Young people

Life is really hard

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I’m an 18 year old Female who just finished high school last year and decided to take a gap year since I don’t currently have my P’s. I’ve always struggled with metal health for the majority of my childhood from crazy anxiety to depression, and I wen... View more

I’m an 18 year old Female who just finished high school last year and decided to take a gap year since I don’t currently have my P’s. I’ve always struggled with metal health for the majority of my childhood from crazy anxiety to depression, and I went to a psychologist for about a year and a half when I was in year 12. At the end of high school things where the best they have ever been so I decided to stop going to my therapist and also partially because I didn’t like going. Now that I’ve finished school I don’t have any friends besides the people that I talk to while I’m at work, but my school friends rarely message me and since I have extremely low self esteem I don’t message any of them as I would just feel like a burden to them and they probably don’t like me anymore. This whole year I’ve just been in the routine of going to work and going home while I see videos of my friends spending time with eachother. I used to blame it on me living a little further away than they all do but now I just think it’s because they don’t care about me anymore. I have always hated myself but lately everything has been so much worse, I don’t shower for days at a time and the days I don’t work I won’t leave my bed and won’t eat a thing all day. Last year I when I was sad I always managed to distract myself by reminding myself that I had school and friends and family to think about, but now I have literally nothing to live for and I’m just here for no one doing nothing. I don’t know what to do, I hate myself so much and I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to tell my mum about how I’m feeling because she thinks that I’m better after going to a therapist and I will probably but worry her and burden my parents. Sorry about this really long boring story I’m just so lost.

Confused about life :(

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Hi everyone, Kinda new here so no idea if I'm doing this right. Jumping right into it, I am lucky enough to have a pretty good life- I have loving parents, supportive friends and a pretty decent life in general. This is why I'm so confused about some... View more

Hi everyone, Kinda new here so no idea if I'm doing this right. Jumping right into it, I am lucky enough to have a pretty good life- I have loving parents, supportive friends and a pretty decent life in general. This is why I'm so confused about some dark stuff I've been feeling lately. Just random feelings of crisis and fear about my future. I've been having doubts about uni, which is what sparked this- basically, I love the subject I'm doing, but have been struggling to keep up with my course content as I am a visual learner, and my course doesn't really cater for that. I also LOVE to travel, but due to being kinda poor, have been saving up my earnings from work like crazy for a planned trip nearly five years away. This to me feels like I'm always working towards something that never gets any closer, making me question everything mundane about my daily life. Feels like I'm stuck in a time warp with the same routine over and over and over again. There are moments of sheer happiness too, but these often end with me remembering all the negatives of life once the moment's over. In a nutshell, I'm finding it really hard to find the purpose of my life - because it's always so hard to wait for the light at the end of the tunnel as it seems like I'm throwing away my youth just working towards that. Shouldn't I be enjoying life now instead of always working towards happiness in the future? Or is this just how life is supposed to be? Everyone around me thinks I have the perfect life, so no one ever stops to think that I might be struggling, and I have mastered the art of suppressing emotions, so I don't reach out often. Just really confused with all the noise in my brain and have no one to talk to, so hoping for some help on here. Thanks a million for any help.

Hey everyone, I need help.

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Hey everyone, I'm just gonna get introductions out of the way. My name is Brandon and I'm currently 18 years old. Right now I'm unemployed and in the middle of moving into a new place and becoming fully independent. So this is my story I guess. Okay ... View more

Hey everyone, I'm just gonna get introductions out of the way. My name is Brandon and I'm currently 18 years old. Right now I'm unemployed and in the middle of moving into a new place and becoming fully independent. So this is my story I guess. Okay so, I don't really know where to start so I'll just say that I think I have depression. To be honest I think I've been experiencing some sort of mental illness for a long time, 6 or 7 years I'd say but i didn't really notice until about 3-4 months ago. Around the time I started to notice, I started to do research and look up the symptoms and whatnot and to my surprise, I saw that I was affected by those same symptoms. Now I definitely know I do. I have no energy, no motivation, I don't enjoy the things I used to, I went from 3 meals a day to barely 1, I don't leave my house for weeks at a time, I feel more lonely than ever and to top all of that off; I blame myself for it. It was only til recently that I started getting dark thoughts and here's the kicker: I've even thought of giving up which sounds absolutely crazy, I mean I have a loving family and a supportive group of friends but sometimes I just feel so hopeless. Of course I know how bad it is but I still haven't really told anyone because I don't really know how; not because it's hard talking to them but because of something in my self. I don't know maybe once in my life I got told to stop talking or keep quiet and it must of got to me. Anyway to anyone who finds this, thank you. It's been hard but you've done an amazing job and although I know nothing about you, I'm proud of you. To all the other people struggling right now, I know you can do this just like I can. Before I go I would just like to share a quote that I really resonated with for some reason. "You know what the best thing about hitting rock bottom is? There's only one way to go and that's up." Hope/Glad you're okay. -Brandon

I have no friends

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Ever since school finished my old friends all got jobs and started uni and it's hard to hang out with all our conflicting schedules. No one has posted on the group chat in months, and I really tried to make friends at uni but I feel like whenever I'm... View more

Ever since school finished my old friends all got jobs and started uni and it's hard to hang out with all our conflicting schedules. No one has posted on the group chat in months, and I really tried to make friends at uni but I feel like whenever I'm in public I completely shut down and can't function. Whenever people try talk to me the most I can do is smile and fake laugh a bit and it's completely ruining my life. I always made friends through my one childhood friend, but now she's doing a different course and we never speak. I've been shy my whole life but since the beginning of the year I've just been freaking out every time I'm near another human. At uni I eat lunch in the bathroom because I can't sit around people without getting scared. I'm so isolated and lonely, I feel like I have nothing to look forward to and no one cares about me. I can barely sleep at night because I get so frustrated at myself. How do I stop panicking around people??? Help??

I just need to talk.

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Hi, I don’t have any friends left and I need to talk but I have no one who will listen. I’m 25 and My life sucks. friends: I had 2 friends. One friend doesn’t care about me so I haven’t talked to her in a while because she makes me feel bad about mys... View more

Hi, I don’t have any friends left and I need to talk but I have no one who will listen. I’m 25 and My life sucks. friends: I had 2 friends. One friend doesn’t care about me so I haven’t talked to her in a while because she makes me feel bad about myself. Everything is about how everything’s worse for her and I tried to cancel plans with her because my grandad was in icu and she said to me ‘okay, but I’m not happy with you’ this was a week after my second friend hurt me badly because I’m ‘too poor’ to go have coffee with him... after he is always busy and I’m always a second thought to him. work: my job sucks. It’s low paying and I can’t afford anything. I got a written warning the other day because apparently I’m not happy enough. I’m not happy to be here anymore as it set my anxiety off.. home: i live with my mum and brother and they’re always mean to me. They both smoke in the house and I quit a year ago but they don’t help and my brother just says it’s 2 against one and my mum always takes his side in things and yells at me for everything even when it’s okay for my brother to do.. if I clean the house I get in troubled for not doing something else and vise versa. I’m always getting in trouble for things and I don’t understand why.. I don’t want people telling me to move out of home because I can’t afford it. I don’t want people saying change jobs because I’m trying and no one will hire me right now. I try to talk to people and they throw it back in my face. My mother her even told me I don’t have a right to feel the way I do. I just want everything to stop.

struggling to stay at school

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everyday when i get home from school i feel worse and worse i get terrible marks on almost everything i do i try hard in class really hard but when it comes to assignments and exams i think i am trying hard but then i just get bad marks i feel bad ab... View more

everyday when i get home from school i feel worse and worse i get terrible marks on almost everything i do i try hard in class really hard but when it comes to assignments and exams i think i am trying hard but then i just get bad marks i feel bad about those marks and people make fun of me for these marks and think of me as being stupid ive been at 5 different schools all over Australia and 1 in Malaysia and i never have felt like i have had any good friends at any of these schools and i feel sad everyday beacause i feel as though i have no good freinds. no one ever invited me to social events or to the movies and it really hurts when i see people who i thought were my freinds all hanging out without me. I feel like im going to fail everything and life just feels too hard i really hate school and i feel like it is slowly tearing my mental capacity apart. most days i wonder whats the point of living

Giving up

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I feel so pathetic and ashamed to be myself. I have basically no friends. The only people I really have are a few family members. Everyone else basically tolerates me. I cry so much. I’m miserable at work and at home. I can’t escape from myself and m... View more

I feel so pathetic and ashamed to be myself. I have basically no friends. The only people I really have are a few family members. Everyone else basically tolerates me. I cry so much. I’m miserable at work and at home. I can’t escape from myself and my thoughts consume me. Sometimes I think it would be better if I never woke up in the morning. I’m paranoid about everything and worrying constantly despite people’s effort to try and calm me down. I have panic attacks a lot . I’m always bitter and can be really cold. My mood goes up and down which is exhausting. I can’t keep relationships (friends, etc) going for very long before they see how I am and get bored... I just can’t stand who I am, I’m always making mistakes and looking like an idiot. I’m at the point of giving up on having a social life, I was probably just meant to die alone anyway so what is it worth? I try talking to people and they just look at me like I’m freak. I don’t want to be me, I hate me

My 14yr old best friend is getting worse

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Hi, this is my first time posting and I’m not sure how to explain, there’s a girl in my soccer team who is 14 and came to me at the start of the season which was roughly Start of March. She has been hurting herself and she’s getting worse. I told her... View more

Hi, this is my first time posting and I’m not sure how to explain, there’s a girl in my soccer team who is 14 and came to me at the start of the season which was roughly Start of March. She has been hurting herself and she’s getting worse. I told her Aunty and that’s when I realised how bad her home life is because her dad, mum and step mum just told her she was doing it for attention and that she’s ungrateful. I’m 17 and when I was her age I was doing similar things (self-harming). I don’t know if I’m even helping her or doing the right thing by her as all I’m doing is just listening. I’m not sure what to do because I am kind of the only support she has. Talking to her about why I used to hurt myself has brought some stuff up, such as my family and school issues and I’m now at that stage of not knowing what to do. I feel like I’m being dramatic but sometimes I think she is giving up and is suicidal but then I just think I’m overthinking. Other girls in the soccer team (it’s an open ages team so there are older girls) they only half know what’s going on because the first one everyone found out nothing really changed. I feel like I’m the only one who wants her to get better. I feel like I should get help too because idk if this is too much just for me because I don’t want to be dramatic. sorry if this doesn’t completely make sense

Why are we still too ashamed to talk to our teens about sex!?!

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Right. No idea if a thread like this is allowed but right now I feel it is desperately needed. Recently I spoke to a friend's teen who was her school's newest victim of sexual images being shared without consent. It was an eye opening discussion. Mad... View more

Right. No idea if a thread like this is allowed but right now I feel it is desperately needed. Recently I spoke to a friend's teen who was her school's newest victim of sexual images being shared without consent. It was an eye opening discussion. Made me wonder why in 2019 are we still repeating the same old mistakes? Yep. The technology is changing. Teens today are dealing with totally different risks than even ten years ago. But the lack of education stays the same decade after decade! I asked this young woman why was she embarrassed to talk and ask for help? Ok she messed up. But did she really think her Mum or myself hadn't messed up just as badly at her age? News flash to any young adults reading... Technology has changed. Sex hasn't. Your parents, grandparents, teachers you name it all went through the horrible misery that is puberty, developing sexuality, experimentation and all the cringeworthy mistakes that go along with it. What has changed significantly is the consequences and shame that now exist. Years ago a few girls skinnydipped at a girlfriend's house. My mate decided she would show the blokes in my year a photo she'd taken of me (thankfully a cleavage pic with most of the top still on). It was a nice photo and she wanted to help me to be noticed... but my goodness I was horrified. The difference was I got to walk up to the boys, tear up the photo and threaten my friend till she gave me the negative. I shared that trying to show her we all go through similar crap in life. It feels good to have someone say you are beautiful or sexy and sometimes we go looking for people to make us feel ok about ourselves instead of looking at why we have low self esteem. But then I realised this young woman didn't have the luxury of control over her photos. Or of forgetting silly mistakes fueled by hormones and youth and wanting to feel good. So why the hell aren't we talking about it? I wouldn't go back to being a young adult for anything. It was hard enough before the internet. I feel like we are failing our kids. If you could go back and tell your teenage self something about sexuality what would you want them to know? Nat

Financial stress HSC major works

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Hi all, I have two major works due in less than 10 weeks and both are heavily practical based and require me to be buying so many materials that are extremely out of my budget and I am stressing more and more everyday about how I will pay for it all.... View more

Hi all, I have two major works due in less than 10 weeks and both are heavily practical based and require me to be buying so many materials that are extremely out of my budget and I am stressing more and more everyday about how I will pay for it all. The closer the date becomes the more anxious I have become because my parents kind of are not going to be expecting to help me pay all this money because they aren’t really involved in my HSC journey. Is there any ways in which you all suggest I can gather some money within the next three weeks to get started. I do have a casual job although I only work one day a week and am struggling to even save to buy a car as my birthday is coming up. I was hoping anyone knows of organisations that help fund students who do major works for their HSC especially as I am doing two. This is really stressing me out and we have been back at school for two days only. Please help if you know of any financial assistance for HSC students or if you have any suggestions as to how I can bring this up with my parents who I don’t have a close relationship with without the whole big shock and it causing extra stress at home. thankyou all for your support

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Hey everyone, I need help.

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I just need to talk.

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struggling to stay at school

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My 14yr old best friend is getting worse

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