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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Vicki_klm Under the pressure
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Hi, I normally don't talk about negative or sad things that could bring out some emotions of regret in others towards me so this is a little bit hard for me to open up. But, I feel like it is time to vent. I am very greatful person for every experien... View more

Hi, I normally don't talk about negative or sad things that could bring out some emotions of regret in others towards me so this is a little bit hard for me to open up. But, I feel like it is time to vent. I am very greatful person for every experience that happened to me and I understand that there are good experiences and bad experiences that shape us in life. However, there is one experience that I can't forget and makes me so wreckless especially when I get upset or stressed, it gets worse and I start thinking about it deeper and feel so frustrated. I am talking about my close friend who committed a suicide 6 years ago. I know it is been a while since it happened but sometimes it feels like it was yesterday. The worst thing is that he told me that he was going to do that but I thought he was joking and therefore I did not try to help him. I couldnt do anything that time even when I wish nowadays that i could. I really miss him and think how different it would be if he was still here. I dont know why he did that but now I know that I will never get the answer. I just want to move on and stop thinking about it everytime I feel upset. I did not tell anyone how I really felt about this experience and no one knows that sometimes I get really depressed and everytime I get depressed, I think about him and us, good times we spent together. Also, because I am almost 25 y.o. my family wants me to move closer to them but I feel like I am not ready. I am not ready to settle down, to get married, to have kids etc., to live like they want me to. I dont understand why it is so hard to decide what you want to do in life, where you want to live and who you'd like to spend your life with. I feel like even love is not for me. Everytime I open up to someone, I am being hurt. People think getting attached is not cool anymore but instead just having sex for one night. Why is it so hard to make decisions in life? Why can't I live how I want?

StaticGhost separation anxiety within relationships
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Hello, I am a 17-year-old girl who is currently in a relationship, I adore my boyfriend to bits and when I am with him I feel safe and happy. However, when I am away from him for even a day, I get depressed. Severely depressed. I feel like I can't do... View more

Hello, I am a 17-year-old girl who is currently in a relationship, I adore my boyfriend to bits and when I am with him I feel safe and happy. However, when I am away from him for even a day, I get depressed. Severely depressed. I feel like I can't do anything without feeling sad or wanting to hurt myself (mentally and physically). I am a very clingy person and tend to cling to those who I love, or at least want to be around. I suffer from depression and anxiety and take medication for it, but my mind is always thinking about him. It hurts me a lot when I am not with him and I have no idea why, why is he so important to me? I love how he is but at the same time, I can not cope when he is gone. I find I am even pushing friends and family away to be with him, and only him. I believe this is going way too far. Has anyone else gone through this and know how to cope or at least deal with it? I have always needed to be with someone and have dealt with bad separation anxiety my whole life but this is something far more difficult for me to overcome. Thank you.

Wren10 How to deal with depression during pregnancy
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Hi guys my name is Wren, I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant and I’m depressed due to my relationship status with the father of my child. He’s on holiday now in Cambodia, he’s not sending me messages while he was there even if he’s online. He’s ignoring ... View more

Hi guys my name is Wren, I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant and I’m depressed due to my relationship status with the father of my child. He’s on holiday now in Cambodia, he’s not sending me messages while he was there even if he’s online. He’s ignoring my messages. When I opened my Facebook I just saw some pictures of him with another girl. I asked him who’s the girl on the picture and he said it is just a friend. But I know that it’s not true, I feel that they are having an affair. I keep sending him messages but I don’t have any luck I didn’t get any reply from him. Can you help me guys? I’m totally down and depressed at the moment.

PurpleStars I was in two relationships. Now, I’m scared.
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I messed up. I was in two relationships until October or November. One was real, one was fake. The fake was with a 21 years old, 5 years old than me. I told him about my actual REAL boyfriend, how we were in a relationship BEFORE HIM AND I a while ag... View more

I messed up. I was in two relationships until October or November. One was real, one was fake. The fake was with a 21 years old, 5 years old than me. I told him about my actual REAL boyfriend, how we were in a relationship BEFORE HIM AND I a while ago, I’m not sure when but I have. He hates my boyfriend. Just note that this fake relationship, this person doesn’t know it was fake. You might be asking, how was it fake? I never loved him, why would I? I built up a ‘relationship’ with him because he literally said it wouldn’t make him depressed if we weren’t together. I’m a nice person, I didn’t want him to be depressed. I put everyone else before myself. I didn’t look into the future, what would this do? It’s caused me depression and anxiety, PTSD and a lot of paranoia, I’m becoming anorexic too. Looks like I’ve been wrapped into this dark trap. I broke it off, like I said, now everyday I am scared, anxious and worried sick that he will hurt me because I made us break up. I’m so scared he will break me and my REAL boyfriend up. He’s very mean and vulgar now. Saying stuff like “I wonder what you’d feel like with your heart broken”, meaning that he wonders what would happen if my boyfriend and I broke up. I shouldn’t have even spoken to this man. I hate him. He’s scary. I regret even replying to his message. I don’t know what to do, who to talk to, nothing. I am clueless. I’ve told my amazing REAL boyfriend about this fake relationship, he forgave me. I am so thankful for this angel. He just said as long as you didn’t send nudes. I told him of course not, as my stomach would sink. I did, it’s child porn. I felt like I was forced to do so, he also sent videos of him. I am worried this MAN will use it against me, towards my boyfriend but I think he’s deleted them.. I hope. ”Why don’t you block him!?”. I’m scared he will attack me, hurt me. He lives on the other side of the country. He knows my address. I am so scared. I am so sorry I have made this stupid, pathetic mistake. I need help, advice. Anything. Please help me..

Andrew_C1 Advice on my thoughts
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Hi, my name's andrew as you can tell and im 16 years old. I'm currently going through a breakup in relationship and have been feeling really heart broken. Would anyone have any tips to relieve this kind of feeling or how to move on with more positive... View more

Hi, my name's andrew as you can tell and im 16 years old. I'm currently going through a breakup in relationship and have been feeling really heart broken. Would anyone have any tips to relieve this kind of feeling or how to move on with more positive feelings? I cry when everything is silent and I do talk to a few people but not intensely about my problems more just to sidetrack myself.

Solo64 Life is pointless and I am a failure
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Hi this is my first time posting and I’m new here I got recommend as this site will help and slow down my problem. I feel like a failure failing to get to uni lying to my single dad gets shouting about how dumb am I everyday mother left me since I wa... View more

Hi this is my first time posting and I’m new here I got recommend as this site will help and slow down my problem. I feel like a failure failing to get to uni lying to my single dad gets shouting about how dumb am I everyday mother left me since I was born. Having friend used me to help them out but not feeling I am getting any helped. Sorry if my English is bad. I feel defeated I feel like life is now pointless all my friends got into something there want as well have a second opintion. My dad force me to become something what is hard for me to aim at as well that I don’t to be that I know his intention is to help me in the future but everything is not getting my way anymore. Everyone always tell me that “no worries you got opintions” but I feel like everyone knows now that I’m super dumb or them not being real using a fake smile. Is nice having opintion but my dad won’t allow it if I told him the truth (mostly about not getting to uni) everyone has told me tell my dad the truth but I feel like it will backleash knowing him the most what would happen. Since now I delated every social media and games knowing that these pieces won’t make me any better anymore i always thought games and social media made me happy but it doesn’t help my learning and I’m helping others with my learning I always never take credit and give my friends the credit but always having the bad marks compere to my friends even doe is a group work or stand alone assessments. I know the teacher wouldn’t know I helped them or did all the group work by myself. But I feel like my friends deserve to have a better life until the day I failed to get to uni I had asked them what I can do but them just showing off there have pass and just told me you got opintion I know there used me the advise they give me felt hopeless and pointless the only person I have talked is my younger brother I am failure to be a big brother asking my younger brother for help because he been the most help in my life as well I can’t turn to my dad or my friends anymore sorry if this was too long or I could of made it shorter I just felt like to make everything out.

Guest_000 Self-conscious around guys??
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At work, I get concerned that people around me will think I romantically like guy co-workers that I interact with/talk to, when I dont. I wont look at them when they are passing by or nearby, because I dont want people to misconstrue our interactions... View more

At work, I get concerned that people around me will think I romantically like guy co-workers that I interact with/talk to, when I dont. I wont look at them when they are passing by or nearby, because I dont want people to misconstrue our interactions. Then they get awkward around me. I want to be friends w everyone and not be so self-conscious. Any tips to overcome this and just be fine in all interactions? Thanks

zoeaah i am ugly
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i am ugly and its annoying me my forehead is real big i have a 8-head my lips are crooked, my nose is too big my eyes are too small what now

i am ugly and its annoying me my forehead is real big i have a 8-head my lips are crooked, my nose is too big my eyes are too small what now

meowmess no friends, heaps of worries
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sup people this is my first post so yea. in the past 6 or so months I’ve had two of my “best friends” distance themselves from me. by distance I mean excluding me. I was not invited to group event, at lunch one of them sat in a different spot so I co... View more

sup people this is my first post so yea. in the past 6 or so months I’ve had two of my “best friends” distance themselves from me. by distance I mean excluding me. I was not invited to group event, at lunch one of them sat in a different spot so I couldn’t find them. even led to this same one skipping classes we had together. these people aren’t in the same friend group or even talk to each other. when I’ve been like yo what’s the go one said “I can’t stand you” and the other said “I’m scared you’ll talk to me about your depression and anxiety”, mind you this girl in particular has been a close friend of mine SINCE WE WERE THREE. that’s a long ass time and now all of a sudden she’s “scared”. the one who “can’t stand” me told me it’s also due to my depression and anxiety which I might add I keep to myself. anyway, it’s coming to the end of the holidays and I literally have no friends which go to school with. all my friends have either graduated, go to another school or dropped out. so like now I’m terrified to go back to school because I’m not ready to have my last year at school sitting by myself. how do I stop loosing friends over this? and also what do i do? ps I think I explained all of this so poorly soz xo

Mina19 Always anxious
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Hi I’m not sure if my other post went through? I didn’t see it but wanted to know why do some of the smallest things make me so nervous like I just feel in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I feel like it may be related to a past traumatic event... View more

Hi I’m not sure if my other post went through? I didn’t see it but wanted to know why do some of the smallest things make me so nervous like I just feel in a constant state of panic and anxiety. I feel like it may be related to a past traumatic event I went through but I just feel like I can’t calm down or relax my mind is always racing and then in turn when I get anxious my breathing gets panicky and I have to dash to the loo. It’s just really crazy. I wanted to know is this like do people actually go through things like this??