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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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This is it, 2019 I must change.

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Hi, No longer do I want depression and anxiety to rule my world. For the best part of the last 29 years I can remember I have battled the two in some form or another. I sucks and I'm tired of feeling down, tired of feeling sad, tired of feeling upset, useless and so forth, I'm just tired. And I'm throwing everything at beating this once and for all. I dont think I've ever felt real happiness not have I really had a best friend. I dated someone for 7 years, enjoyed it. I loved her at times but I was never truly in love or happy. When she ended it after not really going anywhere my world crashed. I felt lost and without purpose. Life had no meaning. I felt I had lost my girlfriend, our small family and my best friend... my closest mate was there for me, he still is. I went to his engagement party but wasnt invited to the wedding. We still chat, occasionally catch up like once a year outside seeing each other at hockey but recently he said he may have work for me. Another friend I've caught up with a little recently and I made a new one via badoo, he started chatting to me cos I think he was interested in dating but I'm straight so we became friends. He employed me as a cleaner. I wasnt too interested in the job but said why not. I've been cleaning almost a month. Lifes rollercoaster continues with work where I seem to end up unhappy at work or under appreciated or not paid or the whole place closes. I met a lovely lady on tinder who has a child and major medical issues. Like massive and lucky to be alive. I wasnt really her type but she fell for me pretty quickly. Faster than I her. But we have been in separate states for a month now and she doesnt really miss me. She doesn't want a relationship right now, she is recovering for which could take a year. She will be back soon and misses something's but yeah that was a tough pill to swallow but I have. We are engaged but on a break. Still committed and faithful but the space hurts. Time will tell on how things go. At least shes willing to try more counciling. I hope she likes the new me i have turned into this last month but I know I've got a way to go. I never felt in love like this before and I dont want to lose her. I have been feeling happy some days since I've gone through change but I still have my days. That's why I'm here. I want to be happy I want to stay happy. I hated part of myself and the fact I let my fiance down. Hobart is a bland place at times but it's where I'm from and where i live.

New here! Also brought along my 6 years worth of depression

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I've never done anything like this before so hopefully i do it right. I just need a place to vent since I literally have no where else to go since I always avoid plaguing my family/friends with my troubles. Anyways, like the title said I've been living with depression for 6 years now. I'm currently 21. There's a certain thing that happened in the beginning that definitely offset it, and honestly if I had handled it back then I wouldn't be so bad now, but me being me I didn't. I just bottled it up along with every bad thing that happened to me. Also from me being 14 or so until 18 i just had terrible anxiety. I still have it now but more in the form of social anxiety but its being very much overshadowed by my depression. I just feel myself going very much downhill and the only thing keeping me afloat is this music group who I adore. Yeah I'm not exactly sure what I want from this, I guess like I said just to vent. I think seeing a therapist will help me immensely but I'm just so closed off I feel just gross? i guess anytime i share my feelings. I'm not sure why I'm that way, maybe I've grown to it over the past 6 years. Anyways I guess that's it. Thanks to anyone who read this! Hopefully I actually post I'm feeling kinda anxious right now haha.

New member - very stressful due to HPV positive

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Hi everyone, I’m trying to get some help here... I just give birth to my beautiful daughter last year and was found out HPV 16 positive and high grade abnormalities to my cervical tissue. I’m waiting for the colposcopy to be done. The abnormal tissue change will eventually lead to cervical cancer. There’s not much I can do about it. Usually the immune system will clear the virus but not for me unfortunately. That’s why my cervix starts to change. Even the abnormal tissue is cut through surgery, it will grow again if the HPV16 is active. 70% of cervical cancer is caused by this virus. I don’t know what the colposcopy will say about my condition but based on the Pap test, it doesn’t look good. I may get cancer already. My partner and family have been very supportive but I’m still so stressful, sad and anxious especially my baby’s so young. I don’t know how can I minimise the stress and get adequate sleep especially when I need a good immune system to fight for the virus Any tips? Many thanks!

New Member - First Post

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This is my first post, so still getting the hang of things. Why did I join? Because I have some depression problems. I spent my youth in an orphanage and have hang-ups from time to time. Cheers to all of you with your own problems.

New, anxious, somewhat confused new client

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Hi, So i'm the usual 'dont really do this kind of thing' type of person. I tend to not open up to what ive been feeling, i tend to push it under the rug and move along, althoughhhh, lately i have been feeling alot more stressed, sad, angry, anxious and tense than usual to the point where my body is physically hurting. I dont know if i have a probelm, i didnt really know where to turn to till i googled 'why do i feel so angry all the time' and popped up the beyondblue forums which i couldnt stop reading and relating to. i feel like i have no one i want to unload my feelings and thoughts to so i bottle them up, which never helps. i dont know what i am looking for right now, or if this will even help me, but i am at a stage when i need to try something otherwise i just will keep on going until i explode, probably. anyways, ive just been ranting right now, its just coming out like word vomit... gross! signing off, Happy.Girl x

I feel myself drifting away from something good

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Hey everyone I've just made a new account and I have a long story but I'm hoping someone would be able to help I've been with my boyfriend almost a year now and the relationship moved very fast, we started dating and withing two months he had a falling out with his parents so he moved in with me and my family, due to not having much room at mum's we lived in a tent in the backyard for just over 4 months,we are now in our own home and have a dog and two cats,everything was as perfect in the beginning but in the last few months it's like something has changed,we've both dealt with depression his was to do with broken relationshis and mine was to do with work and no self esteem,I've never been medicated once I left that job I was good, his really done nothing that should make me feel like I don't trust him anymore,I no his lies about a few things to do with his.personal life but I feel that he feels guilty,even after I've asked ,I dont appreciate lies, every relationship is hard work but I sometimes feel it's 1 sided,he tells me to talk to.him if something's up but he doesn't do that with me he will keep it to himself ,I dont know if it's a guy thing but when I bring it up to him he says his been hurt to many times that his gotten into a habit of pushing it down far enough not to feel, his been cheated on a few times and his other relationships failed, money is our biggest issue right now,we both have good paying jobs but it seems that when we get on top something will happen and we're right back to where we started, I'm losing my self esteem again,I'm stuck in a rut and I can't seem to get out, everything just keeps going back to money,and with my partner Its like all the things I've kept from him to spare his feelings are starting to crack and I've spat the dummy a few times at him,I love this man so much and he saved me from going down a very dark path,we've said we want to have a family together and get married ,but sometimes I feel I don't deserve him and other times I feel he takes me for granted,I don't know what to do ..please help

hi from the lost zone

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hi first post dont know what to say how to say or where to say it

First time in Forums

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Hi I have joined in the hope of perhaps helping myself during lonely times and uphill battles when a push is needed or just to know that someone else can relate to where im at or how im feeling. Cheers Nikmuff

Symptoms/Side Effects

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Hello Everyone, I am struggling with some effects of anxiety and would like to know what kind of effects most people get as most of the time when i experience such it makes me more anxious not knowing weather it is normal or not. Currently experiencing migraines and choking sensation in my throat making me physically wanting to regurgitate. Feels like my airways are closing. This has been constant for days. Anyone else experience this?

Wow first timer

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My first post which has taken me a long long time to write here. Different things have happened like forgetting my password so many times, getting involved in my not staying in my present mind. Having depression, anxiety, trying to deal with life, work and homelife and being this negative person for so long as far back as I remember. And now wanting to feel better and being impatient that it is not happening and at times feeling that I am doing nothing to make it happen, being so caught up with what is going and listening to what is in my head and not being strong enough to control it instead it is controlling me. Reading about strategies to use or sites to look at and forgetting to do it, or look at it a couple of times and then forgetting about it, I cannot seem to relax and unwind, I am allways doing stuff and racing around doing it and I absolutely and totally love coffee, I try to limit myself to 3 cups a day and have to really push myself to sit there and enjoy it and sip it slowly, my husband and housemate say I am very angry woman and will lash out and say something when they think there is really nothing to lash out about, in other words I think and say the worst. I am seeing a therapist and have 1 tomorrow the 1st one in a month. I am trying not to ramble on so much being my first post it seems I am just letting the words flow and trying to control my physical mannerisms and nerves I want very much to stay in control and be a better/happier person than I was yesterday,

Meet your community champions! replies: 12

HELP..Am I posting in the right section? replies: 10

This is it, 2019 I must change. replies: 4

New here! Also brought along my 6 years worth of depression replies: 2

New member - very stressful due to HPV positive replies: 2

New Member - First Post replies: 6

New, anxious, somewhat confused new client replies: 5

I feel myself drifting away from something good replies: 3

hi from the lost zone replies: 5

First time in Forums replies: 2

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Wow first timer replies: 19