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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Crush on a guy at work

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I think I have a crush on a co-worker at my part-time job, and I think he likes me to??? However, I have great difficulty showing affection to someone I have a crush on because i dont want them to know i like them...probably a fear of rejection. He is my favourite co-worker and fun to talk to. How can I show this person I like them? I dont want them to think I dont appreciate them, because I really dont want to lose this relationship/friendship.

Fear of dying

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Recently iv been in and out of hospital for non life threatening things however why do I feel like I have cancer or I’m just going to have an aneurysm and die. I have a constant fear of dying. Please tell me I’m not the only one here.

Hi, I’m new. I just wanted some advice.

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Hi! I’m new here. I finally got the courage to just give it a go. I’ve been struggling with panic and other issues lately. I haven’t really talked about it much irl because I don’t feel like anyone else has to deal with my issues. I just always feel nervous, some of the time irrational thoughts just decide to come by and say hi, most of the time it’s just intrusive thoughts, which, considering I guess what you would call past issues, have kinda just hung around for awhile. When I nervous, you just can’t stop yourself, I know that what I’m thinking is silly, but I guess that doesn’t necessarily change it happening. Trust was always an issues as well and being super cautious of perfectly kind strangers, which is quite upsetting and I know it’s not shyness, considering I have great friends and no particular struggles in talking to most people (Classmates, etc.). I can’t tell sometimes, I feel like I’m lacking independence, because walking down the street is something that, unless I have a friend, is a major stuggle. Kids my age are normally fine with that and doing much more. I know these are probably some stupid stuff to be upset about, considering the circumstances of the many, many children my age, suffering, I feel bad for comparing my issues to others, but I guess it really depends. All I would like is some advice, I’m considering going to talk to someone in real life, I think I should, I’m just not sure how. I really want to stop constantly worrying and any tips would help. Thank you, Sam

Boyfriend of seven months ends our relationship suddenly despite my best efforts to compromise and help him

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Hi, I have been going out with this guy for 7 months, and though things are not perfect, I have always loved being with him, and he dotes on me. I felt that we really click. Unfortunately, he is a busy guy. On top of work and studying, his family is very needy and controlling. Recently, he attempted to move out but his mother cried and begged him to stay, saying he was ruining their family. On top of taking care of many chores and his mom's studies, he has now been left with the household financial responsibility oafter his father injured himself and could not work. Other instances of his family being toxic include them demanding him to leave our dates to go home right away for no reasons, and being rude to him despite it being unwarranted. This leaves very little time for us. This is unfair on him since he is the youngest of 4 and the only one who gets treated like this, and I have tried to discuss this issue with him frequently. However, he still gets very touchy and says that is just how they are - dysfunctional. As I believed it was not healthy nor beneficial for him, I tried time and again to talk about these issues. On Saturday night, after less than an hour of being at my place where we were getting ready to go out, his family calls and demands for him to be home, even though he had spent Friday and the day with them before coming over. Even though I had been more patient the other times as I know how hard it gets for him, I snapped and yelled some pretty nasty things at him. The next morning, we met up and he has already made up his mind. He has my things to return and he says we cannot do this anymore. This comes as a shock to me because we have always been able to work things out before. Suddenly he claims that we are different people and we want different things. After some reflection yesterday and today, I can see how much more pressure he must have felt from his family than he let on, and how perhaps he felt he was no longer in a place to be in a relationship. However, I am still deeply hurt and angry because I had stayed when my friends told me to leave before, because I believed that life does not get any easier, and we stay with the people we choose to make an effort for. I gave everything I had to this relationship and I feel extremely hurt and betrayed. I feel he did not even try to fight for me when I had compromised many times before for him. I know it will take time but it just hurts so much right now and I cannot do anything about it.

In love and not knowing what to do

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I’ve met this beautiful girl at work whom I have feels for. However, it’s continuously mixed feelings that she sends my way. One day I’m the caring friend that she needs the other is a woman that shows feelings towards me. Its hard for me to tell if she actually sees me as a friend or more than that. Yet I’m afraid to confront this issue given that if it’s a rejection, I still have to work with her and could make things awkward for me. I dont like the feeling of giving up on her and moving on. I know she has gone on other dates yet never has told me. I don’t know if she thinks if it’ll hurt me or she’s trying to keep me as her fall back plan. Feeling so stuck not knowing if I should confront her for a direct answer and deal with the outcome and make things awkward at work or just leave it and let time figure things out. But if I leave it and she dates another man, the hurt and jealousy might be unbearable!

Trying to help my partner, when I think I need to see someone myself

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So my partner was diagnosed with Aniexty disorder, panic attack, PTSD. And he also has underlying problems. We are in a fairly new relationship 6 months together. He’s 22, and I’m almost 20. He helped me get out of an abusive relationship and we both adore each other! But he’s been having trouble at work and all these problems that he’s has has really been affecting his mental health! Like the past month he has been leaving work because he will either going super pale like he’s going to pass out, or just generally feeling very very sick. I try to comfort him because that’s my personality I just want to be there and help, but he almost pushed me away because he doesn’t want anyone near him(which is totally understandable, I mean I try to give him space) but I think because of my past relationships and experiences all I want to do is be super close ( some would say clingy ) and cuddle and be super affectionate which I don’t think he minded at first, but now that he’s going through this rough patch he hates it and avoids the connection with me. Which leaves me thinking all kinds of things in my head and feeling sad. But he does reassure me that he loves me and shows me attentions when he’s okay. But I feel so selfish that I feel this way. And it’s got me thinking that maybe I should speak to someone about how I feeling

Lack of Self Confidence/Self Worth

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Hello everyone, This is my first time posting on these forums (or forums of any kind) so I’m still new to this system. Anyways, I’m a high school student and have been struggling with self confidence and body image for a very long time now. Although lately, it seems it’s all toppling in on me. I have quite a close knit friend group and can get lonely pretty quickly. It seems all my best friends have got friends that they prefer over me, which I don’t really blame them for, due to me being quite ugly and annoying. One of my closest friends has recently distanced herself from me, and started lying and making excuses to avoid talking to me. I hate looking in the mirror and seeing myself every morning. On the bright side, I have started a healthy diet and workout routine which makes me feel somewhat better...however, this isn’t a health forum so I will continue. I feel as though others find me as unattractive as I find myself, and that I will never find love or happiness in the future because of it. This self-hatred has stopped me from enjoying the things I love to do such as writing, drawing and studying history. Although these things can sometimes make me feel better, the lingering thoughts of my self-hatred always find a way to come back into my mind. Intruding if you will. I like to think of myself as a positive person with occasional bad days. But recently, my ‘bad days’ have increased drastically. Because of the ridicule and embarrassment I gain due to my looks, I believe I have become a more empathetic person, as I try to relate and show kindness towards others who suffer similar experiences. i truly believe kindness is the most important thing in this world, even if It’s rarely given to me. I have dreams of traveling the world and writing books, raising a family and finding happiness in love. I feel as though I will never see these dreams come true, and I will always live like this. Hating mirrors and being lonely. Is there anything I can do to make me love or even tolerate myself more? I thank anyone who replies to this in advance. - LR

new and need help

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I have been trying to see a therapist for ages now but haven't had time with school. I have a lot of trouble in social situations and I really struggle trusting. I have had one relationship that can be considered somewhat serious that I want to reignite. I'm about to start the IB and I'm stressed about it. I've also just returned from an exchange with people who were constantly mocking me. I just want to feel supported again. Looking for motivation to finally see the therapist an potentially discuss some things here

Living with a mentally ill parent

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Hey so I'm finding it emotionally draining living with a mentally ill parent the environment is unhygienic and its just a depressing environment to be in I feel like I'm constantly having anxiety attacks and feeling low I'm trying to find somewhere else to stay its making me feel like a shitty person especially having to expose my child to the environment and to a horrible person My mother ruins all my friendships/relationships i just feel so alone like no one understands how tough it is to be abused their whole life

i need a buddy

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i my names asha and im 14, for the past 3 years (which doesnt really look the long) i have had really bad depression cause by a bad family and a raging mother who takes all her problems out on me which has cause me to become self destructive and depressed almost all times of the day i feel like just not being alive would help ease the pain. i have had no one to talk to about my problems other then my pillow because i real like i would just be a burden to my friends who dont have any idea what im going through , lately it has gotten worse and i think its time i talk to someone about it who would understand and not just think its me being a edgy teen (i know the difference between being a teen and having depression) . sorry for the rouge introduction asha,x

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Crush on a guy at work replies: 1

Fear of dying replies: 1

Hi, I’m new. I just wanted some advice. replies: 6

Boyfriend of seven months ends our relationship suddenly despite my best efforts to compromise and help him replies: 3

In love and not knowing what to do replies: 1

Trying to help my partner, when I think I need to see someone myself replies: 1

Lack of Self Confidence/Self Worth replies: 5

new and need help replies: 2

Living with a mentally ill parent replies: 1

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