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Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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Crabby what is normal?
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Hi, i am here to try to find out if what is happening in my head is normal and others experiance the same.

Hi, i am here to try to find out if what is happening in my head is normal and others experiance the same.

Soberlicious96 Help Lines - which number to call
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Don't know which number to call, for what issue? Here's a list of numbers, in alphabetical order, just for you! Love Mel. xo 1800 RESPECT.................................................. 1800 737 732 Al-anon............................................. View more

Don't know which number to call, for what issue? Here's a list of numbers, in alphabetical order, just for you! Love Mel. xo 1800 RESPECT.................................................. 1800 737 732 Al-anon............................................................. 1300 252 666 Alcoholics Anonymous.................................... 1300 22 22 22 Beyond Blue..................................................... 1300 22 4636 Kids Helpline..................................................... 1800 55 1800 Lifeline.............................................................. 13 11 14 Mensline........................................................... 1300 78 99 78 Narcotics Anonymous..................................... 1300 652 820 Nar-Anon.......................................................... 02 8004 1214 Nurse on Call.................................................... 1300 60 60 24 Relationships Australia.................................... 1300 364 277

Jolly_Chaplin Addiction Support
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Hello everyone! Hope you're having an alright day. Every day's a new day. Feel free to share your thoughts here if you'd like. I may be able to help you. There could be a new path ready to open up to you. Best wishes, Chris.

Hello everyone! Hope you're having an alright day. Every day's a new day. Feel free to share your thoughts here if you'd like. I may be able to help you. There could be a new path ready to open up to you. Best wishes, Chris.

Tamu Feeling guilty. Daughter sustained injury requiring surgery
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Recently, a friend of my 6 yr old daughter pushed my daughter, causing really nasty fracture of her elbow needing surgery and internal wires. I feel this guilt that I wasn’t around her at the time or didn’t supervise them playing, I feel that I could... View more

Recently, a friend of my 6 yr old daughter pushed my daughter, causing really nasty fracture of her elbow needing surgery and internal wires. I feel this guilt that I wasn’t around her at the time or didn’t supervise them playing, I feel that I could have somehow prevented it. Knowing that she suffered such a great deal, needed to be on Strong painkillers, also concerned about so much radiation she got from her xrays and so much other issues without the fault of her own, I just can’t get over it. I keep thinking about it all the time about how I let her down. Has anyone has been feeling the same? Or anyone has such experiences with their child? I’m very sad that my daughter suffered such an array of problems without the fault of her own.

Guest_8790 Staying well not easy
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I wish I could say I am in a mentally healthy state but my moods are so fluid. I could be fine for a few days then like yesterday and today could not stop getting angry or sad. Yesterday because I had no one to talk to, i texted friend she was a fake... View more

I wish I could say I am in a mentally healthy state but my moods are so fluid. I could be fine for a few days then like yesterday and today could not stop getting angry or sad. Yesterday because I had no one to talk to, i texted friend she was a fake friend and blocked her. I then drove around feeling angry. Today I had to put one of my cats back into cat havenntobfind him a new home. I have felt Upset and guilty all day . I say and do things in a hasty moment not realising the consequences of my actions Oh how I wish I understood my moods. Been on medication many years and havehad them changed. I wish I could change but am in a rut and wish I could turn back time and my actions never happened. I do not feel I belong in this life. Don't know what to do at present. Rusty

Jolly_Chaplin Bad habits. Strategies & Remedies
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Psychological, and difficult to change. But there's hope. It'll take some picking of your brain. Note taking, and possibly further understanding of yourself. Sometimes it comes down to will power alone. It's also important to realize what works for y... View more

Psychological, and difficult to change. But there's hope. It'll take some picking of your brain. Note taking, and possibly further understanding of yourself. Sometimes it comes down to will power alone. It's also important to realize what works for you, and what doesn't. It's important to analyse your life situation and what causes you to do what you do. Knowing the reason for your habit can be a good start, (if you don't already know). Finding what triggers you is also very useful. What you expose yourself to will become part of your subconscious. Big thing here is the images you see. Be careful what you're fueling your mind with. Our choices are very much based on how we view the world, so it only makes sense that by changing what we think about, we can change what habits we have. It's about directing focus to something else long enough to override the urge to continue a bad habit. Giving it up completely = Challenging, but possible. Giving it up, AND REPLACING it = more effective. Strive on everyone. Good luck. Contact me if you need advice. Cheers. - Chris

ScarlettR Doing small tasks contributes to good general mental health, as I had found out
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As I have depression, I often get sad and teary for no reasons, usually at night. But what I had found that helped the issue partially is focusing on the small tasks I do day by day. Take tonight for instance (it's 7:46pm, Melbourne time, as I write)... View more

As I have depression, I often get sad and teary for no reasons, usually at night. But what I had found that helped the issue partially is focusing on the small tasks I do day by day. Take tonight for instance (it's 7:46pm, Melbourne time, as I write). I had been feeling sad and teary and devastated for no conceivable reason and tried out a method that helps ease the pain and bring me back to normal. I made a mental list to do just a few small things and focus all my attention, energy and spiritual ambition into them: get the bathroom ready to take a shower, pick out a freshly washed and dried towel in my favorite color, pick a shower gel that is the sweetest smelling, then after shower, go sit down at my computer and socialise and share interesting thoughts and ideas. While this may not sound very interesting to people, it means a lot to me just by setting small goals throughout the day and feeling accomplished and spiritually cleansed. I had realised it is not often the big tasks we do that'll necessarily make us happy but the small things - it's like putting together small puzzle pieces to produce a drawing instead of using large pieces. Less stressful, less demanding and less bleak. I just thought I share my method of dealing with depression and hope it helps someone out there.

Elizabeth CP Dealing with unhelpful councillors on helplines
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I'm deliberately not naming the helpline I called because I don't want to put people off calling when they need help just because one person wasn't very helpful. am seeking ideas from others about how to deal with the situation when you ring a helpli... View more

I'm deliberately not naming the helpline I called because I don't want to put people off calling when they need help just because one person wasn't very helpful. am seeking ideas from others about how to deal with the situation when you ring a helpline & then find the response unsatisfactory. People are human so don't always respond in the best way. I was feeling extremely anxious on the weekend after being triggered by the weather. )I have PTSD so the weather brought back very bad thoughts & fears) I was getting worse & unable to cope so rang a helpline for advice. The person proceeded to tell me the therapy my psych has been providing is wrong & then told me a few things I could do to help He then said I should be able to fix my problems on my own if I try hard enough. This just made me feel useless as if it is my fault for not doing enough to help myself. I felt that the person had no idea what I had been through & was very upset to be told my psych was wrong ( which i don't believe is true). I just gave up feeling misunderstood & unable to explain myself. Have others go ideas to help in situations like this.

Ggrand Motivation....How do we get some....
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Hello Everyone.. What is motivation?......Its our general willingness to do something. It is our troubled minds that makes it hard for us to take action.. Nearly all of the stress and anxiety in doing something is at the beginning of starting it...Af... View more

Hello Everyone.. What is motivation?......Its our general willingness to do something. It is our troubled minds that makes it hard for us to take action.. Nearly all of the stress and anxiety in doing something is at the beginning of starting it...After we start, our motivation, seems to progress more easily ....It’s more easier to finish something than it is to start one ...One of the easiest ways of getting motivated is to write a list for a particular time of day and try to stick with it...hopefully it makes them easy to start, if we have already made that decision earlier on. Setting a routine or a regular time for ourselves to do something..etc...makes it more likely we will follow through.. Does setting up a routine and sticking to it, help our motivation?..If your like me and struggle with your mental health,..Do you start to procrastinate about doing them or try waiting until you feel inspired or motivated..which isn’t very often... By doing choirs the same time each morning starts to develop a habit of motivation...We repeat it each day, which makes it easier to do as the days go by....Ex: each day you get up and immediately make your bed, freshen up, have a beverage and breakfast..By doing things this way we have begun a habit of motivation. The power of habits..develops into a mindless way of motivation..It makes starting to do something easier and following through with them on a regular daily basis much easier..helps us to develop a daily habit doing them.. We need to try and make something to do easy and hopefully it becomes automatic...that’s why setting up a regular time is so important for us, it’s often too much work to figure out where to start or what to do... if we have written out a daily schedule of what and when to do something. it solves the problem of not knowing what to do. In saying all that....Does it help you to have a list ?....Making a list I still find motivation hard...I will admit that I’m a person, who’s motivation is nearly non existent ... I am still trying to learn... I thought that I would make this thread in the hope that we can share different strategies that might help to get each other with motivation and maybe together we can find something that can work for us... Do you have strategies that work for you?....How motivated are you?...let’s try to help each other to find our motivation... Grandy.....

ecomama Healing - what does it look like for you?
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Hi everyone My psych friend sent me this from @heidipriebe.. It shows What we think healing will look like then has a FULL circle coloured in with a "Meditating peacefully" label. Then What healing actually looks like with a 5 sector circle: in no pa... View more

Hi everyone My psych friend sent me this from @heidipriebe.. It shows What we think healing will look like then has a FULL circle coloured in with a "Meditating peacefully" label. Then What healing actually looks like with a 5 sector circle: in no particular order.... * "Having Difficult Conversations" * "Taking Radical Responsibility For Your Actions" * "Implementing Healthy Routines" * "Setting & Enforcing Boundaries" * "Unpacking Trauma" wow. How are you going in your Healing journey? Please share what's working for you. Love EM