Constant blues and not knowing what to do with it

[Guest_322]

Hi,

The title basically says it all. I'm something of a sad sack (have been for most of my life).

Some people's trauma seems to come out predominantly as PTSD. Not me, mine seems to show itself as a constant state of blues instead (either that or I'm turning into my mum).

I kind of just want to stay in bed all day. Luckily I'm usually good at dragging my arse of of bed.

Not sure if this thread serves any purpose other than looking for fellow sad sacks- I say this affectionately as I am one of them- who can empathise?

Also, anyone who has had a traumatic childhood but without PTSD?

Dottie x

[Just Sara]

My dear Dottie

I'm loving the new open you talking up a storm! Thankyou for your insight.

I won't post much today as my phone is hard on my eyes. Some words for you on my thread re this.

Wonderful issue (ED) to mull over I must say. Very thought provoking.

Miss you heaps...

Sara xo

[Guest_322]

Hi Sara,

I'm happy and relieved to see you on BB.

Thank you, I'm glad you can make sense of my ramblings. EDs are an interesting topic- partly because I feel it's often so misunderstood.

Yeah, best not to strain your eyes then.

Miss you too.

Dottie xxx

[Guest_322]

Hi random readers,

Me and my recent habit of posting at odd hours...

Just been thinkin'

You know how sometimes you stumble upon a post and it stops you in your tracks because it was so unexpected? Yeah, I had one of those moments recently.

It was when someone- a stranger for all intents and purposes- asked me if I was okay on her, or I think it's "her" at least, thread. Not in those exact words but that was the sentiment.

It was a moving gesture especially because it was on her own thread. She didn't have to ask but she did.

Not sure where I'm going with this...I never seem sure where I'm going with my random thoughts at random hours...

I guess what I'm trying to say is I have often personally found a sincere yet simple "are you okay?" one of the most powerful 3 words around.

Anyway...that same old, same old feeling of so much to say yet nothing to say at the same time. And none of the forums feel right for me to say whatever it is that I need to or don't need to say. So you end up saying nothing. Yeah, that feeling.

Dottie x

[Bast]

Hi Dottie

I do fully understand and empathise with you - sometime a "doona" day is really best thing we can do. It is also called self care! I think it also really important to recognise the reasons - just hiding, just relaxing, just taking time our or complete surrender? Just cuddle up and try to care about you. However, "doona days" are limited as one offs. Consider the day after as an opportunity - you have rested and recharged, enjoy whatever works for you.

Regards and thoughts Bast

[Guest_322]

Hi Bast,

Thank you so much for the support and kind suggestions. I really appreaciate it. Actually, a doona day sounds very appealing right now. Sadly, that will have to wait till after my assignment submissions...

I hope you're travelling alright (ish?) yourself. Thanks again. It helps to feel that little bit less alone.

Dottie x

[blondguy]

Hey Dottie

Just saying hello to a legend (yes...you!)

I like what Bast said about having a 'Doona day'....I am going to have one today.

There are some young people that have been on my thread 'Do You Love Yourself....Your Comments are Welcome' I posted this thread ages ago only because I dont love myself...I am starting to understand that I have to like myself first.

Anyhow, I hope you can have a look and post if you want to. Sara has been in there too with some new posters even though its an old thread.

Threads aside Dottie, I hope you are doing reasonably okay

Hugs

Paul x

[Just Sara]

Ah yes...doona days...spoil me with cuddly soft fabric hugs. Mmm...

Thanks Paul for the acknowledgement; I must say it's nice to read encouraging words and not feel 'thingy' about it. Hmm...Dottie, you hearin' this? I feel deserving for what I've gone thru and still managing to get thru the days with a smile. Pretty damned pickled actually. How long did I wait for this precious time to arrive eh?

It's not so much the smiling tbh, it's my ability to 'cope' with what's in front of me. That's a nice feeling.

So Dottie...are you okay? Seems to me you might be struggling with the answer more than the question. It takes very little effort for you to say the same things to me...yet

Do you send out a form letter saying; "I'm fine thanks! How are you?" or do you tell the truth? Just wondering...

The reason I say this, is because I find it an opportunity for casual therapy. If someone's genuine and prepared to listen and allow you space to just talk, it can be as good as a trip to the psych's office. My sister and I do this every now and then to both our hearts content. We're always smiling when it ends.

We made a pact a long time ago to do it for each other because it's so hard to find people who're as giving of themselves. It's more than 20 yrs, and although these sessions are fewer, the quality of support hasn't wavered.

One great thing we have that we don't get with our psych's is a huge hug and kiss before going home. :-]

So I'll leave things there and get onto my next post.

Love ya's!

Sara xo

[james1]

Hey Dottie,

It's always nice when people show they care with just those three words. Even if we don't know how to answer it can be very touching.

We're always here if you want to talk. And if you're struggling to work out what to say, we can share stories and analogies. It's how I speak to my psychologist.

Anyway, I hope your assignments and assessments go well. But take care of yourself first, yeah?

James

[Guest_322]

Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for the replies. I appreciate all of them immensely.

Paul, it's always nice to see you here. Thank you.

I hope you're enjoying your doona day so far. Some r & r is good...

It is more of an assignment day than a doona day but I suppose lots of students are in the same boat as me today.

Yes, I have noticed that there's been quite a lot of activity on your thread. Some great conversations and sharing happening there. I think a lot of people can relate to that topic or are at least mulling it over.

Thanks for the invite...I might check it out some time.

Sara, I'm glad you're receiving compliments with growing confidence. Amazing and hard earned progress for you, no doubt!

No, I'm not really okay. Then again, is anyone truly okay (?)

Mostly, I just laugh and smile when I'm around other people. I think it's easier for me in some ways.

You and your sister have a beautiful support system and bond with each other. It must be nice to have that level of honesty with her (and vice versa).

James, thank you. The caring always comes through in your post.

Sometimes it is hard to know what to say, which might be hard to believe considering how I often can't seem to stop talking.

Dottie xxx

[Croix]

Dear Dottie~

I've been telling Narelle how you dragged me against my better judgment into talking about music.

Have fun with the assignments.

Croix (who is sure he remembers an occasion when you did stop talking)