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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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I wish i was someone else

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Hi, this is my first time post on here, i have gone to sign up a few times but i never do as i feel like no one would care anyways. But here i am. My issue is i have a daily struggle to like myself. I am obsessed with my flaws and i feel very unattractive. I have never fitted in when i was a child right through highschool. I was always bullied for looking different. My home life with my parents wasnt good, I was very depressed in high school and contemplated suicide but i got help for this and now no longer have those thoughts. But I feel if i was pretty my life would be so much better, i am happly married and he loves me so much and thinks i look beautiful but i feel if i was prettier he would be happier. I have lost friends because i feel i dont deserve them. I just dont feel apart of this world somedays. There is no one to talk to about this i try and reach out to my family and frienda about my insecurity and they brush it off and call me silly for thinking i am ugly. I feel jealous of beautiful women that get compliments all the time which makes me feel like a terrible person for having jealous thoughts. I know looks arent everything but i am really struggling to get over this.

Alone...

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Recently finished yr12 and even during the last few months of the school year, I've felt alone. Second option to my best friend and like I don't know how to talk to people anymore. I've always been introverted and originating from a different country makes me feel like I'm an alien to social norms and groups, even though I've been here since I was 1. I feel worthless and alone with everything and everyone. My family situation at home isn't good either, and I don't want to bother anyone with my issues. I don't know how to fix my friendships because I'm so isolated and secluded in my own thoughts that I just shut down and don't talk to anyone. I really don't know what to do

I hate myself

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ive had depression for many years now at first due to bullying and more recently due to the loss of my mother. Over the years i have come to hate myself. Everything i do or say i regret. This might be because i failed school, blaming myself for my mother leaving me or the fact that that this depression cripples me and i know that all im doing is feeling sorry for myself and i hate it. Either way all i want, i hope for is a connection. Id take any type of connection. Obviously id prefer one with a girl as its easier to talk about deep stuff like this rather then with "the boys", but basically why i started this thread was to ask this How can you develop a connection when you hate yourself? People say that to attract people you have to be confident in yourself and have the same type of energy they want to be around. Which is usually happy, enthusiastic, fun etc. And when i have my low days which outnumber the high days by far how am i suppose to give off this aura which any person would be attracted too. Obviously i use a facade like most people do with depression do with their friends and social life, but when i mean a connection im talking about a true one where your on the same page as the other person. There is a lot more depth to my story but i dont want my whinging to bore people and take away from my initial idea of how it is possible to develop a deep connection when you dont like yourself at all. Thanks for reading. SIMILAR THREADS I hate myself

Family

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Please help me, l feel like my family is drifting apart. I can't talk to my parents anymore, and we don't spend time togethet anymore either. What can l do to fix this?

Boyfriend broke up with me: he is grieving and has depression

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Seeing boyfriend for a few months long distance. Went on holidays and met up with him in France, we had a beautiful time and then his mother unexpectedly died. I supported him but had to leave him. When I got home he met me within two hours of being in the country. He told me everything would be alright as he had me. I saw him again and when I was to visit him again. A few days before, he sent me an email telling me he couldn’t be in a relationship right now and wasn’t coping with grief and depression. That he couldn’t consider someone normal like me loving him. That he needed to love himself first, clear his mind before going forward and having a normal relationship. I said I accepted and respected what he said and set him free. He then sent me a few messages which I responded to politely. After silence for 2 weeks, I touched base. He responded saying my email made him smile. A couple of days later he contacted me telling me he hadn’t left the house for nearly a month and that for the past two weeks not one person contacted him and that wasn’t a great when having depression. He told me he was going to France see family as he needed help. He told me he wanted to call me the next day but then he was too busy with friends getting wasted it wasn’t a good time to call. I sent a message, I understood and that all that mattered to me was he was going home to his family. In transit he sent email thanking me for my love. 2 weeks On I touched base. he responded saying he was unable to respond to any emails since he left Australia. Then he received mine with no questions or judgment. Since being home I was all around him. He told me he wished he had met me years ago before he had demons. That he shouldn’t have let me into his life and didn’t expect to get attached. He wrote reality: delete my number, forget me, the better it will be for me. That he spent the evening eating my favourite food, thinking of me all night and to keep that as our last happy memories together. I tried calling, no answer. I sent him an email saying that I was very worried he wanted to disappear. I said I would go quite for a bit but I would not forget him and that I loved him very much. i am extremely worried and am considering going to see him. I feel I have respected him wanting space but he is getting worse. I could wait until he returns to Australia but I’m unsure when that is. I’m afraid he is alone, that France would fix him. i don’t know what to do.......

Just need to talk

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Hi Everyone, I wasn't to sure which section to post in, so I apologize if this is the wrong area. Lately, life is getting really hard for me. I have been finding it hard to relax and have been quite down and stressed out. I have stuffed up my friendship with my friend because I was to needy and pushy and I am currently unemployed but I am waiting for my security licence to get approved. However, it just sucks dealing with my job provider, which I have been forced to go on a course for. I am not trying to gain sympathy I just needed to get it off chest! I can't go to my psychologist because they are on holidays till may. I just feel like I have stuffed everything up! My friendship and finding work. I wish I could fix it.

Any personality quizzes such as the Myers Briggs test or ways to understand what I'm feeling emotionally so I understand myself more?

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Hi all, I feel like I don't know myself at all and get very confused at what I'm feeling emotionally. Does anyone know any quizzes to understand my personality more? Or even just a way to figure out my emotions (which I find incredibly hard to deciph... View more

Mitch.H. - feel free to jump in

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I'm 23 and kind of looking for some people I can talk with and get to know also provide help and guidance to eachother. The site is set up kind of odd. But If you'd like to post in this thread and are of similar age. Feel free. I kind of dont know wh... View more

Just done with everything

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Today I turned 18 and I'm in my last year of High school, after getting no support from the school with my anixety and depression even at the worst of times I relyed on my friends too much and now they have given up on me aswell and even tell me to quit school so their scores don't get marked down at all, so I quit that school but now the new school I was ment to start at says I can't change schools mid year and as such I'm a giant ball of stress sitting up at 1 in the morning crying for the first time in 4 years because I have no clue what to do and am just so done with people and yet crave attention and just can't deal with anything anymore, no job, no school, no friends I have nothing and honestly don't know what to do

Friends?

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I have just come out of secondary college (where I hadn't made any friends) and am now in a Gap Year, and constantly feeling like alone because I've hardly talk to anyone outside my family for over two years now. So please help me.

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Just need to talk replies: 1

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