Young people

CBF looking for work. Anyone else?

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It all seems so meaningless. I’m on a pension but wish I found something that I want to work towards enough to get off it. Then again I have dreams, but need to sort out this friggen debilitating anxiety. I’m too afraid to go to therapy. I’ve got lik... View more

It all seems so meaningless. I’m on a pension but wish I found something that I want to work towards enough to get off it. Then again I have dreams, but need to sort out this friggen debilitating anxiety. I’m too afraid to go to therapy. I’ve got like no real job references at 21 even though I’ve done volunteering and a little bit of work before I was 18 lol. You?

Can’t hold a job

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Recently, I have been struggling to hold a job. I get really anxious and second guess myself every time I have to achieve a task. I have been fired before and have quit because I realised I was being fired from another job. I haven’t told anyone what... View more

Recently, I have been struggling to hold a job. I get really anxious and second guess myself every time I have to achieve a task. I have been fired before and have quit because I realised I was being fired from another job. I haven’t told anyone what has really happened and made an excuse when someone asks why I don’t work at places anymore. Recently, I have gotten a Christmas casual job and I feel like I am going down the same road. I am graduating this year and don’t think I will have to confidence to even consider doing the job that I studied so hard for. I feel like I’m the only one out of all my friends and family that struggle to learn new things and never can flourish in a job. Just wondering if there was anyone else like this.

Young adults please help...

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I've been having a hard time looking for a new job. The current one has left me mental scars...my manager was abusive. They would "playfully" hit me, curse at me, yell at me when I've done something wrong (but never provided the training). I just tho... View more

I've been having a hard time looking for a new job. The current one has left me mental scars...my manager was abusive. They would "playfully" hit me, curse at me, yell at me when I've done something wrong (but never provided the training). I just thought I was bad and I toughened it out for a few months. Now I hate people because of them. I find it so hard to talk to people and so ashamed. Not only is it a low-end disrespectful job...it wasn't what I wanted for myself. I can't help but to stay numb, I am so numb now it's difficult to break out. I would have random breakdowns and often bad. If I try to take a scheduled day off I would be told I'm ungrateful of this job and I am not allowed. I desperately want to quit but I can't find another job even though I've been looking for a year now, are there any tips on getting hired?? I'm so numb to a point I don't even cry anymore when I do have emotions they are hard to control and often toxic. Everyone has been telling me to quit but I know for sure I won't get a job if I quit. Please help, I've tried everything...I just feel like a failure. I just want to disappear.

Feeling like an outsider in high school

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Hello, I'm new. I'm a year 11 girl and I feel like I don't belong in my high school. If I just disappeared, no one would care. I thought by studying hard in school, I could ignore it. Unfortunately, it has been affecting me recently and I'm starting ... View more

Hello, I'm new. I'm a year 11 girl and I feel like I don't belong in my high school. If I just disappeared, no one would care. I thought by studying hard in school, I could ignore it. Unfortunately, it has been affecting me recently and I'm starting to lose my motivation to study because of my lack of friends. I didn't always feel like this. Since year 7, I have been seen as the awkward and quiet girl so I never got far in forming friendships. Heck, people always questioned me about it and made me feel like being quiet is the worst trait. Fortunately, a group of friends accepted me for who I am Then, friendship problems happened. My group hated me and started talking behind my back in a very bad way. I was kept around just so they can leech off schoolwork and borrow money. This shattered me. I thought this was the one friendship group who could accept me no matter what, but learning they hated me all along? My self-esteem was lowered even further to nothing. If my "close" friends didn't accept me, then who would? I left. I have no stable friendship group now. I actually tried hanging in other groups but I only felt out of place. I have found one true friend, but I don't want to burden him. He is popular and has other friends and by hanging out with him all the time, I am scared I will make him lose his friends. I already messed up before and I don't want to again. Every day when he hangs with his friends, I am reminded of how I don't have many friends at all. Sure, I have a few acquaintances but I don't know them personally. I just can't fit into any kind of cliques no matter what. Everyone finds me awkward, so I don't have a chance to befriend people easily. It seems no one likes talking to awkward, quiet people. It's difficult to talk to other girls because my interests differ from their ones greatly (I like video games and cartoons rather than k-pop.) Sadly, I lost interest in my own hobbies since I started feeling down. I befriend boys effortlessly yet I'm afraid of being labelled for only having male friends (it was one of the things the old friendship group gossiped about). I am more comfortable talking to people online or even outside of my school; at least no one can judge me based on how they see me before we even talked. I heard university is better, and I'm looking forward to escaping and start afresh. But for now, I can't cope with this feeling any longer and I don't want it to damage me further. Thank you for hearing me out.

genetic predisposition + childhood trauma makes for the 'perfect' storm!

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I've been struggling with anxiety & other mental health issues for as long as I can remember, genetic predisposition + childhood trauma makes for the 'perfect' storm! It destroyed my entire school career, I had pretty good grades but my attendance wa... View more

I've been struggling with anxiety & other mental health issues for as long as I can remember, genetic predisposition + childhood trauma makes for the 'perfect' storm! It destroyed my entire school career, I had pretty good grades but my attendance was garbage & I ended up being expelled in year 11 & for the past 3 years I've been doing pretty much nothing. I do have goals and things I wish I could be doing but my mental health always gets in the way! I can't make or answer phone calls (even talking to strangers via email makes me sweat), I can't go to certain places, the past two job trials I've had have ended in panic attacks (all of the classic symptoms with the added 'bonus' of what I can only describe as hallucinations) & this combined with depression, an eating disorder & typical family drama make for quite a trying time. I've been in and out of 'treatment' for 5 years however anxiety has prevented me from consistently attending appointments and to be quite honest the place where I was going made me feel like a science experiment (& also violated my confidentially when I was never in any danger but that's a whole other story!). More recently I went to my GP and asked for a referral to somewhere that wasn't where I was previously going but she said she didn't know any other bulk billing practices and I was told to "just google it!". Well 3 months later and I still haven't gotten anywhere, no where bulk bills & I simply cant afford to pay for sessions even with the rebate (I'm on centerlink youth allowance I get $250 a fortnight & usually only have about $80-$100 left after essential expenses). I'm kinda at my wits end here, I don't know what to do? I want to be better but it seems even in this country you have to pay to get proper treatment

My life has been bad lately

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I was just at school,I didn’t think that I was going to last the day

Boyfriend's mental health

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Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years now, there have been some bumps in our relationship here and there but getting to the point, we love each other very much. I want to help him as much as i can, so that's why i'm here.... View more

Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years now, there have been some bumps in our relationship here and there but getting to the point, we love each other very much. I want to help him as much as i can, so that's why i'm here. My boyfriend's self esteem can be quite low at times and he gets very worked up over little mistakes he makes. I believe it might have to do with how he was raised, being expected to be the best all the time, his parents saying he was born to 'be a friend for as brother' (at least thats how he takes it), but speculating aside, i want to know how i can help. For an example of how things can sometimes go down, today at school it was raining and while our friends were buying lunch the teacher made us go inside. A while after our friends find us and ask why we left/didnt tell them were we were going and were reasonably a bit upset. After a bit of back of back and forth it settles down, our friends with less than happy expressions. Then i hear my boyfriend mumbling angrily towards himself, and then he slams the table and gets up with an expression i would describe as 'distress'. I try to pull him back down, or atleast hold him in place, but when he's like this it feels like you can't really do anything until the storm is over. Our friends are telling him its okay but hes still, saying its not and blaming it all on himself. There's more to the story but thats basically how it usually goes down, then it ends with him crying a little or a lot, depends. Sometimes he'll throw things he owns (not at anyone) or even smack/hit himself. I really want to know how i can be there for him and support him during these moments, or even prevent them from happening if i can.

I have no friends

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Hi, This is my first time posting on Beyond blue and I just need some advice. I'm 15 and have no friends, well technically I do, but they barely talk to me, they don't even talk to me, they don't even make eye contact with me. I basically just sit wi... View more

Hi, This is my first time posting on Beyond blue and I just need some advice. I'm 15 and have no friends, well technically I do, but they barely talk to me, they don't even talk to me, they don't even make eye contact with me. I basically just sit with them, and I know for a fact that they despise me. I don't really relate or connect with anyone else in my grade and I have issues with talking to people. I think I might have social anxiety and/or depression. I've had an eating disorder since I was 12, but I think I'm too fat to have an eating disorder. I've recently stopped talking to that group of friends I sit with after realizing that the friendship wasn't going to go anywhere good. I have no one else to sit with so I just hid in the toilet stores.

I’m losing one of my closest friends...

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I have this friend and recently she hadn’t beeen very close to me. I recently found out she has depression and what really confused me is that she told her other two friends and one of them and me doent really get well together. That friend is bringi... View more

I have this friend and recently she hadn’t beeen very close to me. I recently found out she has depression and what really confused me is that she told her other two friends and one of them and me doent really get well together. That friend is bringing them into all our personal friendship problems that we can solve by ourselves and we don’t wanna hurt her. We want to let her know that we are trust worthy too. Because we have been friends for 4 years now. And one of her friends asked me this morning if I didn’t want my friend to be friends with both of them. I don’t wanna lose her, she’s a good friend.

Struggling to find jobs, need to start work immediately

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Hi, I've applied 15-20 plus jobs over the past 2-3 days but most of them are rejected, what should I do?

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