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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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hello_mae Claiming Our Voice (... or at least trying to)
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Right now, we observe somatic sensations of a brick wall being laid in our throat, and our lips being stuck together with super glue. We're breathing deeply and exhaling with a whispered "pahh!!" - something we learned from Yoga With Adriene. To this... View more

Right now, we observe somatic sensations of a brick wall being laid in our throat, and our lips being stuck together with super glue. We're breathing deeply and exhaling with a whispered "pahh!!" - something we learned from Yoga With Adriene. To this day, speaking feels unnatural, not allowed. We're trying to change that. Parts of us have memories of doing the mental gymnastics to keep quiet - the "I am being abused" "I am being traumatised by said abuse" "I am experiencing flashbacks and other trauma responses" "Oh, mum doesn't like that" "I am completely fine and safe and healthy and nothing at all is wrong" - in freaking toddlerhood. Adorable pudgy little toddler body with tiny baby teeth smile, and we were already learning to keep it hidden. By preschool and kindergarten years, with our second and third lots of sexual abuse, all by different perpetrators, we were becoming fluent in the art of dissociation. Right now, we're noticing the walls swirling, hot heaviness in our chest and forehead, prickling skin as our vision fades in and out. Our cues to come back to the present and lock up that box. But, this time, we don't want to never return to it, or tear these words to shreds (a bonus for being a forum) - we're hoping we'll come back to this, and keep talking. Claim our voice as our own, and use it. Collectively, we go by Mae. We're neurodivergent, multiple independent persons (and some non-humans) sharing this singular vessel. We're hurting, and trying our best to create the kind of life that we always deserved but could never dream of experiencing until three years ago. We'd love to get to know all of you, and hope that, bravely, we can share ourselves.

Guest_1206 I am new to the Forums
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I am new to the, let me say forum scene, which I think is a good place to start from for some people I have red some posts and have ideas to share with people with depression as I live with bipolar disorder with metabolic depression. In other words i... View more

I am new to the, let me say forum scene, which I think is a good place to start from for some people I have red some posts and have ideas to share with people with depression as I live with bipolar disorder with metabolic depression. In other words i have times of manic "highs" , where i feel like I've got lots of energy and cant sleep, which some people may think that its a good thing, but not for me. After coming out of a "high" I then end up on a manic "low" where I feel depressed, and cry a lot but not this time so I can relate to a lot of you guys and girls, especially when talking about depression. I want to reach out to you but don't know how to reply to your posts can anyone help me with this issue please.

Maisy Nina Newbie
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Hi everyone, I have just joined this forum. I have regular bouts of severe and obsessional anxiety and also less frequent bouts of depression. I'm in my mid-forties now and have had some sort of these symptoms since I was in my early teens. I had bee... View more

Hi everyone, I have just joined this forum. I have regular bouts of severe and obsessional anxiety and also less frequent bouts of depression. I'm in my mid-forties now and have had some sort of these symptoms since I was in my early teens. I had been using substances to numb symptoms (and also emotions) for several decades, but I am happy to say that I recently successfully completed a 13 day residential/medical detox and have now been home for a week and have not used this substance at all The anxiety is felt so physically, it can be very paralysing. It is often not related to particular thoughts or concerns, seems to just take over my body and then the brain follows trying to pinpoint the cause, but this almost never calms the physical symptoms. I have seen many psychologists and psychiatrists over the decades, but nothing has gotten to the root cause of the very uncomfortable symptoms. Doing breathing exercises, actual exercise, taking a bath, trying to relax have not been successful. Hopefully I can pick up some tips or suggestions from these forums. Thanks for reading and all the best P.S. I would also like to help others in the forums if I can.

Tibby23 Depression and anxiety
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I have had depression and anxiety pretty much all my life. Recently diagnosed ADD also. I have had a recent stay in a private mental health ward for almost a month I have had lots of medication changes but I am now on antidepressant that I’ve been on... View more

I have had depression and anxiety pretty much all my life. Recently diagnosed ADD also. I have had a recent stay in a private mental health ward for almost a month I have had lots of medication changes but I am now on antidepressant that I’ve been on before that worked. I’ve only been on it for 10 days. I am getting really frustrated because I have a ‘good’ day followed by a bad day. I’m over it. I continue to take one day at a time- actually one hour at a time. I’m waiting for consecutive days in a row of feeling myself again. A bad day is either a day full of anxiety or a day of depression. I’m making sure I drink lots water, eat fruit and veggies and get exercise. I haven’t had any alcohol for 8 weeks. I have a gambling problem but also haven’t gambled for 8 weeks . just needing words of encouragement please to get through this tough time

1993_J Lost
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Hi im writing on here, because I'm new, looking to be honest I know it's about how you look at a situation and most of the time i try be positive but it feels that everyone around me gets so complacent with it and I'm not aloud to be upset or hurt. I... View more

Hi im writing on here, because I'm new, looking to be honest I know it's about how you look at a situation and most of the time i try be positive but it feels that everyone around me gets so complacent with it and I'm not aloud to be upset or hurt. I'm over welmed with life as I'm going threw a custody battle and my car broke down. Arhh

HaGaNai Burnt out
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So tired,constant headaches,my life is traumatic, I'm socially isolated. No friends, some home help thru NDIS for myself, I'm autistic with high anxiety & mobility issues & chronic pain issues. I'm sole carer of son who has autism & some delay due to... View more

So tired,constant headaches,my life is traumatic, I'm socially isolated. No friends, some home help thru NDIS for myself, I'm autistic with high anxiety & mobility issues & chronic pain issues. I'm sole carer of son who has autism & some delay due to oxygen deprivation @ birth. He is chronologically 28 but mentally 10-14. My emotional age is 17. I find taking care of him quite difficult in the day to day. Prompting for eating, toileting, showering, putting him to bed. I clean up after him, do his washing for him, remind him of things he needs to do & most often times he forgets. He goes out supported @ least 3 days a week, but I can't stand his endless prattle when he arrives home, on useless topics on animations he watches or real or imagined slights that may or may not have happened to him in primary school. He never has a " normal" conversation with me. He has no neurotypical friends. He circulates in disability inclusive supported events, & never meets new people just the " regular suspects". We are in regional/ rural QLD. I only give the state as gov help etc different each state. I will be twice his age next year. I have financial constraints as been on disability pension last 20 yrs, & duped out of any savings I've strived to achieve over the yrs. Father not in picture at all for almost that same amount of time. I'm exhausted & feel useless. I'm supported only in cleaning & shopping, & being taken to family funerals. At least I get to funerals, but it seems a non priority to help me visit the living. I find it devastating when my relatives die. I never see any family & I feel very disconnected mostly on a regular basis & then like I'm meeting with strangers if I move heaven & earth to get something to happen to see them, then I'm worn out, feel more anxious about my interactions with them, & feel overwrought & that it wasn't worth it to see them after all. And then I feel I should stay reclusive & not try to attempt a normality of life at all. Most attempts to access activities that interest me are always thwarted. Or I'm signed up for some " oldies" activity as there's gov funding for that. I feel conspired against. I eek out a survival, not a life. I'm trying to be responsible for my son, but I'm only seen as a mum or a carer, not a person to have any rights as themselves. My son has gotten cruises, dances, parties, coastal holidays. No one tries to support him into anything like a supported workshop, volunteer work. He expects life to be one big party on a plate. They have set him up with an irrational expectation. I have an older son, but I'm disconnected from him & he lives in another state.

Adam_83 How did I end up here?
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Hey everyone, I’ve made a real mess of things over the last few years and I feel like I’m sinking further into the mess every day. I came out of covid working in a job I absolutely loved and could see myself doing for the next 10 years. I’d nailed WF... View more

Hey everyone, I’ve made a real mess of things over the last few years and I feel like I’m sinking further into the mess every day. I came out of covid working in a job I absolutely loved and could see myself doing for the next 10 years. I’d nailed WFH life and excelled during the lockdowns and came out the other side with a promotion and thought I was kicking goals. Until a new manager was added to the company directly above me, and started taking away the decision making and position of leadership I’d worked so hard to get to. Unfortunately, I handled the whole thing wrong and turned on him, refusing to share information, keeping things to myself and generally made the working relationship difficult at first, and eventually untenable. The more I fought against it, the worse I felt about myself. I lost my confidence, my work quality started to decline and instead of taking responsibility for it, I blamed him and other factors. My solution was to find a new job and run away, but I took a job I knew I wasn’t suited to, and only a few days after I started there I knew I’d made a big mistake. The culture didn’t suit me at all, the job I was told about and actually asked to do we’re totally different, and after 9 months of hating every day, I was let go. Which was actually a relief. But…I’m now working contract roles, taking casual hours and have lost all confidence in myself. My brain is spinning, in fact it never stops, but I can’t turn all the thoughts and ideas into anything of substance on paper. I know my current contract role will end soon because I’m not delivering what I know I’m capable of, and they’ll let me go thinking I can’t be successful in this role, although I know I could smash it in the right head space. I just feel so beaten down, like I can’t succeed anymore. I can’t look anyone in the eye and know I’m not even close to what I can and should be doing. I’ve lost all confidence in myself and doubt every thought I have. It’s hard to be productive when you spend the day replaying every conversation or interaction over and over in your head, worry about what the other person thought of me. This feeling just makes me so miserable, that I can’t find the motivation to try and drag myself forward, so it’s a cycle of failure I seem certain to keep repeating. How can I get myself back on track and show people I’m actually a dependable and hard working employee, when I can’t even get myself to focus or complete the most basic tasks?

tornadolover Psychosis
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I ended up going through drug induced psychosis about 4 years ago and it has forever changed my life...i'm wondering if any of you have gone through psychosis and how you have got through it? I still struggle with knowing what was real and what was n... View more

I ended up going through drug induced psychosis about 4 years ago and it has forever changed my life...i'm wondering if any of you have gone through psychosis and how you have got through it? I still struggle with knowing what was real and what was not real with my experience...i never thought i'd go through anything like that, but i did, i just want to go back to the person i was before i went through that roller coaster ride....can anyone else relate and have any advice on how to let all the thoughts and beliefs go? I remember everything in detail so vividly and i wish i could just move on from it, but me and my overthinking brain wants to make sense of what i went through and can't let it go....i will leave it here and hope to hear from anyone on this matter...thanks for taking the time to read this

MR TREV Lost and fearful
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Hello there, I thought id never need this kind of help but it seems i was wrong.I'm a male 55 years old and although i have never had a good life it until the last couple of years been ok i guess.Keeping it simple for now about 2 years ago i tore my ... View more

Hello there, I thought id never need this kind of help but it seems i was wrong.I'm a male 55 years old and although i have never had a good life it until the last couple of years been ok i guess.Keeping it simple for now about 2 years ago i tore my achilies tendon in leg and ever since then things have not gone right.I am a diabetic type 2 so my injuries became complicated and long drawn out still ongoing.Because of these Ive virtually had to stop full time work just using last of leave now after 33 years in same job.With no real income right now i applied to centerlink but was told i earned to much due to these payments. This also meant i did not get aa concession card to help out. Medical visits 4 or so times a week to various sections does not help either. not to mention the costs of meds etc.I did finally get a superannuation insurance claim but its tiny and don't know how long it will keep up .I have no family,no friends anywhere near to help so im doing this alone. Ive seen my gp he has sent me to see a mental health professional end of this week but its a lot of money per session.My head is going round and round all the time asleep or awake. Lost, confused and fearful of the future with this. Thank anyone who reads this.

DeDeJ What is up with me ?
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Hi,Ive never done this before. I don't even know where to start. Let's start with my bad self esteem lol, which i guess is kinda linked to my other problem of anxiety. Here is how i feel: I struggle socially and because of this i guess i constantly c... View more

Hi,Ive never done this before. I don't even know where to start. Let's start with my bad self esteem lol, which i guess is kinda linked to my other problem of anxiety. Here is how i feel: I struggle socially and because of this i guess i constantly compare myself to others, and how good socially they are. I shouldn't i know. But its difficult. I see friends hang out, i see groups of kids all laughing and having fun and think how easy that must be. I can't help but feel why am i so like this? Why do i feel drained when i do socialize? I feel out of place. I also feel like i have to fit into a mold so people will just think that im a good person. I am always worried about what people think of me. I guess i can be described as a people pleaser, and i know i shouldn't be. But my mind is overwhelmed with all these thoughts and feelings, like "what if they like me or hate me. What if they don't want to hang out with me? Oh yea they have their own group they all love hanging out they wouldn't like me. Im a boring person i guess." I just feel out of place. Not only do i have these feelings, but hanging out with others is difficult. I need a few days to process the thought of hanging out with others. I HATE THIS. I wish i could just be that person who is confident and doesn't care about what others think, who finds it easy to socialize, who finds it easy to make friends with every body. I hate this about myself - how I am. As a result, my self esteem is low and when i think about these things i don't feel joy. I just feel out of place in this world. Like i want coping strategies and i want support. I don't exactly know what to do. My parents are always so supportive and loving but idk i just feel like I need more than this. I want to feel different - i want to be joyful with others. I want to feel comfortable with others and myself. I want to not care what others think. But i want to be that person who is full of confidence and can talk to others without feeling like they don't want me or they are just being nice. I want an open personality! Anyway, idk.