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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Himm new to this
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Hi very new to this, thought i mite give it a go can't make things any werse, basicly need help

Hi very new to this, thought i mite give it a go can't make things any werse, basicly need help

Gardenergeek Newbie introduction
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Hi im a long term sufferer of anxiety and previous depression who has had a Good run of stability since quitting my high stress job a few years ,to focus on creating my own art, but after the year long lockdown(no work) and a 2 week quarantine recent... View more

Hi im a long term sufferer of anxiety and previous depression who has had a Good run of stability since quitting my high stress job a few years ,to focus on creating my own art, but after the year long lockdown(no work) and a 2 week quarantine recently im finding it dfficult and very stressful transitioning back into work this month before jobseeker ends and its causing a palpable sense of unease and anxiety that im having trouble shaking. Im finding the world a very angry and inconsiderate place that I am tentative to want to be involved in at the moment.

hopeless101 Please Help
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It's gone on too long. I have done all of the things that are suggested to a person with this illness, and I am still in immeasurable pain. The guilt of not wanting to existing and what it will do to my family and friends is nearly gone. I can't see ... View more

It's gone on too long. I have done all of the things that are suggested to a person with this illness, and I am still in immeasurable pain. The guilt of not wanting to existing and what it will do to my family and friends is nearly gone. I can't see a reason for waking up tomorrow, and I haven't for over two decades. I have seen my GP over 50 times and am in no better position. GP number I don't even know. Medication number I can't keep track of. I've called triple zero a number of times for desperate help. I've been to hospital. I spent money that I didn't really have, and am still paying off, for a mental health retreat. This is no ones problem but my own, but if anyone can help it would be greatly appreciated.

Cloud79 Hi. BB newbie
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Hi, im 41 and have been having a tough time with my husband. He was diagnosed with bipolar a couple of years back. I’ve had my own mental health issues with depression but have been managing quite well for the last year with the help of my gp and a t... View more

Hi, im 41 and have been having a tough time with my husband. He was diagnosed with bipolar a couple of years back. I’ve had my own mental health issues with depression but have been managing quite well for the last year with the help of my gp and a therapist (after my husband pushed me to get help). I love him but there are times when he makes it so difficult for me too. We have been together for 8 years and have a 3 yr old. It’s a constant rollercoaster and can be so exhausting. I guess what I’m looking for is help/ advice on managing the bipolar as well as somewhere I can vent once in awhile:) I don’t talk about him or what he’s like with anyone and it’s getting to the point where I feel frustrated all the time cause I’m just holding it all in.

crh That GP
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Hi, I just wanted to post a my recent experience with my long term and now ex-GP. Feeling at my lowest and my anxiety on overdrive, I somehow found a tiny amount of energy to go to my GP for help. What did he say when I was sitting there facing him? ... View more

Hi, I just wanted to post a my recent experience with my long term and now ex-GP. Feeling at my lowest and my anxiety on overdrive, I somehow found a tiny amount of energy to go to my GP for help. What did he say when I was sitting there facing him? Here's a list of what he said: Dr: "Look at me, I have all these patients, I don't get anxiety" Me: I need something help me sleep Dr: (does scroll through- eneey meeny miney mo) says "here take this and this, i shouldn't give you this, but take it" (a sleeping medication) Me: Could i please have a mental health care plan? Dr: "no, they take too long to write, come back and see me next time". How is it that a person who has been trusted to save lives, almost crushed mine? GPs like this should be reprimanded in some way?

Fate_4 I feel like I am the only one
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Hi, This is my first time posting here. I always wanted to ask for help and today I made it till here. I am sure I have problems a lot of problems. I worry about everything. I try to do good to everyone and I expect the same. I am really worried abou... View more

Hi, This is my first time posting here. I always wanted to ask for help and today I made it till here. I am sure I have problems a lot of problems. I worry about everything. I try to do good to everyone and I expect the same. I am really worried about my future. I am looking for a new job. Everything is so hard. I sometimes feel like I can do so much better. I am really motivated as well. I am always waiting for opportunities carrying out my normal life. Then there will always be something that will bring me back to overthinking and being sad again I can’t help it. I feel lost. I don’t like doing anything. I am not lazy aswell but I keep things for tomorrow. I feel like I am the only one until I saw so many people posting here. I overthink a lot. I am planning to help from professionals as well. Suddenly, I felt like posting here is useless, I get demotivated very fast. I am not social as well. this might be the first time I ever posted anything outside some random photos on Facebook or Instagram. I lack patience. Nowadays my hands start shaking as well. Please help me, I am lost. I never have suicidal thought. My mom died of it and I am always against it as I understand how hard it will be for the one who are left behind or maybe I will be the one going behind. I would like to request something, please don’t give me advice on seeking a doctor. I will do it 100% next week. I am even very confused if I should post this or not.

orangebear New and lost sad clown
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Hi there, Apologies for that rant and if it seems trivial, but i think i just need to let this out. I've never had the courage to admit i'm unhappy let alone do something about it or understand what THIS is. I feel like i'm a bit like Pagliacci - the... View more

Hi there, Apologies for that rant and if it seems trivial, but i think i just need to let this out. I've never had the courage to admit i'm unhappy let alone do something about it or understand what THIS is. I feel like i'm a bit like Pagliacci - the sad clown. I'm generally a happy guy, always nice to others - too nice maybe, thinking of others, putting them first, finding humour in everything - dad jokes, puns etc. However at the drop of a hat i go to being upset, disappointed and angry. I used to be THAT guy.. the life of the party - everyone's mate. But now, i'm the guy that everyone's forgotten. i reach out to friends to see how they're going. Messages to let them know i'm thinking of them. Yet, i never receive the same, ever. Even the ones i'm in 'regular' contact with. The conversations i start are met with short and disinterested responses - if one is received at all. i've come to hate the 'message read' icon. A few years ago when my first child was born, my core group of friends were no where to be seen. 10 weeks after her arrival did the most annoying of the group make contact to visit us. While there were many other reason, this was boiling point for me and i said that i no longer want to be part of the group. i didn't receive a response. However, within seconds, the entire group blocked me. No more contact. Like they couldn't wait. Ironically, i'm losing interest in my family. Although i speak highly of my father to others, i can no longer have a simple conversation without being a prick to him. i see my behaviour but i can't change it in the moment and then feel miserable afterwards. My elder brother i just see as a user. He puts his friends above everyone else and only calls on myself when he needs something - endless favours or tools. i have a family of my own. They are my everything. I feel like i need to stay strong - stay happy for them. Lately, it's been getting tough. My toddler acts up and i lose my patience. While i would never lay a hand on her, I don't want her to grow up with this anger in the house. I don't know why i am this way. i get emotional to songs, i have compassion for others, i get anxiety if i feel i'm being the burden - like i'm in the way. Yet, i feel no one cares about me and if i disappeared tomorrow, no one other than my girls would notice. This sadness has left me lost and manifests into this disappointment and anger. Am i just being too sensitive?? Cheers OrangeBear

Stefan164 New here first post
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Hi all, I am 24 and have had anxiety since early high school and have begun to feel increasingly depressed in recent years. I would say my symptoms are moderate although I still feel pretty lousy when I am in that all too familiar rut. When feeling g... View more

Hi all, I am 24 and have had anxiety since early high school and have begun to feel increasingly depressed in recent years. I would say my symptoms are moderate although I still feel pretty lousy when I am in that all too familiar rut. When feeling good I am a very carefree and social person but when I am down I am so far from being the person I usually am and that is the part that frustrates and upsets me the most. When I fall into a rut I lose motivation, I feel stressed, have no energy, isolate myself, am irritable and lose optimism about the future. This can last for weeks at a time but then I start to claw myself out and start exercising again and going out and start to feel good again but then before you know it I am right back into that same rut again and my routines go out the window. Sometimes I know the triggers and sometimes I don't it just hits me out of nowhere which is the most confusing aspect. It feels like I am climbing a mountain and every time I am just about to reach the top something triggers me to fall right back down to the bottom and the whole process starts all over again. Anyways just thought I would post this because it is awesome to have a safe space like this to get things off your mind and everyones advice is so helpful so am open to any tips that have helped you all on your journeys Thank you for reading!

girlonsafari I'm new to recovery — what is this rage I'm experiencing?
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Hello community! I recently spent 3 weeks in treatment for depression, anxiety and disordered eating and am now back home and am 'in recovery'. I have had a few relapses since being home (mostly around eating/food) and am generally finding recovery p... View more

Hello community! I recently spent 3 weeks in treatment for depression, anxiety and disordered eating and am now back home and am 'in recovery'. I have had a few relapses since being home (mostly around eating/food) and am generally finding recovery pretty hard. Every day is a struggle and while there are moments of joy, most days I feel sad and lonely. Some days I also feel hopeless. But the thing that has surprised me most is that I feel so much RAGE. Has anyone else experienced this? I have always been "in touch with my anger" but this rage is a whole new thing. I feel so angry so much of the time. I don't know where it is coming from or what I need to do with it. Who else experiences this? What do you do about it? Peace out x

meee Nothing left to lose
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Where to start. I came back to Australia for a 3 week holiday over a year ago and have been trapped here ever since. My father was hospitalized and died several weeks later . We were not allowed to see him in hospital due to Government. Then only 5 p... View more

Where to start. I came back to Australia for a 3 week holiday over a year ago and have been trapped here ever since. My father was hospitalized and died several weeks later . We were not allowed to see him in hospital due to Government. Then only 5 people could go to funeral. We were not allowed to grieve together. I have been on unpaid leave for over a year. The gov. will let me leave to go back overseas but not my wife and kids. I am expected to abandon them here. They will cancel her residency if she leaves Australia with me. I have lost over $300,000 in lost wages.Have no income. I can not access money i have overseas. I am not eligable for any gov. assistance. No medicare , no job seeker nothing. Unless i can prove i have income in Australia. I haven't lived here for over 15years. Centerlink has no interest in helping me. I am in the to hard basket for them. I suffer from severe neuralgia and can not get medication or see a doctor. I am about to lose my house can not pay bills and have almost no money left. In January i managed to get a flight back to China without the family so i could at least go back to work. The Gov. Locked down brisbane and sydney at last minute so unable to get the 2 covid tests within time for the flight so not allowed on plane. Lose ov $10,000 in airfares. Back to being stuck here person non grada. The gov. has destroyed me. i can not feed my family or pay bills. I have applied for so many jobs is crazy but never get a reply. I have been told i am to overqualified and need to retrain. Can't even get job packing shelves. i normally run multi billion dollar jobs. I have been stripped of my right to work ,travel and any purpose in life by the gov.. I have never felt so angry in my life and am having constant thoughts of suicide. I can not eat or sleep because of my neuralgia and stress. All i do all day is aimlessly walk. I need someone to look after my family. We are not all in this together.