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Struggling to find jobs, need to start work immediately

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Hi, I've applied 15-20 plus jobs over the past 2-3 days but most of them are rejected, what should I do?

Struggling with feelings of emptiness and apathy.

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Alright this will be the first time I am admitting any of this to anyone; I'll try to keep it short and succinct. Quick note, I am 21 years old and am currently into the third year of my Uni degree. For the longest time I have always prided myself on... View more

Alright this will be the first time I am admitting any of this to anyone; I'll try to keep it short and succinct. Quick note, I am 21 years old and am currently into the third year of my Uni degree. For the longest time I have always prided myself on being able to keep my emotions in check. Throughout my school life, I never let myself get stressed or upset and was able to suppress those upsetting feelings and push through the intense pressure put on me to do well in school. However, I think this coping mechanism backfired on me. As of late, I have been dealing with feelings of emotional emptiness. Since my parents messy divorce early last year, I have noticed that I constantly shut down emotionally. My mum cried constantly for the first 6 months after the separation, and I know it sounds horrible but I couldn't help but feel uncomfortable when she cried and vented her frustrations out to me. I almost resented her for it, getting irritated whenever she got upset or mentioned my dad in anyway. Now that I think of it, I have a tendency to avoid any situation where others are upset, or even situations that I think may make me upset. Currently, I just feel empty all the time, like my ability to regulate my emotions has become so profound that I hardly feel them at all. I now have no motivation to hang out in social situations with friends, and even when I do, the happiness and excitement I know I should be feeling are dulled. I think numb is the most accurate word for it. Like I constantly have a barrier up. And the only feelings that really do break through is anger. While I can usually hold back my frustration and irritation in public and with friends, I tend to lash out at home. I've been told by my mum and brother that they think I have 'anger management problems' on numerous occasions. I just don't know what I'm experiencing or whether it is normal. I don't feel sad, depressed, or empathy, and I don't feel anxiety, or when I do, it is dull and I can ignore it fairly easily. I think one of the worst parts of it all is that I'm so good at pretending be happy, or care, or even be upset, that no body can even tell that I'm doing it. Does anyone else experience this? I don't know what I should do about it or if there is even a real problem. If anyone can give me any advice, I'd really appreciate it.

Just a vent

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In my life I don’t really have anybody to confide in or express my feelings to, so I’m just going to use this as an outlet to get everything that has happened over the past year off my chest. I had to move schools due to having had created a large am... View more

In my life I don’t really have anybody to confide in or express my feelings to, so I’m just going to use this as an outlet to get everything that has happened over the past year off my chest. I had to move schools due to having had created a large amount of drama surrounding myself, I had an eating disorder and my obsession with self image and being what I considered good enough for the people around me became crippling to my mental health and began to impact my friends and family. As a result of this, many people at the school heavily disliked me. Over school break, I was able to try and come to terms with my disorder and slowly became more comfortable with myself through talking to friends and family. I still struggled with the loss of all of my valued friends that I had at school as a result of what I did to myself, and the reputation I had made. The following year, I moved to a new school. I knew a girl there and was friends with her already so I was able to acclimate okay into the new environment. But slowly I began to realise that people seemed to enjoy making fun of me more than they did really hanging around me. When I came to the table they would leave. And when I left they would gossip about me and laugh and point. Eventually I was able to succumb to the societal pressures and just watered my personality down so they wouldn’t hate me for being myself. I stopped expressing myself, and talking loudly and doing everything that they hated me for. Things were okay but throughout all of this my anxiety had been peaking. I began self harming everywhere I could and I felt out of control and lost touch of reality. School became increasingly harder and I began binge eating as a result of the stress. Towards the end of the year, I stopped going to school. I refused to get out of bed and when confronted by my parents I wouldn’t fight back, I would just cry. I stopped going for weeks on end, I would just stay alone in my room and cry. It was a low point for me. As a result, a repeat of what happened at my last school began to happen again. My friends did not understand why I wasn’t at school, they thought I was being ignorant and mean. My closest friend, began to hate me for seemingly no reason. She never told me why. She has started spreading rumours about me, making everyone who I had tried so hard to make like me hate me once again. I have been so sad lately. I have left school for the past 3 months and not gone back. I’m now moving towns.

Broken hope

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Hi everyone! I think my hope when it comes to LOVE is definitely broken. I thought I was able to find hope in someone who I ever wanted. He's a guy I met online and dated for 3months. It's brief but it made me really happy. We spent several times tog... View more

Hi everyone! I think my hope when it comes to LOVE is definitely broken. I thought I was able to find hope in someone who I ever wanted. He's a guy I met online and dated for 3months. It's brief but it made me really happy. We spent several times together, if we're not together communication through text and call is done everyday. He say sweet things, complements my insecurities, keeps me warm, holds my hands when we walk and all sort of things that couples would do. The way I know him is that he's a good communicator, honest, kind, reassures me every now and then, complements everyone and helps out others. Just enough for now. I'm enjoying the moment with him. However, one day he just broke it off with me. I don't know what happened or what I did or whatever reason that he said he can not like me more than enough for him to commit to me. I was shocked, overwhelmed, full of emotions mixed in a jar that I can not explain. I'm crippled physically, emotionally and mentally but trying my best to function at work and daily living. The last time I talked to him he said he maybe a dismissive attachment style. I've read about it but I find it weird coz he would be able to talk about his childhood, exes, friends and family. He shares his views and thoughts on different matters. I don't know if I should believe him. For me it seems like he's finding an excuse. I lost my confidence in him and even myself. I'm not sure what I want to do or I want to hear. This makes me so weak and half functioning.

feeling helpless, lost and stressed

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Hi all, This is my first time posting on here but this year was my last year of high school. I did VCE so the stress of getting a good ATAR and getting into my dream uni was already a lot to deal with. Around the time year 12 students start applying ... View more

Hi all, This is my first time posting on here but this year was my last year of high school. I did VCE so the stress of getting a good ATAR and getting into my dream uni was already a lot to deal with. Around the time year 12 students start applying for universities, I got informed that my visa is being processed. Upon learning about this, I learnt that I was considered an International student because I don't have an Australian residency or citizenship and because I was born in America. All of this made me more stressed because international student university tuition fees are so expensive and because I was on a bridging visa that didn't allow me work rights, I felt so unmotivated and was in a lot of distress. So I applied at a university in America since I'm a citizen there and I also have family there so I could stay with them if I was gonna study there. I was pretty happy about it because my aunty in America told me that if I applied for financial aid, the tuition fees will be almost free so I had the burden of paying for uni fees off of my shoulders. I recently found out that in America they start university at the end of 2019 and I've always wanted to start uni straight away. I can't apply for any uni or even tafe here because of the expensive fees. The American university also told me I have to do the SATs or the ACT which is like their university entrance exam. I got this news after I just finished my end of year exams that I've been preparing for all year and I had to do another one!. The only thing I can do for now is do the SAT or ACT and find employment until the end of next year. I have never been this stressed out before, I've been getting constant headaches and neglecting my health. I don't know what to do. I'm 18 with no work experience as I just got work rights this year. I feel so unhappy. I really didn't expect things to turn out this way. I feel so alone because no one really understands how this is affecting me. I have no control over this and I feel so helpless. I already feel like I'm behind in life, I don't have my learners, no work experience and starting university late. While my friends receive their ATAR and get accepted into a university course, I will be working a part time job, sitting an exam for a uni that I don't even know if I'll get into and thats across the world and studying for my Ls. I really feel lost and helpless right now and I've never been this stressed in my life.

Me and my best friend kissed and I can’t tell anyone

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It’s happened multiple times. I am finding it hard to believe because he’s always been the joker to me, I never thought it would happen. It isn’t like I’ve ever had feelings for him, or him me, but a month or so it began we almost kept kissing. So ma... View more

It’s happened multiple times. I am finding it hard to believe because he’s always been the joker to me, I never thought it would happen. It isn’t like I’ve ever had feelings for him, or him me, but a month or so it began we almost kept kissing. So many almost kisses and we got closer... but he’s my best friend so didn’t think much of it. Eventually it happened, & it’s happened every time we are alone. Unlike him I don’t get much attention from guys, I genuinely don’t and we both know it. He gets female attention all the time, and still is now even though we have and probably will kiss again. He also is perfectly capable of meeting someone who can do sexual favours for him, if you know what I mean (which I have zero problems with these are all normal things at our age to be experimenting with kudos to him), and so I don’t know why he keeps kissing me if he can get it elsewhere but not from me. I find this all hard because I’m not like that. I don’t really like the idea of myself being one of those girls. He also doesn’t like the idea of putting me in that position but it just feels like every time we are together we can’t stay away. We’ve spoken about it and no matter what we know our friendship comes first. I find it hard that I have no one to tell to ask advice, as telling any of our friends would instantly create tension that isn’t necessary. And I know everybody would just say to not even go there with him (he is a little notorious for kissing girls and then leaving when it stars to get a lil serious). I’m afraid I might begin to get feelings for him or that maybe I already have, and I know with him he’s so unsure about what he wants in life especially with relationships and I don’t want to confuse him more. I especially don’t want to be the first to admit any kind of feelings. We spoke that there’s always been that ‘something’ and we kind of agreed, and I’m sure there is something on his side of it but we always joke about keeping up our friendship and being mates that I can’t tell if he feels even an inkling of what I do or if he just maybe likes the idea of kissing someone he knows he shouldn’t. I also don’t want to be some girl (not just to him, but anyone) that easyily gives in. But I won’t lie I like that someone sees me in that way, no one ever has attempted to act on that feeling toward me.. and I hate that I like it and hate the situation. If he was a random person I wouldn’t feel so conflicted, but he’s my best friend.

Most of the time I feel sick

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I feel like something bad is going to happen to me when I feel like this. I feel like I’m going to faint I wish this worried feeling could go away .How could I feel better?

My friends are self harming for attention

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A few months ago my friend told us that she self harms and has depression. Then everyone started copying her and being, or trying to be depressed. It’s really annoying and I’m getting really annoyed because on social media and stuff they are changing... View more

A few months ago my friend told us that she self harms and has depression. Then everyone started copying her and being, or trying to be depressed. It’s really annoying and I’m getting really annoyed because on social media and stuff they are changing their names to depressing things like ‘fading away’ and ‘forever lost’... it’s getting annoying and I don’t know what to do... I know there is nothing wrong with them.

In the Dumps

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For the past few months I've felt really ugly, depressed, lonely, regretful, and I want to move badly (maybe because I associate my country with these feelings?) I feel like everyone is judging me but I have no problems communicating. I feel ugly and... View more

For the past few months I've felt really ugly, depressed, lonely, regretful, and I want to move badly (maybe because I associate my country with these feelings?) I feel like everyone is judging me but I have no problems communicating. I feel ugly and pathetic, and that nobody likes me.. I'm under lots of pressure with school work and all, and sometimes I wish I didn't exist (but I'm not suicidal at all)

No one likes me anymore, I pretend I'm not but I'm actually really sad and socially awkward

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Hi everyone, I am saying this because I'v never seek any help or tell anyone about this before and I really sincerely hope I don't sound very self-centered or anything The thing is, I used to have social anxiety but never told anyone because I didn't... View more

Hi everyone, I am saying this because I'v never seek any help or tell anyone about this before and I really sincerely hope I don't sound very self-centered or anything The thing is, I used to have social anxiety but never told anyone because I didn't want to disappoint or upset my parent's and they have very high expectations of me since I always appear as quite popular, get great grades, have a variety of talents and seem to get along with teachers. I confronted my social anxiety and got over it (or so I thought) until this year. I had a surgery that left me confined to my bed and locked in the house for 4 months. I was missing out on a lot of school stuff, parties, chats and socializing. I felt (and feel) very insecure about myself because I have many physical scars that are very prominent. When I got back to school, my best friend had left me, my parents left the country, and everyone pitied me and talked about how they wouldn't want to be "that" girl. I received a lot of unwanted attention everywhere i go (because I was on crutches) and felt really bad about myself. This was how my social anxiety came back and hit me fast. All of a sudden, I felt hard to have a conversation with my peers and friends. Most of my friends forget me when they sign the entire friendship group up for activities. I also worked so hard to get excellent grades to please my parents and to show them i appreciate everything they have done for me but act as if they don't see my efforts at all. I had a diary and looking back into it, i saw a lot of depressing stuff and anger. I read sad and suicidal book this year and i wrote an entire book about some specific people in my life and how they are aiding my depression and leaving me feeling sad and self-conscious. Everytime i get back on my feet or try to feel happy, something or someone knocks me down till i'm on my knees. The only 'social' thing i do outside of school is coaching. I used to look forward to coaching and it was the highlight of every week until this weekend. I really respected and admired everyone of my classmates. Then when i went to get ice-cream for them (as a surprise and a little gift) they locked me out of the classroom. Then, when i came in, a boy in my class asked me if I could quit this class so another person that he (an his friends) knew could take my place. He asked me, not the new girl in our class that he told me he hated. I cried myself to sleep that night. I need some help please. Thank you

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Struggling to find jobs, need to start work immediately

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