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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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16sundayz Anxiety
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What else can you do when all of your distraction plans no longer work and you are so distressed ?

What else can you do when all of your distraction plans no longer work and you are so distressed ?

Needsmotivation LIVE my life not exist!!
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I want to get back to how I felt a few years ago where I was LIVING my life not just existing!! Any suggestions greatly appreciated as I just feel like a loner.

I want to get back to how I felt a few years ago where I was LIVING my life not just existing!! Any suggestions greatly appreciated as I just feel like a loner.

Mealiac complicated monster
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i feel sad. I feel that I'm not good enough in how I look. Strangely enough I really like who I am, and people like me. I do well in my work, I have a fantastic husband, lovely friends. Overall it should be all good right? But I always can't help but... View more

i feel sad. I feel that I'm not good enough in how I look. Strangely enough I really like who I am, and people like me. I do well in my work, I have a fantastic husband, lovely friends. Overall it should be all good right? But I always can't help but thinking that if i was just skinnier, or more beautiful or hotter, my life would be better and easier. and so I hate myself and I hate my body, and I push my husband away and cause fights because he says im beautiful and he likes my body but i get so angry because i say he's lying and tricking me. Because i can't believe anyone would truly find me attractive and that he must be liking other girls secretly. I know i know i know. i sound like a psycho. then i apologise to him and say im sorry i didt mean it and thank you for the compliments and i love you. but deep in my heart none of my feelings about how ugly and fat i am ever get resolved and so then im constantly just feeling like im on my own to deal with my body issues. the thing is i'm 173cm and 57kg, im a size 8-10. To most people they would say 'you are great' 'you look good'. but i guess i feel like unless im bloody Kendall Jenner on a runway with insane body and beauty im not good enough or anything. I don't know who else to talk to this about, as no one takes it seriously. I truely feel like a monster, i hate my freckle pale skin, my little eyes. I hated my lips so much I even got filler in them and I get botox regulalrly. Dont worry, dont judge me i dont look like a freak, in fact no one ever even suspects as it looks so natural. But even getting this done and having spray tans etc i still just feel like so horrible and worthless and pathetic because im so average. its so hard to look on social media and see beautiful girls literally having life handed to them on a platter, because people just are obessesed with their beauty. and it makes me jealous as i have to work so hard for everything i have, and if i was just beautiful my life would be easy. I can't talk to my friends about this, as they just brush me off. I can't talk to my husband about it as he doesn't believe that i am monster. i dont know how to talk to anyone about this as i don't think they put the same standards on themselves. I don't want to have to pretend im beautiful, i'd like to actually be beautiful, but im not. Im super smart but the world doesnt give a damn about a smart woman. just her breasts and her ass

16sundayz Diary keeping
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Does anyone else write down thoughts and feelings and take them to their psychologist/counsellor/psychiatrist appointments? I do that with mine, he reads them and then we discuss. I find it easier to write them down than actually saying them vocally ... View more

Does anyone else write down thoughts and feelings and take them to their psychologist/counsellor/psychiatrist appointments? I do that with mine, he reads them and then we discuss. I find it easier to write them down than actually saying them vocally and it helps me get them out better.

smallwolf A guided "meditation"
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In the first couple of months I was here, and I replied to other users, I sometimes included a small story to take the posters mind from the current worries. While reading a few posts recently, it came to me that having something to listen to, or in ... View more

In the first couple of months I was here, and I replied to other users, I sometimes included a small story to take the posters mind from the current worries. While reading a few posts recently, it came to me that having something to listen to, or in this case, turn your mind to, might give you a moment of peace. And as you read this, try to engage all of your senses - your sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste. If you have short story/meditation to add, please do so... WATERFALLS IN THE FOREST A winding trail covered with damp leaves from last nights rain leads into a forest. Along the edges of the path are small plants with flowers of many colors, of red, white, blues, and other colors. Small butterflies fly from bush to bush, eating the nectar from the flowers. Your presense does not appear to bother them at all. Looking up into the forest trees you also see birds, chirping, making song that fill the forest. And through the tree-tops rays of sunlight can be seen, creating patterns of the forest floor, highlighting droplets of water that shine like diamonds. Walking further into the forest, you see a small stream of clear water revealing a bed of sand and smooth pebbles. You step into the water, the cool, refreshing touch of water on your feet and then walking upstream, the stream opens up into much larger pool sourced by a waterfall... water cascading down rocks that have been made smooth by (millions of) years of falling water. As water from the waterfall falls into the pool, creating a splash, mist fills the air, seeming to create an atmosphere of calm and quiet. Around the edge of the pool, are moss covered rocks with the moss acting like soft pillows. You dip your hand into the pool, lifting up a handful of pure water to your lips. Tasting the water, it is like the best drink you have ever had; healing you from the inside, with feelings of tranquility. You lie down with your head on one of the pillows of moss and relaxing, letting go of your worries and stresses. And when you are relaxed and ready, you get up, leave the pool and walk back down the stream until you meet the path again and exit the forest. And whenever you feel down or stressed you remember this place and can return here for a moment of peace and calm.

Needsmotivation Hit a new low
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Well I know that I’m not feeling the best at the moment, flat, emotionless and just going through the motion of ‘living’ with my happy mask but realised I’ve hit a new low, haven’t had a shower in 4 days. not intentional just forgot. How bad is that?... View more

Well I know that I’m not feeling the best at the moment, flat, emotionless and just going through the motion of ‘living’ with my happy mask but realised I’ve hit a new low, haven’t had a shower in 4 days. not intentional just forgot. How bad is that?! Tomorrow will be better.

Shannonjacob Physical confrentation avoidance advice
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Hey Guys, This is a bit of a hard one to explain so forgive me if this thread goes of on a tangent however, I am at an absolute loss with trying to avoid physical confrentation. I know this sounds cliche but I do not go out looking for trouble and it... View more

Hey Guys, This is a bit of a hard one to explain so forgive me if this thread goes of on a tangent however, I am at an absolute loss with trying to avoid physical confrentation. I know this sounds cliche but I do not go out looking for trouble and it seems I am cursed with the trouble finding me. over the past few years I had a number of Court appearances regarding matters that I did not instigate personally however, unfortunately didn't go the right way about avoiding these situations either. I was handed a 4 months suspended sentence for assaults during those confrontations. I was brought up in a male dominant Family where being an ' Alpha ' if you will. was a day to day practice. nobody was tougher than you, nobody could intimidate you ect. As you could imagine, my first reaction to confrontation with another male was the typical alpha male response. To Fight! I have since lost contact with all the authority figures of males in my family and have been able to decide for myself how id like to act, how id like to react to those situations. how I could swallow my pride on try to be the one to avoid or defuse a situation before it became close to physical. I have learnt to remain calm, use a low stern but not aggressive tone, firm yet not aggressive body language. The problem I seem to be having is, when I attempt to walk away, it seems that is a sign of fear and I am followed time and time again. If I try to explain that I am not interested in fighting. that seems to egg them on more. I fight at a professional level of MMA, this makes it more and more difficult when you're trying to defuse a situation with a guy who may not stand a chance but I have to sit there and let them hurl abuse at me until I am seeing red. on a number of occasions it has turned physical despite my attempts to cool it. if this happens my first reaction is to but them in a grappling position and hold them there pain free. I then say I will agree to let you go if I can get up and walk away. this doesn't work especially if the other party is on drugs/alc. this happens on the road, In the shops, at the bank and again last night after celebrating a friends birthday. I do not enjoy fighting and to be honest it frustrates me. I am at a loss on how else I can get out of situation with nobody getting hurt. I am worried for my safety, the safety of others. I am not sure if I a missing something but, if you have any tips. I am desperate for help

AnnabelLee My mindfulness
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So way i work with mindfulness is bit different. I focus on feeling/ emotion/ thought and try to recognise and name it. But then i also try to find reason behind that particular lets say emotion. So as example lets say I suddenly ( with or without re... View more

So way i work with mindfulness is bit different. I focus on feeling/ emotion/ thought and try to recognise and name it. But then i also try to find reason behind that particular lets say emotion. So as example lets say I suddenly ( with or without real life trigger, that doesn’t really matter) have that crippling feeling of anxiety and insecurity. So I recognise it and then i become aware where is it coming from, what my inner child is trying to communicate with me. In this case it would be something like: I’m feeling insecure because i feel I cannot be worth loving, i cannot be enough, i feel that any other person is better than me and has more to ‘offer’. So now the problem i come across. With some feeling like missing, longing, certain sadness i feel like i cannot realise whats the reason behind it. It doesn’t have to be missing persons, it can be longing for past, feeling nostalgic etc. Now i know the mindfulness itself doesn’t analyse. Just acknowledge it. But analysing it after actually is a way to go for me as it simplifies it for me. Once i realise whats the root of that feeling/ emotion it goes away. I don’t force it to go away. I just break it down, realise how unreasonable it is and then i no more have need to feel like that. I hope I explained it well. But cannot get to to bottom of missing/ longing. Because it’s just what it is. You feel sad because certain event, time of your life, person passed and you just simply miss it. But inability to explain it messes with my head. Because I’m stuck in that loop of that feeling.

Barry_D Barry
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I am Barry a 30 year sober Alcoholic. I am 76 Y.O. Business person. I was sold up by the bank 2 years ago. I was shattered. Went house sitting around Australia and now live in my son's granny flat with my wife. I have had great support by using Tesla... View more

I am Barry a 30 year sober Alcoholic. I am 76 Y.O. Business person. I was sold up by the bank 2 years ago. I was shattered. Went house sitting around Australia and now live in my son's granny flat with my wife. I have had great support by using Tesla EMF moderating Technologies. Which helps me combat the effects of Electron Magnetic Pollution. I did not know about this but talked to my new doctor a few months ago and he said he had a client that could not sit in the waiting room as the effects of mobile phones etc. Were overwhelming for him. He also said he was not taught about this. I am now calm and satisfied with life on life's terms. Feeling better than I have since I was young. Evidently there are at least 3 % of the population affected to this extent and 35% of us affected in some way. This could be why we are experiencing an increase in emotional disruption.

OceanSunset Feeling stuck with professional decision.
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I've decided to take the plunge and join this community in the hopes that maybe someone out there deals with the same type of thing as me. I really do not have a bad life and in recent times I've entered a very happy space, but there is something tha... View more

I've decided to take the plunge and join this community in the hopes that maybe someone out there deals with the same type of thing as me. I really do not have a bad life and in recent times I've entered a very happy space, but there is something that is holding me back and has been holding me back for almost 5 years. The last five years I've been working from home and I feel sad due to lack of human interaction. I have all of these thoughts in my head that I'm doing a job and living a lifestyle that most people would love to be doing so I'm torn between this thought that is holding me back and wanting to progress forward and change my lifestyle for the better. I don't feel like I have what it takes to actually be an employee again and to be a contributing member of a company because in my head I feel like I'm a loser working for somebody else. I do not believe this to be true of other people - just me. The work that I currently do being self employed is not a company or a business that I've created myself - I have no passion towards the work that I do. In recent times business has slowed down and I'm only working about 3 hours a day and getting a full-time wage. This really makes me feel down about myself and I'm scared for my work ethic or lack of, and I know that I'm better than this. I have had great jobs in government etc prior to being self employed and I've been very happy in those jobs but I feel that because I have been living this lifestyle for almost 5 years, I'm not sure how to actually operate in the "real world". I hate to admit that this is my problem because I do think that some people would think I am overly privileged to have this problem. I have struggled with this type of lifestyle for such a long time and I feel society is telling us these days to work for yourself and be self employed, which creates a battle in my head. I don't know anybody else that works from home and I feel very much like the minority. I don't really feel like anyone in my social circle can truly understand the struggles of working from home. I can't and I don't want to keep spending so much time on my own - it's not healthy and this isn't a job that I can go out and do something else for a couple of hours; I need to be here keeping an eye on things at home. I apologise if this post comes across shallow, it is a big step for me to put this out there into the world and I hope it is received well.