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Uni Exam Anxiety

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Hi everyone To put it simply, my anxiety about uni exams is out of control. When I'm not worrying about failing my next exam, I'm worrying about how I probably failed the last one I did. Especially since I've done very badly on exams this semester, t... View more

Hi everyone To put it simply, my anxiety about uni exams is out of control. When I'm not worrying about failing my next exam, I'm worrying about how I probably failed the last one I did. Especially since I've done very badly on exams this semester, the wait to get my results after walking out of the exam room is becoming absolutely unbearable. I can't sleep the night before an exam (or any night really), even if I'm tired, and I've tried meditation and avoiding caffeine and all that and I don't know what else I can do. Part of it is that I'm literally terrified of going to bed at this point, because I know that lying in bed with time to think just turns me into an anxious mess, no matter how much I try to think about other things. I know logically that stressing about exams that have already happened have literally 0 possibility of changing the outcome, but I can't help it. I've also had to leave all of my exams to go at some point and sit in the bathroom just so I could have some time out to breathe because I literally feel like the ground is swallowing me up in there. I've had a pretty bad semester overall - tough subjects combined with bad mental health and an overall lack of motivation have made the last 3 months really difficult, and while I know I want to keep going next semester, the thought of going through this 5 more times before the end of my degree has me wondering if I can do this. I study really hard, but whatever I do I just can't seem to get half decent results - it's really hard seeing people who literally spend the study period doing nothing or even on holiday have an easier time than me with exams. I tried talking to a university counsellor, but honestly they could not have been less useful and seemed more keen to talk about what my life plans entailed which only made me more anxious. Please help me! Sarah x

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I'm recently joined here for some advice for my currently life situation. I am quite depressed and this has happened for as long as I could remember since I was around 14. I grew up having a few friends back in high school. Really good friends but sl... View more

I'm recently joined here for some advice for my currently life situation. I am quite depressed and this has happened for as long as I could remember since I was around 14. I grew up having a few friends back in high school. Really good friends but slowly drifted away from them. By 17 I lost them all in a blink in an eye, because of parent's strict nature. Study to become doctor or something. No time for fun. At this point, I felt 'alone', even though I had my family. By 18 I went to university to study something like any other sheep. In this case, I studied some engineering courses completing 3 years of it so far. Always stay indoors, never went to parties or celebrated my birthday. I did try applying for jobs for the first two years but never got passed interviews, probably because I had a depressive aura. So by then, I didn't even have a part time / casual job due to 'no time' to work because of engineering workload. I couldn't even make friends either (I felt like people just used each other for assessment) Now I'm 22 in my finals trying to get my degree but with recent family violence revolving around my parents (police got involved) at home I felt even more stressed out. I began to fail a lot of classes to the point I might not be able to graduate anymore. I feel defeated. Basically I'm a 22 year old still controlled by parents who wasted 4 years (or gained plenty of knowledge) + 100 K student debt + no life direction + no friends (isolation) + no job (not experience at all). Super depressive and I don't feel that genuine 'fun/happy' or positive feeling anywhere. Pretty much have the 'poker face'. Death of recent pets didn't affect me emotionally either even though I know I love them. Now, I reached a point where I am going to give up on everything or even restart life. I'm thinking of downgrading my career to do trades because I don't want mental stress anymore. Besides my sad life story, here's some positive things about me. - I like to cook for fun - I like to grow veggies - I like dogs, rabbits, cat, snake, birds and fish - I did a lot of volunteering for 2 years for fun but pointless for resume. My current routine 8 hrs sleep (currently down to 4-5hrs for the last month) 45 min morning jog Eating healthy food (food consumption irregular now since last month) 30 min meditation Watch Videos/ Cook when bored Any tips? Any advice about career pathway? What should I do now? I feel completely cornered on how to continue on with life.

Hello, Hello, I'm a weirdo.

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Hey, just a kid here looking for advice. Honestly, I don't know where to start, but I'll try my best. I'm detached from things. Friends, family, people in general. I'm confused because sometimes I'm having the time of my life with my friends and fami... View more

Hey, just a kid here looking for advice. Honestly, I don't know where to start, but I'll try my best. I'm detached from things. Friends, family, people in general. I'm confused because sometimes I'm having the time of my life with my friends and family, but other times, I feel like the most loneliest person in the world. I get the feeling that no one knows who I am, and I'm not even sure if I know who I am. Sometimes, I think I'm just this physical embodiment of other people thoughts, feelings and expectations of me. I feel like a fake. I lack motivation to do pretty much anything, and I fail to speak out when something bothers me. I usually try to play things off with humor and whatnot, but I never let people know how much something affects me. An insult? I'd laugh it off, then proceed to think about it for the rest of the day. A push, a shove, anything including physical contact bothers me, though I'd never speak out. Guess I'm a bit paranoid. What I mean is, I think the worst of people a lot of the times. I feel like this is a complete 180, but my minds been to some dark places, which scares me. Wanting to hurt others, being paranoid about people hurting me, being paranoid that I affected others negatively. I feel like a mess. But anyway, I'm glad to be able to get some stuff off my chest. Vent a little. To be honest, I think this is the first time I've taken my mental health seriously. Probably the first time I've taken anything seriously. Guess I'm kinda proud of myself.

Studying Tips Plz

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Hey Guys, I am in year 11 and going to year 12 and I study around 2-3 hours a day. However, my marks were not very good for how much effort I put inot my study (all i feel i do is study, I feel like a can never enjoy myself without stressing over stu... View more

Hey Guys, I am in year 11 and going to year 12 and I study around 2-3 hours a day. However, my marks were not very good for how much effort I put inot my study (all i feel i do is study, I feel like a can never enjoy myself without stressing over studying and school work). Please i need some tips and strategies on how to effectively study and not stress out so much. Thank you

Too Distracted by Emotions to Finish Assignments

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I'm trying to complete a task that is due tomorrow but I keep feeling sad and stressed. My classes contain a few "intellectuals" that make fun of me for getting a low marks and the class in question is one that I'm already failing (I'm in year 12) . ... View more

I'm trying to complete a task that is due tomorrow but I keep feeling sad and stressed. My classes contain a few "intellectuals" that make fun of me for getting a low marks and the class in question is one that I'm already failing (I'm in year 12) . Nobody supports me, not even my single mum, but that's because she has mental health issues to worry about. I keep thinking about how she needs to lose weight but she's been like this for years and clearly isn't determined enough to go through with it. I can't speak to anyone like the counsellor because she's never there when I want to talk to her. Everyone acts like me and my mum don't matter and she is constantly reminded of bad memories no matter where she turns to. The teacher is like a new stepdad that you want to impress and I don't know if I can face his look of disappointment again. Lastly, I'm a boy, so I don't ever recieve compliments or words of praise from anyone, which really takes a toll on me. Anyway, I know I'm stressing over my ATAR too much but I have zero connections and I'm also financially weak right now.

exams suck. so does school

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here comes the worst week of the year. Exam week. This year has been the worst. I think i’m going to fail not because i don’t listen in class not because i don’t do my homework. Just because i’m always so stressed. I need to study but i am either alw... View more

here comes the worst week of the year. Exam week. This year has been the worst. I think i’m going to fail not because i don’t listen in class not because i don’t do my homework. Just because i’m always so stressed. I need to study but i am either always too tired and depressed to even sit down and think about doing work. What we spend like nearly 7 hours at school just to get home and do more school. Surely that’s illegal oh wait nope that’s how it works. i do sport everyday so i never have time after or i am just way to worn out to even think about studying. everyone’s always like school is first priority but without my other activities i would feel even worse. i get home after a long day and just want to go to bed so i can’t get my homework done. and the next day i can’t concentrate because i am either stressed about not getting work done the night before or to tired because i stayed up all night getting it done. and when i’m tired my anxiety levels go up so much and coping at school gets really hard Also you only get one chance at school if you mess that up then your practically stuffed for your entire life and that’s a lot of pressure that everyone carries around i feel i’m the only one who even thinks about that. And when i get home from a stressful day at school, home if even worse. My dads first priority is to eat, mum probably has had a bad day at work and is feeling sick cause of her health problems. and my brother has a test that he has to do. like hello i’m here too just because i don’t have learning issues like him doesn’t mean i don’t struggle with school. i mean i would say i am smarter then the average bear but i always feel like i have to carry that on my back all the time and live up to that expectation. if i fail it’s like well did u study hard enough instead of my brother he gets the don’t worry about it just aim for the next one. Thanks for the vent feel free to reply back with all the stuff that goes on in your life.

Hopeless

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Hi all, I am a university student who is struggling with severe anxiety and depression which is having a tremendous impact on my academic grades and ability to study and complete uni work. All semester I have been barely scraping by, some assignments... View more

Hi all, I am a university student who is struggling with severe anxiety and depression which is having a tremendous impact on my academic grades and ability to study and complete uni work. All semester I have been barely scraping by, some assignments I’ve managed to pass while others I’ve failed (safe to say my academic performance has been quite varied but nonetheless I am sitting below average). I am miles behind in lectures so much so that I am not even sure where to start. Now, I’ve got two exams coming up which I haven’t studied for and an essay due which I haven’t even started, all of which is coming up this week and next week. I can’t quite describe how I am feeling at this point; I feel super stressed, my chest feels tight and sometimes I feel like its hard to breathe. I feel sad, alone and so disappointed with myself. And you would think that I would be studying for my upcoming exams/essay like an absolute mad woman but instead I have been wallowing and procrastinating like crazy. I don’t even want to think about it let alone actually sit down and study. I have been overeating to the point where I feel sick, glued to my laptop, rarely getting out of bed yet I am so exhausted. And I am so confused as to why I continue to do this to myself. Everyone around me is studying and revising and here I am, haven’t been out of my room in days and haven’t touched my books in weeks. I feel hopeless and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve got so much riding on this semester but at this stage passing seems like such an improbability. I can’t fail again. Thanks for reading and giving me a platform to offload x

i just don't know what to do

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i feel really stupid writing this because i know their are people way worse off than me. i should probably introduce myself, my names cali i have did (dis-associative personality disorder), depression, severe ptsd from a near fatal assault and more. ... View more

i feel really stupid writing this because i know their are people way worse off than me. i should probably introduce myself, my names cali i have did (dis-associative personality disorder), depression, severe ptsd from a near fatal assault and more. luck y me, huh? i live in the ghetto and in a area where gangs are everywhere and am constantly yelled at. and of course being puerto rican means i get called racist things less now. anyway i have a normal teenage girl problem at the moment i have a problem with eating. see the thing is even when i'm not hungry i can't stop myself from eating and it's physically making me sick. but i do realise this isn't a real problem not like eating disorders like anorexia or stuff like that. i'm sorry for wasting your time. just sometimes it's nice to get things off your chest without people screaming at you. trust me i'm not looking for pity just a place to acknowledged

17 and lost?

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Well i dont normally do this but... ive had depression since i was 8yrs old and im 17 now, and since its been off and on, i feel lost most of the time, like im missing something and ive tried to figure it out and i just can't. I've read a few post on... View more

Well i dont normally do this but... ive had depression since i was 8yrs old and im 17 now, and since its been off and on, i feel lost most of the time, like im missing something and ive tried to figure it out and i just can't. I've read a few post on here by people, they dont completely match how i feel besides this one post which i keep going back to read because its exactly how i feel. I dont feel emotions and if i do it doesnt last long anyway, i dont get sad,angry, happy or anything really, i dont have self pity or any of it.. i honestly dont care how someone else feels, even if they are in pain in front of me.. i hate talking to people.. anything to do with social interaction is a waste of time to me. I've had a few relationships but i seem to get bored of them easily, i would fall in love with the person and then it would slip away, and i have hurt quite a few people by it. i dont know what else to say uhh

falling behind, relationships, body image

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I never thought I'd actually end up posting here. I've tried to in the past but could never really find the right words, that and I'm borderline illiterate thanks to stan twitter, but we wont get into that. Granted I still don't know what I'm doing, ... View more

I never thought I'd actually end up posting here. I've tried to in the past but could never really find the right words, that and I'm borderline illiterate thanks to stan twitter, but we wont get into that. Granted I still don't know what I'm doing, this is just my last little cry for help, I guess. Before we delve into it, I should probably introduce myself. Hi, the name's Kianna. There's not much to me really. I'm just a tired year 10 student born to a low-income family that is ultimately falling apart. So, I have crippling body dysmorphia and am clinically depressed. Obviously, this makes it very hard to do very basic things. As a student it isn't helpful when the only thing occupying the forefront of your mind is "you're fat, you're ugly, you're stupid" constantly. I don't even want to leave my house, and because of this my attendance is awful. It's always been bad, worse even. I made a huge effort at the start of this year, and it was great for a while, but I've fallen back into this self-destructive loop where I go from being super elated and motivated to wallowing in my own self-hatred and denying myself a crumb of happiness. I'm behind on my school work as well, having not actually been there and all. The hardest thing is knowing how capable I am of doing it, it's being on the brink of ending it all half of the time that's holding me back. With my poor attendance, lack of self-esteem and depressive episodes it's been very hard for me to maintain relationships with people my age (that, and I'm literally the most socially inept person on the planet). I've been used and abused throughout my life, these mental walls have come up because of it. I want to let people in, to have a pack (for lack of a better word, I'm not a furry, don't get it twisted) and to just feel like me again, cause damn I haven't seen that girl in a long time. ah so there's my rant for today. I'd like to talk some more about the fragility of my mental state and my whole family situation (it's a real doozy), but I'm a rambler. I like to turn everything into a bloody essay and this character count is making me anxious, so I'll stop here. congratulations if you've read all of this, and sorry lol. any advise is much appreciated, I'm not in a great place right now and I'll take any help I can get. thanks, Kianna

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Hello, Hello, I'm a weirdo.

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Too Distracted by Emotions to Finish Assignments

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