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Just_Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

Kazzl Helpful books and resources
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Hi everyone Members often refer in their posts to books and other resources that have helped them. This thread is a place to list those books so all members can find them easily. The titles might include scholarly, mass market and self-help books, sp... View more

Hi everyone Members often refer in their posts to books and other resources that have helped them. This thread is a place to list those books so all members can find them easily. The titles might include scholarly, mass market and self-help books, specialist websites or blogs, podcasts, vodcasts or print or online journals or magazines. Please note BB has a list of websites and resources under Get Help, so maybe check there first for online resources. (Also note that we cannot include live links to online resources.) To make things easy to find, please put the category of the content first in bold, then the title of the book and then, if you want, a brief comment. Please note that anything listed here reflects the member's views only. Publications and other resources are not necessarily endorsed by beyondblue. Happy reading!

Chris_B Worried about other users - how are we all doing?
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Hi everyone, I thought I'd check in to see how everyone is doing; while the nature of these forums is as a place of support, and it feels good to help others, we need to make sure our own welfare is looked after too. Sometimes reading the experiences... View more

Hi everyone, I thought I'd check in to see how everyone is doing; while the nature of these forums is as a place of support, and it feels good to help others, we need to make sure our own welfare is looked after too. Sometimes reading the experiences of others can be validating, because we feel 'we've been there', but sometimes it can also be a trigger for bringing up unpleasant feelings. I've started this thread so we can have a constructive discussion about helping others and helping ourselves - how do you cope when you read about others in distress? Do you have a self-care plan in place, and if so, what is it? Really looking forward to hearing from you all.

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Kim1988 Issues with driving
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Hi all. I had a situation happen to me over the weekend which I’m trying to not get me down but I just need to get off my chest. The thing is I’m 32 years old and I am a late learner driver. I only just started learning a year and a bit ago. I should... View more

Hi all. I had a situation happen to me over the weekend which I’m trying to not get me down but I just need to get off my chest. The thing is I’m 32 years old and I am a late learner driver. I only just started learning a year and a bit ago. I should have learned earlier I admit but I was really not confident with it. I really do want to learn no matter how long it takes me. I have been for about 40 lessons with a driving teacher now and he has pretty much given up on me. I guess I’m not at the level he wants me to be after how many lessons we’ve had and he’s frustrated, which I can understand. I can’t point the finger solely at him for giving up on me. I probably do need to be more focused than I have been and need to be more confident in my ability. Like for instance I still hesitate a bit at roundabouts when I can quite clearly see that nobody is there. I pretty much now by know when it’s safe to go and should stop doubting myself. My driving teacher pretty much said to me that I need to find another driving teacher because he’s taught me all he can and maybe a different driving teacher would be better. Maybe he’s right? Maybe I need a different approach is better for me? To be honest we didn’t have any clear goals and expectations that we wanted to work towards each lesson. We were just kind of drifting along. I need a teacher that will discuss the goals and expectations with me as we go and someone who will discuss the progress with me. I thought about giving up learning but you know I have come so far from where I started with my driving I’m determined to stick with it.

bread2 When should you go see someone? What to say?
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Hi, Someone told me I should see a psychologist, but I can't shake the feeling that if I go, it's uncalled for or an overreaction. For one thing, I really don't know what I would say.. Yes, I've been crying for some things and acting "weird", but it'... View more

Hi, Someone told me I should see a psychologist, but I can't shake the feeling that if I go, it's uncalled for or an overreaction. For one thing, I really don't know what I would say.. Yes, I've been crying for some things and acting "weird", but it's like I feel it's such a vague feeling of general "emotional unwellness" than a specific "I'm really stressed with xx" or "I have these xxx thoughts all the time". I feel uncomfortable imagining me going to a GP or psychologist and I know they'll ask "so what have you come in for?" and I'm just not going to know what to say or where to start, and they'll be confused and I'll feel weird and it just seems like a really uncomfortable non-productive experience.. Another thing is that I keep switching between thinking I should go and thinking there's really nothing too wrong that I need to go for. Maybe I'm just like this? Maybe I could just eat better and socialise better and sleep more? Maybe I just can't be bothered fixing myself when it could be so easy too but I've convinced myself there's something more so I feel less bad about it? These thoughts I keep thinking through in my head, while I also think about how people who go to GPs and psychologists usually have real, identifiable, genuine problems, like people who have depression or anxiety or extreme stress or toxic relationships. I'm not depressed or worrying about everything, nobody abuses/is mean to me, so I just feel like.. what am I going in for? But then again, sometimes I feel super heavy, like emotionally heavy, thinking that I will be as I am in the future makes me feel grim, but then I should just do something but what do I do? And then just feel bad about feeling bad for myself and I don't know what to do.. I'm wondering how do people know when they should go see someone? Is it ok to see a psychologist even if you don't have a mental illness? How do you figure out what to say? What if you have difficulty explaining how you feel? Are you ever afraid you won't be able to explain yourself right?

beth522 overwhelmed - on so many levels
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This is all new to me, just anxious writing this, but I have taken the first step. Many thanks

This is all new to me, just anxious writing this, but I have taken the first step. Many thanks

Alexlisa What are three small (or big) achievements you’ve had today? Let’s cheer each other on!
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Hello all, Sometimes just doing the basics is so hard. It can be tough not to get down on ourselves when we’re struggling with things that ‘should’ be easy. But we deserve to celebrate even the smallest achievements, because they are really feats of ... View more

Hello all, Sometimes just doing the basics is so hard. It can be tough not to get down on ourselves when we’re struggling with things that ‘should’ be easy. But we deserve to celebrate even the smallest achievements, because they are really feats of strength when you’re unwell. It’s ok if you can’t do everything. We know you’re doing your best, and that’s enough ☺️ What are 3 small (or big) achievements that you’ve had today? For me: 1. I washed my hair 2. I drank two glasses of water 3. I sat out in the sun for 15 minutes How bout you? Let’s cheer ourselves and each other on! Alexlisa

Crabby what is normal?
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Hi, i am here to try to find out if what is happening in my head is normal and others experiance the same.

Hi, i am here to try to find out if what is happening in my head is normal and others experiance the same.

Soberlicious96 Help Lines - which number to call
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Don't know which number to call, for what issue? Here's a list of numbers, in alphabetical order, just for you! Love Mel. xo 1800 RESPECT.................................................. 1800 737 732 Al-anon............................................. View more

Don't know which number to call, for what issue? Here's a list of numbers, in alphabetical order, just for you! Love Mel. xo 1800 RESPECT.................................................. 1800 737 732 Al-anon............................................................. 1300 252 666 Alcoholics Anonymous.................................... 1300 22 22 22 Beyond Blue..................................................... 1300 22 4636 Kids Helpline..................................................... 1800 55 1800 Lifeline.............................................................. 13 11 14 Mensline........................................................... 1300 78 99 78 Narcotics Anonymous..................................... 1300 652 820 Nar-Anon.......................................................... 02 8004 1214 Nurse on Call.................................................... 1300 60 60 24 Relationships Australia.................................... 1300 364 277

Jolly_Chaplin Addiction Support
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Hello everyone! Hope you're having an alright day. Every day's a new day. Feel free to share your thoughts here if you'd like. I may be able to help you. There could be a new path ready to open up to you. Best wishes, Chris.

Hello everyone! Hope you're having an alright day. Every day's a new day. Feel free to share your thoughts here if you'd like. I may be able to help you. There could be a new path ready to open up to you. Best wishes, Chris.

Tamu Feeling guilty. Daughter sustained injury requiring surgery
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Recently, a friend of my 6 yr old daughter pushed my daughter, causing really nasty fracture of her elbow needing surgery and internal wires. I feel this guilt that I wasn’t around her at the time or didn’t supervise them playing, I feel that I could... View more

Recently, a friend of my 6 yr old daughter pushed my daughter, causing really nasty fracture of her elbow needing surgery and internal wires. I feel this guilt that I wasn’t around her at the time or didn’t supervise them playing, I feel that I could have somehow prevented it. Knowing that she suffered such a great deal, needed to be on Strong painkillers, also concerned about so much radiation she got from her xrays and so much other issues without the fault of her own, I just can’t get over it. I keep thinking about it all the time about how I let her down. Has anyone has been feeling the same? Or anyone has such experiences with their child? I’m very sad that my daughter suffered such an array of problems without the fault of her own.

Guest_8790 Staying well not easy
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I wish I could say I am in a mentally healthy state but my moods are so fluid. I could be fine for a few days then like yesterday and today could not stop getting angry or sad. Yesterday because I had no one to talk to, i texted friend she was a fake... View more

I wish I could say I am in a mentally healthy state but my moods are so fluid. I could be fine for a few days then like yesterday and today could not stop getting angry or sad. Yesterday because I had no one to talk to, i texted friend she was a fake friend and blocked her. I then drove around feeling angry. Today I had to put one of my cats back into cat havenntobfind him a new home. I have felt Upset and guilty all day . I say and do things in a hasty moment not realising the consequences of my actions Oh how I wish I understood my moods. Been on medication many years and havehad them changed. I wish I could change but am in a rut and wish I could turn back time and my actions never happened. I do not feel I belong in this life. Don't know what to do at present. Rusty

Hanna3 Living in Public Housing - is it affecting your health?
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I'm living in public housing and the fibro house is so hot in the summer I got heat exhaustion and my little dog had to go to the vet with heat exhaustion. In winter it's so cold we have to stay outside most of the day as it's warmer (it gets sub-zer... View more

I'm living in public housing and the fibro house is so hot in the summer I got heat exhaustion and my little dog had to go to the vet with heat exhaustion. In winter it's so cold we have to stay outside most of the day as it's warmer (it gets sub-zero here in winter) and we can't afford the heating. There is no air conditioning or way to cool the house in summer. Before this I lived in a unit block of public housing and it was frightening being a woman living alone as some of the men would throw things at my windows at night and threaten me. The police had to be called again and again, it was embarrassing and frightening as the men would get into fights with each other. I thought when I moved to an old house in a normal residential street it would be different, but they have had such bad tenants here in the past the neighbours are suspicious of me - I am an older woman living alone with my small dog, I had to stop working and go on the pension for health reasons. There is no support here and I am left entirely alone. I am now trying to get a transfer out but the paperwork is dreadful and the wait times are very long. I am grateful for having an affordable home but I wish it was better insulated for hot summers and cold winters and that I felt safer. I dread the summer, last summer was like being baked alive in this house. Is anyone else here living in public housing and how do you find it?