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Sophie_M Sleep and Mental Health
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Many of us have struggled with bouts of troubled sleep, and needless to say, these periods of nocturnal restlessness can be utterly overwhelming and exhausting. Sleeplessness can filter into every aspect of our lives: our ability to be present, remem... View more

Many of us have struggled with bouts of troubled sleep, and needless to say, these periods of nocturnal restlessness can be utterly overwhelming and exhausting. Sleeplessness can filter into every aspect of our lives: our ability to be present, remember things, regulate our emotions, or to feel excited and energised… it can change the way we think and feel in such a significant and impactful way. Whether it’s due to big life changes, global pandemics, financial or work stressors, health concerns (like menopause), how much ‘you’ time you have, or even unprocessed emotions you weren’t aware were there – so many things can impact how you sleep. All of this goes to show that not only do your daily habits, routines, and experiences play a huge role in maintaining healthy sleep cycles, but so does your mental health. And frustratingly enough, your sleep also impacts and informs your mental health and daily habits. Like most things, it’s a very easy cycle to fall into. So, it’s imperative that we are gentle and compassionate with ourselves on our journey to understanding what is making us so hypervigilant and unable to rest in the first place. Studies show that journaling or mindfulness practices throughout the day, healthy food, movement, sunshine, connection with loved ones, and support from health professionals can help us to feel more grounded and able to rest. But we are curious… what has worked for you? When do you notice that your sleep is most affected vs. when you get the best rest? And is there a way you could practice regulating your nervous system more throughout the day to help promote better sleep at night? We would love to hear your thoughts! Let us know if you have any questions and be sure to check out our page on ‘Sleep and Mental Health’ for more guidance and insight into a more supported and restful night’s sleep: Sleep and mental health - Beyond Blue - Beyond Blue Looking forward to hearing from you! Kind regards, Sophie M

Just Sara A Bouquet for Pearls - share your appreciation for other members
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Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful word... View more

Every now and then, members share a beautiful Pearl of Wisdom. How often do you think to yourself; "OMG that's great! I wish everyone could see this." Presenting someone with a bunch of flowers is a generous way of acknowledging their insightful words. I hope this thread stays active through members giving out praise regularly to people they feel deserving, and therefore keep generosity of spirit alive within the pages of BeyondBlue Forum. My bunch of Red Roses (my choice) goes to Wishful for the following sentence; 'Personally, I see no reason to be praised in me, but I'm learning that seeing through the eyes of others can be more accurate!!' I so hear you Wishful. Just beautiful... Try to keep your leading comments short to focus on 'their' words. Choose specific flowers (or a gift if you like) to present to them. Sign off respectfully and sincerely. I hope this takes off... Spreading the love...Sara

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tjo111 Walk away.
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You are allowed to walk away from people who are not good for your mental health. There are certain people with whom you just do not like your behaviour and the way they make you feel. It does not mean that those people are bad humans, it simply mean... View more

You are allowed to walk away from people who are not good for your mental health. There are certain people with whom you just do not like your behaviour and the way they make you feel. It does not mean that those people are bad humans, it simply means that the two of you are vibing on different levels. Do not be afraid to let go of those who drain you, make you feel less than you are, talk you down or do not appreciate you. You are not running away from them, darling. You are simply showing yourself the respect you deserve by controlling who is allowed to be in your life. You have the power to decide what kind of energy you want to be surrounded with - choose wisely. It is so important to surround yourself with people who are positive, kind, loving and supportive, no matter what. Do not be scared to remove toxic people from your life. You are in control of your life.

tjo111 Congratulations.
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Everybody says congratulations when you get a new job, or start a business, or buy a house, or have a baby, or get married, or buy a new car...I just wanted to take a second out of the day to say congratulations to all of you who made it through a ha... View more

Everybody says congratulations when you get a new job, or start a business, or buy a house, or have a baby, or get married, or buy a new car...I just wanted to take a second out of the day to say congratulations to all of you who made it through a hard week this week.Congratulations to those who are holding it together for the sake of the people you love.Congratulations to anyone who thought about taking the easy way out and decided to stick around for a while longer.Congratulations for showing up. Again.You deserve all the love too.

Somehow Transformation
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After nearly 20 years of excess sweating, mainly on my head, I have come across a practitioner who has told me that I don't have enough salt in my body to retain fluid. Sounds like it's making sense I think. She recommends that I soak my feet nightly... View more

After nearly 20 years of excess sweating, mainly on my head, I have come across a practitioner who has told me that I don't have enough salt in my body to retain fluid. Sounds like it's making sense I think. She recommends that I soak my feet nightly in hot water which contains both 1 teaspoon of ground Pink Himalayan Salt and 1 tablespoon of Epson Salts. I can't believe how effective it has been in radically reducing the sweating. Please give it a try, hope it works for you

Healthmadhelpp EXCESS SWEATING ON FOREHEARD AND HEAD AND ALWAYS RED HOT, ON GOING FOR 3 MONTHS.
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Hi I know this isnt the best place to ask but Im cant cope id like to know if anyone could help with ideas? 26 MALE 25 stone 5 6FT Medication started in January " as they thought i had anexity and stress" "Which I didnt"; several changes in medicatio... View more

Hi I know this isnt the best place to ask but Im cant cope id like to know if anyone could help with ideas? 26 MALE 25 stone 5 6FT Medication started in January " as they thought i had anexity and stress" "Which I didnt"; several changes in medication since then. My sweats are now getting unberable. I am constonley hot and dripping of sweat when doing the very BARE minium like walking around the house, going to the bus stop and back which is less than 100 meters. Its gotten so much more worse since it started 3 months ago. TODAY when doing even nothing my body feels like its on fire it feels like im burning inside all over my body its horrible feeling like im burning from inside Also noticed when in the sun or in a hot warm I feel the heat ALOT more than I use to and sweat a lot more than I did before in the same situation Also side note For pass year and half I been having palpations where it feels like my heart stops for a second then starts beatng again and somtimea I get a strong thud in chest. It would happend 1/2 times a day. Its been getting worse to where now past month I get loads of these a day mainly when im walking or doing somthing which cause my heart rate to go up. I am scared thats it due to my heart being blocked the arterys as that what it says online and also my symptomes of excess sweating. Any ideas?

ecomama Who else likes gardening?
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Hi everyone I hope you're staying well today. Who else likes gardening? I would love to connect with people here who are happy to share their gardening adventures. For me I know that gardening helped heal my soul during tough times. I hope it will ag... View more

Hi everyone I hope you're staying well today. Who else likes gardening? I would love to connect with people here who are happy to share their gardening adventures. For me I know that gardening helped heal my soul during tough times. I hope it will again. Then with other things going on, it became a jungle. I'm part way into rediscovering it again and doing A LOT of hard yakka atm, when I am motivated. I have new dreams and ideas to put into the many bare places, as I remove thickets of lantana etc. This will all be on a tight budget and I'm ok with that. I want to create a peaceful place where I can be. I would like to grow food again (tell 'er she's dreamin' atm lol). I would like to re-establish my worm farms and compost heaps. Autumn is such a beautiful time of the year in the garden. I'm 'alone' in my gardening journey and would love to share and hear about other's gardening antics. Hopefully we can troubleshoot any issues in our gardens and talk about any healing we're feeling too. There's a lot of knowledge we can share. I hope this thread can brighten your day! Love Ecomama Please

Matthew1234 Some problems about myself
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I don’t know my life will be like, I and many people agree that I have autism, I also have depression and anxiety, but I cope with it, live with it every day. I feel that I lost emotional connection with other people with time goes on. As I am going ... View more

I don’t know my life will be like, I and many people agree that I have autism, I also have depression and anxiety, but I cope with it, live with it every day. I feel that I lost emotional connection with other people with time goes on. As I am going to graduate from university soon, I have a sudden realisation that, psychologically, I didn’t really grow up since somewhere in my high school, one example is when most people start dating, I stay single. When I was in high school, my old friends talked to me about relationship issues, I listened, but deep down I knew I didn’t understand it. And then I have done some odd job, got some qualifications, moved out, completed my degree, maybe do a PHD, I don’t know.I know I have depression and anxiety, I run my everyday life, acting normal, but alone. I met some people in the university, I know that they are ready enter long term relationship, and ready to build a family. While I still enjoy anime or playing games. I do manage my everyday life and read philosophy, psychology and other books to enrich myself (I think trying to learn how to grow up from books and podcast), but I feel that socially, emotionally, I am in some kind of arrested development, and I am getting more and more isolated. I didn’t have a happy childhood, I thought my problem would go away as adult, I don’t know if I have a future.

Aussie96 How are you feeling today?
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How are you feeling today? In 1-5 words describe how you feel... During each passing day from 2019 to now, we have all suffered from COVID-19 in different ways... Some might be academically, financially, mentally, or even physically affected... You p... View more

How are you feeling today? In 1-5 words describe how you feel... During each passing day from 2019 to now, we have all suffered from COVID-19 in different ways... Some might be academically, financially, mentally, or even physically affected... You probably are feeling numerous emotions which leads to confusion and negative thoughts. Now that you have told me how you feel I want you too got take 1-2 hours out of your day and do something you love. This might be doing art listening to music or even taking a walk with your fluffy companion to clear your mind it even might be having a nap. After 1-2 hours come back and see how you feel now... if you feel happier and more clear-minded it means that you have recharged your emotions. Each day take 20 minutes out of your busy schedules and recharge your emotions like you just did. Soon you will feel happier, healthier, and more positive. Remember we are all here to support you

TryAgain ✨Positive phrases to say to yourself when you're depressed, anxious, or whenever
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I'd like to share a few "self-talk" phrases that I've jotted down over years past. Little nuggets of positive inspiration that I hear/write/meditate on, or just simply read (or re-read like a mantra) on a regular basis. Maybe their called affirmation... View more

I'd like to share a few "self-talk" phrases that I've jotted down over years past. Little nuggets of positive inspiration that I hear/write/meditate on, or just simply read (or re-read like a mantra) on a regular basis. Maybe their called affirmations? Things I want to manifest or continue to have. Helps me when I'm feeling down or nervous. Or if I'm doing OK, I'll still practice saying them aloud to myself regularly as a sort of maintenance exercise, just trying to keep up the positive momentum. Below are a few samples from my journaling. I'd love to hear some of yours too!! I only talk to myself with love. My body is beautiful just the way it is. I will focus on living in the present moment. People are lucky to have me in their lives. My pain is temporary.

car10001 looking at some point to get out of hospitality after 13.5 years
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hi everyone as the title says am looking to get out of hospitality after 13 years, been doing it since 22 & have always enjoyed it until coronavirus started, since the industry has been able to re open around june 2020 its been nothing but hard. woul... View more

hi everyone as the title says am looking to get out of hospitality after 13 years, been doing it since 22 & have always enjoyed it until coronavirus started, since the industry has been able to re open around june 2020 its been nothing but hard. would just like to do something where you can have a uninterrupted lunch break & have a work life balance. the only days that actually have off were asked for functions and events, every other day you wernt put down to work youre always getting called in or are thinking about it because of needs or theres someone who cant come in. am a person that likes to work for the extra money and hold things for as long as possible, however have started realising how hard the hospitality work is and since june 2020 its got worse and it hasent got any better and am looking to do something that doesnt take over your life. do know and see people that have a better work life balance and probably earn the same or more money in less time than you would in hospitality. the place of work is for sale and plan to be out once it sells or at some point before the 20 years is up and have used the finding out its for sale as the chance to do as much as possible towards the next thing while am able to spread out costs in tools and training. was also taught to never leave a job before having another option incase it takes a while unless the business sells. a 65 year old co worker left to retire which hasnt made it easy and you wonder why she couldnt wait for a couple more years and hope it sells. am just trying to hang on a bit longer as there is no option at moment for the extra money and because of loyalty to current owners. do you lot think itll sell before your 20 years is up or is it upto you to do something when youre ready. if the person taking over wants to keep you whats best way to say no or say you only want to do the secondhand side and youre not able to do what youre doing now. will be doing electrical test & tag plus the other bits to it and to make the work consistent 2-3 days part time a week what other services would be good to add with part time business is it just the usual you can earn so much before it starts to be affected but income must be reported like when working part time. thanks

ecomama What makes you smile?
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I would LOVE to read about what makes you smile. At a push you can share what makes you laugh too! Whatever circumstances have brought you to BB, many of us are dealing with MH concerns.Sharing our healing journeys can be so amazingly helpful to othe... View more

I would LOVE to read about what makes you smile. At a push you can share what makes you laugh too! Whatever circumstances have brought you to BB, many of us are dealing with MH concerns.Sharing our healing journeys can be so amazingly helpful to others, it's priceless. Yesterday I felt JOY for the first time in a long long time. It happened while watching my grandchildren make huge bubbles at an Art Installation. Joy felt good but quite alien tbh. Today one of my children said she belly laughed for the first time in maybe a year, a funny thing happened at work. Depression, as with other MI's, sucks the joy out of us. Our goal could be to quieten these invaders by filling our lives with more joy. Please share what makes you smile. Love to youEM