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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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TheJman I feel like I’m going crazy
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I am 16 years old and recently I have been feeling like I’m going mad. I feel tired a lot of the time, at night I can’t sleep I seem to be blacking out for short periods of time, everything seems a bit unreal and hazy. Can anyone please tell me what ... View more

I am 16 years old and recently I have been feeling like I’m going mad. I feel tired a lot of the time, at night I can’t sleep I seem to be blacking out for short periods of time, everything seems a bit unreal and hazy. Can anyone please tell me what this is and a solution for it

Porschee Controlling parents
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Hi. I’m new and I just want some help dealing with my family and how they make me feel. My parents control a lot of my life they ban me from doing anything hanging out with people they don’t approve of (these people have never gotten on trouble with ... View more

Hi. I’m new and I just want some help dealing with my family and how they make me feel. My parents control a lot of my life they ban me from doing anything hanging out with people they don’t approve of (these people have never gotten on trouble with school or the law) stopping me from going out stopping me from participating in community and school activities. But lately it’s gotten worse i want a job and my parents are lecturing me about getting a job but every job I have looked at or gone to apply for my parents and sister have said there is no way I would be hired that I wouldn’t get it that I shouldn’t even try. I’ll ask to do something and my parents won’t answer me until after the event, or ask me a question that no answer is correct for. For example I wanted to go away with friends and my mum asked how I was getting there and I asked if her or dad could take me and she yelled at me for assuming that they could do stuff for me. A few days later (she has been ignoring me) I asked again and said that my friends parents could take me and she got angry cause I didn’t rely on her. She then ignored me Untill she left the state despite me continuing to ask and telling her that I had to pay soon. When she came back a month later the day After i was meant to go away she told me I could go even tho all my friends had already left and it was a two night thing. My parents have also told me there is no point getting the degree I want at university cause there isn’t any jobs in it, and I won’t get enough money to survive or pay back student loans and am just wasting my time and money. They also tell me how I’m not smart enough to get in and how I won’t be able to pay to live (I have to move out to study). They are currently talking with my sister about how stupid going to uni is and how I’m going to end up broke and homeless and that even tho I’ve applied for scholarships, youth allowance and have a job I’m wasting my time and life. My parents will also send me to live with my grandma if I don’t do what they want or annoy them in anyway. I just need to know how do you deal with a family who makes you feel like a failure, and how can I leave this household whilst not ending up in the streets.

RealEyesRealiseRealLies I’M FINALLY REACHING OUT FOR HELP
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I’m 20 with a 21 year old male partner & a 4 month old baby girl we’ve been together for nearly 2 years. I’ve been having trouble even since my parents seperated when me & my 4 brothers were younger. I really need some advice with help so that I can ... View more

I’m 20 with a 21 year old male partner & a 4 month old baby girl we’ve been together for nearly 2 years. I’ve been having trouble even since my parents seperated when me & my 4 brothers were younger. I really need some advice with help so that I can be happy again, feel self confidence & my relationship won’t be so dead full of toxic fighting that’s unnecessary. Clinical Depression Disorder: I’ve lost all happiness & interest in daily activities that would normally be fun. Anxiety Disorder:I’m always scared when alone, always jumpy looking around here & there, always fearing that something or someone will do something to me or us including ourselves & this interferes a lot with daily activities I lock myself in my room & hate silence. Bipolar Disorder: I have a lot of episodes multiple times a day, week, month year my moods are so uncontrollable they go from feeling as low as wanting to be in the ground to as high as wanting to be in the sky. Dementia Disorder: I do not remember my childhood or anything positive from my childhood as much as I try it’s only negative stuff. Attention Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder: I have a very low attention span I get bored very fast, I don’t pay attention unless interesting to myself otherwise I have a difficult time maintains attention to anything & everything. Schizophrenia Disorder: I don’t think before doing things especially if my anger is so high up there. I feel multiple feelings at once nothing is a clear feeling & I behave irrationally towards everybody & anybody. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: I’m obsessed with my partner but it always leads down the worst path possible & the outcome’s always the same. Autism Disorder: Social interaction with others i’m not familiar with or others I don’t know is very very hard to the point where I have no friends at all just my partner, his family & some of my family. I find it very hard & difficult to communicate & explain exactly what i’m trying to say or exactly what i’m trying to do & everything goes downhill. Post Traumatic Disorder: I failed to speak up & speak out when I was sexually assaulted multi times growing up until I was about 12 & it’s just like a flash back like a scar I can’t get rid of out of my head, my partner always tells me to just forget about it & leave it in the last but how do you when they were so very close family members I have never been able to recover. Please I really need advice & help!!!

spicyfoodlover Always feeling lonely and as if everyone hates me
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Hi there, I am new to this website so I'm not really sure how to start this forum thread. I'm here for advice on my feelings and situation. It seems as if I've always felt like everyone hates me. I was shocked to find an old journal from when I was a... View more

Hi there, I am new to this website so I'm not really sure how to start this forum thread. I'm here for advice on my feelings and situation. It seems as if I've always felt like everyone hates me. I was shocked to find an old journal from when I was around 10 (I am turning 16 soon) where I wrote that the thing that made me most sad was "all of my friends hate me" because almost 6 years later, that feeling and fear hasn't changed one bit. I always feel lonely. I've never had a best friend, someone who I am confident likes me just as much as I like them. Every lunchtime, I feel as if I am unwanted by my friends to sit with them. I just had my high school ball. I found out afterwards that everyone else in my group attended a ball pre-party that I was never invited to, nor was I made aware of. I'm not sad that I wasn't invited, I'm just sad that it seems like everyone planned something without me even knowing. If I was invited and someone else in my group wasn't, I 100% would've asked the organizer if that person could attend, or told them about it. I guess it just stung quite a bit to see the people in my group post photos of them having fun together all over social media afterwards, especially since I have always felt excluded. Is that normal or am I overreacting? I am so tempted to just switch groups, but I can't. My other friends all sit in separate groups, & if I was to join one of their groups then I'd just feel really anxious that the rest of their friends in that group wouldn't want me there either (does that make sense?). I would honestly rather just sit on my own at lunchtimes now, but then I am anxious that they would talk crap about me behind my back even more. I found out that one of the friends had screenshots of what I had written on twitter on her laptop. When I confronted her, she denied it and then finally admitted it but would not show me the screenshots. I have worried about it ever since. I am worried she sent screenshots to other people, because it was a private account I made where I can vent my true feelings. I am so sorry this thread is a mess. I have never gotten professional help, as I'd feel like I'm stealing help from someone who actually needs and deserves it. So I guess I'll just post my many problems on here for now and see how it goes. If you have read all of that, thank you so much for reading. If you can, please do share some advice on how I should deal with my feelings at this point in time. ~ Spicyfoodlover.

Guest_000 Feelings of inadequacy
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Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on getting rid of feelings of inadequacy/insecurity and pessimistic views in new friendships and meeting new people. When I meet new people I seem to get along with, the thought burgeons that if this perso... View more

Hi, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on getting rid of feelings of inadequacy/insecurity and pessimistic views in new friendships and meeting new people. When I meet new people I seem to get along with, the thought burgeons that if this person and I get to know each other better, they will grow to dislike me or I will hurt them, unintentionally. Or in a different way, that though this person may think I will be a good friend, I am not going to be able to match up to their energy and positivity. Thanks x

Love-deprestion Love depression, need advice!! :'(
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Hello everyone, I'm 19 years old and I have been talking to a girl online for 5 months and 15 days.. I cannot get this girl to meet me. We love each other very much. I've been there for her though a lot of hard times, I've sent her roses multiple tim... View more

Hello everyone, I'm 19 years old and I have been talking to a girl online for 5 months and 15 days.. I cannot get this girl to meet me. We love each other very much. I've been there for her though a lot of hard times, I've sent her roses multiple times and we always talk about cuddling in bed. This girl has anxitey and axnitey attacks. Shes afraid I will see her brake down in tears, roll up in a ball and hear her breath out of control. I've asured her I dont mind seeing that and will be there and cuddle her and hold her hand until everything is ok. This relationship is taking a toll out of my life. Everything I do I cant have fun anymore I just think about her. I'm in bed at night pretending to cuddle her and I've cried alot because I can't see her. I will not leave her I love her alot. I dont know what to do. I know where she works but I wont go in there as I know she wouldnt like me just rocking up there. I'm really worried I'm never gonna see her. She says it's hard for her too and she really wants to see me and has wrote many times come around and see me but has deleted the message cos she can't do it. What do I do? How can I help this situation?

Tianaxo GENERALISED ANIEXTY.
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I'd like to talk to more people with the same kind of aniexty, mine is severe and I have to constantly keep myself busy or I panic. I'm at a loss with what to do

I'd like to talk to more people with the same kind of aniexty, mine is severe and I have to constantly keep myself busy or I panic. I'm at a loss with what to do

Depressed_meme Things suck
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I’ve had depression and anxiety for nearly 8 years now and it never seems to get better. I pretty much never want to be here except for the days where I get almost a manic feeling and happy for no reason like I’m on a high, only to crash and burn soo... View more

I’ve had depression and anxiety for nearly 8 years now and it never seems to get better. I pretty much never want to be here except for the days where I get almost a manic feeling and happy for no reason like I’m on a high, only to crash and burn soon after. (Hypomania it seems) I went off antidepressants recently as I just wanted to bloody remember what it felt like to not have a dry mouth, feel like a zombie and other issues these meds cause. At first I felt great and now life is unbearable yet again and I can’t cope with anything. My anxiety is so crippling and my depression is so bad that I never leave the house because I don’t have true energy and I feel like I’m becoming psychotic, overanalysing every irrelevant detail and magnifying it 1000 times in my head and get so paranoid I assume everyone hates me despite there being no actual proof of it. To top it off, I can’t find a job or move out and my friend recently passed from suicide. I know 98% of what I think is irrational but I can’t stop it. So tomorrow I’m getting a psychiatrist referral so I can try and end this.

anon182 How to deal with loneliness
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I've recently graduated from high school and don't see the few friends I have much anymore. Also have social anxiety and a lot of events around here are aimed at either people older or younger than me Any suggestions on what I could try would be appr... View more

I've recently graduated from high school and don't see the few friends I have much anymore. Also have social anxiety and a lot of events around here are aimed at either people older or younger than me Any suggestions on what I could try would be appreciated

Loopus I've been disowned
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I've been disowned at age 18. Although I'm now an adult and I guess it is t really being disowned I still feel abandoned. I have a weird relationship with my mother, she is the kind of person that lashes out and attacks people when she's hurt and thu... View more

I've been disowned at age 18. Although I'm now an adult and I guess it is t really being disowned I still feel abandoned. I have a weird relationship with my mother, she is the kind of person that lashes out and attacks people when she's hurt and thus I can't keep a relationship with her anymore as she's just too toxic to have around if she doesn't want to seek help