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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Anonymously1 Introducing myself
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Hi, so I have been experiencing a series of unfortunate events, and live a very stressful life right now. I could just really use a place to vent some of my frustrations and feelings as I don't have access to a reliable source of psychological or soc... View more

Hi, so I have been experiencing a series of unfortunate events, and live a very stressful life right now. I could just really use a place to vent some of my frustrations and feelings as I don't have access to a reliable source of psychological or social support.

Harpersmumma Newbie
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Hi All, I am new here. Life has been very unkind of late and the struggle is real. I feel lost , scared, sad, full of anger and rage. I do see a psychologist and she is amazing. Just wish I could see her more often

Hi All, I am new here. Life has been very unkind of late and the struggle is real. I feel lost , scared, sad, full of anger and rage. I do see a psychologist and she is amazing. Just wish I could see her more often

G_S Introducing myself
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I’ve joined the forum tonight. Hoping it helps me with my mental health. I’ve named myself G_S which represents getting stronger. That’s my intention. Getting stronger and maybe being compassionate and helpful to others in the process.

I’ve joined the forum tonight. Hoping it helps me with my mental health. I’ve named myself G_S which represents getting stronger. That’s my intention. Getting stronger and maybe being compassionate and helpful to others in the process.

PippiJanet Ups and Downs
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Sometimes I feel like I am doing ok and then I am not. I don't know how to measure progress.

Sometimes I feel like I am doing ok and then I am not. I don't know how to measure progress.

Johnfromgawler Just need to chat.
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Hi everyone. Just signed up so I can have a place to chat about my depression and anxiety. Feel I am losing the battle.

Hi everyone. Just signed up so I can have a place to chat about my depression and anxiety. Feel I am losing the battle.

TRYIN2 grieving alienated 20/F daughter
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Hi there to anyone,believe it or not this is my first post ever on anything. Im a 46/M.Havent seen or spoken to my daughter since she was 16 and I yelled at her {lost temper} on the phone.approx 5 years ago. I get some info on how she is and what she... View more

Hi there to anyone,believe it or not this is my first post ever on anything. Im a 46/M.Havent seen or spoken to my daughter since she was 16 and I yelled at her {lost temper} on the phone.approx 5 years ago. I get some info on how she is and what shes doing from my mother who talks to her every now and then.This gives me a lot of hope I have tried to contact her a few times .she has blocked me on her phone ,sent back her 18th birthday card and present and mom only said the other day she never asks about you. I thought I had grieved my daughters loss a couple of years ago when I started bursting into tears often while driving,then researched online and realised what was happening,with Fathers day I have been upset a lot again this year and got really anxious and then got angry. I tried to put on a brave face when she told me she I would never see her again but it seems to have caught up with me with time.I have read a lot on the net on alienated children {which im certain has played the most part }and adopted the advice to look after myself,keep busy working so if she did ever want to reconcile I could be there for her in the best capacity.At least ive tried to. I have made a lot of mistakes but to cut off all together doesnt seem fair,I dont think I deserve that,but understand {from what ive read on the subject]I can only "leave the door open"and pray that one day she will want some reconciliation. Im looking for a conversation with some people of similar experiences to help each other out a bit with mutual tips and advice and understanding. When you get a bit older and realise how precious and short life is.Knowing how every day without her is a day lost forever and how it could be ok if we could just talk,I believe that just one step ,one conversation and it would be ok. I my other main issue is Im of the firm belief that I was in a relationship with a narcasist type of person,and that person is in my daughters life now and was in her childhood.im not qualified to tell you what type and level.Definetely a level above the average joe though and that was thirteen years ago.I havent been able to want or have a serious relationship since.Again I have seeked solace and comfort on the internet,knowing youre not robinson cruso and gaining an understanding of the behavours really helped. I was just wondering if the grief ever stops or will it often raise its ugly head? Wow that feels good to write,should have done it a long time ago.

indigo22 FREE MENTAL HEALTH GLOBAL SUMMIT 12 - 18 September, 2023
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Hi everyone, Please refer to the web address below to find out more about this free online event. https://www.mentalhealthglobalsummit.com/ Hope you are having a good day,indigo22

Hi everyone, Please refer to the web address below to find out more about this free online event. https://www.mentalhealthglobalsummit.com/ Hope you are having a good day,indigo22

Anonny Epilepsy and bipolar
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I started having seizures after 40 for no reason. Specialist could not find the real cause other than I have bipolar. Which has nothing to do with it. Speak soon

I started having seizures after 40 for no reason. Specialist could not find the real cause other than I have bipolar. Which has nothing to do with it. Speak soon

Fauna Please help - I have epilepsy, am self employed in a very high-stress industry
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Hi. I am really struggling to keep it together. I have epilepsy, am self employed in a very high-stress industry, can't drive now because of a seizure, losing money and my relationship with my fiance is struggling. I feel like a failure every.single.... View more

Hi. I am really struggling to keep it together. I have epilepsy, am self employed in a very high-stress industry, can't drive now because of a seizure, losing money and my relationship with my fiance is struggling. I feel like a failure every.single.day. It seems like my friends and family are all off doing so well with life and work and I'm drowning. I feel like I should close shop on my small business and get a regular job because the stress and pressure is too much, but I couldn't handle the embarrassment. The failure of running a business into the ground. I don't feel like anything is going right. I am meant to get married next year but every time I think of it I just want to cry. I'm so stressed. So tight for money. So, helpless. I have seen so many psychologists and therapists. Their 'coping' strategies only work for a short period of time. The talking only gets me so far. Been on anti depressants and they don't work. I feel sick. I hate myself. What should I do?

DifferentMe Person in Progress 🚧
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Forumites - Shoutout those that recreated themselves.Identity Loss and Self-Differentiation is what brings me to the forum. As a result of 13 years of Narcissistic Abuse, I have lost my sense of self and self-worth. But I get to recreate myself.I’m l... View more

Forumites - Shoutout those that recreated themselves.Identity Loss and Self-Differentiation is what brings me to the forum. As a result of 13 years of Narcissistic Abuse, I have lost my sense of self and self-worth. But I get to recreate myself.I’m looking forward to reading your journey of self discovery.All advice gratefully appreciated