not made this bad decision what would have happened? A: I would not be so emotionally and mentally shattered, I would be a little bit happier knowing I am not having to deal with all the crud of relationships. Q: What about knowledge, would you know as much as you do now had you not made that decision? A: I have a habbit of researching when curious, I would have researched Relationships at length, trying to extrapolate every inch of information I could, from that my knowledge on relationships would grow. Statement: Had you done that you would still been researching for all the answers, why because to learn everything about relationships without ever having been in one takes longer than firsthand experience. Counter-Statement: And Firsthand experience is exactly what lead to me being a mental and emotional mess, I hate being a mental and emotional mess, therefore I hate the decision I made to dive into a relationship without knowing all the information prior.

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First true love, first break up, I feel deranged.

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Confused, Depressed, Lonely, and Empty

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Feeling lost

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Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Am I weird?

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So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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First true love, first break up, I feel deranged.

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Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Am I weird?

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So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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